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It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else. They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and…
Episodes
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleFalsely Blamed? How to Protect Yourself and Respond
Exploring Targets of Blame and How to Best Manage Them Bill and Megan tackle the challenging topic of being a target of blame from a high conflict individual…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleCivil Communications for Lawyers and Law Offices
Effective Communication for Legal Professionals Bill, Megan, and their guest Rehana Jamal – and Bill’s co-author – dive into strategies for clear, civil…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleGrief Over the Death of a High Conflict Loved One
In this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill and Megan provide guidance for coping with the complicated emotions that can arise when a high conflict person…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleThe Art of Mindful Engagement: Using EAR Statements Judiciously
De-escalating High Conflict People with EAR Statements: An insightful look at calming down difficult situations In this episode, Bill and Megan dive into how…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleFloundering Into Adulthood: Overcoming Alienation and Parents with Personality Disorders
Finding Your Way as a Young Adult with a High-Conflict Parent In this week's episode, Bill and Megan discuss the challenges many young adults face when…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWhen Grandkids Get Caught in High Conflict
In this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter tackle questions from grandparents struggling to support grandchildren amidst high conflict…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleManipulators in Plain Sight: Spotting Antisocial Personality Disorder
Podcast hosts Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter tackle listener questions about antisocial personality disorder. Bill clarifies common myths. Recognizing Antisocial…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleSurviving High Conflict Divorce, Custody Battles, and Parental Alienation
Navigating High Conflict Divorce and Co-Parenting In this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy answer listener questions to provide…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleOver the Fence: High Conflict Neighbor Disputes
Keeping the Peace with High Conflict Neighbors In this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy tackle strategies for dealing with…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleFamily Feuds: Navigating High Conflict Personality Clashes
Navigating High-Conflict Family Dynamics In this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy from the High Conflict Institute tackle…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleCaught in the Crossfire: Escaping High Conflict Contagion
Understanding High Conflict Contagion Through Projection and Emotional Spread In this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy from the…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWorkplace Gaslighting: Two-Person Conflict or One High-Conflict Person?
Identifying High-Conflict People vs. Mutual Conflict at Work In this episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter discuss how to identify…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleGroup Dynamics Decoded: Taming High Conflict Drama and Disruptions
High Conflict Dynamics in Groups: Navigating Drama and Setting Limits Welcome back to 'It's All Your Fault', the podcast from the High Conflict Institute. In…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHigh Conflict Under the Microscope: Unveiling New Insights from a Summer of Reflection
Kicking Off Season 3: Summer Reflections and High Conflict Insights Welcome back to Season 3 of 'It's All Your Fault', the insightful podcast from the High…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleREBROADCAST: 10 Paradigm Shifts of High Conflict Mediation with Guest Michael Lomax
Mediating high conflict disputes requires a shift from many standard mediation approaches. When one or more of the parties has a high conflict personality, the…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleREBROADCAST: The New Elephant in the Room: Personality Disorders
Personality disorders are mystifying to those unfamiliar with them, and even to some in the mental health profession, although with copious amounts of…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWalking Away
Some relationships with high conflict people reach a point where the only one getting frustrated and hurt is YOU. It is okay to walk away? Are some…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleApology Quicksand
It’s not unusual that high conflict people demand an apology from a reasonable person who has attempted to set limits on them, such as a supervisor in a…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHOA Headaches with High Conflict Complaints
What do you do when a community resident or homeowner calls with complaints as consistently as the sun rises and sets? Some are chronic complainers but easily…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleREBROADCAST: TikTok Famous: Parental Alienation and Barricaded Bedrooms
While We Wait on the Court’s Decision... New information regarding the alleged child abuse from the father has come to light, causing the judge to delay his…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleREBROADCAST: Parental Alienation in Divorce with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker, Part 2
While on hiatus, we’re re-releasing some of our past episodes. This week, we’re finishing to our 2-part conversation with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker about high…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleREBROADCAST: Parental Alienation in Divorce with Dr. Amy J. L. Baker, Part 1
While on hiatus, we’re re-releasing some of our past episodes. To start, we’re returning to our 2-part conversation with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker about high conflict…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleThe New Ways for Families Program
Bill and Megan are off to Scotland to talk about their New Ways for Families Program. Scotland will be the first country that implements the High Conflict…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleExposure and Humiliation as a High-Conflict Strategy
In some high conflict cases, we may have reached the end of our rope and resort to what we see as our only option: threatening to expose the high conflict…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleLet a Win Be a Win in High Conflict
The definition of a “win” is different in high conflict situations as opposed to ordinary conflict. Not recognizing that a win looks quite different can…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleNarcissists Who Endanger Their Countries
Who can you trust with national security documents? An article by Tom Nicholas in The Atlantic titled The Narcissists Who Endanger America points the finger at…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleTikTok Famous: Parental Alienation and Barricaded Bedrooms
Alienation in Utah High-conflict situations often include extreme behaviors and the case we’ll discuss in this episode is a perfect example of extreme…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHCPs in HR, Genuine vs. Feigned Empathy, and Child HCPs
In this episode, Megan and Bill answer your questions on a variety of high-conflict topics, including: “How does one handle it when your HR professional is an…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleBlamers Who Call CPS, Minimizing Contact with HCPS, and Quiet HCPs
More Listener Questions! In this episode, Megan and Bill answer your questions on high-conflict topics that matter to you, including: How do you stop a high…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHigh Conflict People in Mediation, Emotional Triggers in BIFF Responses, and Hereditary Antisocial Personality Disorder
In this episode, Bill and Megan continue answering listener questions: “I am a family mediator. My practice focuses on keeping people out of court and helping…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleNarcissistic Co-Parents, Borderline Spouses, and Intimidating Behaviors
In this episode Megan and Bill answer listener questions: “I'm going through a high conflict custody case with someone who it would appear has some form of…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleThe Alex Murdaugh Con and How to Avoid Being Conned
Alex Murdaugh conned a lot of people in his rural community, in his professional circles, and even within his family. He gained the confidence of those around…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleAlex Murdaugh’s Personality: Is He a Sociopath, Psychopath, Antisocial?
