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How To Love Yourself No Matter What
You're still replaying that conversation from six days ago. The one where you said the wrong thing, or said nothing at all, and you've been rewriting it in your head ever since. You've read the books. You've listened to the podcasts. You've taken the advice, and you're still lying awake at 11pm running the tape back. Here's what nobody tells you — you can't think your way out of overthinking. Not when your nervous system is still convinced that if you just analyze it hard enough, you'll finally…
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- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
S2 E4. Why Couples Counseling Isn’t Helping Your Marriage (and It’s Not Your Fault)
You went to couples counseling to fix things. You sat on the couch, you did the homework, maybe for years, and now you feel worse than when you started. On top…
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S2 E3. Overthinking Your Teens and Adult Kids? Let Go, Grieve, and Love Them Anyway
Letting go of your kids is a skill, and nobody teaches it to you. When they’re small, their survival is your job, so you learn to watch everything, manage…
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S2 E2. You Don’t Need to Calm Down. Your Brain Needs a Different Job.
If you’re an overthinker, you’ve probably been told to calm down, think more positively, or learn to meditate. I don’t think that’s what’s missing. Your brain…
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S2 E1. Why You Can't Control Your Emotions (and How to Be Their Boss Instead)
A few weeks ago I got a no. I applied for something I really wanted, something that would have been a big deal for me and my business, and I didn't get picked…
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332. Why Fall Feels So Hard (and How to Let Bittersweet Through)
Bittersweet is the feeling of saying hello and goodbye at the same time, and if you're resisting it, you're in a lot more pain than you need to be. In this…
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331. Your Sensitivity Means You're Cold-Blooded (And Why Your Environment Matters So Much)
The main point: a lot of us are essentially “cold-blooded” — meaning neurodivergent, ADHD-leaning, or simply sensory-sensitive — and our capacity to function…
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330. How to Stop Playing It Safe (and Why It's Making You Miserable)
I'm at an international adult figure skating competition this week, and it got me thinking about why we stop doing hard things — and what happens to us when we…
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329. What If It Wasn't You? Internalized Blame with Maggie Reyes
Something goes wrong and your very first thought is "what did I do?" An unexpected meeting lands on your calendar and you spend the whole week reviewing…
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328. The Anti-Hero: Why Nothing You've Tried Has Worked
Somewhere along the way, you were taught there was something wrong with you. How you looked, how you spoke, how you were in the world. So you spent years…
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327. The Secret to Crushing Burnout: A Chat with Annabelle
Today I have my client Annabelle on the podcast, and I'm so glad she said yes. When Annabelle and I first started working together, she was sitting in the car…
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326. If Punishing Yourself Worked, You'd Have Healed By Now
If punishing yourself worked, you'd have healed by now. That's a line I said in a class recently, and I can't stop coming back to it. Most of us have been…
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325. Invisible Sin: The Truth About The Woman Who Cheats
Today we're talking about something I've wanted to make an episode about for a long time: infidelity. Specifically, the woman who cheats. If that's you, I…
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324. Everybody is not an idiot. Not even you. Why changing this one belief will change your entire life for the better
This episode is all about judgment: why we're so quick to hand out labels, and what happens when we stop. It started with a lightbulb moment at a family…
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323. Leaning Into the Messy Life — Why Deciding Life Is Supposed to Be Messy Will Save Your Happiness
Life is messy. Yours, mine, everyone's. And somewhere along the way we decided that was the problem. Something to clean up before we're allowed to be happy…
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322. Summer Shame: Why Sunshine Doesn't Always Equal Happiness
Summer isn’t always the sun-soaked paradise we imagine it to be, and today, we’re diving headfirst into the sticky, sometimes cringe-worthy world of summertime…
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321. Why You Don't Have a Self-Love Problem, But a Shame Problem
Here's this episode: I'm going after the thing nobody wants to name. Everyone tells you the problem is that you don't love yourself enough. It's not. The…
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320. Take Back Your Life: The Case Against Responsibility Hoarding
Are you a responsibility hoarder? Well, if you've ever felt like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders, this episode is right up your…
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319. Sometimes the Truth Doesn't Serve You
Alright, folks! So today we’re diving headfirst into the wild world of self-criticism and the liberating idea that sometimes, the truth just doesn’t serve us…
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318. Navigating Family Drama Like a Pro: Patterns, Pleasing, and Perception!
