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The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Podcast
Gary McFarlane helps you understand Sex, Porn & Love Addiction. This podcast dives into the neuroscience behind these issues, guiding you on the path to recovery. For more resources, visit: www.kairos-centre.com.
Helping you better understand the neuroscience of the brain and sharing what we now better understand about the brain's involvement, from childhood development. To help you effect change; find the real authentic you (whose truth self went off at a tangent in childhood); so that as you…
Episodes
- The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Podcast
A female client’s "Goodbye letter" to Porn, Sex (or was it more love Addiction)
Send us Fan Mail (Interviewed by Caroline Brown of This Crazy over 40's Life Podcast) - Part 1 - On-Demand Programme Link -…
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Society has a view about those identified with Sex, Porn, Love addiction - which mostly is not accurate
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a…
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Sex, Porn, Love Addiction individuals have enough self-given labels on their forehead without needing extras from society
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a…
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Sex, Porn, Love Addiction keeps you in a loop - with unresolved past (t)(T)rauma
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a…
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Those with Sex, Porn, Love Addiction patterns of behaviour do not love or like themselves
Send us Fan Mail Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (7) “Mirror, Mirror on the wall, who is the fairest or them all”? How do…
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Templates get set up in early life, setting the stage for self-soothing & later on Sex, Porn, Love Addiction enters the stage
Send us Fan Mail On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man…
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Childhood development holds the clues to tracking the setting up of Sex, Porn, Love Addiction
Send us Fan Mail Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (5) What’s a “Russian Doll” (or is it called a Babushka) got to do with…
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Coping Mechanisms unveiled: Exploring the Role of Sex, Porn, Love Compulsive behaviour
Send us Fan Mail Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (4) Men are “Wild at heart”. The book (by that title) by John Eldredge –…
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Sex, Porn, Love Addiction is indiscriminate between Masculinity & Femininity, but women tend....
Send us Fan Mail Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (3) Big up the women So much more practical in finding solutions. Teach…
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Opportunity, Trauma & Attachment: Three ways Sex, Porn, Love Addiction are set up
Send us Fan Mail Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (2) Impediments to having great relationships Disruption in the bonding…
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Not a level playing field for the setting up of Sex, Porn, Love Compulsivity
Send us Fan Mail Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (1) What is Man-ness? There is still a caveman instinct inside of us as…
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Deal with trauma before a Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme
Send us Fan Mail Interview with Roman Mironov of NOFAP (4) Root causes of negative impact on the brain, to cause it to gravitate to self-soothing behaviours?…
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Porn use can cause Brain damage
Send us Fan Mail Interview with Roman Mironov of NOFAP (3) Is porn bad or inherently bad for the brain? I don’t want to be seen as moralising about anyone’s…
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Stand up the real you - when Sex & Porn addiction behaviours beckon
Send us Fan Mail Interview with Roman Mironov of NOFAP (2) This Insecure Attachment thing, has a lot to answer….. Stuff set up in childhood development, has…
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True Sex, Porn, Love Addiction sobriety is not until one year from last Acting out! Discuss
Send us Fan Mail Interview with Roman Mironov of NOFAP (1) Don't think about having truly achieved sobriety until one year from the last acting out. “A bit…
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We all need a helping hand in life at some point: Sex, Porn, Love Addiction behaviours needs help
Send us Fan Mail Interview with Marci Warhaft of "How to ruin your own reputation" Podcast (5) Getting help is not a sign of weakness. Repeated Negative…
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I'm worse than others when it comes to Porn recovery: True or False?
Send us Fan Mail Interview with Marci Warhaft of "How to ruin your own reputation" Podcast (4) You are not weaker and less robust than others. It is a lie. The…
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Highest download of porn is during office hours: That's crazy!