The Alex Murdaugh murder case has captivated people in the U.S. and around the globe. Technology allowed us to see with our own eyes and hear with our own ears…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWhy Connection Is So Important in High Conflict Interactions
One of the cornerstones of successful management of high conflict interactions is connection. In fact, it is the “C” in the CARS Method®—a set of principles…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHigh Conflict Workplace Investigations with Guest Host Cherolyn Knapp and Guest Bob Stenhouse
Workplace investigations. If you’ve been through one, it may have been easily worked out with assistance from the professionals involved or it may have been a…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleDivorce Radio and Celebrity Divorce with Guest Ilyssa Panitz
Divorce is hard and often confusing with bits of information online, in books and other sources, which can be helpful but also confusing. Journalist and radio…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People10 Paradigm Shifts of High Conflict Mediation with Guest Michael Lomax
Mediating high conflict disputes requires a shift from many standard mediation approaches. When one or more of the parties has a high conflict personality, the…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleFamily Law in Israel with Guest Michal Fein
Is it possible to change family law in an entire country? Change that results in improvements for families, and especially for children? In today’s episode…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleTelling a High Conflict Spouse That You Want a Divorce
One of the hardest decisions when divorcing a high-conflict spouse is how and when to tell that person that you want a divorce. How will the person react? Will…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleGetting it Backwards in Family Court—Winners & Losers
Sometimes professionals in the legal system get it backwards. It’s frustrating and leaves people feeling helpless. Why can’t the judge see what the other party…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleThe New Elephant in the Room: Personality Disorders
Personality disorders are mystifying to those unfamiliar with them, and even to some in the mental health profession, although with copious amounts of…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleConfirmation Bias in High Conflict Situations: How to Avoid Being Fooled by High Conflict People
Have you ever been fooled by someone? Or become passionate about a cause, belief, or opinion that later was proven to be false – and you discovered that the…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleTimes of High Risk: The Most Dangerous Times with HCPs
People with high conflict personalities have strong unconscious fears that are easily triggered: abandonment; humiliation, being dominated; ignored; and other…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleDilemmas & Decisions: Why It’s So Hard to Stop Yourself from Over-reacting in High-Conflict Situations
Stopping yourself in a high-conflict situation doesn’t come naturally for most. We get frustrated when things escalate quickly and wonder why we took the bait…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHow Brainwashing Works on a Child’s Brain
Did you know if brainwashing of a child is real in divorce and/or co-parenting? In parental alienation (child alienation), families are divided but is…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleYes, And—Improvisation & Creativity in Conflict Communication with Guest Kelly Leonard of The Second City
The Second City – where countless actors and comedians got their start. They’ve been bringing the funny for over 60 years. Now the first name in improve and…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleErasing Family with Guest Director Ginger Gentile
Erasing Family. In this age of cancellation, it’s not so rare. In the divorce and child custody (family court) world, cancellation has been a “thing” for a…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleTransforming Inmates into Peacemakers, with Guest Doug Noll: Part 2
“Listening People Into Existence.” In this second episode with Doug Noll of the Prison of Peace program, Bill and Megan continue their conversation about this…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleTransforming Inmates into Peacemakers, with Guest Doug Noll: Part 1
“From Serving Life to a Life of Service.” This is the motto of the Prison of Peace program created by Doug Noll and Laurel Kaufer, two lawyers with big hearts…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleSolutions for High Conflict at Work with Guest Cherolyn Knapp
In workplace conflict, handling complaints, upset employees and high conflict situations is taxing, leaving many organizations feeling stuck or without options…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWhat is the Difference Between Alienation & Estrangement?
In high conflict divorce, accusations of parental alienation are common and cause tremendous distress for everyone involved, including the courts. But is it…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWhat are the 4 Fuhgedaboudits When Interacting with Someone with a High Conflict Personality?
Interactions with someone with a high conflict personality often become contentious and you may eventually get upset, storm off, or simply feel inadequate…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWhat is the High Conflict Personality Theory?
People with high conflict personalities have a pattern of high-conflict behavior that increases conflict rather than reducing or resolving it. This pattern…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWhen to Stop Trying with Someone with a High Conflict Personality
Interactions and life with someone with a high conflict personality can be trying. Some will keep trying until they’re completely burned out while others give…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleParental Alienation in Divorce with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker, Part 2
High conflict divorce and separation in the family courts consumes the majority of the courts’ time and resources and provides the most frustration and…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleParental Alienation in Divorce with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker, Part 1
High conflict divorce and separation in the family courts consumes the majority of the court’s time and resources and provides the most frustration and…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleREBROADCAST: Domestic Violence in Family Law: Part 1
REBROADCAST Domestic Violence Megan and Bill are joined by the Honorable Karen Adam and Annette Burns to discuss domestic violence. This is part one of this…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleREBROADCAST: Using BIFF Responses
REBROADCAST In today’s episode, we talk about how to tackle hostile communications with BIFF Responses. What is a hostile communication? It usually contains…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleREBROADCAST: High Conflict Emotion Contagion
REBROADCAST The challenge of being emotional creatures Did you know that emotions are contagious? We like to think we are in complete control of our emotions…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleREBROADCAST: Part 2: Borderline Personality Disorder for Family Members
REBROADCAST Family members (and friends) of someone who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder (or BPD) are typically mystified about how to interact…