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UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety. Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get…
Episodes
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone429. Coaching Hotline: How to Handle “Bad Behavior” From Your Partner
We spend so much time telling ourselves how other people should act and it keeps us frustrated, anxious, and stuck. In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
428. How to Stop Emotional Outsourcing with Bea Albina
Ever feel like you’re constantly giving love, safety, or approval away, but never getting enough back? Today’s guest is Bea Albina, author of the brand-new…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone427. Coaching Hotline: When You're Told to "Just Get Over It"
Ever been told to “just get over it” and felt like it made everything worse? In this week’s Coaching Hotline, I answer a listener who’s struggling with that…
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426. Scientific Proof This Coaching Works Published in JAMA: A Conversation with Dr. Tyra Fainstad and Dr. Adrienne Mann (Greatest Hits)
In this Greatest Hits episode, we’re diving into the science behind why coaching works—and why it can completely transform high-pressure careers. I’m…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone425. Coaching Hotline: Resisting Pleasure or Not Enjoying It
Do you ever feel like you're chasing future happiness—only to miss out on the joy of right now? That nagging feeling that you should be doing something else or…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
424. Turning Compare & Despair Into Motivation & Inspiration
Ever felt that gut punch when you see someone else living the life you want? Maybe they’ve landed your dream job, bought your ideal house, or achieved the…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone423. Coaching Hotline: Are Moods Contagious & When Should We Share Our Feelings?
In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that get right to the heart of emotional responsibility. First, I tackle the…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
422. Achieving Big By Planning Small
What if the reason you haven’t reached your biggest goals isn’t lack of talent or effort—but the illusion that you need a perfect plan before you even start?…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone421. Coaching Hotline: Are Some Circumstances Harder for Thought Work Than Others?
Ever catch yourself overthinking how you show up around men—or in any situation where you feel judged? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener’s…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
420. Is Coaching the Career for You?
The coaching industry is booming—yet it’s one of the most misunderstood professions out there. From concerns about pyramid schemes to questions of legitimacy…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone419. Coaching Hotline: Am I Using Meditation to Escape My Feelings?
In this week’s Coaching Hotline, I answer two listener questions that reveal a common trap: we think circumstances create our feelings, when really our…
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418. Undoing Your "Goodness" Programming: A Conversation with Elise Loehnen
Ever feel like you’re constantly trying to be the perfect friend, partner, coworker, or mom? That pressure to live up to everyone else’s expectations is a…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone417. Coaching Hotline: Codependency & Anger
In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two relationship questions—one about wanting more time with your partner, the other about lingering anger when your…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
416. Expertise Perfectionism is Sabotaging Your Success
Do you ever feel like you shouldn’t be giving advice, leading a project, or stepping into your own expertise because you’re not perfect—or not perfect enough?…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone415. Coaching Hotline: Confusion About Purpose & Accepting v Giving Up
In this Coaching Hotline episode, I tackle two powerful questions about self-acceptance and purpose. The first caller is a mom grappling with balancing…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
414. How to Find Your Purpose
Ever feel like you're just waiting for your purpose to magically appear, fully formed and ready to give your life meaning? The truth is, purpose isn’t…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone413. Coaching Hotline: Goal Thoughts & Anxious Attachment
Ever notice how your brain immediately pushes back when you try to change those old, deeply ingrained thoughts? It feels like proof you’re doing it wrong—but…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
412. Belief, Confidence, and Shattering Glass Ceilings: A Conversation with Brenda Lomeli (Greatest Hits)
What if the key to your success isn’t in playing it safe, but embracing the discomfort of going after what you really want? In this Greatest Hits episode, I’m…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone411. Coaching Hotline: Fear of Being Replaceable & Plastic Surgery Regret
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about fear, self-acceptance, and making empowered decisions. The first question…
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410. Fear of Doing Harm is Holding You Back
