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Your Secret Is Safe With Me
Dr. Marie Murphy talks about infidelity and other challenging relationship situations from a non-judgmental perspective. She shares practical tools and advice from her own coaching practice to help you make changes in your love life, and interviews professionals with complementary expertise, such as family law attorneys, mediators, non-violent communication specialists, and more. In addition, Marie discusses the social and historical context of romantic relationships to provide perspective on…
Episodes
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
66. Infidelity and the Holidays, Part Four: Dealing with Nostalgia and Confusion
Are you feeling conflicted and confused about your infidelity situation this holiday season? How do you distinguish between taking action because of your…
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65. Infidelity and the Holidays, Part Three: Putting off Decisions
If you're having an affair and want to change the situation, how can you overcome the fear of finding the right time — especially during the holiday season?…
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64. Infidelity and the Holidays, Part Two: Being the Other Person
Is your current infidelity situation what do you want this holiday season? How do you find significance and clarity in what you want? According to Dr. Marie…
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63. Infidelity and the Holidays, Part One
Are you feeling pressure and guilt about your infidelity situation with the upcoming holidays? How do you find a sense of relief from the thoughts clouding…
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62. Making Difficult Decisions
Does making a decision about your infidelity situation seem like an unfathomable problem? How can you make the best choice for yourself in the present moment?…
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61. Sex, Unhappiness, and Compromises in Marriage
Are you wondering if you're compromising too much or not enough in your marriage? How do you know when you've crossed the threshold of unhappiness and need to…
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60. Dealing with Other People's Feelings
How are other people's feelings impacting your emotions and choices? What would happen if you started taking responsibility for your own feelings? According to…
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59. Is the Grass Always Greener?
Are you questioning what you want out of your relationship? Society often hides the challenges of marriage, and many relationships don't work out. But, how do…
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58. Financial Fears, Divorce, and Infidelity
When you imagine the worst-case scenario about a change in your finances, you may be ignoring the critical question: do you want to continue a romantic…
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57. Re-Engaging in a Relationship After an Affair
Are you considering re-engaging in a relationship after an affair but unsure where to start? Whether you want to reorient yourself with a partner after a…
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56. Cutting off Contact With Your Affair Partner
Are you trying to make changes to your infidelity situation, but are having difficulty dealing with the contradictions of your thoughts and desires? According…
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55. Contemplating Leaving Your Marriage
Does wanting to leave your marriage seem like an unsolvable problem? What do you do if the decision is unclear? It's completely normal to have concerns and…
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54. Embracing Your Contradictions
Do you feel stuck in a cycle of conflicting thoughts and emotions? Contradicting feelings can be draining, confusing, and overwhelming — but do they need to…
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53. Divorce and Your Relationship with Your Kids with Abigail Wald
Infidelity, separation, or divorce can have parents wondering if they're harming their children. As a parent, it's easy to feel overwhelmed — especially when…
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52. Dealing with Other People's Opinions, Part Three
Are you seeking to free yourself from other people's thoughts about your infidelity? If you're having an affair, other people may cast a blanket of disapproval…
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51. Dealing with Other People's Opinions, Part Two
What do you want people to believe about you? Other people's opinions can have a powerful impact on how you perceive yourself. Different people will have…
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50. The Joys and Sorrows of Adultery with Mona Lisa
It's easy to feel encapsulated in an adultery bubble. With all the stigma around infidelity, where can you go to speak about the feelings you have? Is there a…
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49. In Defense of "New Relationship Energy"
New relationships carry a special energy, often referred to as the "honeymoon period." But what happens after the excitement wears off? Is the relationship…
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48. Forgiving Yourself
Do you feel stuck in a loop of self-loathing? Are there moments in your past that you feel helpless to change, so you end up re-playing them over and over…
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47. Being the "Other Person," Part Three
Being the "other person" in an affair is complicated, to say the least. You fell in love with an amazing person, but are now stuck waiting for them to leave…
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46. Dealing With Other People's Opinions, Part One
People have opinions about everything. However, when those opinions turn negative and become directed at you, it can feel extremely uncomfortable. Sometimes it…
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45. Being the "Other Person," Part Two
If you've ever been the "other person" in an affair, you're probably familiar with how challenging that role can be. And, it can feel even more complicated…
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44. Moving Beyond Blame with Karilyn Ivers
Relationships can be tricky to navigate under normal circumstances, but if your partner struggles with addiction, you'll likely find yourself faced with…
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43. Being the "Other Person," Part One
Being the "other person" in an affair can be exciting, but it also comes with its own unique challenges. You may sometimes feel like you're stuck or powerless…
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42. The Mindset of Pleasure with Danielle Savory
How does the way you think affect your sex life? What causes the excitement of a new relationship to fade? And, can changing your mindset create more pleasure…
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41. Clarifying What You Want in a Relationship
If you aren't getting what you want out of your relationship, what can you do to make a change? Couples therapy is one option, but it doesn't always work for…
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40. Blow Your House Down with Gina Frangello
When everyday life is chaotic, difficult, or unfulfilling, affairs can offer an escape from reality. However, the deception of an affair isn't always limited…
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39. Healing from Heartbreak with Dorothy Johnson
Heartbreak can be devastating. And, it's not just the loss of the relationship itself that is so painful — there are also messy feelings involved with the…
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38. Sexuality, Religion, and Shame with Melissa Hite
Unfortunately, sexuality and shame frequently go hand-in-hand, and religion's messages about sex may be partially to blame. Even if you aren't religious, you…
