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The Art of Charm
Explore social skills like charisma, confidence, body language and conversation. On The Art of Charm, co-founders AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak break down the science of human behavior into practical skills, from owning a room and reading people to making a first impression and building real connection. Short Social Intelligence Briefings focus on one skill in about 15 minutes, and long-form interviews go deep with experts such as Joe Navarro, Chris Voss and Vanessa Van Edwards on body…
Episodes
- The Art of Charm
How To Read Body Language - Social Intelligence Briefing
Think you can read someone's body language and instantly know what they're thinking? Crossed arms, avoiding eye contact, or looking away during a conversation…
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Communication Won't Fix Your Relationship | Yael Schonbrun
Why do you feel misunderstood by the people who know you best? Whether you're arguing with your spouse, struggling to communicate with your partner, or dealing…
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Why Nice People Stay Stuck | Social Intelligence Briefing
Do you struggle to say no, set boundaries, or ask for what you need because you're afraid of disappointing people? Being too nice might feel like the best way…
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Working Harder Makes You Less Productive | Dr. Christian Poensgen
What if your obsession with productivity is actually making you less productive—and damaging the relationships that matter most? Working longer hours…
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Why Good Conversations Go Nowhere | Social Intelligence Briefing
Ever walk away from a conversation wondering why you struggle to make meaningful connections—even though you're friendly, ask questions, and listen? The…
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The FBI’s Secret to Influencing Anyone | Kyle Vowinkel
When pressure rises, your instinct may be to take control, push harder, and force a decision. But the harder you push, the more resistance you can create. AJ…
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How to be Taken Seriously at Work | Social Intelligence Briefing
Doing great work isn't enough to get promoted if nobody understands the value you're bringing to the table. AJ and Johnny break down why talented professionals…
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What Your Shame Is Trying to Tell You | Frank Spinelli
Shame doesn’t tell you that you did something bad. It tells you that you are bad—and that distinction can quietly shape your relationships, choices, and sense…
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You Were Trained to Be Invisible | Social Intelligence Briefing
The habits that helped you succeed early in your career can become the same habits that keep you invisible later. AJ and John break down how approval seeking…
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Tiny Habits That Change Your Life | Eli Susman
You don’t need an hour-long morning routine to improve your well-being. Sometimes twenty seconds is enough—if you actually keep doing it. AJ sits down with…
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Why Being Liked Isn't Getting You Respected | Social Intelligence Briefing
Doing great work doesn’t guarantee you’ll get credit for it. In fact, staying humble and helpful can sometimes make your best work invisible. AJ and Johnny…
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Knowing When to Quit | Lindsay Crouse
Quitting isn’t the opposite of perseverance. Sometimes it’s what allows you to keep going in a direction that actually matters. AJ sits down with journalist…
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The Competence Trap | Social Intelligence Briefing
Working harder can actually make you harder to promote when you’re playing the wrong game. AJ and Johnny break down the difference between earning approval and…
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Why Success Never Feels Like Enough | Dr. Marisa Franco
What if low self-worth isn’t something wrong with you—but your mind protecting you from being hurt again? AJ sits down with psychologist Dr. Marisa G. Franco…
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Waffling | Social Intelligence Briefing
The moment someone challenges your idea, do you defend it—or accidentally convince the room you weren’t confident in it to begin with? AJ and Johnny break down…
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The Hidden Forces Behind Your Choices | Glenn Hutchinson
You think you know why you make the choices you make. Your unconscious mind may have gotten there first. AJ and Johnny sit down with psychologist Glenn to…
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Social Gravity | Social Intelligence Briefing
Being the smartest person in the room won’t help your career if nobody remembers what you contributed when the decision gets made. AJ and Johnny break down why…
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The Hidden Power of Negative Emotions | George Loewenstein
Your emotions don’t just change how you feel—they can change what you remember, how you judge other people, and even who you become in the moment. AJ sits down…
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The Nice Tax | Social Intelligence Briefing
Being easy to work with can quietly make you miserable—and invisible. AJ and Johnny break down the “nice tax”: the price you pay every time you agree with…
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The Easier Way to Reach Your Goals | Jia Jiang
