What Your Shame Is Trying to Tell You | Frank Spinelli
Shame doesn’t tell you that you did something bad. It tells you that you are bad—and that distinction can quietly shape your relationships, choices, and sense of self.
AJ sits down with physician and author Dr. Frank Spinelli to explore why shame is so difficult to outrun. Frank explains how shame differs from guilt, the ways it can show up through people pleasing, perfectionism, avoidance, substances, and relationship sabotage, and why suppressing it often makes the cycle stronger. Instead of treating shame as something to eliminate, he offers a different approach: learn to recognize what…
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