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Doing The Work from Naples Integrated Recovery
Psychotherapist Brian Granneman examines the patterns that keep people stuck — the ones that show up in relationships, conversations, habits, conflict, addiction, avoidance, and everyday decisions. Each episode breaks down the emotional, behavioral, and relational dynamics underneath those patterns through long-form, clinically informed conversations grounded in real life instead of performance, slogans, or surface-level advice.
Episodes
- Doing The Work from Naples Integrated Recovery
How Much is Enough? The Hidden Cost of 'Success'
Catching patterns in real time sounds simple until you’re inside one that’s producing results. This episode breaks down how high performance, productivity, and…
- Doing The Work from Naples Integrated Recovery
You Don’t Get It Back—You Build Again
Losing everything forces a hard reset. This episode breaks down what happens psychologically when structure disappears and why the instinct to “get back to…
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Still Not Enough After You Get It
This episode breaks down a repeatable pattern that shows up in work, recovery, relationships, and therapy: chasing the next thing, avoiding what feels…
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Why You Can’t Stop People-Pleasing (Even When You Know Better)
People-pleasing is rarely just about being nice. It’s often rooted in fear of conflict, fear of rejection, and early experiences where approval felt tied to…
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Oxytocin, Attachment, and Why Chemistry Isn’t the Same as Safety
Why you can’t let go—even when you know better. This episode breaks down why unstable relationships feel so intense, how attachment and stress work together…
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Experience Strength and Hope: Lindsey at One Year Clean and Sober
This episode features a recorded NA speaker meeting from Lindsey, offering a direct account of addiction, consequences, and the shift into recovery. She walks…
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First Guest: A Year Sober and Still Figuring It Out (Now the Real Work Begins??)
This episode opens up what one year sober actually looks like in real life—no cleanup, no inspirational arc, no pretending things are resolved. It’s a…
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Why You React Before You Think: Polyvagal Theory and the Nervous System Under Stress
This episode breaks down why your body is making decisions before your mind ever gets involved — and why insight alone doesn’t stop reactive patterns in…
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Epictetus on Letting Go of Anger: Forgiveness Without Lowering Your Standards
This episode explores Epictetus’ sharp, unsentimental approach to forgiveness and releasing resentment without becoming passive, naïve, or self-betraying…
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The Roles People Get Stuck In After Trauma
This episode examines complex trauma beyond the usual focus on catastrophic events, tracing how chronic emotional misattunement, unmet developmental needs, and…
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No Cows, No Problems: Adaptation After Loss
This episode uses an old Buddhist parable to examine how identity, attachment, and humiliation create suffering long after loss occurs. Through the lens of…
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Why Most Therapy Fails to Touch the Real Problem
Most therapy focuses on symptoms—anxiety, addiction, relationship distress—without addressing the deeper pressures driving them. This episode breaks down why…
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Why Groups Change You in Ways 1-on-1 Therapy Can’t
Group therapy creates change through mechanisms that individual therapy alone rarely activates. Drawing on Irvin Yalom’s eleven therapeutic factors, this…
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Pleasure Isn’t the Point of Addiction: Why the Brain Keeps Reaching Anyway
Addiction is often misunderstood as a pursuit of pleasure, but that explanation collapses under real scrutiny. In this episode, we unpack why people continue…
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How Self-Limiting Beliefs Lock In Your Life
Self-limiting beliefs rarely sound negative. They sound reasonable, mature, and responsible. In this episode, Brian breaks down how phrases like “I’m just…
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Toxic Revenge: Why We Hurt the People We Love When We’re Overwhelmed
Most revenge in relationships isn’t driven by cruelty — it’s driven by pain relief. This episode breaks down the subtle, everyday ways people try to hurt back…
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Nighttime Rumination: Why Your Brain Won’t Shut Off at Night
If your brain goes into overdrive the moment the lights go out, this episode reframes what’s actually happening. Nighttime rumination isn’t a mental health…
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Why Chemistry Makes Bad Relationship Decisions Feel Right
Many people mistake chemistry for connection, even when it repeatedly leads them toward emotionally unavailable or destabilizing partners. This explores how…
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Why We’re So Harsh on Ourselves — And What Self-Compassion Actually Is
Many people are far harsher on themselves than they would ever be toward someone they care about. This explores why internal self-attack feels justified, how…
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When "Healthy" Relationships Go Quiet: Sex, Silence, and Erosion of Intimacy
Many long-term relationships don’t unravel because of excess desire, but because desire becomes unsafe to talk about. When sex goes quiet, silence often…
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The Cost of Being Emotionally Available to Everything
Many people aren’t anxious because of personal trauma or immediate danger. They’re anxious because their nervous systems are saturated with constant threat…