Discipline gets a lot easier when you stop treating misery as proof that you’re doing it right. AJ and Johnny sit down with author and rejection expert Jia…
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The Secret to Living Guilt-Free | Dr Jennifer Reid
Guilt can feel like proof that you care—but when it becomes your default way of relating to work, family, and yourself, it quietly turns care into obligation…
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Why "That's Fine" Is the Most Expensive Sentence You Say | Social Intelligence Briefing
Silence is where negotiators accidentally give away money. AJ and Johnny break down why the hardest part of a negotiation often isn’t knowing what to ask…
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How to Break the Patterns Holding You Back | Judy Ho
You can be inches from the life you want—and still find a way to pull yourself backward. AJ and Johnny sit down with clinical neuropsychologist Dr. Judy Ho to…
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How High Value People Hold The Frame Without Becoming The Villain | Social Intelligence Briefing
Someone takes a shot at you in front of the room, and suddenly your body reacts before your brain has decided what to say. AJ and Johnny break down what…
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Stop Managing Time | Tim Grover
Winning once can be luck. Winning repeatedly demands that you become someone different after every loss. AJ and Johnny sit down with elite performance coach…
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The Best Person in the Room Almost Never Gets the Promotion | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most people think promotions go to the person doing the best work. In reality, they often go to the person who looks like they’re already leading the room. AJ…
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The Power of Knowing When to Quit | Annie Duke
Most people think success comes from never giving up. But sometimes the smartest decision is knowing when to walk away from the wrong opportunity so you can…
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Why Skeptics Don't Care How Right You Are | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most people think persuasion starts with your message. It actually starts with your audience. AJ sits down with entrepreneur and marketing expert Russ Ruffino…
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How to Turn Your Knowledge Into Opportunity | Russ Ruffino
Most people think persuasion starts with your message. It actually starts with your audience. AJ sits down with entrepreneur and marketing expert Russ Ruffino…
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How to Make Your Ideas Impossible to Ignore | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most people think great work speaks for itself. It doesn’t. AJ and Johnny break down why smart, analytical people so often lose credit for their best ideas—and…
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Why Honesty Is Becoming So Hard | Christian Miller
Most people think honesty is simply about telling the truth. It’s much more than that. AJ sits down with philosopher and ethics professor Christian Miller to…
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The Secret to Reading Any Room | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most people think group conversations are just a series of one-on-one interactions. They’re not. AJ and Johnny break down the hidden social dynamics that…
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The Secret to Knowing Who You Are | Luke Burgis
Most people think finding the right community will make them happier. It won’t—if you lose yourself in the process. AJ sits down with author Luke Burgis to…
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How to Vibe With People | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most people think making a great impression is about saying the right thing. It isn’t. AJ and Johnny break down the science of "vibing"—the overlooked social…
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How to Raise Confident Kids | Brandon Webb
Most parents think protecting their kids means shielding them from failure. It doesn’t. AJ sits down with former Navy SEAL sniper instructor Brandon Webb to…
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Your Boss Doesn't Want to Promote You | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most people think being indispensable guarantees a promotion. It often does the opposite. AJ and Johnny unpack one of the most common career traps hidden…
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How Your Mind Manipulates You | Owen Fitzpatrick
Most people think the biggest lies come from the media, politicians, or social media. They don’t. AJ sits down with psychologist and author Owen Fitzpatrick to…
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Why the Best Point in the Room Still Loses | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most people think influence comes from having authority. It doesn’t. AJ and Johnny continue their Hidden Language series by breaking down the architecture…
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Why Self-Awareness Beats Talent | Ian Cron
Most people think personality tests are about labeling people. They’re not. AJ sits down with Enneagram expert Ian Morgan Cron to explore how personality…
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The Hidden Language of High-Status People Pt 2 | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most people think high-value rooms reward the best ideas. They don’t. AJ and Johnny continue their series on hidden language by breaking down the qualification…
