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Make Your Damn Bed
@MYDBpodcast is a bite sized, real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed every morning. Build momentum - better your life.
Each episode is around 10 minutes and intended to encourage, motivate, and inspire you to get out of bed - so you can start making it!
Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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Episodes
- Make Your Damn Bed
my tea is scalding: chapter 5 (car wash)
I fall asleep ruminating. I wake up ruminating. Things are blinking and flashing on my dash but I can’t figure it out so I just keep trucking. I stop creating…
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my tea is scalding: chapter 4 (the math ain't mathing)
“I don’t like it when the math ain’t mathing.“ - KENTHEMAN I can do anything temporarily as long as there's hope at the end of the tunnel. The problem is, if I…
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my tea is scalding: chapter 3 (money problems)
He lost his job and when I asked how much he had in savings he said "nothing." and I realized everything I knew about this man was a lie. But I loved him more…
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my tea is scalding: chapter 2 (the cracks)
Today we discuss some of the red flags I missed. I picked my battles carefully and thoughtfully and got a therapist friend to confirm my question: rumination…
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my tea is scalding: chapter 1 (the foundation)
Sorry for the delay, but I'm back... with a very personal story. Mikey has been my BFF since 16. I’m 38. That’s More than half my life. He’s always down for…
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1776 || the default setting doesn't show the full picture
We all worship something, only when we become aware of what we worship can we recognize that the "default setting" isn't always the full picture. There are…
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1775 || this is water
We've talked about this speech before, but today I wanted to share the full thing, for context. We all worship something, only when we become aware of what we…
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becoming a better manager
NOTE: this is a rerun of episode 1059 because of some life stuff. I should be back tomorrow! If I’ve learned anything from getting older, it’s that we’re all…
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1774 || the power of "good enough"
You are good enough. You've always been good enough. You'll always be good enough. There's always more to do, but that does NOT mean you haven't done enough…
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1773 || exploit your own margins
Most people have very small margins. There's very little time/energy/money to focus on anything beyond basic survival. But for those of us with access to any…
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1772 || protection in the margins
The most successful strikes, boycotts, resistance, and activism has stemmed from people willing to be brave, think differently, and utilize the protection of…
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1771 || dictatorship of capital
We live in a dictatorship of capital. These "powerful" thieves have ingratiated themselves into every aspect of our existence. For us to push back, we'd need…
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1770 || the harsh reality
As we become more disillusioned, pay attention to the ways you can push back or pivot or adapt. The reality of our current situation is darker than any of us…
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1769 || a reasonable response to an unreasonable request
"If the machine of government is of such a nature that it requires you to be the agent of injustice to another, then, I say, break the law." - Henry David…
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1768 || there is a third option
It's not healthy (or "sane") to follow the social norms of an unhealthy (or "insane") society. There is a third (secret) space available for us to boycott…
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1767 || contemplate AND participate
Contemplation and participation are not mutually exclusive. We need to create space so we can see reality more clearly and orient ourselves towards what we…
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1766 || escape-in-place
The pull to escape is inherent in any of us living in our current hellscape, but what if we escaped-in-place by backing out of the future the ruling class is…
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1765 || matriarchy is for everyone
The concept of a matriarchy is far more nuanced and empowering than a basic ass reversal of patriarchal roles. There is a prioritization of balance over…
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1764 || matriarchy isn't reverse patriarchy
The extent of a society’s development is most clearly reflected in the freedom women enjoy, and in the extent to which they are able to express their…
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1763 || the politics of utopia
In the late 60's a bunch of hippie communes popped up across the US, and the ideals were beautiful... but sadly shortlived and often filled with conflict…
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1762 || we are nature + that can save us || imagine a better system
“Stupidity is an attempt to iron out all differences, and not to use them or value them creatively.” “Each such cycle is a unique event; diet, choice…
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1761 || time banks + mutual exchange || imagine a better system
My friends and I don't "keep score". We help each other when and where we can because we can. This is community. This is the village. We have to decenter…
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1760 || community supported agriculture
Today we're talking Community Supported Agriculture (CSA) boxes. Depending on your area, it may be a great way to get fresh food more locally and sustainably…
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1759 || productivity as maintenance + sustainability
The focus is on repair. There is a necessity of missing out that allows us The focus is on self care. Self preservation. It's also a way to improve and deepen…
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1758 || time for what we will
The labor movement fought and died for our right to time off to just exist. To do what we will. The gig economy is taking that back with the illusion of…
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1757 || deep listening for attunement
Build an attention holding architecture: where it's safe to simply exist. where you can learn to attune to what matters. Get Jenny Odell's Books Here. Buy…
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1756 || the usefulness of uselessness
We've been taught to view "productivity" and "worth" and "value" through a capitalistic lens. What if we change our interpretations of these things? What if we…
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1755 || the goal is extraction
The world is so make it about interaction, instead. The attention economy has spent billions making their product irresistible while convincing us it's our…
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1754 || judge your options not your choice
When I act in alignment with my core values I feel more confident but what if the decisions I’m stuck with leave me with no choice but to make choices that…
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1753 || abandon hope, embrace action
CORE INSIGHTS FROM THE BOOK, "FOUR THOUSAND WEEKS": Embrace finitude: Your life is absurdly short (around 4,000 weeks). Stop trying to “master” time; instead…
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1752 || control the vessel, not the ocean
We can control our vessel, not the ocean. Life’s default state is a little scary. A little insecure. A little worried. A little vulnerable to the elements. The…
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1751 || shared leisure + communal rhythm
I'm slowly realizing that the key wasn't to get "more free time for myself", the key is to get "more free time together". The highlight should be: Communal…
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1750 || stay on the bus + prioritize stillness
Build your tolerance for "chill" and "ease" by scheduling it. Prioritize doing nothing productive. Seek out ways to create that don't have a "payoff" and make…
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1749 || stop reading for profit and partying for connections
When work became “the real point of existence,” leisure's purpose became for “recovery and replenishment.” This meant the whole of life was valued for…
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1748 || not committing is a commitment
The human experience is finite, but that is terrifying. So we distract ourselves. We convince ourselves that if we just "do everything perfectly all the time"…
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1747 || slow down, you're doing fine
“A world which increasingly consists of destinations without journeys between them, a world which values only ‘getting somewhere’ as fast as possible, becomes…
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1746 || the efficiency trap
“Modern industries thrive on offering convenience, eliminating “pain points” or “friction” from daily life. Uber, Apple Pay, and food delivery services smooth…
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1745 || “how chill can I be while I do this?"
