1894 || don't cosign your fears + insecurities
When you’re afraid of someone else judging you, you are only afraid of the confirmation of things you already believe about yourself. I am never offended by a claim I know is untrue. You can call me a liar, and I won’t flinch - because I know I am not a liar. You can say I’m unfunny, but I know for a fact that is not true at all. But the second you say something that I have some prior belief in, it triggers my defenses. It feels like a confirmation of my worst fears.
If I suspect I’m unlovable, and someone says I’m unlovable, it triggers that fear and feels like a confirmation of something I…
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