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Your Secret Is Safe With Me
Dr. Marie Murphy talks about infidelity and other challenging relationship situations from a non-judgmental perspective. She shares practical tools and advice from her own coaching practice to help you make changes in your love life, and interviews professionals with complementary expertise, such as family law attorneys, mediators, non-violent communication specialists, and more. In addition, Marie discusses the social and historical context of romantic relationships to provide perspective on…
Episodes
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
126. Regret is Optional
Tune in this week to discover why regret is optional, and how you can start preventing or minimizing it when it comes up for you. Dr. Marie Murphy is sharing…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
125: Privately Grieving the End of an Affair
If you truly believe you must hide your grief at the end of your affair relationship and not share the reality of what you're going through with anyone, this…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
124: Dealing with Other People's Discomfort (Part 2)
If you're doing everything you can to make choices you think will make other people happy, this episode is for you. Discomfort and unpleasant emotions are…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
123: Abundance vs. Scarcity of Love
If you're scared of making a decision about leaving your marriage, ending your affair, or dealing with any circumstances related to your infidelity because…
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122: Yes, People Can Be Total Jerks Sometimes
Whether you're worried about your children, your friends, or your extended family giving you a hard time about your relationship that started as an infidelity…
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121: How Good Can You Stand It?
Discover how to allow yourself to want things, and that it's safe to allow yourself to enjoy what you want. Even if you and your affair partner are both…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
120: Managing Your Worries
If there is something in your life that you want to address, like an infidelity situation, worry is usually the first thing that comes to mind. Infidelity…
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119: Explaining How a Relationship Began
If you're concerned about how you might explain how your affair relationship began, tune in this week to discover why, even though there will be people in your…
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118: The Intimacy of a Breakup
Tune in this week to discover why the honesty and intensity of a breakup often reignites a sense of intimacy that seemed otherwise lost. Dr. Marie Murphy is…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
117: Jealousy
Jealousy occurs within the context of any relationship. However, when you're shifting from an affair into a non-affair relationship, it's a particularly common…
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116: Uniquely Difficult Situations in Life
Tune in this week as Dr. Marie Murphy shows you why, while you always get to decide what counts as a good reason to postpone taking any kind of action relating…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
115: From an Affair to a Non-Affair Relationship
Tune in this week to discover what you're trying to avoid by telling yourself you can't transition from an affair into a non-affair or "normal" relationship…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
114: Questioning Common Beliefs About Marriage
Tune in this week to start questioning the common beliefs about marriage that make so many infidelity situations so much more difficult to deal with. You'll…
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113. Wanting Something and Not Having It Yet
By allowing yourself to want something or someone, contending with the experience of not getting what you want is inevitable. So, how do you deal with the ache…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
112. Being a Human Feels Terrible Sometimes
Tune in this week for a discussion on why being a human feels terrible sometimes. Dr. Marie Murphy is exploring why the traditionally prescribed intolerance of…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
111. The Price of Convenience
Tune in this week to discover the price of living in convenience over taking uncomfortable action. Even when we know that making the effort to change our…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
110. What Do You Owe Someone You've Cheated On?
Let's say you're in a committed relationship and you've done something that counts as cheating, and your partner knows about it. There is indeed something you…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
109. You Don't HAVE to Make a Decision
Tune in this week to discover why it may be helpful to hold off on making a decision. Dr. Marie Murphy is diving into why pressuring yourself to immediately…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
108. Why Do People Cheat?
Some people are very preoccupied, perhaps even obsessed, with the question of why people cheat. But is that a helpful question to ask? Dr. Marie Murphy is here…
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107. Is Monogamy (Un)Natural?
Tune in this week because Dr. Marie Murphy is unpacking the question, "Is monogamy natural or unnatural?" Marie is diving deep into what natural even means…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
106. Ask Yourself the Right Questions
Maybe you want to leave your marriage, but you're not sure exactly why yet. Perhaps you think your marriage is something you should aspire to and value, but…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
105. It May Be Time to Chuck Your Checklist
Tune in this week to discover why your attempts to systematically compare your relationships aren't helping you make a decision. Dr. Marie Murphy is sharing…
- Your Secret Is Safe With Me
104. The Courage to Make Changes and Choices
Despite what you may have told yourself, it's your human right to have desires and make choices in the service of what you want, regardless of whether other…
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103. Dealing with a Vindictive Affair Partner
Pain and suffering may be inevitable parts of the human experience. But when we can learn to deal with our discomfort differently, we can eliminate unnecessary…
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102. You Got Caught Cheating
Tune in this week for some non-judgmental advice if you've been caught in the act of cheating, or been presented with irrefutable evidence of your cheating…
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101. What Physical Pain Teaches Us About Emotional Pain
Is emotional discomfort getting in the way of what you want most from your relationships? When faced with a situation that challenges your growth, it is normal…
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100. The Point of Resolving Your Infidelity Situation
Do you find yourself torn between wanting to resolve your relationship worries and being afraid of negative consequences? What is the best way to deal with…
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99. What Do You Expect Out of a Romantic Relationship?
