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Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
I am a Chid & Adolescent Psychotherapist. The podcast are educational and orientated towards parents. We cover a wide range of sometimes, tricky subjects, in the hope of reassuring parents that no matter how hard things may seem, there are things you can do.
Thank you.
Kim
Episodes
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Patterns Not People
Send us Fan Mail If you have ever listened to a relationship podcast and thought, “Are they talking about me?”, you are not alone. I’m Kim Lee, a child and…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
I Can Do Better Than That
Send us Fan Mail “How good is your sleep?” is the question that cuts through every polished excuse. We lean into a raw, lyric driven story about what it feels…
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Leaving The Box
Send us Fan Mail Echoes do not politely fade. They press against the walls of whatever box we build, and they find a way out when we least expect it. That is…
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The Seat Is Taken
Send us Fan Mail Someone reaches for your time, and you don’t negotiate. You don’t audition for approval. You simply point them elsewhere. This short…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
When Separated Parents Turn Choice Into Pressure
Send us Fan Mail “Where do you want to stay this weekend?” can sound caring, but to a child caught between separated parents it can feel like being asked who…
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Notice Me Before I Shout
Send us Fan Mail Shouting rarely starts at shouting. We’re talking about the moment before the volume rises, when a child makes a small, easily missed bid for…
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Echoes
Send us Fan Mail Echoes don’t need a room to bounce around in. Sometimes they live in your head, repeating the same doubt, the same regret, the same “I’m fine”…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
When Panic Hits
Send us Fan Mail Panic does not always announce itself with a clean storyline. Sometimes it hits like lightning, you do not know where to stand, your body…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
So I Did
Send us Fan Mail “How good is your sleep?” That question is the thread we pull until everything unravels: the polished surface, the rotten underside, the…
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When Behaviour Speaks
Send us Fan Mail A child rarely walks up and says, “I feel unsafe,” “I feel responsible for you,” or “I’m afraid you’ll leave.” More often, they show it and…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
When Avoidance Must End
Send us Fan Mail Silence can look like peace, but for a child living with an avoidant parent, it often lands as abandonment. We take on a tricky, necessary…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
How Many Absences Can A Family Hold
Send us Fan Mail Something can be “fine” on the surface and still quietly break a family from the inside. I’m Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapist…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Feelings Without A Home
Send us Fan Mail A child doesn’t need perfect parents to learn emotional health, but they do need emotions to be allowed to exist. When a parent is emotionally…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
When Childhood Enters Love. What could possibly go wrong?
Send us Fan Mail Childhood doesn’t stay in childhood. We carry it straight into our friendships, our romantic partnerships, and eventually our own parenting…
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How Avoidant Parenting Shapes A Child’s Inner World
Send us Fan Mail A child doesn’t just remember how a parent reacted. They build an inner map of what relationships are supposed to feel like and then they live…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
A Family Organized Around Absence
Send us Fan Mail A family can look stable from the outside while quietly revolving around one missing center: a parent’s emotional participation. When that…
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The avoidant parent and the violent child. Stop negotiating with the volcano!
Send us Fan Mail A child screams, threatens, breaks things, or lashes out and suddenly the whole household revolves around preventing the next blow-up. That…
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The Child Who Learned Not To Need
Send us Fan Mail A child who never asks for help can look like a dream, calm, capable, and “so mature for their age.” But what if that independence is not…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
The Avoidant Parent. Series intro
Send us Fan Mail A parent can be in the room and still feel miles away. That gap, between physical presence and emotional reachability, is where a lot of quiet…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Beyond The Label
Send us Fan Mail This is intended for UK listeners, those in the US should review state and federal laws. https://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/text/18/3524…
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'Little Hands'
Send us Fan Mail I made an agreement with myself not to post my music on this page, but having had so many people who have heard it encourage me to do…
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Safeguarding Comes First
Send us Fan Mail Safeguarding gets treated like background noise when parents are locked in a contact dispute, but I want to bring it back to where it belongs…
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A blunt instrument?
