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How To Love Yourself No Matter What
You're still replaying that conversation from six days ago. The one where you said the wrong thing, or said nothing at all, and you've been rewriting it in your head ever since. You've read the books. You've listened to the podcasts. You've taken the advice, and you're still lying awake at 11pm running the tape back. Here's what nobody tells you — you can't think your way out of overthinking. Not when your nervous system is still convinced that if you just analyze it hard enough, you'll finally…
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- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
276. The Healing Power of Grief
As a culture, we don’t know how to grieve. We’re expected to keep it together, stay strong, and move on, even though grief is one of the most universal human…
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275. How to Advocate for Yourself When Others Don’t Understand You
Feeling misunderstood is exhausting. When you’re worried about being too much or too hard to read, it’s easy to slip into performing instead of simply being…
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274. Creating Emotional Safety in Your Daily Life
Emotional safety is more than just a buzzword. It’s the foundation for healing and thriving in every area of your life. But for many women, creating emotional…
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Introducing: How to Love Yourself No Matter What
If you’ve ever felt emotionally overwhelmed, mislabeled, or unsupported by traditional systems, this space is for you. I’m Amanda Hess, a trauma-informed life…
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273. Recognize and Release Internalized Shame
Do you always think that you're the problem? Are you constantly trying to be more perfect? Are you angry at others and don't quite know why? In this episode…
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272. How to Build Radical Self-Trust and Overcome Self-Doubt
Self-trust starts to erode when you’re constantly beating yourself up over past mistakes. But lack of self-trust isn’t a character flaw. It’s conditioning. And…
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271. How to Finally Get Unstuck
You’ve tried it all - podcasts, self-help books, courses. And yet, somehow, you always end up back where you started. The strategies that work for everyone…
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You Don’t Need a Plan — You Need a Strategy (Day 5 of Take Back Your Summer)
You don’t need a rigid routine — you need a framework that supports your sensitivity, your energy, and your capacity. Let’s design a summer that works for you…
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270. You're Not Responsible for Everyone's Emotions (Day 4 of Take Back Your Summer)
In this week's episode, I'm addressing something that so many women struggle with quietly: feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions. Whether you grew…
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Burn the To-Do List (Day 3 of Take Back Your Summer)
The expectations are relentless — to plan the vacations, hold the emotions, run the household, keep it all “fun.” Let’s burn that list and make a different…
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You're Not Lazy — You're in a Freeze (Day 2 of Take Back Your Summer)
You’re not lazy. You’re dysregulated. If you find yourself zoning out, doom scrolling, or avoiding everything — you’re not alone. On today's Take Back Your…
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You’re Not Failing at Summer (Day 1 of Take Back Your Summer)
Everyone else seems fine. So why does this season feel so heavy for you? Let’s talk about why your emotional experience of summer is valid — and why it’s not…
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269. How to Create a Summer That Doesn’t Burn You Out
Summer can be a lot when you're sensitive, neurodivergent, or simply wired to experience the world deeply. The lack of routine, constant sensory input, and the…
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268. Why You Keep Checking Out (& How to Come Back In)
When you find yourself scrolling through your phone instead of spending time with family, or lying in bed when it's beautiful outside, your body has figured…
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267. When Summer Feels Like Too Much
Summer arrives with the promise of freedom and relaxation, yet for many of us, it delivers the exact opposite - a whirlwind of overstimulation, unpredictable…
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266. Why Boundaries are Hard but Necessary for Deep Feelers
Setting boundaries can feel like a radical and scary act, especially if you've spent years people-pleasing. The discomfort that comes with saying no often…
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265. You’re Not Broken: Breaking Free from Shame and Misdiagnosis
Have you ever been told you’re “too much,” “too sensitive,” or simply “not normal”? Those labels can feel like a life sentence - but they’re nothing more than…
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264. How to Calm Down When You're Emotionally Overwhelmed
Emotional overwhelm can feel like a full-body shutdown - racing thoughts, physical tension, and an overwhelming urge to escape. When these intense feelings…
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263. Why Feeling “Too Much and Not Enough” Is Actually Your Superpower