Send us Fan Mail Interview with Marci Warhaft of "How to ruin your own reputation" Podcast (3) Seriously!! The highest download of porn during the day is…
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Interview with Marci Warhaft of "How to ruin your own reputation" Podcast (2)
Send us Fan Mail More about this thing called “Love Addiction”. What is it? What it is not. “Push you Pull me” is at work. “I want you, I love you…..but you're…
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Interview with Marci Warhaft of "How to ruin your own reputation" Podcast (1)
Send us Fan Mail Defining the difference between Sex addiction & Love addiction: Love addiction is all about trying to getting attention and a sense of feeling…
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Women with 10 plus, lifetime sexual partners have 91% higher risk of breast cancer
Send us Fan Mail Sexual Intelligence: More science stuff (6) Enough now - of this science stuff! Ok then, this is the last one - for now. Delayed childbearing…
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Early sexual arousal rate will influence later addiction to porn
Send us Fan Mail Sexual Intelligence: More science stuff (5) Let's focus on women - in this Episode: What females need to know about themselves: Early sexual…
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Males over perceive a woman's sexual interest, when in fact she is just being nice
Send us Fan Mail Sexual Intelligence: More science stuff (4) Got to admit, this science stuff is interesting - if it is true! There are three areas in the male…
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Men see promiscuity in a female as a deal breaker when seeking a life-long partner
Send us Fan Mail Sexual Intelligence: More science stuff (3) A lot of compact info in this episode. I think my post bag is going to be very full this week with…
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The younger a female experiences arousal, the greater the number of casual sex partners
Send us Fan Mail Sexual Intelligence: More science stuff (2) In all your getting, get understanding. What you can better understand, you have then moved it…
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Around aged 17, six times the number of males become addicted to porn than young females
Send us Fan Mail Sexual Intelligence: Know the science stuff Oh - yuk! Must we? Well - not preaching to you, but knowing the science done by some very clever…
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Relapse prevention: There should be signs of a reclaimed quality life from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction, without shame and with added colour
Send us Fan Mail You need to keep your guards up. The stuff (which is now in your past), will keep trying to trip you up. You need to apply effort in order to…
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Carve out your Safety Plan for maintaining Sex, Porn Love Addiction sobriety and avoid Relapse
Send us Fan Mail One such tool - is your Support Structure of people that you can call upon when triggered and the going is tough on a particular day - to get…
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Sometimes a Sex, Porn, Love Addiction sobriety day requires that you just R.U.N
Send us Fan Mail When all else fails; when all the tools have not helped; when you're triggered and battling the near eleventh hour; when you are about to act…
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Don't believe the lie - during your Sex, Porn, Love Addiction thinking Distortion
Send us Fan Mail On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Know you, know self, know your brain. It is not always your bestest…
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Negative CORE BELIEFS about self leads to Sex, Porn Love Addiction self-soothing
Send us Fan Mail You have heard me repeatedly rabbit on with this mantra haven't you? What you do not understand, you have no hope of influencing; no hope of…
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Trauma related Triggers: Know yours in Sex, Porn Love Addiction Recovery
Send us Fan Mail We will say that Sex/Porn/Love Addiction is set up in one of three ways - Opportunity, Attachment issues and/or Trauma. Trauma is not…
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Even in Sex, Porn, Love Addiction, Change is a process, not a one time event
Send us Fan Mail We can't change what we cannot see and do not understand. This is me doing life how I do life. What's the problem? There is no problem (to…
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EMDR is tussling for its turn - in Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Work
Send us Fan Mail Managing triggers is just one aspect of the recovery process. Not unique to sex/porn/love addiction; it manifests in many other trauma areas…
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Changed cognition/thinking is the first step to changed Sex, Porn, Love Addiction
Send us Fan Mail Just like cave men and cave women or different? The cave man instinct to protect us from the mammoths & sabertooth cats is alive and kicking…
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Sex and Porn Addiction is not about porn images
Send us Fan Mail Oh no - not Neuroscience stuff! ....but it isn't that complicated! At least not when you read the material from public friendly…
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Childhood development has got questions to answer when it comes to Sex, Porn & Love Addiction
Send us Fan Mail We do need to pay much attention to those Childhood development stages and how they may have shaped how we go on to do our adult…
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Attachment style: I'm not Insecurely ATTACHED at all! How dare you suggest so
Send us Fan Mail Early years fostered, Adopted, Immigrate, parents separation & divorce, verbal, physical, sexual and/or spiritual abuse, Boarding school…
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Attachment Style: ATTACH(MENT) to me, but not too close; closer, but not that close
Send us Fan Mail You feel insecure in close relationship with another and so the brain provides strategies to "control" the relationship, but is so unconscious…
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Give me my Porn: Fight/Flight/Freeze - there are benefits - not!
