Shows / Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Figuring It Out is a podcast for people who are tired of overthinking, overfunctioning, and carrying everything alone. Hosted by Rachel Lee, these honest conversations explore relationships, grief, emotional patterns, self-awareness, motherhood, healing, and what it really looks like to grow through life’s hardest and most meaningful seasons. If you’re tired of surface-level advice and ready to better understand yourself, your patterns, and the way you move through life, you’re in the right…
Episodes
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 57 | My Brother, a Murder Investigation, and a Couch.
My brother was a person of interest in the murder of a young woman he knew. The person who gave police his name? A friend who was involved—and who had recently…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 56 | Is It Jealousy—Or Do I Need to Get My Ass Moving?
You did the thing. I’m happy for you. So why am I having a whole fucking conversation with myself about it? Is it envy? Jealousy? Or did watching you finally…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 55 | I Don’t Need Another Lesson. I’d Like a Refund.
I’ve learned plenty. At this point, I’d also like some more health, wealth, joy, and significantly less character development. In this episode, I’m revisiting…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 54 | Well, Shit. That Counts.
I hit 500 days sober, fixed my kitchen sink, and made albondigas soup. Apparently, my celebration included plumber’s putty and meatballs. But underneath that…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 53 | It Pisses Me Off That I’m Not More Pissed Off
“It pisses me off that I’m not more pissed off.” That’s what I’ve been trying to understand about my reaction to the Cornell sexual assault allegations. I’m…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 52 | 52 Things I’ve Figured Out—and Some Sh*t I Still Haven’t
Fifty-two episodes. One full year of sitting behind a microphone and figuring shit out in real time. To celebrate, I’m sharing 52 things I know now—about…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 51 | Maybe You’re Not the Problem. Maybe the Template Is Bullshit.
I want discipline, meaningful connection, commitment, and partnership. I’m just not convinced they have to look the way I’ve been told. In this episode, I’m…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 50| We Call Her a Single Mom. What Do We Call Him?
I’ve been called a single mom for years. It’s accurate—but it’s incomplete. I raised my boys as a single mother. They were also raised in a fatherless home…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 49 | There's Always A But
Apparently I’ve been conducting performance reviews on my own existence. 😂 Did I do enough? Make enough? Accomplish enough? Shouldn’t I be further along by…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 48 | Do We Get Participation Awards?
Turning 50 has me thinking about the years I’ve already lived—and whether I’ve actually been participating in them or just getting really good at surviving…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 47 | What If I You Don’t Know Yet?
Something feels uncomfortable—does that mean it’s wrong, or are you just doing something you’ve never done before? In this episode of Figuring It Out, we’re…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 46 | You Didn't Know The Lesson
How much time do we spend looking backward—trying to understand who we were, why we made certain choices, or what we should’ve done differently? There’s value…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 45 | Validation or Acceptance: What Are You Really Looking For?
Have you ever stopped to ask what you’re actually looking for from other people? Is it validation? Acceptance? Reassurance that you’re doing okay? And why does…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 44 | What if it's Not Burnout
What if burnout is real—but it isn’t the whole story? In this episode, Rachel talks about a podcast comment claiming people can’t burn out because they aren’t…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 43 | The Version of You That Got You Here
We’ve all heard the phrase… “The version of you that got you here isn’t the version that’s going to get you there.” But what does that actually mean? This…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 42 | You’re Waiting on the Wrong Thing
The internet tells us we’re waiting for confidence. I’m not so sure. This week, I’m talking about the difference between the things life chooses for us…and the…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 41 | Healthy Normal
Do we really need to put a label on everything? In this episode, we’re talking about boundaries, delayed text messages, “no response is a response,” and why…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 40 | You Only Know One Chapter
You think you know someone… But what if you only know one chapter of their story? In this episode, I share a few stories from my own life and why they’ve…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 39 | When Nothing's On Fire
What happens after survival mode? We spend so much time trying to get through the hard seasons of life that nobody really talks about what comes next. In this…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 38 | Why I Stopped Drinking (And What I Learned About Myself)
By the time this episode airs, I’ll be just shy of 13 months without a drink. For a long time, I thought alcohol was helping me relax, have fun, and care less…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 37 | Can Someone Love You and Still Disappoint You?
For a long time, I would’ve thought the answer was no. If someone truly loved you, wouldn’t they know what you needed? Wouldn’t they know how to show up? In…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 36 | Reciprocity - Where'd You Go?
This episode is probably going to ruffle some feathers. Everywhere you look there’s content telling men what they should do for women. Provide. Protect. Create…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 35 | The Good Things - Remembering What Helped Us Too
When people hear the hard parts of someone’s story, it’s easy to assume that’s the whole story. But what about the good things? In this episode, I’m talking…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 34 | Emotionally Unavailable... Or Emotionally Overwhelmed?
