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UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety. Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get…
Episodes
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone489. Coaching Hotline: Social Media Validation & Emotional Vulnerability vs. Thought Work
Social media will happily turn your nervous system into a tiny squirrel hunting for dopamine, my friends. This week, I coach a listener who keeps checking…
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488. How to Enjoy Sex More: A Conversation with Sex Coach Laura Jurgens
So many women think there’s something wrong with their sex drive, when the real issue is how they’ve been taught to relate to their body. In this episode, I…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone487. Coaching Hotline: Learning to Love Your Body & Navigating Unclear Expectations at Work
Do you struggle to feel at peace with your body when you gain weight? Or worry that gaining weight will result in health issues? In this Coaching Hotline…
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486. The Last 5% - The Secret to Completing Any Goal
Have you ever gotten so close to a goal, and then one thing to goes wrong, and your brain immediately decide the whole thing was a mistake? That moment right…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone485. Coaching Hotline: Managing Anxiety for Loved Ones & Staying Motivated During a Job Search
Does your brain go straight to worst-case scenarios when you think about someone you love, and make you feel like it’s your job to prevent them all? In this…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
484. How to Get Started & Keep Moving - The Infinite 1%
Do you ever tell yourself, “What I’m doing isn’t enough, so I might as well not bother”? That thought is exactly what’s keeping you stuck. In this episode, I’m…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone483. Coaching Hotline: Letting Go of Old Grudges & Beliefs About Attractiveness
Why is it so hard to let go of something that happened years ago, even when you know it shouldn’t matter anymore? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I coach…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
482. Perfectionist Fantasies + Tomorrow Thinking (Greatest Hits)
Do you keep telling yourself you’ll finally get it together tomorrow, once you feel more ready, more clear, or more “on top of things”? In this episode, I…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone481. Coaching Hotline: Taking Too Long to Orgasm & Stress About Balancing Work, Kids, & Life
Are your thoughts during sex preventing you from reaching orgasm? This is a super common struggle for people socialized as women. We worry about taking too…
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480. Motivation is a Fuckboy - How to Follow Through Without It
Have you built your entire life around waiting for motivation to text you back? In this episode, I explain why motivation is a fuckboy and why relying on it is…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone479. Coaching Hotline: How to Say No When You Fear Being Rude & When You Can't Change Your Thoughts Yet
Do you worry that saying no makes you rude, selfish, or a bad person? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I break down why what you’ve been taught to call…
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478. From Global CEO to Higher Pay & a Dahlia Farm: Lisa's Mission Impossible Journey
Have you ever felt stuck in your career or questioned whether you're on the right path? In this episode, I’m joined by my mastermind student Lisa who made the…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone477. Coaching Hotline: How to Deal with Fatigue & Which Thoughts to Work on First
Do you ever feel completely exhausted but can’t quite figure out if it’s because your body is physically tired or if it’s the thoughts in your head making…
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476. Releasing Caretaking Guilt for the Sandwich Generation
Have you ever been caring for someone you love and suddenly felt resentful, exhausted, or completely overwhelmed? And then immediately thought, “What kind of…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone475. Coaching Hotline: Feeling Defensive v Accepting Feedback & How to Know When You've Coached Yourself Correctly
Does receiving feedback make you feel instantly defensive, embarrassed, or like you’ve done something terribly wrong? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I…
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474. Want a Better Financial Life? Don't Marry a Loser: A Conversation with Vivian Tu
What if one of the most important financial decisions you ever make isn’t about investing, saving, or budgeting... but about who you choose as your partner? In…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone473. Coaching Hotline: What If I'm Truly Ugly & Stupid - & Are Vibrations Real?
