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Make Your Damn Bed
@MYDBpodcast is a bite sized, real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed every morning. Build momentum - better your life.
Each episode is around 10 minutes and intended to encourage, motivate, and inspire you to get out of bed - so you can start making it!
Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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- Make Your Damn Bed
1722 || you gotta feel it to heal it || healing the shame that binds you
As long as our shame is hidden, there is nothing we can do about it. “The only way out is through.” "Embracing our shame involves pain. Pain is what we try to…
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1721 || when the emotion becomes addictive || healing the shame that binds you
"Being nice is primarily a way of manipulating people and situations." - John Bradshaw "Perfectionism flows from the core of toxic shame. A perfectionist has…
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1720 || our culture of shame || healing the shame that binds you
Our culture does not handle emotions well. We like folks to be happy and fine. We learn rituals of acting happy and fine at an early age. I can remember many…
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1719 || shame spirals
Sometimes, "“I feel shame” comes to mean “I am shameful, deficient in some vital way as a human being.” Shame is no longer one feeling among many, but comes to…
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1718 || generational shame || book club
We can't heal what we don't feel. Unfortunately, one of the greatest powers of toxic shame is that it creates automatic, unconscious defenses: like…
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1717 || when shame is a demon || book club
The more one experiences shame, the more one is ashamed, and the beat goes on. It is this dead-end quality of shame that makes it so hopeless. But it's not…
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1716 || book club || healing the shame that binds you
“Without feeling, nothing matters, and with feeling, anything can matter.” - Silvan Tompkins When you internalize toxic levels of shame, you create a "false…
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1715 || regular shame vs. toxic shame
Toxic shame is a deep feeling of worthlessness and self-hatred often starting in childhood due to trauma or neglect. Deconstructing internalized toxic shame is…
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1714 || "thawing out" from a freeze state
Analysis paralysis is a natural response to stress, but there are many ways to manage it. Respect the "thawing" process: this takes time. Ground yourself…
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1713 || imperfect action > inaction
Inaction is not neutral. I know I’m capable of great things but I am too afraid to do anything I want to do because it is easier to do nothing. It feels safer…
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1711 || why the war
This war is a ponzi scheme by people who use "rapture accelerationism" as a manipulation tactic. People ARE resisting, but we need to address what's really…
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1712 || keep me kind
Having a broken heart means you still have a heart. Feeling painful feelings means you can still feel. It's all part of the process of processing. "Keep my…
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1710 || bell hooks || men aren't the enemy
"By highlighting psychological patriarchy, we see that everyone is implicated and we are freed from the misperception that men are the enemy. To end patriarchy…
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1709 || bell hooks || patriarchy isn't funny
"No one has ever explained why accurately naming this system is funny. The laughter is itself a weapon of patriarchal terrorism. It functions as a disclaimer…
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1708 || bell hooks on understanding patriarchy
Patriarchy is the single most life-threatening social disease assaulting the male body and spirit in our nation. Yet most men do not use the word “patriarchy”…
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1707 || stop assuming "it" is inevitable
There is a tendency to think that what we see in the present moment will continue. We forget how often we have been astonished by the sudden crumbling of…
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1706 || tortoise at the mayfly party
"We're all losers until we win." - Astra Taylor "Change itself becomes invisible when your timeframe is shorter than that change and the short term view breeds…
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1705 || stop running from the feeling
The source: Feel your feelings "This zine is all about why it’s important to cultivate the capacity to stay with our feelings, and how we can go about doing…
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1704 || the f.e.a.r. technique
The source: Feel your feelings "This zine is all about why it’s important to cultivate the capacity to stay with our feelings, and how we can go about doing…
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1703 || sitting with the shit
The source: Feel your feelings "This zine is all about why it’s important to cultivate the capacity to stay with our feelings, and how we can go about doing…
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1702 || feeling your feelings
The source: Feel your feelings "This zine is all about why it’s important to cultivate the capacity to stay with our feelings, and how we can go about doing…
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1701 || ease the transition to a better world
Every group is different, shaped by local needs, but all share common goals: ecological justice, boosting local economies, and strengthening community…
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1700 || beg change from a world that needs some
title credit: Alkaline Trio or read today's episode, here. The only thing that has helped me to stop doom scrolling was remembering that worst people in the…
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1699 || PRIMING || find your red balloon
"Easy to spot a yellow car when you are always thinking of a yellow car. Easy to spot opportunity when you are always thinking of opportunity. Easy to spot…
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1698 || PRIMING || dynamic pricing
What is the most you'd pay for lunch? What about baby formula? What about an uber home when your battery is on 1%? Those numbers will be different depending on…
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1697 || PRIMING || the different forms
How do you naturally prime yourself for your day? Brushing your teeth to feel refreshed, playing hype music to get in a better mood, opening windows to let in…
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1696 || PRIMING || the mere exposure effect
“The world makes much less sense than you think. The coherence comes mostly from the way your mind works.” - Daniel Kahneman, Thinking Fast and Slow Priming on…
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1695 || PRIMING || the nudges that influence us
Priming is not some all-powerful button that can reliably control someone's complex actions. Instead, they are small nudges that interact with a person's…
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1694 || a new secret type of shame + how to deal with it
shame thrives in secrecy. sometimes just recognizing your shame arising is enough to stop it, but when that isn't enough? maybe you need a break. grounding…
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1693 || you don't have to read them
YOU DON’T HAVE TO READ THE FILES. There are plenty of people pulling all nighters with this shit for their actual job, you (likely) don’t have to. You can’t…
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1692 || culture and the epstein files
(Content warning) The whole point of patriarchy is to dominate. To exert power over the powerless. To brutalize people to the point of submission. Imperialism…
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1691 || working class uprisings are as american as apple pie
"The Working Class Uprising They Don't Teach You About" - Herman Husband Watch the original PBS Origins episode of Rebels + Revolutionaries Donate to support…
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1690 || action is the antidote to despair
“Everything is blowing up around us, but there are still those who care about a broken lock, and others who are dutiful enough to try to fix it … But maybe…
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1690 || how to ground yourself when the ground is on fire
“Everything is blowing up around us, but there are still those who care about a broken lock, and others who are dutiful enough to try to fix it … But maybe…
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1689 || what's next? idk.
