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Make Your Damn Bed
@MYDBpodcast is a bite sized, real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed every morning. Build momentum - better your life.
Each episode is around 10 minutes and intended to encourage, motivate, and inspire you to get out of bed - so you can start making it!
Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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Episodes
- Make Your Damn Bed
1839 || be realistic, expect miracles
be realistic, expect miracles. The universe is chaotic and the more we fight that the harder it is to deal with it. Resistance of that truth is the problem…
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1838 || get out of your head + into your body
Uncertainty feels unbearable and can send us spiraling, keeping us trapped in our heads. It's important to get out of your head and into your body when this…
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1837 || dealing with uncertainty
Emilia Fart has a poem she published on her TikTok in which she said, “When desolate, empty, and inspiration barren, remember the apricot you’ll eat next…
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1836 || letting karma happen vs. taking compassionate action
We can't ask karma to do compassion's job. Acceptance and action are meant to be utilized together. Learn to separate what must be accepted from what must be…
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1835 || life is unfair so i choose not to be
Nature is indifferent to my interpretations of morality and justice. We humans tend to moralize everything, but not everything has a moral. Every ending…
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1834 || we don't know what we don't know
You don't know what you don't know, but the curse is that you think you do. If we make a good choice that works out badly, we are often very harsh on ourselves…
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1833 || lesson on evidence
Where might your current worldview be holding you back from the truth? THE SOURCES: https://en.wikiversity.org/wiki/Evaluating_Evidence…
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1832 || awe vs. focus
We shouldn't be seeking focus, we should be seeking reverence. Depth and fulfillment comes from awe. Our culture is obsessed with optimization, but that only…
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1831 || strategic anticipation
Our brains are future oriented and this can manifest into anxiety or anticipation if we're not strategic with it. Obviously, our current society has a lot of…
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1830 || curse of knowledge
Hindsight is 20/20, but understanding the person you used to be (without the knowledge you have now) is so damn hard. Give yourself some grace in the learning…
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1829 || avoiding disappointment in relationships
The squeaky wheel gets the grease. THE SOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/202608/why-people-disappoint-us-in-relationships…
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1828 || the thinking trap
A policeman sees a drunk man searching for something under a streetlight and asks what the drunk has lost. He says he lost his keys and they both look under…
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1827 || cognitive misers
the human brain doesn't prefer to expend extra cognitive effort, it will always take a shortcut, where possible. the less you analyze this reality, the more…
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1826 || how to forgive (what the science says)
Forgiveness is not an all-or-nothing process. You can partially release by choosing to stop ruminating, and even if you don’t feel entirely at peace yet, it is…
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1825 || morality is flexible, actually
if morality is flexible and competence is subjective, how can we build self esteem around our values? Your ability to perceive society as "just" also affects…
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1824 || the key to self respect
Self respect is a practice, not a vibe. Self respect isn't about the big wins making us feel big, but the small, consistent acts that make us feel like…
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1823 || on self respect
Self respect has nothing to do with the approval of others, or reputation, but it is about discipline and honesty and doing the brave thing. Facing…
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1822 || forgiveness is a skill
forgiveness requires a willingness to move beyond our negative feelings. fortunately, we are predisposed to heal + forgiveness is a big part of that. we just…
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1821 || forgiveness for selfish reasons
forgiveness isn't excusing harmful behavior, and it surely isn't forgetting. forgiveness is about your personal healing journey. it's not about absolving them…
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1820 || premature compassion is avoidance
are you avoiding danger or discomfort? To figure this out you can: name the threat identify your feelings learn to identify true threats vs. discomfort…
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1819 || the self-awareness paradox
Self-awareness is a tool to help you live, not the entire point of living. Every single thing we do, think, and say is a form of spellwork. We are energetic…
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1818 || apologies vs. repair
Sometimes the kindest and wisest thing you can do in a relationship is clearly and concisely distance yourself from it until you figure out how to navigate it…
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1817 || forgiveness is complicated
Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting everything they did and letting them back in. It means you’ve stopped poisoning yourself trying to hurt them. SOURCE…
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1816 || trust your wings
“And if happiness should surprise you again, do not mention its previous betrayal. Enter into happiness, and burst.” Mahmoud Darwish…
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1815 || access the self
The goal isn't to be constantly regulated, but to understand how to regulate so you can cope with disregulation appropriately. It's about building trust with…
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1814 || your true self
Our different parts are there to protect the true self, but these parts aren't static, permanent parts there to keep us from ourselves. Through systems…
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1813 || Internal Family Systems How To
There are no bad parts, only parts that need to be integrated. SOURCE: https://www.enotalone.com/article/mental-health/therapy/10-tips-to-harmonize-your-inner-w…
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part 2 friction is valuable
This is a re-release. Read Julie's Medium Blog. Support JULIE (and the show!) Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON. Get an occasional personal email…
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friction is valuable
This episode is a re-release. "This is the economy now. Not a distribution of opportunity. A redistribution of friction. But friction isn’t the enemy!!!! It’s…
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1812 || Internal Family Systems
