321. Why You Don't Have a Self-Love Problem, But a Shame Problem

How To Love Yourself No Matter What · Jul 16, 2026 · 22m · transcript

Here's this episode: I'm going after the thing nobody wants to name.

Everyone tells you the problem is that you don't love yourself enough. It's not. The problem is shame. That's it. That's the whole thing. Shame is what shows up the second you're anything less than perfect, and every single human on the planet has it — but women get handed a bigger pile of it. We're taught to feel shame about our bodies, our parenting, our work, the way we take up space in a room.

So no, I'm not going to tell you to love yourself harder. I'm going to ask you to look at the shame first.

I get into where it…