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It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else. They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and…
Episodes
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleSetting Limits, Staying Connected: Two Listener Questions
High conflict behavior can follow you to school and into your own family. Two listeners ask how to quiet rumors from a parent who glares and whispers, and how…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWhen Conflict Makes You Sick: How Stress Harms the Body with Dr. Sharon Stills
High conflict relationships can make you sick. Dr. Sharon Stills, a naturopathic medical doctor, explains what chronic stress does to your body. Megan Hunter…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleDoes a Mental Health Diagnosis Mean a Lighter Sentence?
Should a mental health diagnosis mean a lighter sentence for a serious crime? In high conflict cases, the answer depends on whether someone is out of touch…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleStop Arguing About the Past: The SWYP Method
High conflict arguments follow a script: relitigate the past, assign blame, get nowhere. Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, introduce SWYP, a…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleTwo Ways to Handle One High Conflict Case with Dr. Anthony Mazzella
When someone in a high conflict relationship insists their partner is entirely uncaring, is that the whole truth — or a sign of something else going on…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWorth Repeating: Protecting Your Job When Home Life Turns High Conflict
In this classic episode from the archives, Bill and Megan tackle a version of high conflict that doesn't always get airtime: what happens when the conflict…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWorth Repeating: Why Some People Go Zero to Sixty with Anger (And Others Don't)
One of our favorite deep dives, revisited: why do some people go from calm to enraged in seconds flat, while others barely flinch? Bill and Megan dig into the…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWorth Repeating: A Retired Judge's Playbook for Family Court Success
In this classic episode from the archives, Bill and Megan sit down with retired Judge Bruce R. Cohen, who spent 24 years as a family law attorney and nearly 20…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWorth Repeating: Parental Alienation, False Abuse Claims, and When to Stop Fighting in Family Court
One of our most-asked-about topics, revisited: two listeners write in about parental alienation and when to stop fighting in family court. Bill and Megan's…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleFrom Case-by-Case to Conflict-Smart: High Conflict at Work, Part 4 of 4
High conflict behavior at work rarely stays contained to one person or one incident — it spreads across teams, drains HR's time, and quietly drives turnover…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleFrom Reacting to Responding: High Conflict at Work, Part 3 of 4
High conflict behavior doesn't just disrupt your team—it follows leaders home, costs organizations hundreds of thousands of dollars, and gets worse when…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWhat HR Keeps Missing: High Conflict at Work, Part 2 of 4
High conflict at work rarely announces itself. By the time it becomes a formal HR complaint or a leadership crisis, the patterns were visible much earlier—and…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWhy Workplace Conflict Is Surging: High Conflict at Work, Part 1 of 4
Workplace conflict is costing US businesses $359 billion a year—and behind a disproportionate share of that damage is high conflict behavior: the kind that…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleAccepting the Limits of a High Conflict Relationship
High conflict relationships can leave you grieving something most people don't recognize as a real loss — not just the person, but the relationship you always…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHow to Leave a High Conflict Relationship Without Escalating
Fear of retaliation keeps many people trapped in high conflict relationships long after they know they need to leave. Emotional explosions, smear campaigns…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHow Validation Calms the Brain: The Science of EAR Statements
When someone in a high conflict situation gets upset, the instinct is to explain, correct, or reason with them — and that almost always makes things worse. The…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWhen It's Not Your Fault: Blame, Backlash, and Setting Limits
When a high conflict person says it's all your fault, most reasonable people do something predictable — they start wondering what they did wrong. That instinct…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWhen No One Believes You About High Conflict
High conflict cases have a well-documented credibility problem: the person with high conflict personality traits walks into the lawyer’s office, the HR…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWhen Addiction Meets Custody: Building a Plan That Holds, Part 2
When addiction and high conflict personality traits both show up in a custody case, the usual advice stops working. Vague parenting plans become weapons…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWhen Addiction and Antisocial Behavior Collide in Custody
High conflict custody cases are hard enough—but when one parent also demonstrates antisocial personality traits alongside addiction and a pattern of long-term…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWhy Your Child Absorbs Your Emotions
In high conflict divorce, children don’t just witness a parent’s distress—they absorb it, often without knowing where the feeling is coming from. Bill Eddy and…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeoplePassive Aggressive Behavior: Is It High Conflict?
