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How To Love Yourself No Matter What
You're still replaying that conversation from six days ago. The one where you said the wrong thing, or said nothing at all, and you've been rewriting it in your head ever since. You've read the books. You've listened to the podcasts. You've taken the advice, and you're still lying awake at 11pm running the tape back. Here's what nobody tells you — you can't think your way out of overthinking. Not when your nervous system is still convinced that if you just analyze it hard enough, you'll finally…
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- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
103. How to befriend your brain and your body
So often we are "mad" at our brain and "mad" at our body for how they are looking and preforming. And it can seem like this is a useful way to go about it…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
102. How To Be Proactive With Your Nervous System
We often only tend to our nervous system when things have gone haywire. Like when we are having a panic attack or when we lose our shit on a loved one. We…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
101. What Love Is & What Love Isn't
When you have a BPD diagnosis, Love can be confusing to navigate. But it doesn't have to be. I know a few things about love that are going to change the way…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
100. Working With Fear
Fear. It's a challenging emotion that can keep us from the life we really want. There is a lot of advice out there on how to overcome fear. But I want to offer…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
99. You Need to be A Lot More Selfish
As women, we have had "don't be selfish" drilled into us since birth. But I guarantee that if you are currently feeling dissatisfied and unfulfilled by your…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
98. Dysfunctional relationships cause dysfunctional relationships: How to break the cycle
Trauma with a capital T often comes along with a Borderline Personality Disorder Diagnosis. And a lot of times this trauma is founded in both our upbringing…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
97. Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide
I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder over 10 years ago and I tried all the different kinds of therapy. But in trying to figure out my own…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
96. You Don't Have to Stop Thinking Negative
When you have negative thoughts, it can be tempting to think that the way to fix your life is simply to start thinking positive. And that would be great, if it…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
95. Unforgivable Behavior
When you have been diagnosed with BPD, you probably have a pretty good library of things you have said and done that you think are pretty unacceptable. Maybe…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
94. Emotional Hangovers
Emotional hangovers are painful. What they really are is shame. Shame wants to hide but hiding will never heal. The truth is that emotional hangovers are…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
93. Your Disorder Does NOT Need to Define Your Life
It's easy to believe that because you have been diagnosed with a disorder, it means that this is something you are going to have to deal with for the rest of…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
92. Reinvention with Tamara Becker
So often we are raised to believe that there is a "right" way and a "wrong" way to do our lives. We are taught to be authentic but to not be "too emotional"…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
91. How to Love Yourself When You Think You Shouldn't
Self-Love is hard even when we are trying to love things that other people say we SHOULD love. But what about the things people say we shouldn't? Learning to…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
90. Solving for the Fear of Abandonment
If you have Borderline Personality Disorder, suspect you do or you know somebody that does, you know that a fear of abandonment comes up often and is…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
89. Why I Don't Believe in Emotional Dysregulation
Just because your emotional response is something other people don't understand does not mean that you are abnormal. In fact, I would argue that your emotional…
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88. My Story: Before & After BPD
Welcome to Season 2! It's easy to look at my life now and not consider the life I had then. It's interesting to note that circumstantially my life was "good"…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
87. A Love Letter
Having a bad day? Feel like you are getting it ALL wrong? Feel unloved, unworthy, stuck, confused or just plain bad. This episode is for you. Want to find out…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
86. How To Stop Losing Your Shit on Your Family
Losing our shit on our family is a common thing - so much so that there are entire memes dedicated to this problem. Yet, it is also our dirty little secret…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
85. How to Create More Energy with Tanessa Shears
A LOT of us struggle with being TIRED. In fact, so many women tell me that they are EXHAUSTED. So today, I brought an expert onto my podcast to talk all things…
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84. Failure Is The Point
Failure. It's not a dirty word, but we treat it like one. We WANT to get good at failure because it is the way to success. If you are failing, the truth is…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
83. Conquering Self-Doubt with Vera Ilnyckyj
Vera is my newest addition to the podcast interview series, and I hope you are ready to be struck by inspiration. Vera is a past client, a coach, a colleague…
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82. What Being Diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder Taught Me
I will never forget the day that the psychiatrist told me that I had Borderline Personality Disorder. That day is seared in my memory for life. What I heard…
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81. Marriage Makeover with Maggie Reyes
Today I am talking all things marriage with MY Marriage Coach and very first Life Coach: Maggie Reyes. Maggie changed my life, she is one of the greatest…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
80. Hormonal Rage
There is a common misconception in the world that women should not experience and should never exhibit signs of feelings like rage, anger and frustration. So…
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79. Getting Unstuck with Robyn
When I met Robyn, she felt stuck. She knew she was unhappy and unfulfilled and she was ready for change. Investing in coaching was scary for her, but she also…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
78. Societal Patriarchal Programming
I know this episode title is a mouthful - to be honest I used to cringe when somebody used to say "the patriarchy" to me. But the truth is, the way we think is…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
77. Creating the Life You Want with Erin Harmon
Today is part of a special series where I am doing conversations with clients and colleagues. Up first, I invite you to join me with my client, friend and…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
76. Unloved vs Unlovable
There is a difference between feeling unloved versus feeling unlovable. Too often, we experience something that triggers us to feel unloved, and we immediately…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
75. Emotional Workload
As women, we carry an enormous emotional workload. The truth is, the world expects us to be perfect and also to show up for everyone else perfectly. We take on…