Does your brain love to tell you you're ugly, incapable, or untalented? What if it's right? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into a listener’s question…
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472. How Equanimity Can Strengthen Your Mind & Save the World: A Conversation with Margaret Cullen
If you feel like the world is on fire and the only appropriate response is constant outrage, this conversation will stretch you in the best way. I talk with…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone471. Coaching Hotline: Teaching Thought Work to Teens & Managing Phobias
Have you ever tried to teach thought work to someone you love, only to have them completely reject it? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a question…
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470. Your Emotional Compass, Guilt & Shame (Greatest Hits)
Do you make decisions based on what you actually want, or based on what would make you feel the least guilty? In this Greatest Hits episode, I break down how…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone469. Coaching Hotline: When You Don't Want to Have Sex & Social Events Feel Draining
Do social events drain you? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into a listener's question about feeling exhausted at social events and why small talk…
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468. How to Microdose Negative Emotions & Become Unstoppable
Do you find yourself avoiding negative emotions at all costs, distracting yourself with food, Netflix, or your phone? What if you could build the capacity to…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone467. Coaching Hotline: Is My Relationship Toxic? & Handling Health Anxiety
Do you feel like you’re stuck in a toxic relationship, but aren’t sure if it’s really the relationship or just your thoughts? In this Coaching Hotline episode…
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466. Numbing Out to Avoid Our Feelings: A Conversation with Rachel Hart (Greatest Hits)
How many times have you turned to Netflix, shopping, or a glass of wine to avoid feeling something uncomfortable? This is a pattern so many of us get stuck in…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone465. Coaching Hotline: Hating Your Career Choice & Feeling Empty Inside
Do you ever look at your life on paper and think, I should feel proud of this, while inside you feel trapped, empty, or quietly panicked? In this Coaching…
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464. Why You Never “Deserve” or “Don't Deserve” Anything, Ever
There’s a word many of us use to feel validated or justified that actually keeps us stuck in self-doubt. Whether it sounds like “I deserve this” or “maybe I…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone463. Coaching Hotline: Believing Your Body is Attractive & Learning to Identify Your Emotions
When you’ve spent most of your adult life believing your body has to look a certain way to be desirable, it can feel impossible to think anything different. In…
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462. How to Fail and Get Back Up Again (Greatest Hits)
Do you ever fall off a goal, get back on, and then fall off again in the exact same way? In this episode, I explain why setbacks aren’t the problem and why the…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone461. Coaching Hotline: Clothing Confidence & Needing Reassurance in Dating
Do you ever feel like if you could just find the right outfit, you’d finally feel confident? Or like the only way to calm your anxiety in dating is to get…
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460. How to Get Your Financial Footing in Crazy Times: A Conversation with Tori Dunlap
When the world feels financially chaotic, it’s easy to slip into survival mode and feel like money is the only thing standing between you and safety. To…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone459. Coaching Hotline: When to Accept Reality & How to Handle Jealousy in Polyamory
Ever wonder if you are pushing toward a bold goal or just fighting reality and wearing yourself out? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener…
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458. How to Solve Insecurity (Greatest Hits)
Do you feel like you are always falling short of some invisible standard, no matter how hard you try? That sense of inadequacy can creep into your work, your…
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457. Coaching Hotline: Will Practicing Thought Work Make Me Less Emotional?
Does doing thought work make you calmer or does it turn you into someone who feels less emotional and more rigid? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a…
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456. Better Boundaries & Instant Obligation Syndrome
Ever notice how when someone asks you for something, you immediately feel like you should say yes? Whether it's a colleague wanting to pick your brain over…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone455. Coaching Hotline: Self-Doubt in Your Career & Battling Procrastination
Why is it so easy to doubt ourselves, even when we’ve already proven we’re capable? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener's question about…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
