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Do You F*cking Mind?
Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez.
On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak. And on Fridays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions!
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Episodes
- Do You F*cking Mind?
Is therapy talk an excuse for being a sh!t friend?
The episode I mentioned on How to Make Friends in your 20s, 30's and beyond here…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
How to Trust Again When You Have Been Burnt (Headnoise)
It's headnoise day! If you would like to send in a question email please email: info@dyfmpod.com or if you would like to send…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
The Neuroscience of Breaking a Habit and sticking to it
Part 2 of the neuroscience of making and breaking habits. Here I delve into the best and most effective ways to break a habit, and I give options to try…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
Right Person Wrong Time and Good Relationship Wrong Life (Headnoise)
It's headnoise day! If you would like to send in a question email please email: info@dyfmpod.com or if you would like to send…
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The Neuroscience of Making a Habit and keeping it
We are HERE!!! with another Neuroscience episode. I tried to pack it all into one, but alas, I have to split it into two eps. Part one is all about how to make…
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The Neuroscience of Saunas and the Incredible Benefits For Your Brain and Longevity
BONJOUR. And welcome to one of my most important episodes for your brain health. This episode was originally released a few years ago (episode 88) and would…
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491. Fading Friendships, navigating affairs and am I being limerant? (Headnoise)
It's headnoise day! If you would like to send in a question email please email: info@dyfmpod.com or if you would like to send…
Do You F*cking Mind?490. Ten questions to ask yourself if you are unsure about having kids
This is the episode you have been asking for and waiting for and we are finally here! How do you really know if you want children? Can you ever truly be ready…
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489. The Neuroscience of Focus, Attention and Distraction (& harnessing neurochemicals to improve focus)
Poll Should I do an episode on The Neuroscience of Making and Breaking a Habit The Neuroscience of Emotional Intelligence Join the…
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488. How to train yourself to lose feelings for someone and more (Headnoise)
It's Headnoise Friday! I answer your questions you sent in! The questions I received were Can you lose feelings with someone?, One sided sibling relationships…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
487. What to know when entering your 30's Part 2
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486. Should I mix friendship with career and toxic mother what will she do next?! (Headnoise)
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485. Parents struggling to accept me coming out and how many chances should I give my best friend. Headnoise
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484. Entering your 30s with the right mindset
Today's episode is one of my most requested topics, entering your 30's! Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow…
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483. Being alone vs staying in a group that doesn't align and my partner gives me the silent treatment and I can't handle it anymore (Headnoise)
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482. Moving past retroactive jealousy, and how to come to terms with leaving my home country for good?
Bonjour! Welcome to Head Noise day. Today I cover 2 different questions, one about really trusting your partner when you know they have cheated in the past…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
481. The Neuroscience of Self Control
Why do we have incredible self-control in some areas of life… and absolutely none in others? In this neuroscience episode, we break down what self-control…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
