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Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
Beyond the Facade explores authenticity, healing, and recovery from betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and infidelity. Host Luke Gordon (men's program director at Choose Recovery Services and founder of Blueprint Institute) and his guests share tools for addiction recovery, relationship repair, and emotional healing. Learn to rebuild trust, live with integrity, and create authentic connections as you heal from pain and go Beyond the Facade.
Episodes
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
57: The Somatic Wake-Up Call
Have you followed all the recommended steps in your recovery yet still feel stuck? This week Alana Gordon (LMFT, betrayal trauma coach, and Director at Choose…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
56: Understanding Entitlement vs. Authentic Needs
How does entitlement fuel betrayal in relationships? This week Luke welcomes therapist Hope Ray (LPC, CSAT, CHFP, CCPS) to explore how entitlement impacts…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
55: Understanding the "Not Enough" Core Belief
Do you feel like you're never enough? This week Luke shares a transformative moment in therapy that reshaped his healing journey, addressing the deep-rooted…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
54: Why Isn't She Healing Yet? 3 Myths Men Need to Unlearn
Are you struggling to rebuild trust after betrayal? This week Luke welcomes Hali Roderick to the podcast. Hali is a coach at Choose Recovery Services, co-host…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
53: Coping Isn't Optional--But It Can Be Intentional
Struggling with betrayal or trying to rebuild trust? Join Luke and his guest Staci Somes (Licensed Professional Counselor and coach at Choose Recovery…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
52: From Beliefs to Behavior
What do beliefs have to do with personal growth? This week, Luke explores how ingrained belief systems shape our behaviors, often outside our values, and the…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
51: What is the Full Disclosure Process?
Ever wondered what a full disclosure process entails? This week Luke outlines each stage of full disclosure. He breaks down each step from initial inquiry to…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
50: Reclaiming Masculinity and Embracing Equality
How do you define masculinity? In this episode, we explore the inherited beliefs about what it means to be a man and discuss how to reclaim masculinity by…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
49: My Partner Thinks I Don't Listen to Them
Does it feel like your partner is more likely to take advice from others rather than you? In this episode Alana Gordon (LMFT, founder of Choose Recovery…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
48: From Toxic Masculinity to Authentic Masculinity
What does it mean to be masculine? This week Alana Gordon (LMFT, CCPS, Director of Choose Recovery Services, and co-host of the Choose To Be podcast) joins…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
47: Lying Isn't Just a Behavior--It's a Survival Strategy (Until It Isn't Anymore)
Have you ever wondered why lying feels like a reflex? This week Luke dives deep into the neuroscience and psychology behind dishonesty. Discover how lying…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
46: The Neuroscience of Sexual Response: From Noticing to Obsession
Do you know what happens in your brain when you experience attraction, fantasy, or addictive behaviors? Do you wonder if your thoughts are even normal? This…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
45: Applying Monastic Discipline to Daily Recovery
Feeling scattered or disconnected from your authentic self? This week Luke is joined by his guest, Darren, and together they delve into the power of daily…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
44: Am I Working with the Right Therapist?
Have you ever questioned if you're with the right therapist or coach? In this episode Luke welcomes back Gary Katz (LCSW, CSAT, CPTT, and Director at Center…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
43: Unlock Deep Healing with Parts Work
Have you ever felt like a part of you is holding you back? This week Alana Gordon (LMFT, founder of Choose Recovery Services, and co-host of the Choose To Be…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
42: What is the Connection Between Lust and Anger?
Have you ever noticed that anger often leads to sexually acting out? In this episode, Luke and guest Gene Huneycutt (Choose Recovery Services coach and…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
41: Breaking Through Denial
This week Alana Gordon (LMFT and co-host of the Choose To Bepodcast) joins Luke as they explore the crucial first step in overcoming compulsive behavior…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
40: Grief As You Adjust to Your New Reality
Sometimes the road to recovery can lead to intense feelings of grief and loss. This week, Luke challenges our understanding of grief by exploring how it shows…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
39: Navigating ADHD and Demand Avoidance in Relationships
This week Luke joins Alana Gordon (co-owner and founder of Choose Recovery Services as well as a licensed marriage and family therapist) on her podcast, Choose…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
38: From Resentment to Reclaiming Power
Do you feel powerless in your relationship? This week Luke explores the roots of resentment and how it often stems from feeling a lack of control. Through…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
37: From Curiosity to Connection
This week Luke tackles one of the most challenging aspects of relationships: staying grounded when your partner is triggered. Learn how the CAVR method…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
36: What is Process Addiction?
What if the coping mechanisms you rely on most are actually process addictions in disguise? This week Luke sits down with Gary Katz, a licensed clinical…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
35: Self-Pity vs True Empathy
What is the distinction between self-pity and empathy? Luke explores this crucial difference this week with his guest, Alana Gordon (LMFT, betrayal trauma…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
34: Staying Present During the Holidays
Are you struggling to stay present amidst the chaos of the holiday season? Join Luke as he offers practical tools like grounding exercises, mindfulness…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
33: Navigating Neurodiversity, Betrayal, and Healing
This week Luke has a powerful conversation with Kevin Meek, a peer mentor to those who are on the path of recovery and healing. Kevin has 13 years of recovery…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
32: My Partner Can't Handle the Truth!
Do you ever feel like there are things your partner can’t handle, so you find yourself shielding them from the whole truth? Join Luke this week and his guest…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
31: Individual vs. Couples Work - Where Do We Start?
Can’t we just do couples work? Why do I have to do my own work? If you’ve felt yourself thinking that, then you’re likely avoiding the most important work of…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
30: I Wish My Partner Had a Softer Approach
Ever wonder why your partner’s approach feels intense? Join Luke and guest Hali Roderick as they dive deep into understanding why partners react the way that…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
29: What is Emotional Integrity?
