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The Art of Charm
Explore social skills like charisma, confidence, body language and conversation. On The Art of Charm, co-founders AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak break down the science of human behavior into practical skills, from owning a room and reading people to making a first impression and building real connection. Short Social Intelligence Briefings focus on one skill in about 15 minutes, and long-form interviews go deep with experts such as Joe Navarro, Chris Voss and Vanessa Van Edwards on body…
Episodes
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Why AI Is Telling You to Break Up | Social Intelligence Briefing
Why is AI so quick to tell people to break up? AJ and Johnny unpack what relationship advice culture gets wrong — and why outsourcing hard conversations to…
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How to Handle Conflict | Julia Minson
Why do disagreements spiral into conflict — even when both people think they’re being reasonable? AJ and Johnny sit down with psychologist Julia to break down…
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"We Should Hang Out” Usually Goes Nowhere | Social Intelligence Briefing
“We should hang out sometime” sounds like interest — but usually leads nowhere. AJ and Johnny break down why adult friendships stall in ambiguity, and how most…
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The Job Search Mistake Everyone Makes | Michelle Schafer
Career coach Michelle Schafer joins AJ to break down what most people get wrong during a job search — especially in today’s uncertain market. Instead of…
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How to Build Friendship Faster: Why Trust Is Earned, Not Felt
Ever meet someone you instantly “click” with — but the connection never turns into a real friendship? AJ and Johnny explain why chemistry alone doesn’t create…
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Your Beliefs Are Sabotaging You | Nir Eyal
Why do high performers know exactly what to do — yet still fail to take action? AJ and Johnny sit down with Nir Eyal, bestselling author of Hooked and…
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The Hidden Tests in Every Important Conversation | Social Intelligence Briefing
Ever leave a conversation feeling like it went well — only to realize later nothing actually moved forward? AJ and Johnny break down the hidden layer in…
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The Hidden Status Game of Hypocrisy | Michael Hallsworth
We love calling out hypocrisy — especially in leaders, corporations, and politics. But what if our obsession with inconsistency is doing more harm than good?…
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The People Around You Are Aging You | Social Intelligence Briefing
A new PNAS study found that the people who chronically stress you out don’t just ruin your mood — they accelerate your biological aging. AJ and Johnny break…
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Why You’re Afraid to Open Up | Leslie John
Harvard Business School professor Leslie John joins AJ and Johnny to unpack why we systematically get vulnerability wrong. We obsess over the risks of sharing…
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How to Grow Your Network Effortlessly (Even If You’re Introverted) | Social Intelligence Briefing
If networking feels exhausting, you’re doing it wrong. AJ and Johnny break down new research showing that closeness doesn’t require deep conversations — it…
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How to Influence People and Spot Deception | Brad Beeler
Former Secret Service agent Brad Beeler joins AJ and Johnny to break down what actually gets people to open up — especially when the stakes are high. From…
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Why You “Click” With Some People (It’s Mostly Timing) | Social Intelligence Briefing
Why do some conversations feel effortless — while others fall flat even when you said nothing wrong? AJ and Johnny break down the neuroscience of “clicking,”…
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How to Get Your Brain to Turn Goals Into Habits | Emily Falk
AJ and Johnny sit down with neuroscientist Emily Falk to explore why our goals so often collapse after January, and what the brain is actually optimizing for…
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How to Train Your Social Skills (Based on Science) | Social Intelligence Briefing
AJ and Johnny break down why high performers train everything except the moments that decide outcomes: conversations. Most people rely on experience and hope…
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Work Is Taking More Than You Think | Guy Winch
Episode Description: AJ and Johnny sit down with psychologist Guy Winch, author of Mind Over Grind, to unpack how grind culture quietly erodes our mental…
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The Psychology of Reaching Out — and the Easiest Win You’re Not Taking | Social Intelligence Briefing
AJ and Johnny break down why reconnecting with old friends feels harder than it should — and why the hesitation isn’t rejection, it’s symmetry. Both people…
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The Myth of Self-Made Success | Daniel Coyle
AJ and Johnny sit down with Daniel Coyle, bestselling author and culture researcher, to explore what it actually means to flourish — and why flourishing is…
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Hidden Logic of High-Status Networks Infiltration | Social Intelligence Briefing
