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Gay Men Going Deeper
Gay Men Going Deeper is a podcast about gay relationships, identity, sexuality, and personal growth for gay men navigating modern life. Hosted by Michael DiIorio and Matt Landsiedel, the show dives into topics like dating, shame, masculinity, confidence, emotional intimacy, and the pressures of modern gay culture. Expect raw conversations, psychological insight, and the kind of honest discussions that challenge assumptions and invite deeper reflection about what it means to live authentically…
Episodes
Gay Men Going DeeperThe Reparenting Process
How do the unmet needs of our childhood shape who we are today? And more importantly, how do we learn to meet those needs for ourselves as adults? In this…
Gay Men Going DeeperHow to Not Lose Yourself in Your Relationships
In this episode, Matt speaks with therapist and author, Tom Bruett, about how to avoid losing yourself in your relationships. By balancing connection and…
Gay Men Going DeeperWhy Gay Men Love Divas
From Madonna to Mariah, Beyoncé to Barbra— throughout the generations, gay men have been obsessed with divas. But why? In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper…
Gay Men Going DeeperThe Women in Our Lives
The women in our lives have influenced us in ways we don’t always recognize, but when we take a step back, their impact is undeniable. In this heartfelt…
Gay Men Going DeeperPeople Pleasing, Boundaries, and Fear of Conflict
Do you find yourself putting other people’s needs ahead of your own? Struggle to set boundaries? Feel responsible for keeping the peace even when it costs you…
Gay Men Going DeeperThe Power of No
Many gay men struggle with saying no, setting boundaries, or engaging in difficult conversations due to deep-seated people-pleasing tendencies and fear of…
Gay Men Going DeeperEroticizing Shame - Turning Pain Into Pleasure
In this episode, Matt speaks with Psychotherapist, Merle Yost, about how shame may influence sexual desire and arousal by eroticizing shame as a way of coping…
Gay Men Going DeeperBecoming a Strong Communicator
Communication is at the heart of every relationship—whether it’s with friends, partners, colleagues, or even yourself. But what does it actually mean to be a…
Gay Men Going DeeperDIY Sex Education for Gay Men
They didn’t teach us about gay sex in school… so we had to teach ourselves. From porn to awkward trial-and-error hookups, most of us pieced together our own…
Gay Men Going DeeperLevel Up Your Dating Profile
Is your dating profile truly showing the best version of you? In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we're diving into the do's and don'ts of crafting a…
Gay Men Going DeeperWhy Can’t I Stay Hard? Diving into the Psychology of Erectile Dysfunction
In this episode, Matt speaks with men’s coach Shay Doran about the psychology and mindset of erectile dysfunction. Did you know that some research indicates…
Gay Men Going DeeperAddiction to Hook-up and Dating Apps
Join us as we take a deep dive into the impact of dating apps on both our personal lives and the gay community at large. We get candid about how these apps…
Gay Men Going DeeperEmpowered Bottoms
Bottoming is more than just a position. It’s time to flip the script on the old, tired narrative that bottoms are the passive or submissive partners. In this…
Gay Men Going DeeperIs Monogamy Dead?
In this episode, we take a deep dive into the dynamics of monogamy in gay relationships. From unpacking the myths and stigmas surrounding monogamy to exploring…
Gay Men Going DeeperWhy Gay Men Struggle in Romantic Relationships
In this episode, Matt speaks with therapist and author Tom Bruett about the struggles many gay men face with romantic relationships. Together they share…
Gay Men Going DeeperFriends with Intimacy
What happens when friendship and intimacy collide? In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re exploring the nuanced dynamics of friends with benefits (FWB)…
Gay Men Going DeeperHelp! I Just Came Out
The first year after coming out can feel like an emotional rollercoaster—exciting, scary, and full of questions. How do you navigate this transformative time…
Gay Men Going DeeperHealing the Trauma of Growing Up Gay
In this episode, Matt speaks with world-renowned trauma treatment expert, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, and psychotherapist Dr. Frank Anderson. Let’s be…
Gay Men Going DeeperLiving in the Closet
Living in the closet is a unique experience that queer people must face. Yet each person’s journey is shaped by culture, family dynamics, and social pressures…
Gay Men Going DeeperMom, I'm Gay
Coming out to our families can be one of the most difficult experiences we navigate as queer folk. Sometimes it can be made even more difficult if the people…
Gay Men Going DeeperChanges in the Gay Men’s Brotherhood: What's coming in 2025?
Big things are on the horizon for the Gay Men’s Brotherhood in 2025, and we can’t wait to share them with you! In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain…
Gay Men Going DeeperHookup Culture and Self-Discovery
Whether you love it or hate it, hookup culture is a part of gay culture—and if you look a little closer, it just might be a powerful tool for self-discovery…
Gay Men Going DeeperPenis Health Q & A
On this week’s episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Matt interviews the “dick doctor” Urologist Dr. Joshua Gonzalez. They candidly explore some of the most taboo…
Gay Men Going DeeperThe Sexuality Spectrum
On this week’s episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we're diving into The Sexuality Spectrum. From fluid attractions and shifting needs to understanding social…
Gay Men Going DeeperTherapy or Coaching: Which is Right for You?