When it comes to romantic relationships, what are your expectations and intentions? How can you contribute to your relationship constructively to ensure your…
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98. Stop Telling Yourself These Three Things Right Now
When confronted with grief, difficult situations, or relationship challenges, it's easy to convince ourselves of uncertainty or confusion to avoid making tough…
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97. Re-Engaging in a Relationship After an Affair, Part 2
Why do you want to re-engage in your primary relationship? How can you intentionally generate excitement and a deep passion with your primary partner?…
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96. When You Leave Your Marriage but Your Affair Partner Doesn't
When presented with the prospect of dismantling their lives by ending their marriage, people may become dismayed. What happens when your affair partner doesn't…
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95. Dealing With a Needy Affair Partner
What happens when your affair partner becomes needy of your attention and affection? How can you handle the feelings of discomfort and uncertainty when ending…
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94. Is It Cheating if Your Spouse Has Alzheimer's?
It's easy to feel exhausted when you're constantly at someone else's disposal. Society's biases toward a Martyr Complex can make it difficult to talk about —…
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93. Allowing Yourself To Want What You Want
If you've ever found yourself staring your desires in the face, it can be challenging to ride the emotional waves that follow. Trying to suppress your desire…
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92. Holding Our Desires Lightly With Katy Dion
Do you struggle with competing desires in your relationship? Do you find yourself unable to reconcile those longings? Desire is a complex emotion that can take…
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91. The Intensity of a New Affair
Engaging in a new infidelity situation can carry intense and conflicting emotions. How can you handle the magnitude and mixture of your feelings? Is it…
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90. Should I Go to Couple's Therapy?
How can you find clarity about your thoughts surrounding couples therapy or counseling? If you already feel sure about ending your relationship, what are your…
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89. Does Having an Affair Doom Your Marriage to Failure?
If you've had an affair that's now ended, you may be worried about what this secret will mean for the future of your marriage. Does keeping your cheating a…
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88. When Bad Sh*t Happens
If you experience a major upheaval in your relationship, the disruption can feel like your world is crumbling down. How can you deal with this radical…
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87. Relationships, Divorce, and Money With Jessie Susannah Karnatz
Whether you have a large number of assets or are living paycheck to paycheck, breaking up with your partner can cause major financial resentment. So, how can…
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86. When your Affair Partner Ghosts You
When you've formed a bond with your affair partner, it can be a grinding experience when that connection abruptly stops. So how can you overcome the pain of…
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85. Past vs. Future Focus
Do you feel like you're constantly pledging allegiance to your past? If you're stuck in the cycle of recycling and analyzing your past experiences, you may not…
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84. Making Plans for the Future With Your Affair Partner
If you aren't clear on how to move forward with your infidelity situation, what can you do to make a change? How can you make the right decisions for you —…
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83. Boundaries with Melissa Hite
How does the way you understand and express boundaries affect your relationships? What does it look like when your needs are in alignment? And, can creating…
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82. How to Cheat and Keep Your Sanity Intact
When you're unclear on your desires, you may feel stuck or powerless in your situation. If you are trying to cheat and want your sanity to stay intact, how can…
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81. Conflict and Compatibility
If you're too focused on certain requirements or expectations with a partner, you may miss out on rich connections. So, what can you do to make a change? Is it…
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80. It's Not Your Partner's Job To Make You Happy
Do you expect your relationship to be a constant source of happiness and joy? Do you find yourself feeling discontent with your partner — or thinking that you…
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79. Being Honest With Yourself
Do you put your relationships with others above your relationship with yourself? Actively trying to suppress or deny your feelings or your truth can be…
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78. Lying About Infidelity
Are you faced with an ethical dilemma in your infidelity situation? When you're upset, it can be difficult to slow down and make a conscious decision about…
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77. Infidelity, Shame, and Perfectionism
Are you struggling with the idea of perfectionism and hustling to show your self-worth in your relationships? Is trying to meet the needs of others holding you…
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76. Regret
Do you want to change your thoughts about your past but feel helpless about where to begin? Dwelling on the past won't change the future — but it is possible…
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75. Perfectionism and Relationships
Does your sense of self-worth depend upon other people's thoughts and beliefs? Is the desire for perfection holding you back from getting what you truly want…
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74. Dealing With Guilt and Shame
Infidelity often brings forth feelings of guilt and shame, but it shouldn't lead you to believe you're a bad person. You don't have to convince yourself that…
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73. What To Say When You Break Up With Someone
No matter who your partner is or what kind of relationship you have, breaking up can be terrifying — even when you're the one initiating. So what should you…
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72. Preparing for a Breakup
How do you prepare yourself for the difficult emotions of ending your relationship? Deciding to end any relationship can be a tumultuous decision — especially…
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71. When You Love Your Partner And You Still Want To Cheat
Do you want relief from your complicated feelings about monogamy? What can you do to get what you really want out of your monogamous relationship? According to…
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70. What Does It Mean To Be Selfish?
What do you want other people to believe about you? And, do these opinions stop you from pursuing your true desires? The concept of selfishness may feel…
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69. Making Changes In 2022
How can you initiate change if you aren't getting what you want out of your infidelity situation? What can you do to create a difference in your pattern of…
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68. Infidelity and Death
Are you struggling to let go of your old self and transform into who you want to be? In order to change, you must surrender to what you want in your…
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67. Choosing To Leave A Good-Enough Marriage for Your Affair Partner
Deciding to end your marriage for your affair partner can be complicated. It can leave you with feelings of discomfort and confusion about what you truly want…