480. My sister is overbearing, and how do I know for sure I have chosen the right path?
Bonjour! On this headnoise episode I answer three of your questions. I cover: How to deal with an overbearing sister who tries to act like a second parent and…
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479. What does it really take to know someone? Important questions to ask yourself
What does it ACTUALLY take to know someone? Can you ever know a person outside of the role they play in your relationship with them? If someone deceives you…
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478. Is it a red flag, should I pivot and why am I such a people pleaser (Headnoise)
It's Voice Message headnoise day! I answer 3 of your Voice Messages you sent in! If you would like to send in a question email please email…
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477. I'm dating a man 17 years older, how do I get my family to accept? + I'm terrified to lose my best friend to a relationship - Head Noise
Head Noise: I’m Losing My Best Friend & My Partner Is 17 Years Older Than Me In this Head Noise episode, we talk about two situations that can quietly reshape…
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476. How to keep the spark alive in a relationship (or create one from scratch)
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475. My friends fiancé crossed a line, can I let go of resentment and I am a delayed gratification addict (Headnoise)
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474. My Partner Trauma Dumps And I Don't Know If I Can Stay, I Feel Like a Fraud at Work, and I Freeze in Conflict - Head Noise
Head Noise: My Partner Trauma Dumps, I Feel Like a Fraud at Work, and I Freeze in Conflict In this Head Noise episode, we unpack three listener dilemmas that…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
473. Going Back to the Person Who Ghosted Me, Sister in Law Drama, and Wanting Out of a “Good” Relationship - Head Noise
In this Head Noise episode, we’re unpacking three very different dilemmas that all come down to trust, discomfort, and self-honesty. We talk about: What to do…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
472. Going Back to a Cheating Ex, How to Get Over Being Ghosted and Moving Cities in a Search For Love
In this Head Noise episode, I answer three listener questions that sit right at the intersection of hope, attachment, and self-betrayal the kind of decisions…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
471. The Psychology of Power - How to Reclaim Your Power Without Controlling Others
How to Reclaim Your Power Without Controlling Anyone In this episode, I break down the psychology behind control. Why we try to manage other people’s…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
470. How to End Comparison and Competition for Good - Psychology tools that work
Why do you keep comparing yourself to everyone else, even people you love? Why does competition creep into friendships, relationships, work, and social media……
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469. Silent treatment trauma, identity crisis from stepping back and please break my dating curse! Head Noise
BONJOUR! Head Noise today! So many questions coming through so we are ramping up these Head Noise episodes. Today we cover dating curses and how to break out…
Do You F*cking Mind?468. I suck at choosing the right partner, my mum is a negative drain and I’ve cut my friend out and do not miss her. (Headnoise)
On this HN episode, I get to answer your questions and they are GOOD. We get to the bottom of: Why you may be so bad at picking the right partner, how to…
Do You F*cking Mind?467. Why Rejection Feels So Painful (Psychology of Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria)
If rejection (or even perceived rejection) feels physically painful, overwhelming, or impossible to shake, this episode is for you. In this episode, we explore…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 10. Choosing Peace is the Power Move
Episode 10 – Choosing Peace Is the Power Move (How Stability, Clarity, and Balance Actually Give You Everything You Want) The Reset You Actually Need For a…
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The Reset You Actually Need - Day 9. Less proving, More Choosing
Day 9. Less Proving, More Choosing The Reset You Actually Need So much exhaustion comes from trying to prove your worth. In Day 9 of The Reset You Actually…
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The Reset You Actually Need - Day 8. Until you learn to rest, you will not get ahead
Day 8 – Until You Learn to Rest, You Will Not Get Ahead The Reset You Actually Need So many people think they’re resting but they’re actually avoiding. In Day…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 7. More self trust - stop negotiating with your own excuses
Self-trust doesn’t disappear because you fail. It erodes because you keep negotiating with yourself and breaking the deal. In Day 7 of The Reset You Actually…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 6. How to stop feeling disappointed and regain control over your life
The Reset You Actually Need Feeling constantly disappointed in people, in situations, or in yourself is exhausting. In this episode of The Reset You Actually…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 5. Stop waiting to feel ready: Why action changes identity
Episode 5 – Stop Waiting to Feel Ready: Why Action Changes Identity The Reset You Actually Need – Day 5 So many people believe confidence, clarity, or…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 4. Discipline the body and the mind will follow
The Reset You Actually Need – Day 4 We’re often told to fix our mindset first, to think more positively, feel more motivated, or “get our head right.” In Day 4…
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The Reset You Actually Need - Day 3. The personality traits you are romanticising that are ruining your progress
The Reset You Actually Need – Day 3 So many people believe their struggles are just “part of who they are.” In Day 3 of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 2. You Don't Need a New Life, You Need New Standards
The Reset You Actually Need – Day 2 Feeling like you need to change everything to finally feel better? In Day 2 of The Reset You Actually Need, we explore why…
- Do You F*cking Mind?
