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The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Podcast
Gary McFarlane helps you understand Sex, Porn & Love Addiction. This podcast dives into the neuroscience behind these issues, guiding you on the path to recovery. For more resources, visit: www.kairos-centre.com.
Helping you better understand the neuroscience of the brain and sharing what we now better understand about the brain's involvement, from childhood development. To help you effect change; find the real authentic you (whose truth self went off at a tangent in childhood); so that as you…
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- The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Podcast
All change - the rug is being pulled again
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Human beings have a life cycle. Let’s take a look. (The last two…
The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction PodcastCouples See-saw of life
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Split agendas and contrary motives - that are hidden from each…
The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction PodcastStubborn as a mule - you are - with your Sex Addiction
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Let's continue our look at 'Repairing the damaged couples…
The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction PodcastRepairing the Couple after Sex Addiction damage (Continuation)
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Building new foundations for the couple: Take a look at the…
The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction PodcastRelationship "Pinches" & "Crunches" that hurt (Part 2)
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Couples counselling is not necessarily about keeping a couple…
The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction PodcastRelationship "Pinches" & "Crunches" that hurt
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Shaped by circumstances from birth Picture the new born baby which…
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A Sex Addict's view of relationship highs & lows
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Highs and lows of the Couples relationship is a given. What impacts…
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Sex Addict and partner choice - same for us all
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre We fall in love with 'Differenceness' and 'Sameness'. Over the…
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Sex Addict: "I chose you, then (nearly) destroyed us"
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Early relationships (often with our parents) has a very powerful…
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Sex Addiction does serious damage to the couple
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre At the beginning of the couples therapy session, I like to ask a…
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Sex/Porn/Love Addiction counselling is specialised Therapy
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Client, choose your Therapist carefully. It makes a big difference…
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Sex Addict - first learn Intimacy, Sensuality & Romance, before sex
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre When there is conflict in the couples relationship, sex and…
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EMDR for Sex Addicts with unresolved childhood issues
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Unresolved issues; unprocessed childhood issues, loose canons…
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Sex Addiction: Repairing the damaged couple - The Change Process
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Have you heard the Joke about the bride who learned her script for…
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Repairing the damaged couple post Sex Addiction
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Over 90% of couples that The Kairos Centre counsel, are in conflict…
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HOOK UP CULTURE: The Testosterone trap - facts
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Testosterone in males is at its height in their late teens to early…
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HOOK UP CULTURE: The Science and more facts (2)
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Men's brains are configured very differently when it comes to a…
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HOOK UP CULTURE: The Science and more facts
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Alcohol consumption raises women's testosterone levels. Same for…
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Sex Addicts - Sex Ed that 'Porn & Peers' didn't teach you (3)
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre In all your getting, get understanding: Men see female promiscuity…
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Sex Addicts - Sex Ed that 'Porn & Peers' didn't teach you
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre The younger the age that a female experiences sexual arousal, the…
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'Take Homes' for young Sex Addicts (1)
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Gen A and their siblings, listen up. Hear this bit of neurobiology…
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Sex Addicts Relapse Prevention Plan & you are almost there!
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre In this episode, the audio takes you through matters which could be…
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Sex Addict - the end is nigh - Don't take your foot off the gas
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Don't approach your one year (from last 'Acting out) sobriety, as…
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Sex Addict - plan for lifelong success - not watching for Relapse in the rear view mirror
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre You need to applaud yourself on a job well done - to have got this…
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Sex Addict - Recovery work does not have to be for life, but....
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Relapse Prevention tools are for life. Why? Because the neural…
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Sometimes you have to just R.U.N for your life - from Sex Addiction
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre When all your Recovery Programme tools, skills and resources are…
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"You're such a liar brain": Who, me? Sex Addiction?
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre 'Brain, I'm telling you - you don't fight fair. Underhand. Dirty…
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Sex Addicts - your brain is not always your best friend
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Undistort your Cognitive Distortions. How? What are Cognitive…
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Negative Core Beliefs sabotage Sex Addiction Recovery
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Negative Core Beliefs are often hidden from view. Often disguised…
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Those with Sex Addiction - Cognitive comes before the behaviour
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Create new thinking to change the behaviour. How? A step at a time…
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Triggers are potholes for Porn Addicts
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre A poem by Portia Nelson, published in her book There's a Hole in My…
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Triggers may be an ally, not a foe - Sex Addiction clients!