454. Are You Afraid of Being Too Much?
Ever feel like you’re "too much" for others? Like when someone tells you you're too sensitive, too needy, or taking things too seriously? In this episode, I…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone453. Coaching Hotline: Making Mistakes at Work & Coping with Stress
Do you ever find yourself paralyzed by the fear of making a mistake at work, no matter how small? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener…
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452. How to Be Decisive (Greatest Hits)
Why is it so hard to make a decision? So many of us get stuck in a cycle of overthinking, second-guessing, or waiting for external validation before we can…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone451. Coaching Hotline: Social Media Thoughts & Boundaries with Mom
In this Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that are all too familiar if you’ve ever gotten sucked into social media comparison or…
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450. How to Create Self Trust
Most of us think self-trust means knowing we'll always make the right decision and that our future self will behave perfectly. But in this episode, you'll hear…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone449. Coaching Hotline: Obsessing Over Sexual & Romantic Rejections
When you’re replaying a breakup, imagining a different version of yourself your partner might have loved more, or worrying that someone is “settling,” the…
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448. How Your Fantasy Self Can Lead You Astray
When you imagine yourself in the future, what do you see? Are you meditating at 5 a.m. before diving into the picture-perfect morning routine? Are you living…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone447. Coaching Hotline: Frustration with Kids, Two Flavors
Playing with your preschooler should be fun, right? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions that dig into common parenting…
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446. Borrow My Thoughts For Your 2026 Goals
If you have big goals for 2026 but no idea what thoughts your brain actually needs to think to create them, this episode will give you a much clearer map. I’m…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone445. Coaching Hotline: Feeling Trapped at Work & Compassion for Other People's Brains
In this Coaching Hotline episode, you'll hear two listener questions that will feel familiar if you have ever wondered why your new thoughts seem to “stop…
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444. Acting on Possibility & The Purpose of Goals (Confidence Compass Skill 4)
If you could become the fullest version of yourself, what would that even look like? After coaching thousands of women for nearly a decade, I can tell you this…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone443. Coaching Hotline: Doing Something Bigger & A Complaining Diet
What happens when you’re stuck between wanting more for yourself but not knowing how to get there? In this week’s Coaching Hotline, I dive into how to break…
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442. Self Belief v Self Esteem (And Which One Wins) (Confidence Compass Skill 3)
We hear a lot about self esteem these days. Why it matters, how to get more of it, and what it means when you feel like you do not have enough. Most people…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone441. Coaching Hotline: Thoughts That Made Me My First Million & Relationship Betrayal
When you're building a business, raising a family, or navigating relationships, those uncomfortable feelings of inadequacy, jealousy or betrayal feel like…
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440. Self-Compassion Without Self-Pity (Confidence Compass Skill 2)
Do you worry that if you practice self-compassion, you’ll stop getting things done or start letting yourself off the hook? This is a common fear, and it comes…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone439. Coaching Hotline: Making Thoughts Conscious & How to Stop Being Overwhelmed
Most of your thoughts are running on autopilot, shaping how you feel and act without you even realizing it. The good news is that you can learn to access those…
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438. Creating Accurate Self-Awareness (Confidence Compass Skill 1)
When I was in my twenties and early thirties, I thought I was deeply self-aware. I’d read the books, gone to therapy, and could explain all my patterns in…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone437. Coaching Hotline: Fear of Flying and Was Elizabeth Holmes Using Thought Work?
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two questions that get to the core of how we manage our minds. The first explores how to handle phobias…
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436. The Only Tool You Need for More Confidence in 2026: The Confidence Compass
You’ve hit the milestones: the degree, the dream job, the relationship that looks right on paper. But no matter how much you achieve, that deep sense of…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone435. Coaching Hotline: Regretting Years in Therapy & Dealing with Romantic Rejection
You’ve done the therapy, read the books, and gained awareness, but the same anxious thoughts still run the show. This week’s Coaching Hotline episode dives…
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434. What Everyone Gets Wrong About Confidence (Greatest Hits)
Most people think confidence is just about feeling good about yourself, but that is only the beginning. In this episode, I am revisiting one of the most…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone433. Coaching Hotline: How to Not Take On Other People’s Pain
In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions that get to the heart of managing our emotions and taking action despite resistance…
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432. Creating Self-Confidence (Greatest Hits)
Confidence doesn’t come from promotions, degrees, or other people telling you that you’re impressive. In this episode, I revisit one of the earliest…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone431. Coaching Hotline: When To Speak Up and How
Other people are going to make choices you don’t agree with - your partner won’t go to therapy, your family says things that clash with your values, your…
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430. How to Embrace Friction and Grow From It
Friction feels annoying, stressful, and uncomfortable, but it is also where real growth happens. In this episode, I show you how to stop avoiding discomfort…