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What People Miss
🎙️ *Welcome to* **What People Miss**—the space where high-achieving men in business can finally set down the performance and reconnect with what is real. I am **Cordelia Gaffar**, and I work with professionally successful, socially respected men—corporate leaders and founders—who are physically and mentally exhausted, helping them regain strength, confidence, and self-respect without shame, judgement, or emotional overwhelm. In each episode, we uncover what people miss when they are running…
Episodes
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Exploring Erotic Repair with Devi Maisha?
Exploring Erotic Repair with Cordelia Gaffar and Devi Masha A deep dive into healing and embracing our erotic selves. In a world often divided between…
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Everybody's Story Abuse is Different: From Surviving to Processing and Savoring
In this episode, Everybody’s Story of Abuse Is Different: From Surviving to Processing and Savoring, I invite you to explore the subtle but profound…
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Other Forms of Touch and Domestic Violence
Other Forms of Touch and Domestic Violence may seem unrelated but when you bring in consent you will quickly connect the dots. The feedback from last week's…
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When Touch Doesn’t Feel Safe: Listening to Your Body and Reclaiming Choice
“When Touch Doesn’t Feel Safe: Listening to Your Body and Reclaiming Choice” Unwanted touch and abuse can have serious mental health effects. When we’re taught…
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Huff and Puff to Inner Peace
Do you know how you are contributing or taking away from your joy? What keeps you steady? What does steadiness look like? Emotional or Physical state of being?…
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What Undermines Joy and Pleasure as a Dad with Dr. Ben
It appears that we begin with the whole answer…believe me…there is soooo much more! There are at least five practices to implement in your marriage and…
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Creating Joy and Pleasure as a Dad with Dr. Ben
You will love this nugget filled episode with Cordelia and Dr. Ben. Yes we talk about Dads but we also talk about how that relationship creates moms. What does…
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How to Love and Savor Your Life with Cordelia Gaffar
Most people don’t need more motivation, they need a pattern interrupt. Do you feel like you have been crawling through life lately? Here are a few ways to come…
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Two Gratitudes, One Ingratitude while Holding Grief with Aaron Hendon
Two Gratitudes, One Ingratitude while Holding Grief with Aaron Hendon Life is so not all about the good vibes only. It is about receiving bad news with…
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The Radical Practice Nobody Teaches: Being Discombobulated in Community
Stillness is not the goal. If you are overwhelmed, burnt out, emotionally stuck, or quietly holding everything together, this episode challenges the idea that…
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What If Pleasure Was a Discipline, Not a Guilty Pleasure?
Shame is not the price of pleasure. Cordelia Gaffar makes the case for reclaiming sexuality as a sacred, embodied practice and shows why learning to slow down…
What People MissUnlock Your Power: How Pleasure, Psychedelics, Spiritual Connection Rewire Your Nervous System
Unlock Your Power: How Pleasure, Psychedelics, Spiritual Connection Rewire Your Nervous System What if your pleasure was the key to unlocking your highest…
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From Overwhelm to Erotic Sovereignty: Decolonizing Love and Reclaiming Your Authentic Self
In this transformative episode of *What People Miss*, host Cordelia Gaffar sits down with Logina, multicultural soul navigator, Director of Psychedelics…
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How to Quench Your Thirst
One thing you may be missing is being replenished. You know the deep nourishing feeling within your soul. In this episode of What People Miss, I explore…
What People MissHealing and Reclamation with Dr. Lulu
Enjoy this week’s episode “Healing and Reclamation with Dr. Lulu” Building on my conversation with my daughter, Dr. Lulu gives the Mama side of being outward…
What People MissHow We Heal Together
Episode Three: How We Heal Together This is the episode you have been waiting for! Ameenah and I sat down and talked about our healing journey together. There…
What People MissHow to Recognize You are in a Negativity Loop and Break Free
Many women think they're facing a permanent problem when they're actually trapped in a repetitive emotional pattern. This Juneteenth, let's talk about another…
What People MissDelight in What You Hold
Juneteenth is about freedom. Freedom begins in the body. It comes from choosing savoring and choosing the thought process of who is holding me with delight…
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Silence and Celebration
This is the end of Season 2. It is very simple silence is and celebration can be the result. Nothing has to be a production...everything may be silently…
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The Problem and Injustice Against Women
Economic distraction. Unworthiness. Don’t feel anything. What happens when the life you built to survive is no longer the life you want to inhabit? In this raw…
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The Hidden Cost of Good Vibes Only
We live in a world where keeping a cheerful façade feels mandatory. Social feeds are overrun with polished highlights, workplaces ask us to "stay positive,"…
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You Are Malnourished. Not Burned Out
In this episode, Cordelia Gaffar delves into the often-overlooked connection between emotional neglect and physical health. Discover why your emotions are not…
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Reclaiming Your Joy: What Are You Missing?