We hear phrases like “If they wanted to, they would” and “They’re emotionally unavailable” all the time online. But what if the reality is more complicated…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 33 | I’d Like to Return This Self-Doubt, Please and Thank You
In this episode, Rachel talks about inherited self-doubt, emotional conditioning, generational pain, relationships, and the invisible rules many of us grow up…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 32 | The Things People Say & Don't Think About
This episode is about grief, mental health, suicide, and the things people say without realizing who might be listening. Rachel opens up about losing her…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 31 | You're Not Too Busy
Most people say they’re overwhelmed. But what if that’s not actually the problem? In this episode, I’m talking about the difference between being…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 30 | Owning It vs. Renting It
This week, I had a realization I didn’t love. Not because anything big happened — but because I couldn’t ignore it anymore. I’ve been showing up… but not…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 29 | You Don’t Have to Like Yourself to Love Yourself
Most people are waiting to feel ready before they give themselves anything good. Waiting to like what they see in the mirror. Waiting to fix the patterns…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 28 | Start With You (Because Nothing Changes Until You Do)
Most people think they need more clarity. More awareness. More time. More answers. But that’s not what’s keeping you stuck. In this episode, I’m talking about…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 27 | Scar Tissue
This week I learned something I didn’t know before. Next Sunday is Divine Mercy Sunday — the day Jesus appeared to his disciples after the resurrection and…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 26 | Why You Don’t Break Down (Even When You Should)
There are people who fall apart. And then there are people who don’t. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “Why don’t I feel more than this?” or “Why do I…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 25 | Why You’re Less Tolerant of People Now
Why does other people’s behavior start bothering you more as you grow? In this episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee, Rachel explores the connection…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 24 | Stealing Joy
What if joy isn’t something life gives you — what if you have to steal it back? In this episode, Rachel Lee gets honest about something she’s never fully named…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 23 | Why Awareness Isn’t Enough
Awareness is often the first breakthrough in personal development. You start noticing your patterns, your habits, and the beliefs that shape how you react to…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 22 | Stop Telling Me I'm Not "Broken"
What do we actually mean when we tell someone, “You’re not broken”? In this episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee, Rachel breaks down why that…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 21 | Triggers
Why do certain moments hit harder than they should? Why does something small create a reaction you can’t logic your way out of? In this episode of Figuring It…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 20 - Receiving Without Bracing
Why does calm feel uncomfortable? Why do good things make you brace instead of relax? In this episode of Figuring It Out, Rachel Lee breaks down what receiving…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 19 | Overcommitted
Saying yes doesn’t always mean you're helpful. Sometimes, it means you're hiding. In this soul-shaking episode, Rachel Lee breaks down why overcommitting isn’t…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 18 | On Paper
What if being “the strong one” is actually just… self-abandonment in disguise? In this raw, resonant episode, Rachel Lee unpacks the hidden cost of looking…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 17 | Worth
What does it really look like to live like you’re worth it — even when you don’t feel like it? In this episode of Figuring It Out, Rachel Lee shares the messy…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 16 | Access
What does it really mean to protect your peace? In this episode, Rachel Lee unpacks the often-misunderstood topic of access — who gets insight into your world…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 15 | Scabs
What happens when you stop reopening what was already healing? In this episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee, Rachel explores the idea of scabs — the…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 14 | Further
What if growth isn’t about being “there” — but realizing you’re further than you were? In this episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee, I talk about the…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 13 | Healing
Healing isn’t always the dramatic breakthrough moment we expect. Most of the time, real healing is quiet, subtle, and invisible while you’re in it — and only…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 12 | Voice
In this deeply personal episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel, I share why I stopped journaling as a child after a betrayal that changed my relationship with…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 11 | Signs
Do you believe in signs? Not angel number trends. Not vague spiritual quotes. I’m talking about real moments — when something bigger reaches out to you. In…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 10 | The Trust Gap
In this episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee, I dive into the truth about self-trust — how it breaks, how it shows up in your relationships and career…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 9 | The Wound
Figuring Out The Wound — Understanding Emotional Trauma, Healing Your Identity, and Becoming Who You’re Safe Being In Episode 9, Rachel Lee takes you into the…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 8 | The Hallway
In this episode, Rachel breaks down the confusing “in-between” season — the hallway between who you used to be and who you’re meant to be. This is the space…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 7 | Through NOT Over
We’ve been lied to about healing. In this episode, we crack open the quiet truth nobody tells you: you're not supposed to get over your pain. You're supposed…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 6 | What Happened to You?
Ever catch yourself thinking, “What is wrong with me?” Or judging someone else with, “What the hell is wrong with them?” This episode is your permission slip…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 5 | Choosing Yourself
In this episode, Rachel Lee dives deep into what it truly means to choose yourself — even when it feels uncomfortable or uncertain. From setting boundaries to…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 4 | The Words We Carry
Words shape us — sometimes more than we realize. In this episode, I’m getting real about the power of what’s been said to us… and what we say to ourselves…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 2.5 | Reflections on Motherhood Solo (Unscripted Thoughts)
This one’s not a full episode — it’s more of a reflection, a pause, a heart-to-heart moment. After Motherhood Solo, I found myself thinking about the parts I…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 3 | Figuring Out Self-Care
Self-care isn’t selfish — and it’s not all candles and calm playlists. In this episode, Rachel shares how her idea of self-care evolved from stolen moments on…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 2 | Figuring Out Motherhood Solo
Raising two boys without a partner wasn’t the plan — but it’s my story. In this episode, I open up about what motherhood has looked like when you’re the only…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Episode 1 | Figuring Out Grief
Grief changes everything. By the age of 33, I had lost both of my parents and my brother. Each loss was different, each one reshaped me, and each one taught me…
- Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee
Trailer - Welcome to Figuring It Out
Welcome to Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee — a podcast for anyone who’s ever looked around and thought, “Wasn’t life supposed to look different than this?” By…