Passive aggressive behavior is one of the most common—and most maddening—dynamics in high conflict situations. In this episode, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter of…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleConflict Creators: Why Drama Gets Into Our Heads
Why are so many people drawn to media figures who thrive on conflict, drama, and promises of secret revelations? Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter of the High…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHigh Conflict Behavior at Work Part 2 with Michael Lomax
Michael Lomax joins Megan Hunter to share practical tools leaders can use right away when high conflict behavior is derailing their team. They cover BIFF…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHigh Conflict Behavior at Work with Michael Lomax
HCI senior trainer Michael Lomax joins Megan Hunter to unpack why high conflict behavior is escalating in today's workplaces—and what leaders can actually do…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleSetting Boundaries in High Conflict Situations
We answer five listener questions about setting boundaries with intrusive neighbors, hostile co-parents, difficult coworkers, and adult children who…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleCan High Conflict Relationships Ever Become Truly Mutual? Setting Realistic Expectations and Boundaries
Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore one of the most challenging questions faced by people in relationships with partners who demonstrate high conflict…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleBeyond No-Contact: High Conflict Skills for Family Relationships
The Evolution of Family Estrangement: Understanding Adult Children Cutting Ties Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore the growing phenomenon of adult children…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleSLIC Solutions for Limits: How to Set Boundaries That Actually Work (with Ekaterina Ricci)
Setting Effective Limits: A Conversation About SLIC Solutions for Conflict Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter welcome co-author Ekaterina Ricci to discuss their new…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleSelf-Compassion and DBT: How New Treatment Approaches Transform BPD Recovery with Amanda Smith
In this episode of It's All Your Fault, host Megan Hunter interviews Amanda Smith, LCSW, about her groundbreaking new book on self-compassion and Dialectical…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWorth Repeating: Protecting Elderly Loved Ones from High Conflict Manipulation
In this classic episode from the archives, Bill and Megan examine the growing challenges faced by elderly populations dealing with individuals who demonstrate…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWorth Repeating: Setting Limits Without Public Exposure to Manage Difficult Behavior
Exposure and Public Shaming as Conflict Management Tools: A Critical Analysis In this back episode from the High Conflict Institute podcast, Bill Eddy and…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWorth Repeating: Skills Over Discipline to Transform Workplace Conflict with Cherolyn Knapp
Managing High Conflict in Today's Workplace In this episode from the High Conflict Institute archives, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter welcome Cherolyn Knapp, a…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWorth Repeating: Finding Your Path Forward with High Conflict Parents
Young Adults Navigating Life with High Conflict Parents In this classic episode from the archives, Bill and Megan explore why many young adults struggle to…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWorth Repeating: Turning Down High Conflict at Work with Cherolyn Knapp
In this classic episode from the archives, special guest Cherolyn Knapp joins Bill and Megan to tackle listener questions about managing challenging workplace…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleWorth Repeating: High-Conflict Holiday Guide
Holiday Peace: Managing High Conflict Personalities During Celebrations Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter return to explore practical strategies for handling…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleSetting Limits That Stick: The SLIC Method for Effective Boundaries
Setting Limits That Stick: The SLIC Approach to Conflict Resolution Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter discuss SLIC Solutions for Conflict: Setting Limits and Imposing…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleChoosing Safe Partners: Understanding Red Flags in Dating with Dr. David Wexler
Identifying Red Flags: Making Safer Relationship Choices Dr. David Wexler joins Bill Eddy to discuss his new book "Choose Him Wisely: How to Identify a Safe…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHealthcare Conflict Solutions: Managing Hospital Tensions in High-Stress Environments with Dr. Jeff Stuart
Healthcare Conflict Management: Insights from the Pandemic and Beyond In this episode of "It's All Your Fault," host Megan Hunter welcomes Dr. Jeff Stuart, an…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleFamily Boundaries: Supporting Children Through High-Conflict Divorce
Navigating Grandparent Roles in High Conflict Divorces This episode of "It's All Your Fault" features Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter addressing two distinct…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHigh Conflict Communication Skills: Navigating Personal Change and Blended Family Dynamics
Navigating Complex Relationships: From Personal Transformation to Step-Family Dynamics Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore two compelling listener questions…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHostile Neighbor Conflict: How to Handle Community Harassment and Stay Safe
