Latest / Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
The Child Who Learned Not To Need
Send us Fan Mail
A child who never asks for help can look like a dream, calm, capable, and “so mature for their age.” But what if that independence is not confidence at all, and it is a workaround for a home where comfort is unreliable? I’m Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, and I’m digging into the child who learns not to need when a parent is emotionally avoidant or dismissive avoidant.
We walk through how this pattern forms through repetition, not drama: a frightened child gets brushed off, tears meet irritation, hard conversations get dodged, support stays practical but…
The skinny
The skinny isn't ready yet — notes appear once the transcript is processed.