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"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)
This is the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast) and I'm your host, Jen Kirkman. Has anyone ever said to you, "Um, you're kind of a lot?" If they have this podcast is your new favorite show. Welcome to You Are a Lot in ADHD, AuDHD podcast. I'm your host Jen Kirkman. On this show, I talk about my personal experience of my later in-life diagnosis as an AuDHD human. That is ADHD and Autism Spectrum Disorder. I discuss the latest research and I aim to create an affirming lesson from…
Episodes
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 114: ADHD/AuDHD & The Discomfort Of Being Perceived
In this episode: I talk about the unique ADHD/AuDHD reality of having difficulty with "being perceived," from how I've experienced it to what the facts are…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 112: ADHD & The Toxic Shame That Binds You
In this episode: I talk about shame - the difference between healthy shame (a feeling) and toxic shame (an identity), where toxic shame comes from, how it…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 110: Listener Emails, The Latest ADHD News & You Are Not In Trouble
In this episode I read listener emails from newly diagnosed people who finally feel like life makes sense. I also talk about the latest ADHD/AuDHD news out of…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 109: Jen & Mel AuDHD Chat - Part 2
In This Patreon Only Episode Part 2: I talk to my friend Melissa Stephens about our journeys to an AuDHD diagnosis, being literal, being too trusting and…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 108: Passive Ideations in ADHD/AuDHD - The 'I Want To Stop Existing' Burnout
In this episode: I talk about passive suicidal ideation in ADHD/AuDHD. I share what the research says about this level of burnout in neurodivergent people, and…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 107: Jen & Mel AuDHD Chat Part 1
🎉 Help me hit my end of year Patreon goal of 400 paid subscribers! Only $7.99 a month or take advantage of my Special October sale 31% off of an annual…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 106: How To Process All The ADHD Information
🎉 Help me hit my end of year Patreon goal of 400 paid subscribers! I'm at 255 now. Will you be number 256? In this episode: I talk about what to do when…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 105: Live Q&A with Jen Replay
In this Patreon only episode: I am posting a video/audio replay where answered your questions LIVE on Patreon back in September about all things from what…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 104: How To Recover After A Failure If You Have ADHD
🎉 Help me hit my end of year Patreon goal of 400 paid subscribers! Only $7.99 a month or take advantage of my Special October sale 31% off of an annual…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Live Q&A With Jen Mon Sept 28th 7:30pm (est)
Monday Sept 28th at 730pm! I am doing a LIVE Q&A on Patreon! To join go here: https://tinyurl.com/JenLiveMonSept28Patreon More Live Q&A's coming in October…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 103: Fail Small And Fail Often To Fight ADHD Shame
🎉 Help me hit my end of year Patreon goal of 400 paid subscribers! Only $7.99 a month or take advantage of my Special October sale 31% off of an annual…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 102: My Back-To-School-Season-Need-For-A-System
In this episode: I talk about how I "failed" to have the last 3 weeks the way I wanted them, locked in, in Virgo mode, setting a repeatable system that I can…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 101: My First Time Back Onstage As A Diagnosed AuDHD Human
In this episode: I tell a personal story about getting back on stage two weeks ago for the first time since knowing that I'm an AuDHD human. I talk about the…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 100: Plan Backwards To Get Out The Door & Where You're Going On Time
In this episode: I talk about how to get out the door on time and to your destination on time or early, by planning out leaving your house, backwards. And I…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 99: Zone Zoning Your Home Or Office For ADHD Novelty
In this episode: I talk about why the original name for this episode was "Different Chairs For Different Things" as I explain that Zone Zoning is simply doing…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 98: My Honest AuDHD Mindset Thoughts
In this episode: I'm talking about the wrong way I was doing this podcast from scheduling when to work on it, to how seriously to treat it, to realizing I need…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 97: How ADHD Disconnects Us From Our Bodies
In this episode: I talk about how I'm a hot mess right now and somatics has kept me sane. I also talk about how ADHD/AuDHD keeps us disconnected from our…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 96: ADHD Journaling Hack - Cut and Paste Your Texts and Emails
In this episode: If you want to journal but can't get started, here's a hack I think I made up - copy and paste the long texts and emails you already wrote…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 95: ADHD Habit - Avoid What's Due Now & Work On What's Due Later
In this episode I read a listener email. She wants to know why she can't stop working on projects that are not due yet and avoiding tasks that are due very…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 94: Is It ADHD Or CPTSD? Why Not Both?