Episode Description: AJ and Johnny reveal two tactical moves from their infiltration method — the same framework they’ve used to train special forces, federal…
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Modern Dating Is Broken | Paul Eastwick
AJ and Johnny sit down with Paul Eastwick, relationship scientist and author of Bonded by Evolution, to unpack what modern dating has gotten wrong — and what…
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Why High Social Skills Win in the Age of AI | Social Intelligence Briefing
AJ and Johnny break down the real competitive edge in the age of AI — emotional regulation and social intelligence. As automation levels the playing field for…
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Is AI Coming For Your Job? | Zack Kass
AJ and Johnny sit down with Zack Kass, AI futurist and author of The Next Renaissance: AI and the Expansion of Human Potential, to explore how artificial…
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AI Can’t Save You in the Conference Room (Or on a Date) | Social Intelligence Briefing
AJ and Johnny reveal the single most important human skill to master in 2026 — and why it’s the one AI will never replace: validation. As automation takes over…
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The Art of Charm Best Of 2025
AJ and Johnny close out the year with The Best of 2025 — sixty minutes of the most replayed, talked-about moments that defined the year on The Art of Charm…
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Invisible Workers Get Cut First | Rebecca Hinds
AJ and Johnny sit down with Rebecca Hinds, author of Your Best Meeting Ever, to uncover why meetings aren’t broken — they’re just poorly designed. Rebecca…
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Why Trying is Ruining You | Carla Ondrasik
AJ and Johnny sit down with Carla Ondrasik, author of Stop Trying, to unpack why the word try is secretly holding you back from real change. Carla shares how…
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Why Smart Ideas Stall — And What’s Really Happening | SIB
AJ and Johnny unpack why great ideas often get rejected — even when the logic and data are flawless. The truth? You didn’t lose the argument; you triggered…
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Friendship Fuels Achievement | Matt Ritter
AJ sits down with Matt Ritter, co-host of Man of the Year, to unpack the male loneliness epidemic and why so many men lose friendships as they get older. Matt…
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How to Raise Your Social Status | Social Intelligence Briefing
AJ and Johnny break down the real status game — and why working harder, proving yourself, or chasing approval can actually lower your value. They reveal how…
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The Secret Power of Losing | Dave Berke
AJ and Johnny sit down with Dave Berke, retired Marine Corps fighter pilot, Top Gun instructor, and leadership coach with Echelon Front. Dave shares lessons…
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How High-Value People Hold Frame | Social Intelligence Briefing
AJ and Johnny break down how to hold your frame when someone takes a subtle dig or tries to knock you off balance. Whether it’s a jealous coworker, a critical…
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Are You Chasing a Prize You Don’t Even Want? | Bree Groff
What if the reason change feels so hard is because you're using the wrong psychological model to navigate it? In this episode, AJ and Johnny sit down with…
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Stop Trying to Be Liked — Start Being Chased | Social Intelligence Briefing
AJ and Johnny break down the X-Factor Operating System — the mindset and skill set that turns overthinkers into magnetic communicators. If you’ve ever wondered…
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Start Designing a Life That Matters | Bill Burnett and Dave Evans
AJ and Johnny sit down with Bill Burnett and Dave Evans, Stanford professors and authors of Designing Your Life, to explore how to build a more meaningful…
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How to Read Body Language: Spot the Freeze | Social Intelligence Briefing
In this episode, AJ and Johnny reveal one of the most powerful — and overlooked — body language cues in human behavior: the freeze. First uncovered by former…
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3 Steps to Move from Stress to Strength | Jon Rosemberg
Episode Description: AJ and Johnny sit down with Jon Rosemberg to unpack how to break free from survival mode and start thriving in your work, relationships…
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How to Build Rapport With Anyone | Social Intelligence Briefing
Ever wonder how top performers turn casual small talk into career-changing conversations? In this episode of Social Intelligence Brief, AJ and Johnny reveal…
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3 Mindset Shifts to Build Emotional Resilience | Shireen Rizvi and Jesse Finkelstein
When emotions clash with reason, clarity feels impossible. In this episode, AJ and Johnny sit down with psychologists Dr. Shireen Rizvi and Dr. Jesse…
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How to Have Aura | Social Intelligence Briefing
Ever wonder why some people light up a room the moment they walk in? That’s not luck — it’s aura. In this episode, AJ and Johnny unpack the science and…