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The Career Cost of Staying Quiet | Elaine Hering
Most people think having a voice means talking more. It doesn’t. AJ sits down with former Harvard Law lecturer Elaine Lin Hering to explore why so many capable…
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The Hidden Language of High-Status People Pt 1 | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most people think high-value conversations are about having the right answers. They’re not. AJ and Johnny break down the “hidden language” running underneath…
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The Real Source of Confidence | AJ Pasciuti
Most people think elite performers are born with confidence. They’re not. AJ and Johnny sit down with former Marine Force Recon Scout Sniper AJ Pasciuti to…
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Why Talking to Strangers Makes You Happier Than You Think | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most people don’t avoid strangers because they dislike people. They avoid them because they expect connection to feel awkward. AJ and Johnny break down the…
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Negotiation Is Not What You Think | Attia Qureshi and John Richardson
Most people think negotiation is about winning. It’s not. AJ and Johnny sit down with Attia and John to unpack why the best negotiators focus less on control…
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The Secret to Making Friends as Adults | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most adults don’t struggle because they lack people around them. They struggle because they no longer have a place where connection happens naturally. AJ and…
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Why Modern Life Feels So Empty | Nicholas Epley
This episode explores why modern life is quietly making us less social — and why even tiny moments of connection can dramatically improve happiness…
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You’re Still Trying to Prove Yourself | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most people think imposter syndrome means you secretly doubt your abilities. It doesn’t. AJ and Johnny break down why many high performers feel socially…
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Why You Feel Stuck in Life | Simone Stolzoff
Most people think uncertainty is the problem. It’s not. AJ sits down with journalist and author Simone Stolzoff to unpack why our obsession with certainty may…
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How Status Corrupts Good People | Tom Hardin
Most people think crossing the line is a single decision. It’s not. AJ sits down with Tom Hardin to unpack how small ethical compromises compound over time —…
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How to Build a Powerful Network Without Networking Events | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most people think networking is about meeting more people. It’s not. AJ and Johnny break down why the real driver of opportunity is social capital — and how…
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Why Logic Doesn’t Persuade Anyone | Josh Bandoch
Most people think persuasion is about having the best argument. It’s not. AJ and Johnny sit down with former speechwriter Josh Bandoch to break down why we…
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How Mentally Strong People Prepare for Bad Days | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most people think resilience shows up in the moment. It doesn’t. AJ and Johnny break down why resilience is a system — not a personality trait — and how top…
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Your Environment Is Controlling You | Leidy Klotz
We spend so much time trying to improve ourselves — but ignore the environments shaping us every day. Leidy Klotz joins AJ and Johnny to explain how the spaces…
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The Tiny Habit That Makes Relationships Stronger | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most relationships don’t fail because of the bad moments — they fade because the good ones don’t stick. AJ and Johnny break down new research on “joint…
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How to Build Real Confidence | Amy Morin
What actually builds mental strength — and why do so many high performers still struggle with confidence, stress, and self-doubt? Psychotherapist Amy Morin…
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Why People Don’t Feel Close to You | Social Intelligence Briefing
Why do so many good conversations still go nowhere? AJ and Johnny break down the hidden reason conversations stay surface level: understanding connection isn’t…
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Why Nice People Stay Stuck | Dr. Jeffrey Pfeffer
Stanford professor Jeffrey Pfeffer joins AJ and Johnny to break down the uncomfortable truth about power: good work alone rarely gets you ahead. From hierarchy…
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3 Ways to Be More Charismatic Immediately | Social Intelligence Briefing
Want the fastest way to kill your charisma? Pull out your phone. AJ and Johnny break down the research showing that even the mere presence of a phone lowers…
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Stop Letting AI Think for You | Dr. Vivienne Ming
AI is making us faster — but is it also making us worse? AJ and Johnny sit down with Dr. Ming to unpack what it really means to become “robot proof” in a world…