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How to Stop Taking the Bait With Condescending People
Condescension isn’t powerful because it’s intelligent — it’s powerful because it destabilizes people who momentarily doubt themselves. This episode breaks down…
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Happiness Isn’t the Goal — Joy Comes From How You Live
Happiness gets treated like the finish line — something you’re supposed to reach and then hold onto. But happiness is an emotional state, not a stable…
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Anger, Acceptance and the Cost of Spiritual Bypass without Boundaries
Anger is often framed as a problem to eliminate, especially in spiritual and recovery spaces that emphasize acceptance at all costs. This episode breaks down…
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Who You Become When External Approval Runs the System
Most people don’t realize how much of their life is organized around approval. It runs quietly in the background—editing what you say, how you show up, what…
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The Jealous Shutdown Cycle: When Conflict Comes Out as Distance
This episode breaks down the Jealous Shutdown Cycle—what’s actually happening when a partner pulls away after you spend time with friends or coworkers. Using…
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How Breakups Rewire You: What You Carry Into Your Next Relationship
Breakups don’t just end relationships—they destabilize the nervous system. This episode reframes breakups as attachment injuries that disrupt regulation…
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Wise Mind After Tragedy
Public reactions to tragedy often collapse into certainty, outrage, and rigid sides. This episode breaks down why that happens using Dialectical Behavior…
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The Cost of Living Ahead of the Moment: Why Awareness Alone Isn’t Enough
Most people don’t lack awareness — they’re exhausted from living ahead of themselves. This episode breaks down why “be present” advice fails, how attention…
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Finding the Teacher Within
Many people come to therapy wanting direction. Not because they’re incapable, but because uncertainty feels overwhelming. “Just tell me what to do” sounds like…
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Feeling Stuck? How to Break Free and Move Forward
Feeling stuck doesn’t always look like crisis. Sometimes life is “fine,” functional, even comfortable — but flat. In this episode, I unpack the state…
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The Empty Boat: Learning Not to Take Things Personally
“Don’t take it personally” sounds simple until you’ve lived in a nervous system shaped by trauma, attachment wounds, or emotional unpredictability. For many…
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Why “Forever” Doesn’t Work — And What Healthy Love Actually Looks Like
Most people cling to the idea of “forever” because it feels safe. But permanence isn’t how human beings, emotions, or relationships actually work. In this…
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Sitting with Uncertainty and "Don't Know Mind"
Sitting With Uncertainty explores why the human nervous system craves certainty—and how that craving quietly drives anxiety, impulsive decisions, relationship…
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Who’s Driving Your Car? — The Inner Parts That Hijack Your Reactions
This episode digs into the question, “Who’s actually driving the car inside your mind?” Using Internal Family Systems (IFS), I break down how anger, fear…
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How Attachment Style and the Nervous System Amplify Conflict
Why do relationships sometimes hurt more than they should — and when is that pain actually telling the truth? This episode explores how attachment patterns…
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The Neuroscience of Suffering: Why Spiritual Principles Can Reduce Pain
Most of the pain you feel isn’t coming from the moment itself — it’s coming from the way your brain interprets the moment. In this episode, we break down the…
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Dopamine, Drive, and Why You Keep Doing What You Know Is Bad for You
Why you keep doing stuff you know is bad for you comes down to one thing: dopamine. This episode breaks down motivation, procrastination, compulsive habits…
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The Legend of Zelda and Growth: Leveling Up Through Life’s Hardest Seasons
Life’s hardest seasons have a way of feeling like the dungeons from the Zelda games many of us grew up with — dark rooms, tough puzzles, unexpected bosses, and…
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The Lizard Brain and Second Arrow
In this episode, we break down why your amygdala fires in 12 milliseconds and hijacks your reactions long before your thinking brain comes online. From Publix…
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The Raft: Outgrowing People, Places, Roles, and Chapters of Your Life
This episode explores a simple story with a lot of psychological weight: the raft you build to survive one season of life isn’t the vessel you’re meant to…
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Why People Stay Stuck: What Recovery Circles Often Miss
Explore stuck patterns through a fuller lens — not just as “addiction issues,” but as adaptations shaped by trauma, emotional disconnection, and the roles…
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Why We Cave Under Social Pressure — And How to Stop
Why we cave under social pressure, why it feels so hard to say no, and how oversensitivity to shame keeps you stuck in patterns you don’t actually believe in…
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Start Here: Who This Podcast Is For and the Work Here
Why do people keep repeating patterns they already know are hurting them? Brian introduces the perspective behind the podcast through his own path from law…