One extremely common experience among sensitive women is the exhausting push-pull of feeling simultaneously being "too much" and "not enough." Through my own…
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Introducing: How to Love Yourself No Matter What
Are you an emotionally intense woman who’s ever felt like you’re just too much—or maybe not enough? On this podcast, I help you break free from shame…
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262. Why Being Easygoing Doesn't Make You a Better Person
"I feel guilty after speaking up for myself." "They probably think I'm a b*tch." "I should have said that nicer." Do these thoughts sound familiar to you? The…
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261. Saying No Without Guilt: Unlearning the Good Girl Narrative
Are you constantly smiling and nodding when you really want to scream "No!"? I've been there, too. That feeling of saying yes when your body and mind are…
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260. How to Stop Feeling Responsible for Everyone: A Guide for the Exhausted ‘Strong One
Welcome to the How to Love Yourself No Matter What podcast with Amanda Hess. In this episode, Amanda dives deep into a topic so many of us struggle with…
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259. Understanding and Healing From Rejection Sensitivity
If you’ve ever felt like you just can’t handle rejection, this episode is for you. Amanda Hess dives deep into rejection sensitivity—what it is, where it comes…
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258. Chasing Calm? Start with Emotional Safety Instead
We say we want peace, but what we really need is emotional safety—the ability to be with ourselves, feel any emotion, and know we can handle it. This 18-minute…
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257. Burnout, Rewritten: What’s Really Draining You—and a Kinder Way Back
Burnout isn’t just being tired or overwhelmed—it’s what happens when your nervous system is totally tapped out. This episode is a wake-up call and a reframe. I…
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256. Put Yourself First—Guilt-Free (Conversation with LT Dixon)
This episode is more than a conversation—it’s a reclamation. LT Dixon joins me to share a deeply personal, powerful journey of healing, self-discovery, and…
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255. Feeling Invisible? Healing the Hurt of Not Being Heard
Ever feel like nobody truly sees you or hears you—like you’re speaking, but it’s not landing? In this episode, I’m sharing a personal story that cracked this…
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254. When Hope Feels Scary: Gentle Steps to Trusting It Again
Episode Summary: Do you ever find yourself holding back from feeling hope—because deep down, you're afraid of being disappointed, let down, or even…
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253. Making Peace with the Past Version of You
In this episode, I thoughtfully explore the importance of making peace with our past selves as a key element of self-love and personal growth. Through my own…
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252. Self Love Isn’t a Vacation Destination
Even in paradise, self-judgment can follow us. In this short and honest episode, I share insights I’m having while in Hawaii—about why being somewhere…
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251. Meeting Your Emotional Needs as a Sensitive or Neurodivergent Woman
In this episode, I dive into the challenges of meeting your emotional needs as a sensitive or neurodivergent woman. If you’ve ever felt unseen, misunderstood…
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250. Stop Running Your Life Like It's Fast Food
We live in a world that constantly prioritizes convenience—fast food, quick fixes, and instant results. But what happens when we take that same approach to our…
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249. Soft Strength (Let's Talk About Being A Karen)
In this episode, I explore the concept of soft strength—a way to hold boundaries, advocate for yourself, and navigate difficult situations without aggression…
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248. Walking Each other Home: Dismantling The Good Girl Narrative With Feminist Life Coach Maggie Reyes
In this episode, I sit down with my first-ever life coach, Maggie Reyes, a feminist marriage coach and the author of The Questions for Couples Journal. We dive…
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247. Reclaiming Your Wants: Breaking Free from Burnout & People-Pleasing
Are you feeling stuck in a cycle of burnout, constantly giving and never taking time for yourself? In this episode, I dive into the concept of *wanting*—why so…
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246. Coaching, Therapy, and the Path to Real Change
In this episode, I’m breaking down the key differences between coaching and therapy—a topic that often confuses people. While both provide emotional support…
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245. The Truth About Self-Worth That You Don't Know
In this episode, I dive into the topic of self-worth, something I surprisingly haven’t covered in depth before—despite this being my 245th episode! I reflect…
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244. Turning Labels Into Stepping Stones
Have you ever felt stuck because of the labels you or others have placed on you? In this episode, we’re taking a deep dive into how labels shape our lives—for…