Do you struggle with showing authentic emotions like anger and shame? Join the conversation with Luke and Stephanie Hamby, a fellow coach from Choose Recovery…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
28: Why Attend a Men's Intensive?
You’ve heard us talk about intensives, but what exactly are they and how can they help in recovery? Join Luke as he talks with Brandon and Curtis, two men who…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
27: Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 5 - Starting the Process For Both Partners
Curious about where to even begin when thinking about full therapeutic disclosures? Luke again joins Amie and Alana on their podcast, Choose To Be, as they…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
26: Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 4 - Addressing Fears From the Betrayer
This week Luke again joins Amie and Alana on their podcast, Choose To Be, as they explore the fears and barriers of full therapeutic disclosure in…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
25: Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 3 - Am I Ready? Are We Ready?
Are you curious about whether you're ready for a full therapeutic disclosure? Join Luke, Amie Woosley, and Alana Gordon as they discuss this critical question…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
24: Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 2 - To Have or Not Have
Today Luke again joins Amie Woolsey and Alana Gordon on their podcast, Choose To Be. Together they dive deeper into therapeutic disclosures and address main…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
23: BONUS Understanding the Addict Mind
Listen in on a candid conversation where Luke is interviewed by Alana Gordon, a licensed marriage and family therapist. Together they tackle pressing questions…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
22: Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 1 - What Are They and Why Do I Need One?
In this episode, we introduce a series focused on full therapeutic disclosures. Luke, Amie Woolsey, and Alana Gordon delve into the importance and process of…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
21: Myths of Sexual Addiction - Part 3
Join us in the third and final part of our series on the myths of sexual addiction. Luke, Amie, and Alana continue to explore common misconceptions including…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
20: Myths of Sexual Addiction - Part 2
In part two of this series, Luke continues his conversation with Amie Woolsey and Alana Gordon around sexual addiction myths. They tackle the myth that someone…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
19: Myths of Sexual Addiction - Part 1
Today is the first of a three-part series all about common myths and misconceptions about sexual addiction. Listen in as Luke is a guest on Amie Woolsey and…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
18: From Failure to Success - Embracing Setbacks
Ever wonder why you excel in some areas of life but struggle in others? This week Luke explores the science behind habit formation and personal growth. Using…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
17: Lust's Roots in Trauma - With Gene Huneycutt
This week Luke is excited to welcome Gene Huneycutt, a fellow Choose Recovery Services coach, to the podcast. Together they explore the complexities of…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
16: What is Intimacy Anorexia? - With Joseph McKinley
Do you find yourself sabotaging your relationships despite wanting intimacy? This week Luke welcomes Joseph McKinley, a fellow Choose Recovery Services coach…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
15: Fifty Shades of Gray
Do you find yourself trapped in all or nothing thought patterns? This week Luke examines black and white thinking and its impact on our relationships. Learn…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
14: Boundaries and Barriers - With Laura Fisher
This week Luke welcomes Laura Fisher, a Choose Recovery Services coach, as they explore the intricate dynamics of setting boundaries in relationships. Listen…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
13: What is the Window of Tolerance? - With Ramneek Bhogal
Ever feel like your emotional reaction doesn’t match the situation you’re in either because you’re panicking and lashing out or because you’re numbing out and…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
12: Do the Opposite
Sometimes the way forward involves doing the opposite of what you want to do. Discover how this practice might be the key to breaking free from destructive…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
11: When Will We Move Past the Pain? - With Sy Bee
Ever wondered when your partner will stop bringing up the same pain? Join Luke and his guest, fellow Choose Recovery Services coach Sy Bee, as they dive into…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
10: What Does It Mean to Be "Enough"?
Do you struggle to feel like you’re enough? What does that even mean anyway? This powerful episode features an intimate conversation between Luke and his…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
9: Embracing Failure As a Learning Experience
What can the Seattle Seahawks’ dramatic 2015 Super Bowl loss teach us about our relationship with failure? In this week’s episode, Luke illustrates how…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
8: The Art of Empathy - How to Truly Connect
Do you ever feel like your efforts at empathy fall short? Listen in as Luke defines what empathy actually is. Instead of trying to fix someone’s painful…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
7: Rebuilding Trust With Children After Betrayal - With Morgan Ellsworth
Betrayal affects your partnership in countless ways, but have you thought about the profound impact on your kids? This powerful episode brings that often…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
6: Separation: A Pathway to Healing With Amie Woolsey
It can feel soul-crushing if your partner asks for a separation, but what if it’s actually an opportunity in disguise? This week Luke welcomes Amie Woolsey on…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
5: Love With Boundaries - the Ideal Relationship Approach
Have you ever wondered if your parenting approach is actually helping or harming your child’s development? This week Luke outlines four parenting styles and…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
4: Why Am I So Intolerant of Pain?
What is the relationship between pleasure and pain? This week Luke discusses this fascinating correlation specifically in the context of addiction and…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
3: The Power of Oxytocin and Real Connection
Have you ever wondered why we as humans want to connect with others? In this episode Luke explores the topic of connection and belonging and the role that…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
2: Why Am I So Scared to Be Honest?
Why is honesty so hard sometimes? In this episode Luke breaks down the four responses to danger and highlights how trauma and attachment issues can lead to…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
1: Embracing Vulnerability
Beyond the Facade is a podcast about authenticity and the struggle to be real with ourselves and with others. Each week host Luke Gordon (cofounder of Choose…
- Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute
Beyond the Facade Trailer
Welcome to Beyond the Facade! Join Luke Gordon each week as he and his guests discuss vulnerability, authenticity, integrity, and connection. New episodes will…