Navigating Hostile Neighbor Situations: Understanding and Managing Community Conflict Responding to a listener question, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter address a…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleSetting Boundaries in High Conflict: Your Questions About Difficult Relationships
In this our next listener’s questions episode, High Conflict Institute co-founders Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy address three complex scenarios involving…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHigh Conflict Listener Questions: When Different Personalities Collide in Families
When High Conflict Personalities Interact In this listener-driven episode, High Conflict Institute co-founders Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy tackle three complex…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHigh Conflict in Court: Managing Charm, Control, and Challenging Testimony
Mastering High-Stakes Legal Testimony: Confronting High Conflict Behavior in the Courtroom Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter analyze a compelling murder trial where a…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleFalsely Blamed? How to Protect Yourself and Respond • REBROADCAST
REBROADCAST In this vital encore episode, Bill and Megan provide essential guidance for anyone facing false accusations or becoming a target of blame from…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleThe High-Conflict Borderline Personality: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 3) • REBROADCAST
REBROADCAST In this essential encore episode, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter delve deep into understanding high conflict borderline personalities, often called the…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleNarcissistic Co-Parents, Borderline Spouses, and Intimidating Behaviors • REBROADCAST
REBROADCAST In this valuable encore episode, Bill and Megan tackle three critical listener questions that remain deeply relevant. They begin by addressing a…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHigh Conflict Patterns: Understanding Situational vs Long-Term Behavior • And We Introduce Conflict Influencer!
Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore the crucial distinction between temporary high conflict behaviors and established patterns of high conflict conduct. As…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleChild Abuse Allegations: Finding Truth and Safety in Family Court with Dr. Wendy Bourg
Child Sexual Abuse Allegations in Family Court: Expert Insights with Dr. Wendy Bourg In this compelling episode, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter welcome clinical…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleTrauma vs. Entitlement: Finding Balance in High Conflict Situations
Beyond Trauma-Informed: Finding Balance Between Compassion and Consequences Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore the complex relationship between trauma-informed…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleFemale Teacher Sexual Misconduct: Understanding Power Dynamics and Emotional Drivers
Female Teachers Who Sexually Assault Male Students: Understanding a Complex Issue Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore the concerning pattern of sexual…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHigh Conflict Surprises: How to Recover When You Never Saw It Coming
When High Conflict Takes You By Surprise Life can change dramatically when you unexpectedly encounter a person who demonstrates high conflict behavior. Bill…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People“Why Don’t You Just Leave?”: Understanding Abuse & Finding Your Way Out
Understanding Why People Stay in Abusive Relationships Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter return for their seventh season of It's All Your Fault to tackle a…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHistrionics Unveiled: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 6) • REBROADCAST
While we’re on our hiatus, we’re playing some of our popular episodes again from our ‘5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life’ series. Enjoy! REBROADCAST The…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleUnmasking the Narcissist: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 5) • REBROADCAST
While we’re on our hiatus, we’re playing some of our popular episodes again from our ‘5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life’ series. Enjoy! REBROADCAST…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleRecognizing High Conflict Patterns: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 1) • REBROADCAST
While we’re on our hiatus, we’re playing some of our popular episodes again from our ‘5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life’ series. Enjoy! REBROADCAST…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleRoyal Family Fallout: How Public Scrutiny Damages Family Reconciliation
Royal Family Drama: Understanding High Conflict Family Dynamics In this compelling episode, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter dive into the high-profile family…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleBorderline Personality Disorder: Courts, Recovery & Reform with Shehrina Rooney
Understanding BPD: Recovery, Relationships, and Legal Challenges In this powerful episode, High Conflict Institute co-founders Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter…
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict PeopleHidden in Plain Sight: Decoding the Doomsday Mom's High-Conflict Personality
Inside the Lori Vallow Daybell Case: A Deep Dive into Criminal Psychology Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, dive deep…