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Chaos, Courage and Coffee
Chaos, Coffee & Courage is the podcast for anyone navigating the messy middle of life, especially mums and veterans trying to figure out who they are now. Hosted by Brett and Vanessa, we share honest conversations, practical tools, and relatable stories about burnout, identity, resilience, and everything in between. No fluff. Just real talk, warm support, and the reminder that you're not alone in this.
Episodes
- Chaos, Courage and Coffee
Ep 51 Untangling Your Life
When life feels overwhelming, our heads get tangled and we assume everything is a mess. In this episode, Brett and Vanessa explore a simple tool. Let's call it…
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Ep 50 The Catch with Trying to Be Happy All the Time
Everyone says they want to be happy, but do we actually know what that means and how it feels? In this episode, Brett Lyndon and Vanessa Coultas break down the…
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Ep 49 Must We Experience Misery to Know Happiness?
Can you truly appreciate happiness without experiencing tough times first? While visiting the tiny, peaceful island of Niue, Vanessa questions whether humans…
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Ep 48 Why Solving Problems Keeps You Stuck
Brett and Vanessa explore what happens when fixing life’s problems feels like progress, but actually leaves you standing still. After spending a whole day…
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Ep 47 Hacking your brain's algorithm that's running your life
After writing a book, Vanessa suddenly starts bumping into authors, editors, and proofreaders everywhere she goes. Is it mystical manifestation or something…
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Ep 46 Fixing the Ruined Morning
Ever wake up to sudden morning chaos and feel like your whole day is already ruined before nine o'clock? In this honest conversation, Brett and Vanessa explore…
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Ep 45 When Simply Wanting Something isn't Enough (What's Missing?)
In this episode Brett and Vanessa discuss how wanting something isn't always enough. So, what is missing? Referring to Vanessa's want to increase exercise, we…
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Ep 44 Heated Conversations: The Slip up (and the Save)
Disagreements are unavoidable, but what happens when emotions start taking over? In this episode, Brett and Vanessa explore how ordinary conversations can…
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Ep 43 Trapped in your Mind - A Way Out of the Loop
Why do some problems keep coming back no matter how many times we try to solve them? In this episode, we explore recurring arguments, repetitive thoughts and…
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Ep 42 The Logic Trap: When They Can't "Hear" You
Why do some conversations suddenly stop working, even when you're saying all the right things? In this episode, we explore what happens when emotions take over…
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Ep 41 Style Error: Communication Failure
Ever wondered why some conversations leave both people frustrated, even when neither meant anything wrong? In this episode, we explore askers, guessers, fixers…
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Ep 40 You don't always hear - and here's why
Communication is more than the words we use. In this episode, we explore what happens when tone, body language, facial expressions and silence change the…
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Ep 39 When Progress Becomes...... boring
The Strange Side Effect of Making Progress You finally start seeing results… then something unexpected happens. Why does the goal that once excited you start…
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Ep 38 How to 'Unmute" your Second Brain
Your Gut Knows More Than You Think We are taught to think, analyse, and make logical decisions… but what happens to the quieter voice inside? Why do some…
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Podcast Ep 37 When your gut isn't so wise
Should you always trust your gut? It's advice we hear all the time, but is it always helpful? In this episode, we explore the difference between intuition…
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Podcast Ep 36 The Hidden Cost of Every Decision You Make
Every day we make thousands of decisions, yet few of us realise how much mental energy those choices consume. In this episode, we explore decision fatigue, why…
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Podcast Ep 35 The Thing Humans Quietly Struggle Without
Have you ever felt flat, unmotivated or disconnected without really knowing why? In this episode, we explore the often-overlooked role that social connection…
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Podcast Ep 34 When Moving Forward Can Seem Like Standing Still
Have you ever felt like you're putting in the effort but not getting anywhere? In this episode, we explore why progress often feels invisible, even when real…
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Podcast Ep 33 - What if the Problem Isn't You
What if you're not the problem? In this episode, we explore why so many people blame themselves when life feels overwhelming, exhausting or out of balance. We…
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Podcast Ep 32 - The Invisible Mistake We Make in Conversations
Communication seems simple until we realise that two people can walk away from the same conversation with completely different understandings. In this episode…
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Podcast Ep 31 How To Force a Year to Slow Down
Why does life seem to speed up as we get older? In this episode, we explore the illusion of time and why some weeks seem to disappear in a blur while others…
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Podcast Ep 30 Life Has Ups and Downs
Life isn’t a straight line. It is True! So how do we handle this? In this episode, we explore the natural ups and downs that come with being human and why…
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Podcast Ep 29 Why Everything Feels Harder When We are Tired
In this episode, Brett and Vanessa unpack the physical, mental, and emotional impact of exhaustion. From poor sleep and overloaded schedules to the unrealistic…
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Podcast Ep 28 Why We Feel Guilty When We Rest
In this episode, Brett and Vanessa unpack the pressure many people feel to always be busy. Even when they desperately need rest. They explore how upbringing…
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Podcast Ep 27 When Conversations Don't Go To Plan
We’ve all had conversations that didn’t go the way we expected. In this episode, we explore why that happens and how our assumptions, expectations, and…
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Podcast Ep 26 The hidden cost of Indecision
Why does doing nothing feel easier… even when it makes things harder in the long run? In this episode, Brett and Vanessa explore the hidden 'cost' of…
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Podcast Ep 25 Why we talk ourselves out of things
We’ve all done it....we know we should do something, but somehow we talk ourselves out of it. In this episode, we explore how our internal dialogue shapes our…
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Podcast Ep 24 Why Knowing doesn't always Lead to Doing
We often think that knowing what to do should be enough to create change. But it rarely is. In this episode, we explore the gap between knowledge and action…
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Podcast Ep 23 Why do we avoid things we should do?
