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Make Your Damn Bed
@MYDBpodcast is a bite sized, real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed every morning. Build momentum - better your life.
Each episode is around 10 minutes and intended to encourage, motivate, and inspire you to get out of bed - so you can start making it!
Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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Episodes
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1895 || dumbasses deserve love, too
I’ve been thinking a lot about trust and consideration and love. Naturally, I’ve been very bitter about some things going on in my personal life and it…
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1894 || don't cosign your fears + insecurities
When you’re afraid of someone else judging you, you are only afraid of the confirmation of things you already believe about yourself. I am never offended by a…
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1893 || how + why to vote if you haven't
"War doesn't end when one side dies, it ends when one side surrenders. If you have given up, it's already over. When you understand a system, what it feeds on…
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1892 || intentional friction
Modern design demands that your brain should constantly focus on productivity, metrics, optimization, and achievement. In late-stage consumerism, convenience…
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1891 || spirit of the goal vs. the reward
Humans will always focus on the easiest path towards positive feedback (or avoiding negative feedback). We love a little treat. If we're not careful (and we…
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1890 || the spirit of the metrics
Sometimes our emotional world's and subjective experiences are what make us MORE reliable, not less. The focus on getting a high score actually distorts what…
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1889 || the tyranny of metrics
The focus on getting a high score actually distorts what we're scoring. The problem is not measurement, but a fixation on it "When a measure becomes a target…
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1888 || when the measure becomes the target
"When a measure becomes a target, it ceases to be a good measure." - Goodhart’s Law We're not cogs in a machine. We are so much more than that. When we put all…
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1887 || bossware: is your company spying on you 24/7?
According to Ronan Farrow, over 70% of employers use some form of digital monitoring. They rank you against your coworkers and flag you if they deem you as…
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1886 || avarice (the greed is limitless)
"Every product is a bait with which to seduce away the other’s very being, his money; every real and possible need is a weakness which will lead the fly to the…
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another argument against billionaires
Today is a re-release of an old episode, I'll be back Monday with the follow up to the Karl Marx series. The inequality crisis is obscene and violent. You…
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the case against billionaires
Today is a re-release of an old episode, I'll be back Monday with the follow up to the Karl Marx series. The inequality crisis is obscene and violent. You…
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1885 || money reduces everything to a need for more money
"Every product is a bait with which to seduce away the other’s very being, his money; every real and possible need is a weakness which will lead the fly to the…
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1884 || Karoshi
We’ve been strategically stripped of our ability to relax, which has taken away our ability to create, and most of us have completely forgotten how to have fun…
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1883 || addiction vs expansion
The addict has found the right door but is using the wrong key. Research: People hate to think Reading: Jung on addiction Article: How to Stop Phone Addiction…
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1882 || your focus is a commodity
You are born worthy, and you are worthy now. No matter how productive you are, you are still inherently valuable. It's time we designed a system that reflected…
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1881 || practice strategic underachievement
Remember, C's get degrees and nobody is checking your grades after you graduate. Resist identifying with your work ethic. Resist the hedonic treadmill. Resist…
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1880 || refusing without withdrawal
Doing nothing doesn't mean turning your back on the world. Instead, we must "stand apart" and view things from a new perspective without withdrawing…
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1879 || the art of refusal not withdrawal
Rather than fleeing society completely, the idea of "doing nothing" means disengaging from the toxic demands of continuous capitalist productivity, social…
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1878 || doing nothing is doing something
This is real. You are real. You reading this is real. Extend the time you have by paying attention to what is real. Even when it's uncomfortable. This is how…
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1877 || unproductive and still worthy
Capitalism has shaped our economies, our politics, and our emotional psychology. A society that puts profits > people will trickle down into our own personal…
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1876 || the cost of living is killing yourself to stay alive
Capitalism has turned the natural, balancing, grounding act of creation into just another way to make money. It’s turned every feeling into a hostile takeover…
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1875 || emotions are rational, actually
We have been conditioned to believe emotions are irrational, feminine, and something to be suppressed. But rationality and emotionality are not mutually…
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1874 || rights don't actually exist
Rights are social agreements. If they can be taken away by the "higher power" at any time, they are not "rights" they are privileges. What constitutes a right…
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1873 || expressive emotions vs. suppression
How we display our emotions vary based on where we were born. There are consequences to our cultural influences…
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1872 || socialized emotion
The expression of our emotions, the value we put on them, and how we're affected by them is dependent on how we're socialized. The importance we put on certain…
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1871 || emotions are manufactured
Emotions feel so internally important, but they are actually impacted by so much more than my personal experience. Our society manipulates our emotions and…
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1870 || when our emotions aren't ours
Our emotional states are heavily influenced by the stories we hear, but we tend to forget the narrative and only remember the "feelings". This means we can be…
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1869 || emotions are stories that impact our behaviors
We should be paying attention to what emotions DO rather than what they ARE. We assign emotional values to things because of the way we're taught in our…
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1868 || the emotion economy
Emotions circulate and accumulate value across our society through repetition. We must pay attention to what these emotions DO rather than what they ARE. We…
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1867 || empathy isn't a sin
Love should not be harsh or tough. Empathy isn't a sin. It's a crucial aspect to our humanity. If you hear that empathy is a sin, that's a way to avoid the…
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1866 || compassionate empathy
We must incorporate moral reasoning, altruism, and compassion into our empathy. Otherwise, we may end up blinded by biases we can't even see. THE SOURCES…
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1865 || the empathy trap
Too much empathy is not always a good thing. Human empathy is highly selective, which means it's not always "fair" or objective. Fortunately, there are ways to…
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1865 || when it's all too familiar, make life strange
When things become familiar, we ignore their magic. Defamiliarization is a way to reclaim that magic. It's a way to renew our perception and reclaim meaning…
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1864 || your thoughts aren't real
Your thoughts aren't real until you make them real with your reactions. Don't let them snowball into something worse by giving them more credit than they are…
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1863 || is it anxiety or intuition?