What if your fear of making a mistake is actually keeping you from creating the biggest impact of your life? In this episode, I dive into why the pressure to…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone409. Coaching Hotline: Epigenetics, Jealousy & Suspicion
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I'm tackling a fascinating question about epigenetic trauma and how it intersects with thought work. I’m also…
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408. Creating A New Future: A Conversation with Prentis Hemphill
What if healing isn’t about reaching some perfect end point, but about constantly rebuilding relationships—with yourself, with others, and with the world…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone407. Coaching Hotline: Why We Want Things & Not Forcing It When We Don't
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about motivation, decision-making, and self-coaching. The first question explores…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
406. How to Learn From Your Mistakes
Do you avoid making decisions because you're scared of repeating past mistakes? This week, I show you how to break that cycle and actually learn from your…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone405. Coaching Hotline: Fear of Being Single & Being Happy Alone
Ever catch yourself thinking your ex was the one or that losing weight will solve all your problems? Our brains can hold onto these beliefs for years, creating…
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404. Creativity, Positive Thinking, and Self-Love: Takeaways From Clutch College Live Online (Greatest Hits)
In this week's Greatest Hits episode, I’m re-sharing 3 powerful takeaways from a recent event that have the potential to shift how you view yourself and your…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone403. Coaching Hotline: Struggle Bus & Job Confusion
In this weeks Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that tackle different sides of mental resistance. The first deals with whether you…
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402. The Power of Being Wrong, Why Your Goals May Be Closer Than You Think, and Other Takeaways From Clutch College Live (Greatest Hits)
Do you ever feel stuck on your journey, unsure of how far you’ve really come? In this episode, I’m sharing three key takeaways from a previous live event…
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone401. Coaching Hotline: Body Image, Parental Criticism, & Initiating Sex
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two questions that reveal how we give away our emotional power to others' opinions and societal…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
400. Most Surprising Parts of My Dream Life (& How to Create Yours Too)
Socialization tells us that happiness comes from hitting the right milestones— the prestigious career, the perfect body, the ideal partner. We’re taught that…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
399. What Everyone Gets Wrong About Confidence
Confidence is often talked about in the online empowerment space, but most people misunderstand it. We think of confidence as a feeling—a temporary emotion we…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
398. How to Solve Insecurity
Does it constantly feel like you’re measuring yourself against some impossible standard? Whether it's your career, your relationships, or your body, that…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
397. How to Stop Giving a F*ck What Other People Think (Greatest Hits)
Are you exhausted from constantly worrying about what other people think of you? Whether it’s your boss, your family, or even strangers, this fixation zaps…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
396. Why You Obsess Over Some People's Opinions (But Not Others)
Why do some opinions bounce right off us, while others stick like taffy, lingering in our minds and draining our energy? This isn’t random—it’s actually a clue…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
395. Why Women Care Too Much About What Other People Think
Have you ever had a man ask why you care so much about what others think? And then found yourself at a loss for how to explain why it matters so deeply?…
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394. Hopelessness Is a Lie
Have you ever felt that sinking feeling in your stomach—the one that says, “There’s no point in trying because nothing will ever change”? That’s hopelessness…
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393. How to Calm Down Right Now: A Conversation with Emily Decker
Have you ever noticed how your body reacts when you're doom-scrolling? The tightness in your chest, shallow breathing, and racing thoughts aren’t just in your…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
392. You Are Not the Reference Point (Greatest Hits)
Do you find yourself getting frustrated when others don’t see things exactly as you do? When this happens and we’re activated, afraid, or overwhelmed, we often…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
391. My Top 3 Lessons From Being 43
After coaching thousands of women (and learning a lot from my own journey), I’ve realized that our brains are really good at focusing on what we haven’t yet…
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390. Pretend You Have Amnesia - Instant Brain Reboot
Is your brain stuck replaying the same unhelpful thoughts on a loop? You’re not broken—your brain is just doing what it’s been trained to do: cling to old…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