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243. Confidence: Why You Need It & How To Create It
In this episode, I’m breaking down the truth about confidence—what it really is, why it’s so important, and how you can create it in your life. Confidence…
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242. Taming Anxiety, Building Confidence, and Finding Yourself: Ryanne’s Transformational Journey
[0:00] Welcome and Introduction [2:00] Why Ryanne Chose Coaching Ryanne explains how she felt unsettled and overwhelmed before starting coaching. She shares…
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241. Use Vision Instead Of Goal Setting For True Fulfillment
[00:00] **Why I’m Sharing This Episode** - I recorded this episode on January 1st for my private, client-only podcast. - I’m sharing it here so you can get a…
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240. Overthinking Unplugged: Why Your Brain Won't Stop & How To Break Free
In this episode I dive deep into the topic of overthinking. I explore why we overthink, how it affects our lives, and most importantly, how we can overcome it…
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239. Emotional Mastery
- **[0:00]** - Welcome and reflection: "Can you believe it's already mid-December? Let’s make this moment count." - **[1:00]** - Today, we’re diving deep into…
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238. What Is Manifesting Really, & Why It Matters In 2025
**[3:25] Getting Started: Why Manifestation?** - I share a personal update about teaching spin class while recovering from a cold. - Introduction to the…
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237. LIVE Coaching: Boundaries & Love With Difficult Relationships
Curious about what coaching looks like? This is a real coaching session to help you see what you can expect. In this episode, I share a live coaching session…
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236. Is Gratitude Overrated?
In this episode, we delve into the complexities of gratitude. As American Thanksgiving approaches, gratitude becomes a hot topic, but is forcing gratitude…
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235. Neurodiversity & Connection With Jenine Lillian
In this episode, I welcome neurodiversity consultant Jenine Lillian to discuss their journey to an autism spectrum disorder diagnosis, overcoming societal…
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234. Focus On Emotion - Not Your Diagnosis
In this episode, I delve deep into my personal journey and share insights on embracing and understanding emotions. As someone who has walked through emotional…
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233. Making Friends In Adulthood (The Real Reason Why This Is Hard)
Are you struggling with loneliness, craving genuine friendships, or feeling stuck in the same old patterns? I'm here to help. Join me as we explore the…
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232. Kathryn's Journey: From Therapy to Coaching Transformation
Kathryn's Journey: From Therapy to Coaching Transformation In this heartfelt podcast episode, I, Amanda, welcome my client Kathryn, who shares her incredible…
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231. How To Get Rid Of Negative Self-Talk. Top Ten Episodes No. 8
When we start down the road of personal development - we quickly notice that negative self-talk is a problem. We see that our negative thoughts about ourselves…
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230. Dealing With Burnout
Burnout is something that everybody is talking about. If you think you might be burned out, you probably are. But that doesn't mean that is where you need to…
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229. Top Ten Episodes: Making The Decision To Change Your Life
Making the decision to change your life can be so much easier than you think. The only reason decisions seem hard is because we think there are RIGHT decisions…
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228. Top Ten Episodes: How To Love Yourself When You Think You Shouldn't
Welcome to the Top Ten Podcast Episodes! Today we start with number 9: How To Love Yourself When You Think You Shouldn't. Self-Love is hard even when we are…
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227. Lessons From Being Half-Naked & Afraid (2 Ways To Start Creating a F*ck Yes Life)
Join me as I walk you through what it was like to be a 48 year old adult in a tiny dress who stepped onto a cold rink and danced and jumped my way through a…
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226. Top Ten Episodes: Woman Guilt
Welcome to the Top Ten Podcast Episodes! Today we start with number 10: Woman Guilt. If there is one emotion that I know that every women feels on a daily…
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225. You are NOT Too Emotional & You are NOT TOO Much
I have been told I was too emotional my whole life. I have always had big feelings and guess what? That is never going to change. AND it turns out that there…
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224. Aim for STRONG not demure
This TikTok trend for Demure and Mindful seems like just a fun little trend. But it's actually perpetuating a female stereotype that you are going to want to…
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223. Reduce Your Stress Without Reducing Your Life
Register for the Reduce Your Stress Without Reducing Your Life Masterclass: amanahesss.ca/stress Stress. We have all had it drilled into us that we have to…