Alright, folks, let’s dive into some juicy family dynamics! Today, we're peeling back the layers on why family gatherings feel like stepping into a…
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317. Accountability Or Self-Love — The hidden shame of motivation and accountability
DO YOU EVER FEEL LIKE YOU SET A GOAL, PUSH HARD FOR A FEW DAYS—AND THEN FALL OFF AND WONDER WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU? Like no matter how many times you try, you…
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316. What Happens When the Helper Can't Handle You (When Coaches & Therapists Shame You)
What Happens When the Helper Can't Handle You There is a systemic failure happening in the helping industry — and nobody is talking about it. Coaches and…
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How To Become The Woman You Secretly Want To Be
Do you ever feel like there’s a version of you that wants more out of life… More joy. More confidence. More freedom. More YOU. But every time you try to move…
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314. Silence Your Inner Critic: The Power of Quiet Time
Today I’m talking about something I see constantly in women who are overwhelmed, emotionally reactive, anxious, or stuck in survival mode: the inability to…
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313. How to Build a Fuck Yes Life With a Sensitive Brain
Let me tell you, if you’ve ever felt like you just can’t shake off a past hurt, you’re in for a treat. We’re diving into the fascinating world of trauma—what…
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312. You Don’t Need More Self-Improvement
Alright friend, grab your gardening gloves because today we’re talking about something really important: how to create a life that actually blooms. The biggest…
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311. Why Mantras & Journaling Aren’t Working (And What To Do Instead)
If you’ve been repeating affirmations, journaling your thoughts, and still feeling stuck… we need to talk. Because it’s not that you’re doing it wrong. It’s…
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310. Why You Feel “Too Emotional” (And Why You’re Not)
If you’ve ever thought “why am I so emotional?” or felt like you’re just too sensitive for this world, this episode is going to shift everything. Because what…
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309. How to Stop Feeling Like You’re Perpetually Dismissed
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308. Why You Can't Let Things Go (It's Not Your Fault)
Do you ever feel like you just… can’t let things go? Like something happens and other people move on—but you’re still thinking about it days, weeks, or even…
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307. Sensitive Not Fragile
If you’ve been told your whole life that you’re “too sensitive”… and somewhere along the way you started believing that meant you’re fragile… This episode is…
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306. Deciding You Are Relevant - How To Stop Feeling Invisible In Your Life
What if the reason you feel invisible… isn’t actually about other people? In this episode, I’m sharing something that came up in a coaching session — and it…
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305. Feeling Overwhelmed? Plant Yourself in the Moment
This episode is a little different. It’s actually a practice I shared with my private clients this week while I’m in Hawaii — and I wanted to bring it here…
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304. 50 Years in This Nervous System: 10 More Lessons for Sensitive Women (Boundaries, Resentment & Choosing Yourself)
In episode 302, I shared the first 10 lessons I’ve learned from living 50 years with a sensitive nervous system. Today we’re continuing with the next 10. These…
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303. The Real Reason Adult Friendships Feel So Hard
Many women say they want deeper friendships. They want their people — the women they can laugh with, text, and go for coffee or brunch with. But there’s a…
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302. 50 Years in This Nervous System: 10 Lessons for Sensitive Women
I turned 50 this week. And I’ll be honest — this birthday feels different. There’s awareness. There’s fear. There’s grief. And there’s a level of self-trust I…
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301. The Missing Half of Emotional Wellness: Why Fixing Yourself Isn’t the Answer
If you’ve been trying to “fix” yourself for years… this episode might change everything. So much of the emotional wellness space is focused on one thing…
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300. Love Yourself No Matter What (My Most Important Message Yet)
Hey my beautiful friend… I can’t believe I’m saying this, but welcome to Episode 300. When I started this podcast, I had no idea if anyone would listen… or if…
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298. Big Girls Do Cry
I’m recording this one off the cuff, because it matters. I cry a lot. I cry every day. Sometimes I cry because I’m sad. Sometimes I cry because I’m angry…
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297. How Sensitive Women Can Navigate Emotional Pain Without Losing Themselves
Sensitive women feel deeply — and for many, emotional pain can feel overwhelming, unsafe, or impossible to sit with. There’s often a fear that if you really…
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296. The Truth About Jealousy (And How It Shows You What You Want)
Jealousy is one of the most misunderstood emotions — and one of the most shamed. Most of us were never taught how to feel jealousy without turning it against…
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295. Belonging, Rejection & Why You Reject Yourself In Advance
Belonging is one of our most basic human needs — but what if the biggest thing standing in the way of feeling like you belong isn’t other people… it’s you? In…
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294. Why January 1st Feels Heavy (And Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work)
If you’re listening to this in January (or any other time of the year) and feeling heavy, flat, emotional, or quietly overwhelmed — this episode is for you…
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293. You Are Not Who You Think You Are: How to Change Your Self-Concept
As the year comes to a close, many of us are taking stock — not just of what we did, but of who we believe we are. In this episode, we’re talking about…
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292. Feeling Is Inevitable. Suffering Is Optional.