“You pity the moth for confusing a lamp for the moon but here you are confusing a screen for the world.” - JAY ALTO “The really important kind of freedom…
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1744 || your sign to do some arts + crafts (and go play)
We know that Breathwork, nourishment, sleep, and a safe environment regulate your nervous system. Play regulates your nervous system, too. Touch regulates your…
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1743 || when to stop analyzing
The goal is conscious choices > conditioned responses. Our society bases it’s values on exploitation, violation, and extraction - and we’ve been letting that…
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1742 || future rehearsals
Don't forget to rehearse the best case scenario for every worst case scenario rehearsal. S - Stop! - Freeze! Your emotions may try to make you act without…
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1741 || take back the wheel
Make a commitment to drop your usual escape methods as soon as you notice yourself doing them, and redirect. Maybe that looks like doing the opposite action…
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1740 || practice not getting swept up
Practice, patience, and persistence is required to reinforce the neural pathways you'd rather reinforce. Some distress is unavoidable, and you are fully…
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1739 || ride the wave
Coping with stress? No thanks. Avoiding stress? Yes please. I tend to use a combination platter of situational avoidance, numbing, reassurance seeking…
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1738 || when discomfort feels impossible
The more we fear, struggle with, and try to avoid any form of distress, generally the worse that distress gets. Distress intolerance remains due to certain…
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1737 || distress intolerance
Today's resource is accessible here. A negative emotion in itself is not necessarily distressing, we only begin to feel distressed when we evaluate our…
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1736 || when your nervous system gets interrupted
Seeing traumatic symptoms as an interrupted natural response and as unreleased energy in the body rather than a disease can lift a burden for traumatized…
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1735 || somatic exercise
Somatic Experiencing is a therapy that focuses on the mind-body connection to help alleviate trauma-related tension stored in the body…
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1734 || escaping a shame spiral
You can't outrun 'em, but you can revise your interpretation and your response, and that’s not for nothin’. Access today's episode on Julie's Medium Blog…
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1733 || healthy shame is not a threat
It’s not about eliminating all sources of shame, but aligning with the confidence that you’re able to handle it effectively. In the book, Healing the Shame…
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1732 || authenticity is a practice, not a discovery || heal the shame that binds you
you're not "finding" an authentic self, but rather, practicing ease and comfort when you feel it. "as soon as she touches the water, she is immediately…
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1731 || love yourself unconditionally || heal the shame that binds you
dealing with rejection can feel impossible for people with internalized, toxic shame. there are rarely absolutes. life exists mostly in the gray area. not all…
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1730 || decenter your mistakes || heal the shame that binds
When you make a mistake and feel vulnerable, the best response is to acknowledge and repair. Don't harbor more shame. The mistakes are inevitable. You…
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1729 || making mistakes doesn't mean you are one
stop being so hard on yourself!! YOU ARE NOT YOUR MISTAKES. Mistakes are simply feedback. Listen, take responsibility when needed, and adapt!!!! It's all part…
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1728 || positive brainwashing || healing the shame that binds you
You really are worth it. There has never been anyone like you. Nor will there ever be anyone like you again. You are unique, unrepeatable and of precious…
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1727 || common thought distortions
common cognitive distortions among shame-based people include: catastrophizing, mind-reading, all-or-nothing or either-or thinking, personalization, blaming…
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1726 || grief work || healing the shame that binds you
Grief work: identify, build awareness, re-route with corrective responses. John Bradshaw's website. Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You Read the…
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1725 || set your own anchor + ride the wave
Shame spirals tend to attach themselves to certain triggers or anchors we have created from our past experiences. If we are able to create safe, corrective…
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1724 || delayed grief || healing the shame that binds you
delayed grief is how we end up creating false selves. it's our job to grieve fully, so we can release the attachments to our denial. connectedness, validation…
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1723 || connection is the antidote || healing the shame that binds you
in order to be healed, we must come out of isolation. identity formation is a social process, so unraveling toxic shame is also a social process. - John…