Have you ever felt like the world is telling you you’re not enough? Tag someone who needs to hear this. In this episode of Reclaiming Your Joy and Your…
What People MissFrom Rage to Resilience: Embracing Your Inner Power with Willie J
What if your rage wasn’t something to silence—but a guide leading you toward healing and wholeness? In this deeply honest conversation, we dive into the often…
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Rooted and Embodied with Jameelah Creates
In this juicy episode of Rooted and Embodied with Jameelah Creates, we play on the edges of aliveness, leadership, and liberation. Jameelah breaks down…
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Rise It's Ramadan: Benefits and Tips for Non- Muslims
Ramadan is often seen as a sacred month only for Muslims, yet its deeper invitation is profoundly human: a chance to reset your nervous system, release…
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Root. Reveal. Rise. with Embodied Visioning.
Root. Reveal. Rise. with Embodied Visioning. Every January for the past four years The Wholeness Center has offered The Visioning Retreat virtually and in…
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Transcend Stop Contorting
In this episode, Cordelia Gaffar invites you to stop contorting yourself to fit standards that were never made for your wholeness. Explore the hidden costs of…
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Being Palatable is Killing You
Success has a shadow. For many successful men, it’s the quiet exhaustion that comes from constantly managing how others see you. In boardrooms, at home, and…
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Inner Joy vs. Performative Joy: Are Your Savoring Life?
Inner joy is quiet, rooted, and lived from the inside out—performative joy is polished, public, and often exhausting. This episode of What People Miss invites…
What People MissSavoring life through color with Inna Korbokina
Dress your soul in color: discover how style, presence, and embodiment can move you from survival mode into savoring your everyday life. Savoring life through…
What People MissSavoring Life After Shattered: Grief, Rage, and the Return of Your Voice
What People Miss with Cordelia Gaffar is a space for women who are done merely surviving and are ready to savor life, even in the midst of grief, transition…
What People MissNavigating Respectability Politics: A Deep Dive
Why do so many of us comply with norms that don’t actually fit who we are? In this episode, we pull back the curtain on respectability politics—how they are…
What People MissSilence at Work: The Societal Impact of Respectability Politics with Dr. Christopher N Smith
Silence at Work: The Societal Impact of Respectability Politics with Dr. Christopher N Smith In part two of our series on respectability politics, host…
What People MissWhat is Respectability Politics with Dr. Christopher N Smith
“Silence says more than words” could be the subtitle of my conversation with Dr. Chris N. Smith. Together, we explore the messy, very human space where…
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Energy Healing is Self-Nurturing with Madala Machini
This episode invites listeners into a tender, truth-telling conversation between Cordelia Gaffar and yoga teacher and energy healer Madala Machini about what…
What People MissSelf Nurturing is Intimacy even in Difficult Times with Abeo Noel
🌟 Ever felt like intimacy is just out of reach during tough times? In our latest podcast episode, we dive into the importance of self-intimacy and being…
What People MissSelf Nurturing is Visioning with Bemene Piaro
In the episode, I get to sit down with Bemen Piaro, a previous guest and talk about two of our upcoming events including Visioning as Self-Nurturing. The Whole…
What People MissLet’s Talk About De-Centering Others
In this episode, I invite you into a tender yet rebellious conversation about what it truly means to de-center others and reclaim your own emotional, mental…
What People MissNavigating Family Dynamics with Accountability Coach Sandy B
In this episode, Coach Sandy B, my guest, opens her heart about the journey of learning to tell the truth—especially with the people who raised, shaped, and…
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Let's Talk Respectability Politics with Cordelia Gaffar
Let's Talk Respectability Politics In this episode, I open a heartfelt conversation about respectability politics and the myth of imposter syndrome. We’ve been…
What People MissLove Awakened: Healing the Blockages That Keep You From Love