Send us Fan Mail A few sentences in a CAFCASS report can change a child’s daily life for years, which is exactly why we slow down and question how those…
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A Counter Allegation Can Turn A Safeguarding Concern Into Suspicion
Send us Fan Mail A single label can hijack an entire family court case. When a parent raises safeguarding concerns like domestic abuse, coercive control…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Protection Recast As Alienation
Send us Fan Mail A child comes back from contact and something feels off. They’re quieter than usual, suddenly clingy, angry, sick to their stomach, wetting…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
A Child Refuses Contact, what might that mean?
Send us Fan Mail “I don’t want to go.” Four words that can trigger panic, rage, and heartbreak in separated families, and can quickly pull schools, therapists…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
When A Child Refuses Contact
Send us Fan Mail A child says “no” to contact and suddenly the adults are fighting over a single phrase: parental alienation. I’m Kim Lee, a child and…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
The Maverick
Send us Fan Mail From the new album- 'Reflections'. Coming soon from kims-music.com. Release date soon
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Burn Alone
Send us Fan Mail When a connection feels like a twin flame, the ending doesn’t just hurt, it rewrites your sense of reality. We lean into that raw, poetic…
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A Clinician’s Response To The Great ADHD Myth
Send us Fan Mail A prime-time documentary can spark a needed conversation, but it can also blur the line between good questions and bad conclusions. We watched…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
The Three Rs For Healing Harmful Relationships
Send us Fan Mail Some relationships do not break us in one dramatic moment. They wear us down in cycles that are easy to explain away day by day, and only…
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The Life That Belongs To You. The Author speaks.
Send us Fan Mail Harmful relationships rarely announce themselves with a single, obvious moment. Sometimes the damage is quieter: the steady drip of…
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The Life That Belongs To You
Send us Fan Mail Most people don’t wake up one day and choose a life that feels wrong. It happens gradually: small compromises, old family rules, relationship…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
The Reckoning
Send us Fan Mail The most dangerous part of a coercive, abusive, or manipulative relationship isn’t always the obvious cruelty. It’s the slow rewrite of your…
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The first stage. Recognition
Send us Fan Mail You can’t heal what you’re still calling “normal.” Recognition is the moment the fog lifts after an abusive relationship and you finally see…
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Ep 1. Empty Box Syndrome
Send us Fan Mail A controlling relationship rarely announces itself with shouting or bruises. It more often arrives as something flattering, intoxicating, and…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Introduction to Coercive Control
Send us Fan Mail Love does not usually flip into fear overnight. It changes in small, almost invisible steps until you wake up one day and realize your…
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Dangerous Relationships Episode 2. Living Inside The Relationship
Send us Fan Mail Dangerous relationships don’t usually start with danger. They start with attention, excitement, fast closeness, and that intoxicating sense of…
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Dangerous Relationships. Understanding Sociopathy
Send us Fan Mail A charming person can sound deeply self-aware, say all the right things, and still leave you stuck in the same painful loop. We pull apart…
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Dangerous Relationships. Narcissistic Patterns. Emotional Insight Vs Intellectual Insight
Send us Fan Mail Someone can sound deeply self-aware and still be emotionally unreachable. That single contradiction sits at the center of many dangerous…
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Dangerous Relationships. Narcissistic Traits Vs Narcissistic Personality Disorder Ep1.
Send us Fan Mail “Narcissist” is one of the most used words online and one of the most misunderstood. I want to slow the conversation down and bring the term…
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Dangerous Relationships. Episode 1 part 2. Addiction. When Love Becomes Enabling
Send us Fan Mail Danger has a way of becoming normal when addiction sits in the middle of a family. Promises break, fear spikes, secrets multiply, and suddenly…
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Dangerous Relationships. Ep 1 part 1. Living With Addiction
Send us Fan Mail Addiction doesn’t just change the person using. It rewires the whole home. When someone is living with addiction, everyone else can end up…
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Dangerous Relationships, Introduction to the series.
Send us Fan Mail Something about the word “dangerous” feels extreme until you’ve lived through a relationship that quietly teaches you to shrink. I’m Kim Lee…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Not Everything You Feel Is Yours
Send us Fan Mail Not everything you feel belongs to you and once you truly take that in, your whole inner story can change. We talk through emotional…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Emotional decontamination
Send us Fan Mail This series is about emotional decontamination, and it is the companion series to emotional contamination. Its purpose is to move beyond the…