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 1. How to stop feeling stuck by changing your state
Bonjour 2026! Its that time again where we hit the ground running with a January mini series. For the next 10 days (week days that is) I will be releasing a…
Do You F*cking Mind?466. Incredible sulk, Do I leap into a new life or am i just escaping? Toxic comments and unwavering opinions (Headnoise)
In this episode, I answer your voicemail questions! If you would like to send in a question email please email: info@dyfmpod.com or if you…
Do You F*cking Mind?Delayed gratification and how it can change your life (E)
Sydney Live Show February 4th, tickets are on sale here. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow…
Do You F*cking Mind?Why knowing your limitations will unleash your potential (E)
Sydney Live Show February 4th, tickets are on sale here. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow…
Do You F*cking Mind?If you want lasting change, do these 5 things (E)
In this encore episode, I break down 5 tips on how you can better structure your goals and stick to them. Brain fact: Narcolepsy Sydney Live Show February 4th…
Do You F*cking Mind?Dealing narcissist in-laws (Perfect for Christmas) (E)
In this encore episode, I talk about Narcissism. What actually makes someone a narcissist? And what’s the REAL difference between covert and overt narcissism?…
Do You F*cking Mind?Increase your self worth FAST with these 6 steps (E)
Your self-worth sets the tone for everything. From your relationships to your career. In this Encore Episode, I break down six powerful, science-backed…
Do You F*cking Mind?465. Retroactive Jealousy & How to Stand by My Decisions (Headnoise)
In this episode, I answer your voicemail questions! If you would like to send in a question email please email: info@dyfmpod.com or if you…
Do You F*cking Mind?464. Seeing too many paths & how do you speak more positively about your past? (Headnoise)
In this episode I answer 3 of your voicemail questions! If you would like to send in a question email please email: info@dyfmpod.com or if you…
Do You F*cking Mind?463. Navigating Complex Friendships, Feeling Stuck in a Year of "Almosts" & Job Anxiety (Headnoise)
Welcome to today's podcast episode where I answer your questions! With 300,000 new listeners this year, I am answering more and more of your questions to help…
Do You F*cking Mind?Brain Fact: Changing your surroundings to improve your focus
Brain Fact of the week: Changing your surroundings to improve your focus Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow…
Do You F*cking Mind?462. 5 steps to declutter your life and mind before 2026
In this episode I give you 5 actionable steps to declutter your life and mind before the New Year. Sydney Live Show February 4th, tickets are on sale here…
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How to stop ruminating thoughts and replaying scenarios that make you go crazy. (E)
Do you find yourself obsessively replaying conversations, worrying about what you should’ve said, or overanalysing situations long after they’ve passed? You’re…
Do You F*cking Mind?Brain Fact: Munchausen Syndrome by proxy
Brain Fact of the week: Munchausen Syndrome by proxy Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind…
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461. How to master detachment to get what you really want. 9 simple steps
Are you holding on too tightly to outcomes and wondering why things keep slipping away? In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly why desperation leads to…
Do You F*cking Mind?460. Do I stay or do I go? (Headnoise)
Beans! I am doing a Sydney Live Show in February, tickets are on sale here. In this Head Noise Episode I answer all your Voice Message Questions! If you…
Do You F*cking Mind?Brain Fact: Water Intoxication.
Brain Fact of the week: Water Intoxication. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG…
Do You F*cking Mind?459. The Top Belief of people with High Self Esteem
In today's episode, I discuss and explain the core beliefs of people with high self-esteem! I cover key traits of high and low self-esteem, how self-esteem…
Do You F*cking Mind?458. Building Deeper Adult Friendship & more (Headnoise)
Beans! I am doing a Sydney Live Show in February, tickets are on sale here. In this Head Noise Episode I answer all your questions you emailed in! From how to…
Do You F*cking Mind?Brain Fact: Neurofibrillary Tangles
Brain Fact of the week: Neurofibrillary Tangles Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on…