Know your rights: Defend yourself against ICE raids ICE in your area. How allies can help against ICE raids RESOURCES: The House Democrats ICE oversight…
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1688 || reclaim what you care about
Every step in the right direction is a step in the right direction. Energetic changes are the best form of resistance we have. When you reclaim your energy, it…
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1687 || they lack imagination
“The scariest place you can be is believing nothing can be done, because something can always be done.” Dutch on Tiktok "Cause and effect assumes history…
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1686 || it's not useless, but it's not everything
The future is unwritten, and most of us have access to our respective pens. Pick that shit up and make your mark. We have an affect regardless of what we do…
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1686 || tip of the iceberg
We don’t hear about the wins, because that would motivate you to go out and make your own. "Because here is nothing more dangerous to a regime predicated on…
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1684 || they're watching all of us
The churches aren't safe, the schools aren't safe, the streets aren't safe. The government is running a terrorist organization making our streets volatile and…
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1683 || who polices the police?
Who the hell is ICE hiring? What if the enforcers of the law are the ones who break it? Who polices the police? ONLY 5% of those detained by ICE have a violent…
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1682 || ICE + the depravity of undermining democracy
(content warning: sexual violence) ONLY 5% of those detained by ice have a violent conviction, 73% never had a damned Conviction in their life, and those that…
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1681 || the cold hard truth about ice
In episode 1344, I debunked some immigration myths, in 1345 I shared some resources about the rights that immigrants have in this country, and as much as I…
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1680 || morals over metrics
Access the original source. We often treat metrics like a mission, which leads us to focus on the wrong things. Leaving our values behind in exchange for…
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1679 || the rat problem
Access the original source. We often treat metrics like a mission, which leads us to focus on the wrong things. Leaving our values behind in exchange for…
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1678 || humane tech is out there
The six tenets of humane technology are: Sensitive to Human Nature: Technology should work in harmony with human vulnerabilities and biases, rather than…
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1677 || when the system is the problem
How do we fight the very system we’re stuck in? If every road we end up on bottlenecks to the same hole they want us stuck in, should we even bother? There’s a…
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1676 || the other half of the battle
Knowing is half the battle, but what about the other half? We'll never be free of all bias, perception, and susceptibility to manipulation. It feels like we…
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1675 || how the funhouse mirror works
Social media + persuasive technologies exploit our brain's vulnerabilities to ensure we stay engaged with their apps. Creating a sense of urgency, Encouraging…
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1674 || the guilt gap: watching tv vs. scrolling social media
Weird how I can spend two hours on Instagram reels or tiktok and not feel bad about not cleaning my house, but when I sit to watch a movie? I am riddled with…
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1673 || the internet is a funhouse mirror
The data brokers found out we can't look away from a car crash, so they made all of our available content a series of car crashes. This has convinced a lot of…
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1672 || persuasive technology
The Khan Academy offers free courses and today I sped through their lesson on "persuasive technology" and how we can push back against it, to reclaim what is…
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1671 || attention economy
The Khan Academy offers free courses, today I speed through their lesson on "the attention economy" and how we can push back against it, to reclaim what is…
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1670 || what does machiavellian actually mean?
I've been using the term "machiavellian" for years. Recently, I looked it up. Today, I'm sharing what I found. Machiavelli was a teacher of "evil". He believed…
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1669 || when reality is up for debate
This isn't about disagreeing about policies or politics, anymore. We currently live in a world with a sizable minority of people are disagreeing about reality…
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1668 || Until death, failure is psychological.
There's an Arabic saying, "لايدرك كله لا يترك كله" or "What cannot be achieved in its entirety should not be abandoned completely." Until death, failure is…
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1667 || I'm not scared of dying, I'm afraid of not living.
My family has never been one to talk about death, we pretend it doesn't exist until it blindsides us and ruins our lives. But building this wall around the…
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1666 || death is the room, not the elephant
“I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain.” James…
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1665 || how to not fear your death
You cannot imagine what it would be like to be dead, because death is an absence of existence. There is, literally, nothing to imagine – because nothingness…
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1664 || social media brings out our worst
Read this today's original source, here. "When you’re overwhelmed with information, you don’t think deeply about it; you have to process it very quickly. So…