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Notes to Her
Notes to Her: The Daily Peptalk is your ten-minute or less boost of confidence and clarity. Hosted by Yaya, a confidence and mindset coach for women ready to stop overthinking and start showing up boldly, each short episode gives you a mindset reset, a dose of encouragement, and one actionable tip to keep your momentum going, no fluff, just real talk and daily pep.
Episodes
Notes to HerNote 84: The Social Backlash of Becoming Confident
Becoming her means making room for the woman you already are. In Note 83, Yaya shares her own goodie-goodie years, why she believes so many women adapted to…
Notes to HerNote 83: Quit Trying to Become Someone Else
Becoming her means making room for the woman you already are. In Note 83, Yaya shares her own goodie-goodie years, why she believes so many women adapted to…
Notes to HerNote 82: Your Sunday Anxiety Is a Sign of Something You Haven't Admitted Yet
This Sunday edition of Notes to Her looks at the weekly dread that settles in before Monday even starts. After reading a Wall Street Journal article on rising…
Notes to HerNote 81: Stop Deflecting The Compliment
How to accept a compliment without deflecting it: I break down why you hand them back and the two-second fix in Note 81 of Notes to Her. This one is for the…
Notes to HerNote 80: You Teach People How to Love You by How You Love Yourself
Have you ever told a friend you would never put up with what she puts up with, and then canceled on yourself for the fourth time that week? In Note 80, I talk…
Notes to HerNote 79: Your Brain Keeps Receipts on Every “I’ll Start Monday”
If you have ever bought the planner, set the 5AM alarm, and quit by Wednesday, this Note explains what was really going on. Yaya breaks down why your brain…
Notes to HerNote 78: Okay, But What Do You Want?
Some women can tell you what everyone around them needs and go blank when somebody asks what they want. In Note 78, Yaya talks about how years of "I'm fine…
Notes to HerNote 77: When You Stop Begging for the Bare Minimum, You Become Unforgettable
Note 77 starts with a question many women avoid: if a friend skipped plans without a text, you would say something that day, so why does it take two days to…
Notes to HerNote 76: Stop Lying to Yourself About Your Own Promises
After 90 days of locking in, Yaya shares what the experience taught her about confidence, and it all starts with keeping the promises you make to yourself. She…
Notes to HerNote 75: Your Healing Is Making Your Friendships Awkward
When your confidence and healing move faster than the people around you, friendships can get awkward fast. In Note 75, Yaya talks about why some friends take…
Notes to HerNote 74: Girl, You're Not Getting a Sign. Go Build the Proof
Confidence doesn't show up before you act. It shows up after, built out of proof you collect by doing the scary thing anyway. In this episode, Yaya calls out…
Notes to HerNote 73: Don't Let Cuffing Season Talk You Into Less
This is the note you need before you make any decisions this cuffing season. Every year, the same thing happens: temperatures drop, the holidays close in, and…
Notes to HerNote 72: Girl, Put the Reinvention Plan Down
Season 2 opens with the note Yaya almost didn't let herself write, the one about feeling completely stuck in a version of your life you didn't choose. She…
Notes to HerNote 71: Have The Confidence to Walk Away
Confidence in relationships isn't always the cute, empowered version where everything clicks into place. Sometimes it's the version where you walk away, grieve…
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Note 70: She Showed Up Anyway (Season Finale)
Season 1 is officially a wrap. Seventy notes. Seventy moments of choosing yourself. In this finale, Yaya sends off every woman who kept showing up…
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Note 69: You've Already Survived Everything That Was Supposed to Break You
You made it through the job loss. The heartbreak. The financial fear. The season when you didn't know how you'd get through. And yet here you are, still…
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Note 68: The Confident Woman Doesn't Have It All Figured Out
We have this idea of what a confident woman looks like, like she has it all together, all the answers, all the certainty before she takes a single step. In…
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Note 67: You’re Not Stuck, You’re Just Comfortable
You’ve been saying you’re stuck, but what if that’s not actually true? In this note, Yaya is calling out the difference between being stuck and being…
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Note 66: The Woman Who Decides Wins
All season, you've been learning. Growing. Getting more aware. And now it's time to stop sitting on it. This episode is the line in the sand. Yaya breaks down…
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Note 65: You Were Made for the Room
You earned your seat. So why are you still standing at the door? This episode is for the woman who just got the invite, the opportunity, the meeting, the room…
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Note 64: What Are You Actually Waiting For?