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37. Discomfort, Drama, and Infidelity
Wanting relief from uncomfortable feelings doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. In fact, it's a natural, human response. However, it's important to…
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36. Good Enough Sex with Dr. Barry McCarthy
What does it mean to have good sex? Has science uncovered the truth about what feeds desire? And, is there a way to redefine your understanding of sexuality…
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35. Changes and Choices in Relationships with Yael Haklai-Neagu
When a couple relocates for one person's job, it can be difficult to adjust to the new circumstances. Yael Haklai-Neagu, a licensed Marriage and Family…
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34. Mindfulness, Music, and Relationships with Dr. Richard Gold
How can you lower your levels of anxiety, stress, and negativity? Is it possible to change how you feel by changing the way that you think? And, can you…
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33. How to Deal with Missing Your Affair Partner
Dealing with the loss of any relationship can be difficult, and the end of an affair is no different. However, because of the secretive and taboo nature of…
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32. Money and Your Relationships with Christine Luken
Leaving a bad relationship can be scary when you don't have the resources to support yourself on your own. But, figuring out how to manage your finances is…
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31. A Happy Life in an Open Relationship with Susan Wenzel
You should never try and fit yourself into a mold of someone else's preferences. But, deciding to go against societal norms can be challenging. So, how do you…
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30. Affair Recovery for Couples with Idit Sharoni
Recovering from an affair is a difficult and emotional process. From dealing with shame to deciding whether or not to move forward, many couples aren't sure of…
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29. How to Have a Secret Affair
Most people would agree that your partner can't fill every role in your life, but what happens when they're unwilling to explore your sexual desires? If you…
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28. When You're the One Who Cheats with Dr. Tammy Nelson
Affairs can be intoxicating, but they can also leave you feeling confused and ashamed once the excitement wears off. So, why do people cheat, and what makes an…
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27. Recovering from Trauma in Relationships with Altagracia M. Felix
Getting out of an abusive relationship is extremely difficult, but the work doesn't end there—not if you truly want to revitalize and reinvent your life. But…
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26. Having an Affair to Save a Marriage
All relationships change over time, but how often do you renegotiate the rules surrounding them? What happens when a long and happy marriage becomes sexless?…
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25. Financial Infidelity with Adam Kol
Money is a taboo subject in any situation—but when it comes to relationships, talking about finances can feel downright impossible. With financial stress being…
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24. All About Ashley Madison with Isabella Mise
Why do people cheat, and how has the COVID-19 pandemic changed infidelity? Is it even possible to have an affair during a pandemic? And, is honesty always the…
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23. Deciding to End a Commitment
What power do commitments hold over your life? Are they positive, negative, or something to fear? And, once you commit, do you feel like you have to stick with…
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22. The Beauty of Conflict for Couples with CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke
Most people don't like conflict. In fact, many of us try to avoid it at all costs. When it comes to relationships, conflict is usually thought of as bad. But…
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21. Shameless Sex with Amy Baldwin
There is often a lot of shame that comes with talking about sex. Am I sexy? Is my libido too high or too low? What if I can't get my partner to orgasm? What if…
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20. If You've Cheated on Your Partner, Do You Have to Tell Them?
Here's a tricky question: should you tell your partner if you've cheated on them? While many people believe that there is a simple "yes" or "no" answer, this…
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19. Divorce and Your Money with Shawn Leamon
There is a whole mess of social pressures around considering divorce: what will your family and friends think? What will a separation do to your kids? How will…
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18. Talking to Your Kids About Infidelity
So, you've had an affair and your family has found out about it. What now? Before you can even contemplate making a decision, the first thought that runs…
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17. New Year's Resolutions with Dr. Jonathan Horowitz
The New Year is fast approaching and everyone's mind has turned to the same thing: resolutions for 2021. But before you start listing down all the things you…
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16. How to Have Difficult Conversations with Your Kids with Abigail Wald
When something big happens in your life, it doesn't just affect you—it also impacts everyone around you. This is especially true when you have children. So…
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15. Relationships and the Tarot with Courtney Moore
What's in the cards for the future of your romantic relationships? Undying love? Heartbreak? Freedom—or constraints? If you're curious to know what lies ahead…
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14. So You Were Cheated On—Now What?
Have you ever felt responsible for your partner's feelings? When they're reacting to something you've done, it can be hard not to feel like it's your job to…
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13. A Private Investigator's Perspective on Infidelity with Art Tilis
We've all seen the movies: someone suspects they're being cheated on, so they call a private investigator to follow their partner in a high-speed chase that…
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12. Legal Implications of Infidelity with Rodrigo Dias
When it comes to infidelity, there are a lot of different thoughts that may run through someone's mind. Why did this happen? Did I do something wrong? And…
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11. Personal Stories of Infidelity with Suzannah Weiss
There's a lot of black and white thinking when it comes to the way we regard infidelity as a society. You're either cheating or you're not; you're either right…
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10. Polyamory with Magenta Brooks
Depending on who you're talking to, polyamory can be a bad word. Many people believe that entering a poly relationship is an excuse to have your cake and eat…
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9. Debunking Myths About Infidelity
Why are you married? Did you fall in love with another person and come to a decision to share your lives together with official documentation? Did you feel…
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8. So You're Having an Affair—Now What?
Guilt. Shame. Embarrassment. These are often the first few words that come to mind when we talk about affairs. What you might not know, however, is that…
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7. Nonviolent Communication with Joyce Swaving
So, you're in a monogamous relationship and you've been seeing someone outside of it. Or, perhaps you've found out that your partner has another relationship…