Love Awakened: Healing the Blockages That Keep You From Love Love isn’t something we chase—it’s something we remember. In this soul-stirring conversation, I…
What People MissWhat is Really Robbing You of Your Joy with Zahra AlJabri and James Faghmous
Summary In this conversation, Zaha Aljabri and James Faghmous discuss the various factors that rob people of their joy, particularly focusing on capitalism and…
What People MissWhat is Really Robbing Your of Your Pleasure with Willie J
In this enlightening conversation, Willie J and I delve into the concept of pleasure, exploring its foundations, the importance of awareness and responsibility…
What People MissThe Whole Tantrum Party Feeling in Community
The Whole Tantrum Party Feeling with Community. Subscribe here. In this opening season episode, I outline reasons to have a whole tantrum. You may think that…
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Why Rage is Required for Your Ultimate Joy
Why Rage is Required for Your Ultimate Joy! This episode is about extreme feelings that are available to open you up to your core for your ultimate joy. How…
What People MissVisibility Cures Feeling Invisible: Seeing the True You with Lucy Devi Hall
What if the way you show up in the world—on stage, on camera, or even in your daily life—wasn’t about performing… but about being fully, unapologetically YOU?…
What People MissThe Science of Joy: Stop Negative Meditation & Live Blissfully | Richard Noel
“Joy is a lifestyle, not something you buy.” – Richard Noel In this week’s What People Miss, we’re talking about how to live joyfully, intentionally, and in…
What People Miss"We Can Catch This Healing" – A Conversation on Wholeness, Vulnerability & Black Masculinity 🎙️✨
"We Can Catch This Healing" – A Conversation on Wholeness, Vulnerability & Black Masculinity 🎙️✨ In this powerful and heartfelt episode, I sit down with…
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Reclaiming Wholeness: A Journey for Black Women Over 50
In this deeply nourishing conversation, the Queen and I embark on an intimate exploration of what it truly means for Black women over 50 to reclaim their…
What People MissFor Black Sexual Liberation with Queen
In this powerful and liberating conversation, Cordelia sits down with Mx. Queen, LCSW, M.Ed., a somatic sex therapist and founder of the Erospirituality…
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Jewels of Juneteenth: What's Left in the Body with Coach E.
In this powerful and timely episode of Jewels of Juneteenth, I sit down with Coach E., a seasoned Functional Movement Specialist who has helped over 3,000…
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The Jewels of Juneteenth: Segregation Dreams Lost
In this episode of Jewels of Juneteenth, I get to discuss segregation, the dreams we lost, and the power we may be missing today with E. Bernard Alexander…
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Black Business in the 21st Century with Tiffany Wright
What People Miss is a podcast about living life by noticing the subtleties. Like Mozart said, "The music is not in the notes, but in the space between them"…
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Jewels of Juneteenth: Emotional Healing as the New Liberation
Are you wearing your crown and creating your life—or simply waiting to see what life gives you? Here’s the truth: It is your birthright to choose. To savor—not…
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Self-care: Knowing Your Requirements with Abeo Noel
In this conversation, Abeo Noel and I explore the multifaceted concept of self-care, emphasizing its importance in personal well-being and relationships. We…
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Why Beautiful Women Choose Ugly Men with Zai Miztiq
Think of this episode as a blend of how you consciously and unconsciously make choices. Zai Miztiq and I were talking one day and this came up. You get to hear…
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Mothers and Work Stress with Cordelia Gaffar
Summary In this episode, Cordelia Gaffar discusses the often-overlooked challenges that mothers face in balancing work and family life. She highlights the…
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Mothers and Divorce
My series on Mothers and Motherhood begins Monday on What People Miss. This week let’s be honest about Mothers and Divorce. Some women don’t want it. Some…
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The Beauty of Life with Renee Miller
In this heartfelt conversation, Renee Miller and I explore the profound themes of love, accountability, and the beauty of life. We discuss the importance of…