Note 57: If You’re Tired of Shrinking, Start Here

Notes to Her · Mar 9, 2026 · 7m · transcript

Have you ever caught yourself shrinking in a room where you belong?

Lowering your voice in meetings.

Holding back your opinion in relationships.

Hovering over the “post” button and then closing the app.

In this episode, Yaya breaks down one of the most common patterns ambitious women struggle with: shrinking in moments where visibility matters.

Spoiler alert: It's not because you’re incapable, but at some point your brain learned that being seen could lead to judgment, rejection, or discomfort.

Inside this note, you’ll learn:

• Where shrinking quietly shows up in your life

• Why your brain…