This one is a little spicy and exactly what you needed to hear. If you’ve been sitting on an idea, a decision, an investment in yourself, or a conversation…
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Note 63: Stop Abandoning Yourself When Things Get Uncomfortable
This episode is a call-in, not a call-out. If you’ve ever over-explained yourself into oblivion, smiled through something that made your stomach turn, or…
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Note 62: The Regulated Woman vs. The Reactive Woman
If you've ever snapped at someone you love, gone silent when you had everything to say, or spent entire days running on anxiety you couldn't even name, this…
Notes to HerNote 61: The Hard Conversation You Keep Avoiding
We talk a lot about having hard conversations with other people. But the one most women avoid the longest? The conversation with themselves. In this episode…
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Note 60: You Can’t Become Her With Low Standards
Most women think “standards” only apply to dating, but the truth is, your standards show up everywhere. They show up in how you speak to yourself, in how you…
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Note 59: All the People Pleasers to the Front of the Room
If you constantly feel responsible for other people’s emotions… this episode is for you. In today’s pep talk, Yaya is calling all the people-pleasers to the…
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Note 58: Stop Hiding Behind Perfection
Perfectionism sounds responsible. It sounds like discipline and having high standards. But what if perfectionism isn’t about excellence at all? What if it’s…
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Note 57: If You’re Tired of Shrinking, Start Here
Have you ever caught yourself shrinking in a room where you belong? Lowering your voice in meetings. Holding back your opinion in relationships. Hovering over…
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Note 56: Stop Waiting to Feel Ready
In this episode, Yaya calls out the pattern so many ambitious women live in, waiting to feel ready before they make the move they already know they need to…
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Note 55: You’re Not Behind, You’re Just Hesitating
Have you ever felt like you’re behind in life? Behind in your career. Behind in love. Behind in confidence. Behind in healing. In this episode, Yaya reframes…
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Note 54: Stop Punishing Yourself for What You Didn’t Know Then
You’ve grown, but instead of feeling proud… you feel embarrassed. In this powerful closing episode of the self-love series, Yaya walks you through how to stop…
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Note 53: If It Costs Your Peace, It’s Too Expensive
If it costs your peace, it’s too expensive. In this episode, we talk about why boundaries aren’t walls; they’re protection. Yaya breaks down why boundaries are…
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Note 52: Stop Being So Mean to Yourself
If your inner voice sounds more like a bully than a best friend, this episode is for you. In this powerful and honest note, Yaya calls out harsh self-talk for…
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Note 51: Learning to Trust Yourself Again (Without Overthinking It)
Overthinking isn’t your personality; it’s protection. In this episode, Yaya breaks down what self-trust actually looks like, why so many women lose it, and how…
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Note 50: You Were Never “Not Enough”
Some beliefs don’t show up loudly; they sit quietly in the background and shape how you see yourself. In this episode, Yaya gently unravels one of the most…
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Note 49: Choosing You Doesn’t Make You Selfish
Choosing yourself doesn’t make you selfish; it makes you honest. In this episode, Yaya breaks down one of the most deeply ingrained myths women carry: that…
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Note 48: Be Real With Yourself — That’s Where Confidence Starts
Confidence doesn’t start with doing more; it starts with being honest with yourself. In this episode, Yaya breaks down why self-awareness is the foundation of…
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Notes 47: Stop Swallowing Your Truth to Keep the Peace
Peace shouldn’t come at the cost of your truth. In this episode of Notes to Her, Yaya dives into the confidence-draining habit so many women carry, silencing…
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Note 46: Love Yourself Enough to Leave What Shrinks You
You can love yourself and still stay too long. In this episode of Notes to Her, Yaya delivers a bold but necessary reminder: self-love sometimes looks like…
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Note 45: You + You — Learning to Enjoy Your Own Company
Learning how to enjoy your own company is one of the most overlooked forms of self-love. In this episode of Notes to Her: The Daily Pep Talk, Yaya explores why…
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Note 44: Your Daily Habits Are Snitching on Your Self-Love
Self-love is not something you announce. It is something you practice. In this episode, Yaya discusses the quiet, everyday habits that reveal how you truly…
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Note 43: Do You Even Like Yourself?