In the therapy aspect you tend to work on learning to sit with each of the parts, hearing and respecting their roles, so you can better understand your own…
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1811 || no bad parts
Similarly to the Pixar movie, INSIDE OUT, where her emotions are portrayed as totally different characters that experience different experiences and roles and…
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1810 || vary some variables
the challenge of the unknown > the disappoint of the familiar you have to change some variables if you're trying a new experiment Study what you avoid. What…
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1809 || choosing your flavor of regret
If you look for the beauty in the world, you will see it in everything. The light, the sounds, the smells, the feelings. If you look for the horrors, you’ll…
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1808 || travel shatters the illusions
Travel reminds you that this ISN'T the only possibility. There are other lives available to you. You CAN do things differently. The world is NOT cold, just…
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1807 || recalibrate for true motivation that works
Lasting motivation requires three conditions: A sense of competence A sense of relatedness A sense of autonomy or the felt experience that your actions are…
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1806 || practical guide: dealing with heartbreak 2
Don't resist tough emotions, but don't live there. Provide yourself with more time for REST. Don't stress about productivity at this time. Set FIRM boundaries…
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1805 || practical guide: dealing with heartbreak
Don't resist tough emotions, but don't live there. Provide yourself with more time for REST. Don't stress about productivity at this time. Set FIRM boundaries…
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1804 || you're a tree, not a billboard
We're trees, not billboards. Understand what YOUR seasons look and feel like, so you can recognize what season you're in and not try to push yourself to a…
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1803 || identity shift first, take action second
It is really fucking hard to change your habits and your actions while believing everything you currently believe about yourself. It’s more effective in the…
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1802 || learning to love future me
It takes time to get comfortable in unfamiliar frequencies, but once you do, you may find yourself more comfortable than you imagined you could be. Success is…
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1801 || goal getting 101 || part 2
Success is a compounding byproduct of motion in the direction of your dreams. Engaging in behaviors you admire will protect you from the feelings you're…
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1800 || goal getting 101
How to (convince yourself to) get anything you want PREVIEW: Identify your goal. (ideally experience based) Identify your current state: values, feelings you'd…
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1799 || ready is a choice not a feeling
If it’s not a matter of my physical location, or my circumstances, it comes down to it being a matter of direction. “Simply beginning” is a great sentiment…
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1798 || your body isn't a temple
Because that’s the thing for me: the idea of almost everything scares me but the practice often leaves me room to surprise myself. Anthony Bourdain said…
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1797 || taking up the space that pain once lived
I've been trying not to let myself identify with the pain but it's easier said than done. it's easier when you fill your time with so much good that there is…
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1796 || I am the ocean
Our emotions are houseguests not permanent residents. I am the ocean. The Hannah Ro Writes Quote Read Julie's Medium Blog. Support JULIE (and the show!)…
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sunk costs in relationships 2
(re-release) If you’re struggling to know whether or not you’re falling victim to the sunken cost fallacy in your current relationships, there are some…
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sunk costs in relationships
(rerelease) People seem to think because they have invested months or years of time into a person that they shouldn’t give up on the potential for them to…
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1793 || being chosen isn't evidence of anything
Rejection feels brutal because society taught us our value is in being chosen. What if we deconstruct that premise, together? It's about relief, not romance…
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1792 || romanticize your own company
Do you know what you'd want to eat next if there was nobody else involved in the decision making process? What would you do if you didn't have to please or…
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1791 || self neglect didn't make me more lovable
Do you struggle to answer the question: "what do I want?" Do you tend to put other people's needs above your own? Do you think the only way to be loved is…
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1790 || empathy without boundaries
a relationship is a space for both of us to breathe, when it no longer creates that space, we must be willing to detach from our expectations. Angela Han…
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1789 || relationships are spaces for us to breathe
a relationship is a space for both of us to breathe, when it no longer creates that space, we must be willing to detach from our expectations. Angela Han…
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1788: self abandonment in relationships
I tend to neglect myself in relationships so I can focus more on creating peace + wellbeing in others, over my own. A good, healthy relationship will provide…
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1787: my rules for surviving a breakup
don't die. - some days this is finding joy to keep me moving, other days it's simply not dying even though I can't move. don't let shame drive the car. - shame…
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my tea is scalding: final chapter (the wedding)
He went to a wedding without me. He lied about my dad being sick when people asked about me. He was also regularly asking a woman from work if he could come…
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my tea is scalding: chapter 9 (the coyote returns)
He didn't find it funny, as tricksters rarely do. Read Julie's Medium Blog. Support JULIE (and the show!) Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON. Get…
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my tea is scalding: chapter 8 (more explicit details)
This motherfucker looked me in my eyes and said I promise there is nothing else that will upset you in here. Read Julie's Medium Blog. Support JULIE (and the…
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my tea is scalding: chapter 7 (the explicit details)
Today's episode is explicit.... but not as explicit as tomorrow's. This motherfucker looked me in my eyes and said I promise there is nothing else that will…
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my tea is scalding: chapter 6 (the coyote: a cosmic trickster)
Coyotes represent a trickster spirit, thank goodness there aren't coyotes in this suburb of Florida. Read Julie's Medium Blog. Support JULIE (and the show!)…