We all have those things we know we should be doing… but somehow keep putting off. In this episode, we explore why that happens — from fear and overwhelm to…
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Podcast Ep 22 - Be careful what you wish for, you might get it
We often think we’re stuck because life is hard What if we’re unknowingly shaping the results we get through the way we think and speak? In this episode, Brett…
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Podcast Ep 21 Waiting for motivation is the wrong approach
Why do we keep waiting to feel motivated… and then wonder why nothing changes? In this episode, Brett and Vanessa unpack one of the biggest myths around…
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Podcast Ep 20 Why people don't feel heard
Why do conversations go bad so quickly… even when that’s not what we intended? Most of the time, it’s not what’s being said it’s how we respond. We jump in to…
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Podcast Ep 19 Solving the wrong Problem
We’re busy. We’re trying. We’re fixing things. But what if all that effort is pointed at the wrong target? In this episode, we explore why we focus on symptoms…
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Podcast Ep 18 Where are our limits?
You don’t explode out of nowhere. You drift there. In this episode, we explore the invisible limits we all carry : what we tolerate, what we ignore, and what…
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Podcast Ep 17 Why is change so hard?
Change sounds simple in theory: eat better, exercise more, think differently, improve your habits. But in reality, it feels uncomfortable, draining, and…
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Podcast Ep 16 Mental Energy
Most of us think exhaustion comes from doing too much — but what if it’s coming from thinking too much? In this episode, we explore mental energy: how small…
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Podcast Ep 15 Being Honest with how you feel
"How are you?” feels like a simple question — until you’re not actually okay. In this episode, we explore why so many of us hide behind socially acceptable…
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Podcast Ep 14 Coffee Break
We talk about coffee breaks like they’re small and unimportant — but what if they’re actually one of the most powerful tools we ignore? In this episode, we…
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Podcast Ep 13 Where's the fun
Most adults say they don’t have time for fun anymore. But what if it’s not about time. What if it’s about permission? This episode explores whether we stop…
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Podcast Ep 12 What do you actually want ?
Ask someone what they want in life and most people freeze…or they tell you everything they don’t want. But what if chasing the wrong ‘want’ is the reason so…
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Podcast Ep 11 The Goal Trap
You’re probably doing goals wrong Many people think they’re bad at goals. But what if you’re not bad at goals at all and you’ve just been taught a way of doing…
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Podcast Ep 10 Always Comparing
You’re comparing the wrong things” We compare bodies, success, money, parenting, careers… But what if we’re comparing the wrong parts of the story? This…
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Podcast Ep 9 Boundaries
Why am I so annoyed? Have you ever felt irritated or resentful and thought, ‘Why is this bothering me so much?’ That feeling is usually a sign of something…
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Podcast Ep 8 Balance
Do we need balance? What is balance? Brett and Vanessa discuss this topic and its validity and what we are really aiming for
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Podcast Ep 7 Decision Fatigue and Overwhelm
What is decision fatigue, is it real. Does it create overwhelm?Brett and Vanessa discuss...
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Podcast Ep 6 - We won't talk about Gratitude (again!)
Brett and Vanessa don't want to bring you a standard talk about gratitude. So they won't talk about Gratitude - and won't tell you have to have gratitude…
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Podcast Ep 5 The Missing Connection
Humans need connection. However in modern life, loneliness is everywhere. In this episode, we talk about why so many people feel isolated, how community…
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Podcast Ep 4 Feeling Invisible
Many people quietly feel unseen. Whether it's a mum doing everything for her family or a veteran feeling misunderstood in civilian life. In this episode, we…
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Podcast Ep 3 Resilience
In this episode, we explore what resilience really looks like in everyday life. Not the motivational-poster version, but the real process of getting back up…
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Podcast Ep 2 Feeling Lost
When life loses its structure, it's easy to feel lost, restless, or unsure about what comes next.In this episode, we talk about the messy middle: uncertainty…
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Podcast Ep 1 Introduction, and Negative Thoughts
Welcome to Chaos, Courage and Coffee. Meet Vanessa and Brett. Chaos, Coffee & Courage is a real and relatable podcast about navigating life’s chaos with…