Anxiety yells, intuition whispers. Thoughts are not reality until you allow them to become it. Use discernment and don't act from a place of fear. THE SOURCES…
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1862 || neurotic needs (official version)
(The previous version was yesterday's episode, I am so sorry! But this is the updated one.) The three broad categories of neurotic needs essentially describe…
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1862 || levels of neuroticism
We exist on a spectrum of neuroticism. Naturally, the more self-aware you are, the more anxiety you will experience about you existence. That said, neuroticism…
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1861 || put in your 2 cents or end up 2 cents short
We've been conditioned to betray ourselves at every turn, so much so that many of us don't have a clue on what we actually want or who we actually are. We have…
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1860 || questioning yourself
It's not a problem that you didn't know, it becomes a problem if you're not willing to update your understanding based on evidence. Ask for clarification…
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1859 || negative thoughts are the "fake news" of the psyche
Core beliefs are our most deeply held assumptions about ourselves and the world around us. They shape our behaviors and our reality. Some need to be challenged…
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1858 || automatic negative thoughts
cognitive dissonance is unavoidable and sometimes even helpful, but we have to be willing to consciously address the ways we're not aligning with our values so…
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1857 || don't bury the discomfort
Having negative core beliefs doesn't just affect how we see the world, but it affects how the world sees us. We all have rules that guide our behavior and…
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1856 || we're all hypocrites
A lot of us are forced to make decisions daily that don’t align with our values. Many of us continue working for or otherwise supporting the evil corporation…
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1855 || practice disobedience
"We produce machines that are like men and men who are like machines." "Why is man so prone to obey and why is it so difficult for him to disobey? As long as I…
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1854 || question authority + push back
Practicing disobedience is not an all or nothing strategy. Do what you can when you can how you can. Anything is better than nothing. Reclaim your time where…
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1853 || practical guide to resisting the surveillance state
Reject the surveillance state. Trash your Alexa. Drown your ring camera. Reject all unnecessary permissions. Turn off any added access where possible. Stop…
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1852 || rejecting obedience
Disobedience requires courage - not only the courage to break a rule but the courage to stand alone in doing so. Some rules are created for the protection and…
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1851 || the mask, the shadow, the animus, the self
Jung had some interesting takes on personality and archetypes, many of which don't hold up today. That said, they are interesting and insightful in other ways…
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1850 || you are what you avoid
You are not only what you consciously intend. You are also what you habitually avoid, deny, and disown. The shadow is not your enemy, and it is not your…
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1849 || when intentions aren't enough
You're not broken, you're human. And being human is often difficult and contradictory work. Shadow work is grounded in deep internal reflection, not…
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1848 || being the "good guy" vs. becoming the villain
Confidence, drive, boundary setting, focus, and self-led intention are considered "bad traits" in a patriarchal society, but they aren't…
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1847 || become the villain
One thing I appreciate about the villain archetype is the confidence it implies. Darth Vader isn’t gonna procrastinate because he is too tired or lacks the…
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1846 || integrate the shadows
We all love the idea of a redemption arc. We love the idea of hitting rock bottom and bouncing up and transforming into a confident, powerful badass…
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1845 || rock bottom is part of the healing journey
Part of me wants to beat a bitch's ass and part of me wants to shut down completely. This conflict makes us feel bad for feeling bad. We have to learn how to…
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1844 || the healing journey
The healing journey is not linear and it exists in many forms. The healing journey outlined by the Buddhist Library is: HURT. FEAR OR ANGER. FEAR AND ANGER…
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1843 || the hero vs heroine's journey
Note: When I speak of women vs. men in this context I don’t do it to reinforce the binary. I don’t believe in the binary, but because we grew up and now exist…
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1842 || embrace your shadow + become the "villain"
Do no harm but take no shit. Historically, especially under a patriarchal rule, women have been taught to be selfless, self sacrificing, useful, and kind over…
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1841 || at the edge of reason
"Some things are up to us and some are not up to us. Our opinions are up to us, and our impulses, desires, aversions—in short, whatever is our own doing. Our…
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1840 || navigating agency + uncertainty
A human being is a creature that doesn’t author the architecture in which it chooses from, so it can only act within the possibilities that it is capable of…