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UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety. Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get…
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- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
542. The Coaching I'm Getting Right Now
Have you ever gotten exactly what you wanted, only to find yourself struggling with the reality of having it? In this episode, I share what happened when I…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
The New UnF*ck Your Brain
Find out what's coming next for the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast! Watch episodes over on YouTube: youtube.com/@karaloewentheilcoaching Follow along on Instagram…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone541. Why & How to Be Extraordinary (Yes I’m Talking to You) (Classics)
Women are taught not to think too highly of themselves, not to stand out, and certainly not to suggest that they might be extraordinary. But what if that…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone540. The Thought Ladder and Thinking v. Believing (Classics)
You can’t just think a new thought and expect your brain to believe it. If you’ve ever tried telling yourself you’re worthy, confident, or beautiful, only to…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone539. Coaching Hotline: Letting Go Of Hurt When Someone Skips Your Wedding
Your maid of honor didn't come to your wedding, and you're still hurt about it. How do you move on when someone you care about misses an event that was…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
538. When Do You Choose to be Angry?
Women are taught that anger makes us difficult, irrational, or unlikeable, while men’s anger is often treated as justified or even heroic. So what happens when…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone537. Coaching Hotline: What Does Nervous System Regulation Actually Mean?
What does nervous system regulation actually mean, and how does it relate to your emotions? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener’s question…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone536. How to Stop Avoiding Your Problems (Classics)
Have you ever avoided dealing with a problem because facing it felt too overwhelming, uncomfortable, or scary? In this episode, I share a story from my own…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone535. Coaching Hotline: Hyper-Vigilance & Comparing Myself to Every Woman We Pass
Do you find yourself comparing yourself to every woman you see when you are out with your partner? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener’s…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
534. How to Own Your Success with Cecilie Nielsen & Megan Negendank
What does it really take to own your success? In this episode, I’m joined by two of my clients, Cecilie Nielsen and Megan Negendank, to talk about what…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone533. Coaching Hotline: Wedding Planning & Why It Makes Us Feel Not Good Enough
Why does planning a wedding so often bring up feelings of not being good enough? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener’s question about why…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Take Back Your Brain!
My book "Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head... and How to Get it Out" is available as an audiobook and hardcover wherever books and…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
532. Anti-Aging Is Not a Thing
We are all going to age. So why are women constantly being sold the idea that aging is something we should fight, prevent, or fix? In this episode, I unpack…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone531. Coaching Hotline: The Emotion You're Really Resisting (Behind a Hard Diagnosis)
When you are struggling to accept a painful reality, the question is not just “Why am I resisting this?” but “What am I afraid I will have to feel if I accept…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Introducing My New Signature Program: Speak Up!
Speak Up is a live, 10-week coaching program where you’ll identify where you’ve been biting your tongue (and why), prove those reasons wrong in real time, and…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone530. How to Stop Giving a F*ck What Other People Think (Greatest Hits)
Do you wish you could stop caring so much about what other people think? The problem is, you can't just tell your brain to stop caring and expect it to…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone529. Coaching Hotline: What's Really Stopping You from Speaking Up in Your Business
Do you want to share your ideas more boldly, but find yourself holding back because you’re afraid of how people will react? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
528. Telling Yourself the Truth (How I Finally Did)
What truth are you refusing to admit because you’re afraid of what it will mean? Maybe you know you want a different role at work, you’re questioning whether…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone527. Coaching Hotline: Why You're Resentful Instead of Just Asking for What You Want
Have you ever tried to convince yourself you shouldn’t be upset, while still feeling completely resentful underneath? This week, I answer a Coaching Hotline…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
526. Why Asking For What You Want Matters Even If You Don't Get It
How many times have you decided there is no point in asking for what you want because you probably won’t get it? Maybe you want to ask for a raise, a different…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
How to Ask for What You Want
Over five days, you’ll find out what’s keeping you from asking for what you want – and how to actually do it, even when your brain tries to stop you.Live…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone525. Coaching Hotline: I Want to Stay Home with My Kids, but I Need to Make Money
Do you have to choose between staying home with your kids and contributing financially to your family? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener’s…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
524. You Don't Need to Heal; You Need to Admit What's True – with Dr. Marisa Franco
So much of the self-help world teaches us that the solution to our problems is to become a better, more healed, more secure version of ourselves. In this…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone523. Coaching Hotline: How Can I Stop My Constant Inner Critic & Monologue
Do you have an inner monologue that is constantly keeping score, reminding you what you accomplished, and trying to prove that you’re doing enough? This week…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone522. How to Know What You Want (Greatest Hits)
What if you do know what you want, but you’ve just gotten really good at talking yourself out of it? In this Greatest Hits episode, I break down why so many…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone521. Coaching Hotline: I Can't Let Go of a Friendship That Ended
Some endings are hard because the person is still alive, but the relationship you had with them is gone. This week, I answer a Coaching Hotline question from a…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
520. Speaking Up from Activation v Peace (My Own Self-Coaching!)
Have you ever been so angry that you wanted to say something immediately, but you also knew you were probably not in the clearest state of mind? In this…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone519. Coaching Hotline: How Do I Know if I Am Indulging a Negative Emotion?
How do you know if you are truly processing an emotion or just stuck thinking about it over and over? This week, I answer a Coaching Hotline question about the…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
518. Stop Asking Like You're Begging and Other Lessons from She's So Lucky with Les Alfred
What if the thing you’re calling “luck” is actually a combination of preparation, self-belief, and being willing to create your own opportunities? In this…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone517. Coaching Hotline: Isn't Yelling at My Kids Messing Them Up?