389. Why & How to Be Extraordinary (Yes I’m Talking to You) (Greatest Hits)
What does it really mean to be extraordinary—and why does it feel so uncomfortable to even ask that question? In this week’s episode, I’m unpacking the way…
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388. How to Plan When the Future Feels Uncertain
Does the future feel totally impossible to plan for right now? As someone who loves planning and going after my goals, I’ve found it really hard to wrap my…
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387. The Thought Ladder and Thinking v. Believing (Greatest Hits)
Today, I'm revisiting one of the most essential tools in thought work: the thought ladder. If you’ve ever tried to change your results by slapping on a shiny…
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386. Defying Ageist Stereotypes: A Conversation with Susan Hyatt
Ever felt the urge to shake things up with a bold, unexpected move? Women are taught that midlife is when we’re supposed to fade into the background, but what…
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385. How to Cope When You Don’t Feel Ok
Are you struggling to focus with everything happening in the world right now? You’re not alone. When life feels chaotic and uncertain, it’s natural for your…
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384. The Logical Case for Positive Thinking with Oliver Burkeman
Do you constantly feel like you need to control everything in your life? Like if you could just be more organized, more productive, more perfect, then you’d…
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383. Self-Help When the World is Burning (Greatest Hits)
Lately it has felt like the world is on fire—war, climate crises, political chaos… it’s a lot for our brains to handle. And yet, instead of stepping back, we…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
382. How to Be Capable in Times of Crisis
Are you feeling overwhelmed or even paralyzed by everything happening in the world right now? Do you catch yourself looking to others for answers—waiting for…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
381. Be Your Own Partner: A Conversation About Singleness and Mindset with Meghan Keane
Do you ever feel like your relationship status defines your worth? Like your life is on hold until you find a partner? What if you could stop waiting and start…
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380. You Don't Need to Be The Best - How to Deal with Envy, Jealousy, and Competitiveness
Do you ever feel a stab of envy or anxiety when someone else gets something you want? Maybe you want to be happy for them, but deep down, their success makes…
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379. Radical Self-Love & Self-Care (Greatest Hits)
As women, we’ve been conditioned to put ourselves last, and if you hold any marginalized identities, the world piles on even more ways to tell you you’re not…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
378. The Biggest Time Management Problem & How to Solve It
Are you unknowingly sabotaging your time management? As women, we’re trained to take on responsibility for everything—other people’s feelings, outcomes we…
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377. Over-Responsibility: The Spin (Greatest Hits)
Do you feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Like you’re responsible for everyone and everything around you? Society has trained…
- UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
376. Exactly How to Negotiate As A Woman, with Negotiation Expert Kathryn Valentine
Ever felt anxious about negotiating a raise, bonus, or promotion? Worried about being labeled “difficult” or facing backlash for advocating for yourself?…
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375. How to Improve Instead of Give Up
The two biggest obstacles to creating lasting change? Getting started and not quitting when things go off the rails. We all know we should just try again if we…
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374. Budgeting, Diet Culture & Spending Well - A Conversation with the Frugal Friends Podcast
Do you ever try to shop your way out of a bad feeling, only to regret it later? What’s really driving those impulse purchases, and how is the way society talks…
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373. Most Habit Change Advice is Wrong - Inconsistency Is the Key to Success
Do you feel like new habits just don’t stick? Like no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to get it “right” from the start? Here’s the thing: you’ve…
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371. Stop Fetishizing Systemic Change or Your Brain in Denmark
Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming about how much better your life would be if you lived in a country with more progressive policies? Universal…
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370. How to Handle Disagreement Better
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a disagreement that feels like it’s going nowhere, just looping around the same points? Maybe it’s because deep down, you…
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369. Marriage & Money: A Conversation with Megan Gorman
Who you choose to tie the knot with is one of the biggest financial decisions you'll ever make. Even though marriage has evolved a lot over time, it is still…