In This Episode: In this episode I read a listener email that sparks me to talk about the very much interwoven symptoms of CPTSD and ADHD. I talk about why you…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 93: Price Is Right Planning For ADHD
In this Patreon Only episode: I explain my concept of "Price Is Right Planning" for ADHD humans. I hope it will help you to get things done and feel like you…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 92: The 10-3 Game For ADHD Paralysis
In this episode: I'm introducing you to the 10-3 Rule for productivity, which I call the 10-3 Game. It's a process of setting a timer to do short bursts of…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 91: Failed To Plan & Feeling Feelings
This is a super-sized 70 minute Patreon only episode but I'm giving you the first 15 minutes! In this episode: I talk about how my planned personal retreat…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 90: Plan For 3 Kinds Of Days
Click here for your FREE How To Make Your 3 Day Plan Guide that I made! In This Episode: I talk about a simple framework for planning around your energy…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 89: The Morning Refresh Is Your New AM Routine
In This Episode: I revisit the concept of the morning routine, why the perfectionism around it backfires, and a simpler idea I'm calling the "morning refresh"…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 88: When Summer Sneaks Up On You & Social Hangovers (Patreon Only)
IN THIS EPISODE I talk about why summer sneaks up on you and leaves you feeling behind on rest and fun. I get into why the planning window slips by before you…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)✨Bonus Episode: Happy Reset Day - July 2nd
IN THIS EPISODE I'm talking about how today, July 2nd, is exactly the in-between point of the year. 182 days have passed with 182 to go in 2026. If you need a…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 87: Why ADHD/AuDHD Humans Struggle In the Summer
In This Episode: Why does summer feel so weird when you're ADHD or AuDHD? I talk about some of the reasons, including lost structure, summer-pattern…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 86: The Quick Log & The Done List (Patreon Only)
In this Patreon Only episode I'm talking about two lists that you can add to your daily life that will make a positive difference; the Quick Log and the Done…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 85: Do You Need A Mid-Year Reset?
In this episode: I talk about the mid-year reset. I explain the all-or-nothing trap of writing off a goal because the year feels half over, why the relief of…
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Episode 84: Self-Trust and ADHD/AuDHD - Knowing What We Need, Even If We Can't Explain Why
A personal episode about self-trust through my own AuDHD. I talk about what self-trust actually means for me and how it ties into the self-concept episode from…
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Episode 83: Burnout! Revisiting My AuDHD Diagnosis Two Years Later
Two years after receiving my AuDHD diagnosis (a combination of autism spectrum disorder (ASD-1) and ADHD I'm revisiting what it is to be AuDHD with radical…
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Episode 82: Your Self-Concept: Where It Came From and Why It's Wrong
In this episode, I dig into something I cannot believe I haven't talked about yet in almost three years of doing this podcast: the self-concept. It's the story…
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Episode 81: Transitions, Waiting Mode, and Appointment Days
In this episode, I respond to a listener letter about something so many of us struggle with: what to do with yourself when you have two appointments in one day…
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Episode 80: Little Life Reset - Try Being Bored
This is the 7th episode in the 8 episode Little Life Reset series, and this one is about doing nothing. It sounds simple but it is not easy, especially for…
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Episode 79: Little Life Reset - Walk For Ten Minutes To Boost Your Brain
In this episode of the April Little Life Reset series, I explore the "walking reset" which is the idea that just 10 minutes of walking without distractions can…
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Episode 78: Little Life Reset - Sleep Is Not the Thing to Cut
This is the third episode in my 8 part series for April (4 of the episodes are Patreon bonus episodes) called Little Life Resets. This one is about sleep, (no…
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Episode 77: Little Life Reset - Sit With Yourself For Two Minutes
This is the first episode in my 8 part series for April (4 of the episodes are Patreon bonus episodes) called Little Life Resets. This one is about…
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Episode 76: When Exhausting Relationships Take Up Time
In this episode, I'm talking about the "laziness lie" from Dr. Devon Price's book Laziness Does Not Exist and how believing you're lazy if you don't help…
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Episode 75: Hyper-Curiosity and ADHD - When Your Brain Won't Stop Exploring
In this episode, I talk about the emerging idea of ADHD and hyper-curiosity - the intense urge to explore, research, and learn everything right now…
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Episode 74: ADHD Understimulation (When Boredom Feels Physical)
In this episode, I'm talking about ADHD understimulation: what it is, why it feels so much bigger than boredom, and how it can leave you feeling physically…
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Episode 73: Do You Actually Want to Meditate? ADHD, Motivation, and Rethinking Consistency
Why is it so hard to do something we say we want to do—like meditation? In this episode, Jen responds to a listener from her Patreon community who says she…
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Episode 72: Why Do My Feelings Change So Fast With ADHD & AuDHD?