In this episode, we’re talking about: What it really means to like yourself and how a shaky relationship with yourself impacts your confidence, boundaries…
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Note 42: You Teach People How to Love You by How You Love Yourself
You can be successful, accomplished, and ambitious and still struggle in love. In this episode of Notes to Her, Yaya explores the disconnect many women…
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Note 41: At This Big Age? Absolutely Not.
Getting older isn’t about numbers. It’s about clarity. In this episode, Yaya reflects on what aging has taught her about boundaries, peace, confidence, and…
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Note 40: Sunday Scaries Reset — One Thing You Need Before Monday
Sunday nights have a way of stirring up anxiety, pressure, and overthinking, especially after a weekend that finally gave you space to breathe. In this…
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Note 39: A Note to the Woman You’re Becoming
As my birthday approaches, I always take time to reflect. Not just on what I’ve accomplished, but on who I’ve become and who I’m still becoming. In this…
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Note 38: Your Only Competition Is You
Comparison has a way of making confident women forget who they are. In this episode, Yaya breaks down how constantly measuring yourself against other women…
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Note 37: Sunday Scaries Reset: Breathe, You’re Not Behind
Sunday nights have a way of making you question everything. Your progress. Your timeline. Your confidence. Your pace. In this episode, we’re slowing things all…
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Note 36: It’s Okay to Be Scared… But Show Up
Fear doesn’t mean you’re failing; it means you’re standing at the edge of something that matters. In this episode, we’re talking about the kind of fear that…
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Note 35: Before You Quit on Yourself, Listen to This
Before women quit, they rarely make an announcement. They don’t storm out; they quietly pull back. In this episode of Notes to Her: The Daily Pep Talk, we’re…
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Note 34: Sunday Scaries Reset: When You Feel Yourself Shrinking Again
That familiar Sunday feeling hits…Your chest feels tight. Your thoughts start racing. And suddenly, you feel smaller than you did just a few days ago. If…
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Note 33: How to Stop Talking Yourself Out of Greatness
You already know what you’re capable of. So why do you keep hesitating, shrinking, or talking yourself out of the very things you want? In this note, Yaya…
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Note 32: The Glow-Up Starts When You Stop Lying to Yourself
The glow-up doesn’t start with doing more; it starts when you stop lying to yourself. In this episode, Yaya breaks down the quiet lies women tell themselves…
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Note 31: The Sunday Scaries Reset: You Don’t Have to Start Perfect
Sunday nights have a way of sneaking up on us. The pressure. The anxiety. The mental spiral about Monday before it even arrives. In this first Sunday Scaries…
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Note 30: Who You Were Isn’t Who You’re Becoming
This note is a reminder that growth doesn’t start with pressure; it starts with honesty. In this episode, Yaya invites you to reflect on who you were this…
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Note 29: Don’t Roll Into the New Year Without This Reflection
Before you rush into a new year with new goals, new plans, and new intentions, pause. In this episode of Notes to Her: The Daily Pep Talk, Yaya guides you…
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Note 28: You Are the 1, Not the 2 — Stop Acting Like You’re Replaceable
Too many women are settling for half-love, mixed signals, and emotional crumbs, not because they don’t know better, but because they’ve been taught to prove…
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Note 27: You Don’t Need Permission — Just a Little Boldness
Most women don’t struggle because they’re incapable; they struggle because they’ve been conditioned to wait. Wait for clarity. Wait for confidence. Wait for…
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Note 26: Take Up Space, Guilt-Free
Take up space, without apologizing for it. In this pep talk, Yaya breaks down why so many women shrink themselves in rooms, conversations, relationships, and…
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Note 25: Listen to This Before Your Mind Spirals Again
Does your mind ever take one tiny moment and spin it into a whole dramatic storyline? Yeah… same, sis. And if you’re tired of spiraling every time you don’t…