Send us Fan Mail On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Core Emotional Needs, such as Approval, Attention, Security, Respect…
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Narcissism vs Empathy: in Porn, Sex, Love Addiction
Send us Fan Mail Just like similar poles of a magnet repel each other, so it is that Narcissism and Empathy also repel each other. They cannot co-exist in the…
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SHAME + NARCISSISTIC TRAITS = SEX ADDICTION
Send us Fan Mail Do the Maths. Remove shame and sex addiction breaks down. Remove Narcissism; more accurately, transform Narcissism (over time) into Empathy…
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Taking Responsibility - for your choices in Sex, Porn, Love Addiction behaviours
Send us Fan Mail Having completed the extensive History Taking (by asking lots of questions over three sessions) to build a profile of our clients from birth…
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Partners of Sex Addicts cry out: ".....and what about me" (the silent partner affected)
Send us Fan Mail The Kairos Centre Recovery Programme is about the couple recovery, not only the person with the addiction behaviours - where you are in a…
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Why do I keep going back to Sex, Porn, Love Addiction? (The Pothole you keep on keeping on falling into)
Send us Fan Mail Change has begun when you can see the problem; moved it from the unconscious to the conscious. It does not, however, mean that you have…
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"My word is my bond", unless Sex, Porn or Love Addiction behaviours beckon
Send us Fan Mail "My word is my bond". When I was a lawyer, this was an overriding priory and principle. Maybe in the past you have made repeated promises to…
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Shame on me! ...and curse you Sex & Porn for...
Send us Fan Mail Shame is a massive component that underpins, causing, enhances and maintains the proliferation of sex, porn, love addiction. In this context…
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Shame and healing through EMDR
Send us Fan Mail Shame keeps Trauma in place, because it gets in the way of us seeking out and getting the help that we need. In the UK a mental health…
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Find your Safe, Calm, Relaxed, Peaceful place when Triggered - as positive self-soothing behaviours
Send us Fan Mail Urge Surfing, Mindfulness, Reciting your Pillars, are some ' in the moment' fight back techniques. Here is another one, taken from our EMDR…
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Beware of the Sabor-toothed Tiger response for avoiding Sex & Porn behaviours
Send us Fan Mail Fight the Sabor-toothed Tiger with a lemon! Sucking a lemon and longer, deeper breathing can help you overcome the fight/flight/freeze…
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The "Action" toward changing Porn behaviours or are you really only at "Pre-Contemplation"!
Send us Fan Mail On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre If you are not at "Action"; if you have been pushed, enticed, guilt…
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Porn Addiction: How did Technological Advancement get us here?
Send us Fan Mail How did Technological Advancement get us here? Cave men drawings on walls ➡ camera/Erotic paintings, literature, Bath houses ➡ (1860-1970)…
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Shift your thinking & protect your heart or porn will get you
Send us Fan Mail It all starts in the mind. What starts in the mind, is tossed around over and over and over as you get on with your day, your week, your month…
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Harmful Consequences: The heavy cost of Sex & Porn Addiction
Send us Fan Mail Sex, Porn, Love Addiction will always cost you way more than you ever bargained. Do yourself a favour. Put pen to paper and spend a chunk of…
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"I wish someone would have told me....": Porn is going to rob me of...
Send us Fan Mail Consider the exerts form this article written by a woman (Lauren Dubinsky - What I wish I'd Known Before Watching Porn, 2012): "I wish that 10…
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Porn-blockers & The Couple Recovery
Send us Fan Mail Porn-blockers: The best that a porn-blocker can be is that of being "a delay". They cannot truly block that which a person is determined to…
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Relapse Prevention Tools (2)
Send us Fan Mail One such action to take (amongst other Relapse Prevention Tools) is to write a "Goodbye Letter" after achieving one year sobriety anniversary…
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Relapse Prevention Tools (1)
Send us Fan Mail Remember the Stages of the Change process: Pre-contemplation→Contemplation→Preparation→Action→Maintenance→Relapse We are firmly at the Relapse…
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Undistort your distorted thinking: Porn isn't telling you the truth
Send us Fan Mail They are insidious, don't play by the rules and definitely don't play fair. We are talking about Cognitive Distortions. What are they? They…
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Creating new Thinking, then Recover from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction
Send us Fan Mail CBT Cognitive →Behaviour Your thinking →Behaviour Thinking = Behaviour Get it! Whatsoever you are habitually, regularly, repeatedly, churning…