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Triggers are a clue to our dissociated Traumas - So says Carolyn…
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Triggers don't play fair in the Sex Addicts world
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Triggers don't play fair. They are often unpredictable (like a…
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Sex Addicts - turning off Fight/Flight/Freeze response - ain't an option
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre The cave man/cave woman response of Fight/Flight/Freeze, is alive…
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More Neuroscience from some very clever clogs - for Sex Addiction folks
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Let me not re-invent the wheel in this episode. There are some…
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Sex Addiction Neuroscience stuff - lush knowledge!....I think!
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre There is a correlation between Sex Addiction and ADHD. When faced…
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Brain stuff - that isn't boring for the Porn Addict
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre I like this article by Luke Gilkerson (as long ago as 2012), when…
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Attachment Styles is a big deal in Sex/Porn/Love Addiction
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Remember, you cannot change what you cannot see and don't…
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Love Addicts hate themselves - but don't tell
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Love Addiction is often a response to Insecure Attachment. It looks…
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'Insecure Attachment' = Detachment, Rejection, Loss, Let go of - to Sex/Porn/Love Addicts
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre The Insecure 'ATTACHMENT' label does not describe accurately, what…
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Sex/Porn/Love Addiction is used to meet depleted Core Emotional Needs
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre There are three ways in which we try to get our Core Emotional…
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The antidote to Narcissism for Sex Addicts, is Empathy
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Narcissism and Empathy (like same poles of a magnet) cannot…
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Narcissistic - who? Not me! - just because of sex Addiction!
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Don't go looking up the term on Google and it spewing out a whole…
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SHAME + NARCISSISM = SEX ADDICTION
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre SHAME + NARCISSISM = SEX ADDICTION. Too simplistic? Maybe, but it…
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"SHAME on you" - are particularly triggering, toxic & impactful words to Sex Addicts
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Shame is set up in childhood. Life is unfair. Yep. The presence of…
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Scapegoating can go on for only so long - folks with Sex Addiction!
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Scapegoating can go on for only so long. Then a need to accept…
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Don't forget the partner - in the Sex Addiction Recovery Journey
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre He “caused” our problems and yet once again the focus and…
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It isn't all about me - this thing of Sex Addiction Recovery
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre If you are in a partnered relationship, re-build integrity with…
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Give back control brain: Then I won't need porn Addiction
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre The ability to quickly recognize fearful situations and other…
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Some replacement positive self-soothing Hamster wheel tools for Sex/Porn Addiction
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre They are called the 4 Elements tools - which I teach my EMDR…
The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction PodcastEnhance sobriety by knowing which "Stage(s) of change" you are at in your Sex/Porn/Love Addiction Recovery
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre If you understand The Stages of Change, may be you will not be so…
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Sex & Tech - Slippery slope that ends badly for those with Sex & Porn Addiction
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre I need only a few words to summary this episode. The slippery slope…
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Porn & Sex Addicts re-wire their brain - a little at time
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre "Sticks & stones can break my bones, but names can never hurt me"…
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Why those with Sex Addiction are willing to risk such "Harmful Consequences"
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre For example, the highest download of porn is between the hours of…
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"Objectification" is not (for Porn Addicts) about noticing the person, but about....
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre "Objectification" is not that you noticed the person. It is, that…
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Porn-Blockers won't stop Porn Addiction viewing, but are essential
Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Porn-Blockers won't stop those who are determined to act out. Their…
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Psychosexual issues set up for those with Sex, Porn, Love Addiction
Send us Fan Mail Snippet of an interview with Caroline Brown of “This Crazy over 40s Life”: Sex with no strings attached - Part 5 - On-Demand Programme Link -…
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Many women (worldwide) became addicted to Sex & Porn during covid-19 lock down
Send us Fan Mail (Snippets from an Interview by Caroline Brown of "This Crazy over 40's Life Podcast") - Part 4 - On-Demand Programme Link -…
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"Pinches & Crunches" in Relationships trigger escape into self-soothing with Sex, Porn, Love Addiction
Send us Fan Mail (Snippets from an Interview by Caroline Brown of "This Crazy over 40's Life Podcast") - Part 3 - On-Demand Programme Link -…
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Couples Counselling at the right stage in the Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery journey
Send us Fan Mail (Interviewed by Caroline Brown of This Crazy over 40's Life Podcast) - Part 2 - On-Demand Programme Link -…