Feeling is part of being human. Suffering is not. In this episode, Amanda breaks down the crucial difference between feeling emotions and suffering because of…
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291. Why Emotional Burnout Happens (and How to Prevent It)
What most women call overwhelm or anxiety is often something deeper: emotional burnout — the kind that happens when you’ve spent years trying to tolerate your…
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Setting Powerful Boundaries Without Fear
The holidays bring everything — family dynamics, overwhelm, expectations, pressure — and underneath it all is the fear of speaking up in a way that feels good…
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289. Overthinking Part 3: How to Change the Beliefs That Keep You Stuck
If you’ve spent your whole life trying to “think more positively,” “change your mindset,” or “just stop spiraling,” this episode is going to shift everything…
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288. Overthinking Part 2: You Don’t Have a Thought Problem — You Have an Emotion Problem
If you’ve been trying to “fix” your overthinking by changing your thoughts, but nothing ever seems to stick, here’s the truth: You don’t have a thought problem…
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287. Overthinking Part 1: Why Your Mind Races (and What’s Actually Causing It)
Overthinking isn’t a flaw — it’s a survival response. If your brain feels like it never shuts off, if you replay conversations, worry about every decision, or…
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286. What Experts Get Wrong About Sensitive Women (and How to Become the Expert on You)
What if everything you’ve been told about being “too sensitive” is wrong? In this episode, I share a deeply personal story from my early motherhood — the…
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285. It's Not Your Fault: Why You're So Hard On Yourself
Did you grow up in a house where everything had to be someone's fault? That type of environment creates a specific kind of wiring in your brain. The spilled…
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284. When Your Heart Hurts: A Loving Approach to Navigating Heartache
When your heart feels like it's been shattered into pieces and the pain consumes every moment of your day, you're experiencing something that every human being…
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283. Behind the Gossip: The Truth About Jealousy
Most of us have been taught that jealousy is wrong, and that we should never feel it. But rejecting a normal human emotion only makes it come back louder and…
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282. WHO Before HOW: How Goals Grow You from the Inside Out
Most of us think the point of a goal is to achieve it. But what if the real purpose is who you become along the way? When I laced up my skates, put on a…
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281. Turning Fear into Fuel: The Self-Love Approach to Big Goals
Goal setting triggers panic for so many of us. The fear of not meeting expectations, the pressure of deadlines, the looming possibility of disappointment -…
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280. The Secret to Improving Your Relationship (Without Changing Your Partner)
So often we believe that a better relationship depends on our partner changing. But the truth is, the real work starts with you. If you’ve ever felt stuck…
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279. Why Self-Love Isn’t Fluff - It’s the Key to Healing Old Wounds
Beating yourself up might feel productive, but it's actually keeping you stuck in the same painful patterns. The real work of healing from trauma isn't about…
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278. Letting Go of Summer & Leaning Into Fall: How to Flow With Life’s Seasons
Life moves in seasons, just like the world around us. Summer turns to fall, winter melts into spring, and nature shows us how to flow with change. Yet in our…
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277. How to Stop Living with Chronic Disappointment
Do you feel like no matter how hard you try, life just keeps letting you down? Like you’re stuck in a cycle of disappointment that seems impossible to break?…