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Toxic Revenge: Why We Hurt the People We Love When We’re Overwhelmed
Most revenge in relationships isn’t driven by cruelty — it’s driven by pain relief. This episode breaks down the subtle, everyday ways people try to hurt back when they’re overwhelmed: withdrawal, silence, sarcasm, scorekeeping, delayed responses, and emotional coldness. We explore why these behaviors feel automatic, how the nervous system interprets emotional injury as threat, and why revenge is often an impulse to regulate unbearable internal states rather than a conscious desire to harm.
This episode examines the biology and psychology underneath revenge, including impulse wiring, dopamine…
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