Curious about whether therapy or coaching is the best fit for you? In this insightful episode, life coach Michael Diiorio and therapist Michael Pezzullo team…
Gay Men Going DeeperBuilding Trust in Relationships
On this week’s episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we're diving into how to build trust in relationships. Many gay men report having trust issues in their…
Gay Men Going DeeperGreen Flags in Dating
In this episode, we’re shifting the focus from red flags to the positive signs that show up when dating—green flags. Join us as we reveal the positive traits…
Gay Men Going DeeperRed Flags in Dating
In this episode, we’re talking about those warning signs and signals to look out for in potential partners and how to manage these warning signs with care and…
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Commitment and Connection in Open Relationships
Are open relationships really about avoiding commitment, or is there more to the story? In today’s episode, Michael is joined by Dr. Israel Martinez to unpack…
Gay Men Going DeeperDeveloping Emotional Resilience
In today’s episode, we’re going deeper into the topic of resilience—what it really means and how we can develop it, especially as gay men and our unique…
Gay Men Going DeeperNavigating Depression
In this episode, Matt and Reno come together for their first duo episode to talk about their experiences with depression. They share openly about what causes…
Gay Men Going DeeperI Don’t Belong in the Gay Community
Have you ever felt like you just don’t belong in the gay community? In today’s episode, we’re tackling the deep and painful feeling of not fitting in—a…
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I Wish I Wasn’t Gay
In honour of National Coming Out Day, we’re diving deep into a sentiment many gay men have struggled with at some point: "I wish I wasn’t gay." While this…
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Mindset Work VS. Body Work
In this episode, we welcome Somatic Intimacy Coach, Vance Hedman, for an insightful discussion on the importance of both mindset work and somatic body work…
Gay Men Going DeeperDealing with Your Inner Critic
In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we dive into the complexities of the inner critic—the voice in our heads that often feeds perfectionism, shame, and…
Gay Men Going DeeperCompare and Despair
Today we’re tackling the universal struggle of comparing ourselves to others. Whether it’s about body image, social status, or relationships, comparison can…
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How to Make Friends with Gay Men
In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we explore the complex nature of making friends within the gay community. There’s a fine line between sexual or…
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Social Anxiety in Groups of Gay Men
In this episode, we are talking about the unique challenges and pressures that we face in social settings within our own community. The Gay Men’s Brotherhood…
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The Challenges of Being a Gay Man
In this insightful episode, we turn our focus to the often unspoken challenges that come with being a gay man. The reality for many queer folks is that our…
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Attachment Styles in Dating
In this episode, Matt speaks with Counsellor Ken Reid about attachment styles in dating and relationships. Together they unpack how attachment styles can…
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What We Love About Being Gay
Join us for a very special milestone as "Gay Men Going Deeper" celebrates our 200th episode! In this celebratory episode, we're raising our voices and our…
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Spirituality, Somatics, and Sexual Healing With JoJo Bear
From coming out in high school in Brooklyn in the 80’’s, to moving to California, to leaving college and moving into hypnotherapy, and finally landing in the…
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Gaydar
How can you tell if someone is gay? It’s an age-old mystery that often turns into a discussion about “gaydar” – the ability to perceive or intuit someone's…
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Life, Death, Creative Living, and Queerness
Living a life guided and powered by creativity and “Spirit” is a liberating journey, not for the faint of heart. It leads us into freedom and liberation, but…
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Courting
In a world where swiping on apps and instant gratification dominates, is there still room for the timeless art of courtship? Join us on this episode of Gay Men…
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Sexual Abuse
In this powerful episode, we address a topic that affects many but is often shrouded in silence and stigma: sexual abuse. Joining us for this important…
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First Dates
First dates can be exhilarating, nerve-wracking, and everything in between. But fear not! On this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we're here to guide you…
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Developing a Healthy Relationship with Anger
In this episode, Matt speaks with Psychotherapist, Nyle Biondi, about anger and how important it is to connect with and release anger from our mind and body…
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Fear of Intimacy
Today, we are unpacking a seldom-discussed, but deeply relevant issue within the gay community: Fear of Intimacy. Many men grapple with the challenge of…
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Anal Health Q&A with Dr. Evan Goldstein
In this informative episode, anal health expert, Dr. Evan Goldstein, addresses common questions and concerns about anal sex. If you've ever wondered about…
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Fear of Rejection
One of the greatest fears that holds us back in love and in life is the fear of rejection. In this episode, we are acknowledging the daunting prospect of…
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Healing with Plant Medicine (Psychedelics)
In this episode, Matt speaks with Reunion Founder, Brad Wells, and Psychotherapist/ Ayahuasquero, Alex Theberge, about healing with plant medicine…
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Authenticity and Social Media
In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we delve into the complexities of authenticity in the digital age. From Instagram to OnlyFans, we are living in an…
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Gay and Asian: Panel Discussion
Join us for a compelling panel discussion as we spotlight the experiences of Asian gay men with our diverse panel of guests. Against the backdrop of…
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Self-Disclosure
In this episode, we are discussing the intriguing topic of self-disclosure and its role in fostering genuine connections. Self-disclosure, the art of revealing…
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Finding and Releasing Your Voice (Self-Expression)
In this episode, Matt speaks with vocal coach, producer, and artist Javier Wallis about finding and releasing the voice to foster a deeper capacity for…
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Dealing with Guilt and Regret
In this emotionally stirring episode, we dive into the heavy and complex topic of dealing with guilt and regret. Sometimes we must face the uncomfortable…
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Financial Empowerment
Financial empowerment is your ability to take control of your finances, make informed decisions, and effectively manage your resources to achieve your goals…
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The Power of Self-Compassion
In this episode, we explore the profound power of self-compassion on our emotional well-being. As we share our own experiences and favorite lessons on this…
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Healing Through The Subconscious Mind
In this episode, Matt speaks with Intuitive Energy Healer, Scott Clover about the subconscious mind and healing. Scott shares his wisdom on how to evoke the…