Do you ever get stuck in the cycle of losing your temper with your kids, then immediately judging yourself as a terrible parent? This week, I answer a Coaching…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
516. Why We Check Out or Try to Control It All & How to Stop
Do you tend to shut down and emotionally check out when things feel difficult? Or maybe you take over and try to control every outcome. In this episode, I…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone515. Coaching Hotline: What If "Good Enough" Makes Me Worse?
Do you believe that if you stop criticizing yourself, your work will suffer? This week, I answer a Coaching Hotline question from a listener who worries that…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
What’s Really Blocking You from Speaking Up?
You already suspect you hold back from asking for what you want or telling the truth about how you feel. But did you know that there are three main Speak Up…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
514. Your Brain is a Storyteller, Not a Reporter
Your brain is not giving you an objective report of reality. It's constantly filtering, editing, and creating a story based on what it already believes about…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone513. Coaching Hotline: Staying Because You're Scared to Leave
Are you staying in a relationship because you truly want to stay, or because you are afraid of what you will think about yourself if you leave? This week, I…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
512. Most Habit Change Advice is Wrong - Inconsistency is the Key to Success (Greatest Hits)
Most habit advice tells you to be perfectly consistent, show up every day, and never miss a beat. But that pressure is exactly what keeps people from forming…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone511. Coaching Hotline: When DEI Feels Like a Threat
Do you catch yourself resenting opportunities others get, even when they’re designed to increase fairness or diversity? In this episode, I answer a listener…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
510. How to Take Ownership of Your Happiness with Zerlina Maxwell
It’s so easy to get burned out by the nonstop flood of political news, social pressure, work, and everything else we carry. But it doesn't have to be this way…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone509. Coaching Hotline: Why Do I Always Do This With Someone I Like?
Do you notice old patterns creeping back in when you start dating someone new, even after making real progress on your thoughts? In this Coaching Hotline…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
508. “Fine”: Why Women Don’t Tell the Truth About How They Feel
If you’ve ever answered “fine” when you weren’t really fine, this episode is for you. Saying “fine” may feel safe in the moment, but it trains your brain to…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone507. Coaching Hotline: Why Feedback Sends You Into a Shame Spiral
Does receiving feedback make you spiral into shame, anxiety, or self-doubt? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener who struggles to separate her…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
506. How a Sandwich Can Rescue - or Ruin - Your Life
If you’ve ever eaten a sandwich when you really wanted dumplings, turned down help you needed, or stayed silent in a meeting because it felt safer to bite your…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone505. Coaching Hotline: What Humility Actually Means & Why You Wear Makeup (and Whether It Matters)
Why do we wear makeup, and does it even matter? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener question about makeup and body image. I explain why…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
504. Being Joyful Anyway: A Conversation with Kate Bowler
Joy doesn’t always arrive when you expect it, and sometimes it shows up when life feels the hardest. In this episode, I talk about making space for joy with…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone503. Coaching Hotline: Sibling Rivalry & the Comparison Trap & When Your Child Has a Chronic Illness
Do you ever find yourself comparing yourself to a sibling and feeling stuck in resentment and rivalry? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I break down why most…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
502. Why You Don't Ask for What You Want (& How to Start to Change It)
When is the last time you actually asked for what you wanted when you were nervous? Not hinted, not hoped someone would notice, not talked yourself out of it…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Bonus: 3 Ways to Use Coaching in Other Jobs (The Future Coach Podcast)
Many people assume coaching is only for those who want to run a full-time coaching business, but coaching skills can actually be applied in almost any role. In…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone501. Coaching Hotline: Using Social Media to Change Your Body Image & When Your Partner Shuts Down in Arguments
Social media can be a surprisingly powerful tool when it comes to changing how you think about your body. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Bonus: Is Coaching the Career for You? (Greatest Hits)
Have you been wondering whether coaching could be a career path for you, or something you bring into the work you're already doing? If you can't stop thinking…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
500. The Two Biggest Ways Women Hold Back (& What Comes Next for UFYB)
Women often hold themselves back in ways they don’t even notice. This week, I explore the two biggest ways this happens: not asking for what you want and not…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone499. Coaching Hotline: Explaining Divorce to Your Kids & When People-Pleasing Kills Real Connection
Divorce can be overwhelming, especially when you are trying to figure out how to explain it to your children. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
498. Making Peace with the Human Void
Think about something you really wanted, something you worked for or waited for, or told yourself would finally change how you felt about your life. Maybe it…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone497. Coaching Hotline: Managing Your Mind During PMS & Is Disappointment a Cop-Out?
Managing your mind during PMS can feel impossible, even when you know thought work and self-coaching strategies. In this episode, I answer a listener question…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
496. The 3 Words Sabotaging Your Goals & How to Change Them
There is one thought that quietly sabotages almost every goal you care about, and you probably don’t even realize it’s a thought because it sounds like a fact…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone495. Coaching Hotline: Stop Romanticizing the Future & Why We Chase People Who Don’t Want Us
Do you ever find yourself planning for the future and imagining how perfect it's going to be? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
494. The Six Stages of Change
How many times have you been doing the work, trying to change, and then completely lost it? You yelled at your kids, said yes when you meant no, or spent money…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone493. Coaching Hotline: Making Friends as an Adult & The Line Between Honesty and People-Pleasing
Making friends as an adult can feel intimidating, especially when it seems like your upbringing didn't give you the skills to navigate social connections. In…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
492. 3 Keys to Changing Your Thoughts (Greatest Hits)
This week, I break down the three foundational principles that will allow you to coach yourself effectively, no matter where you are on your thought work…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone491. Coaching Hotline: Thought Work, Moral Objectivism & The Motivation to Set Goals
What’s the point of setting goals if you already feel how you want to feel? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener question about thought work…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
490. How to Stop Procrastinating - A Better Solution
How many times have you promised yourself that this time you were finally going to stop procrastinating? Maybe you bought another planner to color-code, or…