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74. Discovering the TRUTH about you
We believe that we know everything there is to know about ourselves, and we believe that what we believe is the TRUTH. But it isn't, it's simply our…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
73. Feeling Misunderstood
It's easy to think that feeling misunderstood is a "them" problem. But when we think of it that way, it becomes an unsolvable problem. My goal for YOU is to be…
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72. How To Ask For Help
Sometimes life is hard, and asking for help can feel impossible. Today i am sharing why asking for help is always beneficial and what you might want to think…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
71. How to Get Rid of Negative Self-Talk
When we start down the road of personal development - we quickly notice that negative self-talk is a problem. We see that our negative thoughts about ourselves…
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70. Radical Self-Love
Loving yourself unconditionally is a radical act. It goes against our natural instincts and it's not what we are taught. Today I'm going to explain what…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
69. Personal Growth is Supposed to be Hard
Personal Growth can change your life, but we have all been led to believe that means that we should feel amazing when we do it. The truth is, growing doesn't…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
68. Your Greatest Flaw Could be Your Superpower
Today I want to talk about what you think is wrong with you. And the best way I could think to do it was to share with you what I used to think was wrong with…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
67. Why You Should Aim For a B-Minus
Were you taught you should always aim for an A Plus? Me too. But all this does is create perfectionist thinking. If you truly want to see results in your life…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
66. How To Create A Successful 2022
If you want 2022 to be your year, there is only one thing you need to do: Change the story you tell yourself about 2021. Today's episode is going to teach you…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
65. Life Dysmorphia
Have you heard of body dysmorphia? Where you have exaggerated beliefs about negative things about your body that might not even exist? Well this episode is…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
64. Emotional Memory
Have you heard of muscle memory? When your body just automatically does something without you having to think about it? Well I'm here to tell you that we also…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
63. The Problem With Calling Someone A Narcissist
What is a narcissist? How do you know if your ex is a narcissist? What to do if you are dealing with a narcissist. These are some pretty popular searches on…
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62. How To Do What You Really Want To Do (and how to know what that is)
I'm frequently told that women feel unfulfilled, especially when middle age hits. And then I'm also told that women don't have time to do what they want to do…
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61. Why Trying To Be Normal Is Ruining Your Life
So often we say that we want to be "normal", but what does that even mean? What if I told you that it means you want to be average? Is that what you really…
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60. Processing Emotions: How To Do It
If you spend any time reading self-help books or consuming information about mindfulness, you know that allowing emotions is incredibly important. The problem…
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59. Special Episode: How To Stop Worrying What Other People Think
It's natural to worry what other people think, but that doesn't make it useful. Find out why you worry about what other people think and what you can do about…
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58. What You Didn't Know You Didn't Know About Money with Kalee Boisvert
Money. As women, we have been taught a lot of different things about money. And the truth is, a lot of what we have been taught doesn't help us and isn't true…
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57. The End Is Just The Beginning With Ginelle Langeraap
Do you look at your life and think that there is no way you are going to be able to recover from what has happened? When I met Ginelle, this is how she felt…
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56. Feeling Big Emotions
Big Emotions. Anxiety. Depression. Rage. Shame. The big ones. The scary ones, We are taught to fear them, but what if I told you that you can embrace them?…
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55. What To Do If You Have Anxiety And You Are an Empath
Are you an empath? Do you experience anxiety? Maybe you don't know, but I'm going to share with you what an empath is and why anxiety is harder for you. I'm…
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54. You're Not Lazy and you don't need to be motivated
Listen, if you procrastinate, get stuck, buffer and escape instead of going after what you say you want, it's not because you are lazy. You are not broken or…
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53. Suffering Has Value
We fear suffering. So much so, that we are willing to do almost anything to avoid it. The thing is, if we allow ourselves to experience suffering then we allow…
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52. Assuming Everyone is Good
What would happen if you just assumed everyone was good? It's been my experience that YOUR life gets better. They actually don't have to be different in order…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
51. Creating fulfillment with the life you have right now
Too often in life we are chasing happiness. And the problem is, when we approach it this way, we are never going to find it. Instead, we need to learn how to…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
50. How to create time and money
The number one thing I hear from women is: I don't have enough time and I don't have enough money. One of these things is a renewable resource and one of them…
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49. Emotional Safety
Are you safe right now? And what I mean is, are you emotionally safe? So many of us are not. We are either knee deep in the shit of our lives just praying we…
- How To Love Yourself No Matter What
48. What to do if you are under-appreciated
Do you feel unappreciated by the people in your life? Do you wish there was a way you could teach them how to appreciate you more? I get it. It's not a nice…
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47. Using Negative Emotions to Create Positive Results
Shame, guilt, disappointment, regret are difficult emotions. But that doesn't mean that you can't create amazing results feeling these things. We have been…
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46. Personal Empowerment
Do you want to feel empowered but have no idea how to get there? What if I told you that nothing about you needed to change for you to feel empowered? This…
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45. Why being so hard on yourself is keeping you from the life you dream of
I know how easy it is to be hard on yourself, I used to be an expert at it. But I also know it is going to be impossible to create a life you love if you don't…
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44. What do Weight Loss & Making Millions of Dollars Have in Common with Corinne Crabtree
Today's episode is an interview with a VERY special guest. Master Certified Life Coach Corinne Crabtree has lost over 100 pounds AND her business made $10…