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The Science of Courage and Fear | Ranjay Gulati
Why do only 9% of people and companies grow stronger during crises? According to Harvard Business School professor and author Ranjay Gulati, the answer isn’t…
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The Aura Effect: How to Make People Chase Your Vibe | Social Intel Brief
Ever wonder why some people light up a room the moment they walk in? That’s not luck — it’s aura. In this episode, AJ and Johnny unpack the science and…
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How to Be Likeable | Richard Shotton
What makes people trust you faster, remember your message longer, and say “yes” more often? Behavioral science has the answers. In this episode, AJ and Johnny…
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The Spy’s Secret to Instant Trust | Social Intel Brief
Most networking advice tells you to “be nice” — but nice is forgettable. In this episode, AJ and Johnny reveal the three hidden signals spies use to win rooms…
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3 Reasons You Need a Personal Brand Now | Goldie Chan
What if the fastest way to future-proof your career isn’t networking — it’s owning your story? In this episode, AJ and Johnny sit down with Goldie Chan, Forbes…
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How to Build Rapport in 90 Seconds | Social Intelligence Briefing
Ever had a five-minute conversation that felt like you’d known someone for years? That’s not luck — it’s a loop. In this short, high-impact episode, AJ and…
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The Secret to Beating Burnout | Steven Kotler
What if peak performance isn’t about superhumans — but about biology? In this powerful conversation, AJ and Johnny sit down with New York Times bestselling…
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The Ancient Formula for Modern Influence — Cicero’s Secret to Magnetic Persuasion | Social Intel Brief
What if the secret to modern influence was 2,000 years old? In this episode of Social Intelligence Brief, AJ and Johnny uncover Cicero’s three-step formula for…
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Luck Isn’t Random—It’s Designed | Judd B. Kessler
Why do some people always seem “lucky” while others miss out? In this episode, AJ and Johnny sit down with Wharton economics professor Judd Kessler, author of…
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Hack Your Confidence with Body Language | Social Intel Brief
What if confidence wasn’t in your head, but in your posture? In this episode, AJ and Johnny unpack the science of body language and embodied cognition—how…
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3 Viral Mental Health Myths Debunked | Joe Nucci
Are we drowning in psychobabble? In this episode, AJ and Johnny sit down with psychotherapist and author Joe Nucci to debunk the viral mental health myths…
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Why High-Value People Don’t Avoid Conflict | Social Intel Brief
Why do some people command instant respect without saying a word? In this episode, AJ and Johnny reveal the four high value signals that separate quiet…
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How to Use Emotions as Data | Dr. Marc Brackett
What if your emotions weren’t problems to fix, but signals to guide you? Dr. Marc Brackett, founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and…
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The Hidden Language of Laughter | Social Intel Brief
What if laughter wasn’t just fun—but a social superpower? In this episode, AJ and Johnny unpack the science of laughter and why it’s one of the strongest…
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How to Connect Deeper in Minutes | Charles Duhigg
Why do some people make every conversation better? Pulitzer Prize–winning journalist and author Charles Duhigg (Supercommunicators, The Power of Habit) returns…
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3 Low-Value Behaviors That Quietly Kill Your Respect | Social Intelligence Brief
Ever wonder why people don’t take you seriously—even when you’re smart and hardworking? In this episode, AJ and Johnny reveal the three most common low value…
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How to Leverage Status for Career Growth | Toby Stuart
Why do some people rise effortlessly while others go unnoticed? Toby E. Stuart, Leo Helzel Distinguished Professor of Business Administration at UC Berkeley’s…
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Why High-Value People Don’t Avoid Conflict | Social Intel Brief
Do you avoid conflict—or use it to grow your influence? In this episode, AJ and Johnny share a science-backed framework for conflict resolution that transforms…
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The Truth About Psychological Safety | Colin M Fisher
Why do brilliant individuals so often create dysfunctional groups? AJ and Johnny sit down with organizational behavior professor Colin Fisher, author of The…
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The Magnetic Entrance: Why Charisma Isn’t About Being Loud
What if your charisma started before you even spoke a word? In this episode, AJ and Johnny reveal how to make a magnetic entrance—one that commands attention…
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Playing It Safe Holds You Back | Elizabeth Weingarten
What if the very questions keeping you up at night were the key to moving forward? In this episode, AJ and Johnny sit down with author Elizabeth Weingarten to…