Why do your feelings change so fast with ADHD or AuDHD? How can you go from crying to fine in ten minutes? Why does it feel like the first feeling never even…
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Episode 71: ADHD & AuDHD: Why Do My Feelings Contradict Each Other?
Why do you feel excited and dread at the same time? Why do you want something and also don't? In this episode, I talk about when you feel two opposite feelings…
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Episode 70: ADHD and AuDHD: Why Feelings Feel Permanent
Why does it feel like the emotion you're in right now is going to last forever? In episode #70 ADHD and AuDHD: Why Feelings Feel Permanent, I explore why we…
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Episode 69: Feelings vs Emotions - What's the Difference and Why It Matters for ADHD & AuDHD
It's Feelings February, on the "You Are A LOT" podcast, and I'm starting the first episode of the month with a basic question: what's the difference between an…
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Episode 68: How to Use Accountability for ADHD Motivation with Body Doubling, Check-Ins & Follow-Through
In this episode, I share how I use accountability as a practical tool for ADHD without it feeling punishing or pressured. If you've got ADHD (or AuDHD), deal…
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Episode 67: Planning, Capacity, and Why January Motivation Fades So Fast
In this episode, I'm talking about capacity and why so many ADHD/AuDHD humans feel blocked from doing the things they genuinely care about. It covers the Fresh…
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Episode 66: It's "Just Fine January" and Hit Reset By Canceling Most of My Goals.
In this episode, I talk about what happened when I realized my 2025 ideas weren't sustainable, why I canceled projects I'd been grinding on for months, how I'm…
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✨Bonus Episode: Tossing: An ADHD Trait
In This Episode: It's an ADHD trait that people are starting to talk about as something uniquely part of our executive functioning difficulties. It refers to…
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✨ Bonus Episode: Clutter Checks
In This Episode: I talk about the constant cycle of burnout, clutter, and resentment that comes with our brain, from tossing bags on the table, leaving…
"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)Episode 65 : How To Rest & Relax with ADHD & 27 Microbreaks To Try
In This Episode: I talk about how rest shows up differently for ADHD, autistic, and AuDHD brains, why typical advice doesn't always work, and how to stop…
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Episode 64: 27 Fun & Cozy Gift Ideas
In This Episode: If holiday gift-giving stresses you out, you need to listen to this one. In this episode, I talk about why gifting can be so overwhelming…
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✨Bonus Episode: Organize to Prevent Impulse Spending
In This Episode: Using shopping for a quick hit of dopamine is definitely an emotional regulation issue, and trying to fill any empty hole in our soul with…
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Episode 63: What is Empathy Burnout + 7 Ways To Cope
In This Episode: Feeling drained, foggy, or emotionally tapped out during the holidays? You're not alone. You'll learn what empathic burnout is, how it shows…
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Episode 62: The ADHD & AuDHD Nervous System
In This Episode: Have you ever thought: "Why am I so tired all the time? Why do I feel disconnected, like I'm watching life happen but not really in it?" You…
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Episode 61: How To Deal with Panic Attacks Vs. AuDHD Meltdowns
In This Episode: Panic attacks and AuDHD meltdowns share some common symptoms but happen for different reasons. A panic attack is a short circuit in the…
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Episode 60: The Importance of Routines for ADHD and My Daily Routine
In This Episode: Morning and night are the two times of day that do more to stabilize an ADHD brain than any productivity hack ever could. In this final…
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Episode 59: 4 ADHD Cleaning Tips
In This Episode: It's Organize October and I talk about organizing how to clean your home in a way that hopefully works for you without having to "binge deep…
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Episode 58: ADHD Planning Tools and Systems To Organize Your Time
In This Episode: It's Organize October here on the podcast! In this episode, I'm getting into the time management, scheduling & planning methods that I've…