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The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast
The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast
Hosted by Danielle Black
A direct, evidence-based podcast for people navigating all-things separation and divorce, including; post-separation abuse, family violence, parenting, property settlement and the family law system - with a relentless focus on protecting children and building a life beyond separation. Because, the advice your lawyer gives you is only the beginning. Family law tells you what the system can do. This podcast helps you understand what to…
Episodes
The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast68. The Power of your mind after separation: Sanctuary or Torture Chamber?
After separation, our mind can turn into either a sanctuary or a torture chamber. In this episode we touch on neuroplasticity, the brain–body loop, and how…
The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast67. When silence feels safer, and why 'communicating better' isn't enough
You know the message you need to send - your body knows it too. The heart race at each notification, the late‑night rehearsals, the drafts you delete because…
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66. Are you laying awake in the early hours? ...I've been there...
The clock says 3 a.m., but your mind won’t switch off. You can still feel your child’s legs wrapped around your waist at changeover, hear the cry that says…
The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast65. Child-Focused Parenting After Separation: A conversation with specialist coach Trudie Hargrave
What if you already have the power to protect your children after separation, but no one's ever told you? In this revealing conversation, Principal Coach and…
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64. Unveiling the Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™
The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ is launching after months of development, offering a comprehensive system that transforms protective parents from…
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63. The System that Fails Children: Part 3 - The evidence-based solution and what protecting children actually looks like
Evidence-based approaches that prioritise child safety after separation exist, yet our current family law system in Australia continues to fail children by…
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62. The System that Fails Children: Part 2 - How the 2006 amendments betrayed children's safety and created twenty years of policy failure
The 2006 amendments to Australia's Family Law Act were hailed as progressive reforms designed to promote children's relationships with both parents after…
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61. The System that Fails Children: Part 1 - The professionals who can't identify abuse and why our children are paying the price
What happens when the very experts meant to protect our children can't identify the abuse that's harming them? Australian research from the University of…
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60. Breaking the cycle: Three important steps to protective parenting
Navigating life after separation requires more than just knowing what your children need - it demands the capacity to advocate for them even when it's deeply…
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59. It's never too late: Repairing your child's attachment after separation
Even when parenting arrangements seem impossible to change, we can strengthen our children's attachment security through consistent, attuned care during the…
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58. Beyond "Kids are resilient": The neuroscience of attachment disruption
Attachment theory is a crucial but often misunderstood concept that significantly impacts children's wellbeing after parents separate. Understanding attachment…
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57. The '50-50' myth: When equal shared parenting time harms children
What if the arrangement everyone claims is "best for children" after separation is actually harming them? This provocative question forms the foundation of our…
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56. How my personal story shapes my mission to fight for better post-separation outcomes
In this episode, I pull back the curtain on my personal journey through coercive control and post-separation abuse in this raw, vulnerable episode*. I share…
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55. Debunking post-separation myths: Why do so many professionals get the recommendations wrong?
Ever had that gut feeling that the "professional advice" about your parenting arrangements just didn't fit your child's needs? You're not alone, and you're…
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54. Protective parenting vs. conflict avoidance: The choice that changes everything
Welcome back to a transformative episode after a year-long hiatus! While I've been away from the microphone, I've been deeply immersed in the trenches with my…
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53. Navigating communication with your controlling ex: The importance of boundaries for breaking the cycle of abuse
Ever wondered how to regain control when communicating with a controlling ex-partner? Join me, Australian Separation and Divorce Coach Danielle Black, as we…
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52. Do you have the right support on your separation journey? How to choose the right coach for you and your situation.
Join me, Australian coach Danielle Black, as I discuss how my specialised coaching approach prioritises the well-being of both you and your children, equipping…
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51. Part Two: Do they really have a personality disorder? Differentiating PTSD, male entitlement and personality disorders
Can you truly distinguish personality disorders from PTSD and CPTSD, or are the lines more blurred than we think? Join me, Danielle Black, as I unravel the…
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50. Part One: Do they really have a personality disorder? ...Why it's time to stop calling abusers "narcissists"
What happens when we hastily label our abusive ex-partners as narcissists? Join me, specialist Australian Separation & Divorce Coach Danielle Black, as I…
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49. Part 9 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Abusive and Neglectful Parenting
This episode of the Post-Separation Abuse Podcast, hosted by Danielle Black, promises to tackle the disturbing realities of abusive and neglectful parenting…
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48. Part 8 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Cultural, Spiritual & Religious abuse
Can cultural and spiritual beliefs be weaponised against you, even after a relationship ends? On this episode of the Post-Separation Abuse Podcast with…
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47. Part 7 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Economic and Financial Control
Ever felt trapped in your own life due to someone else's control over your finances? Discover the insidious world of economic and financial abuse as we unveil…
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46. Part 6 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Undermining and sabotaging healthy parenting
Have you ever felt like your role as a parent is constantly being sabotaged by your ex? The struggle is real! Controlling and abusive former partners can use…
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45. Part 5 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Using and disregarding children
Welcome. I'm Danielle Black, and today we're exploring the manipulative tactics used by controlling abusers who weaponise children in their ongoing power…
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44. Part 4 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Isolation
Help me to shatter the silence surrounding post-separation abuse as I reveal the unseen struggles that many victim-survivors face. In this episode I expose the…
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43. Not Your F*cking Job
Every day, women across Australia are grappling with the crushing weight of domestic violence, and their cries for help are too often muffled by a system that…
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42. Part 3 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Minimising, denying and blaming the protective parent.
In this episode I peel back the layers of manipulation and control that continue long after a relationship ends. We're not just talking about anger-fueled…
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41. Part 2 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Harassment, intimidation, stalking & threats.
As your navigator through the stormy seas of post-separation abuse, I'm here to shine a light on the often unseen tactics abusers wield to keep their grip on…
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40. Part 1 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Using systems and institutions
This episode reveals how abusers wield systems and institutions as tools of manipulation, continuing to torment their former partners long after the…
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39. Managing your mind post-separation: The importance of optimism
Discover the transformative path to empowerment after a break from a restrictive or abusive relationship. With me, Danielle Black, as your guide, this episode…
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38. Empowering our kids: Nurturing consent and personal boundaries
Growing up in the 80s meant boundaries were often blurred or altogether nonexistent for many of us, myself included. Today, I'm sharing my journey and the…
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37. Boundaries: Taking back our power and control, one boundary at a time.
You're not alone on the path toward reclaiming your life after separation—countless courageous women have walked this journey, and their stories of…
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36. Healthy boundaries: What are they and how can they help us post-separation?
Whether you're navigating the rough waters of separation, enduring the aftermath of divorce, or co-parenting with an ex-partner who exerts control, this…
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35. When your mental health is attacked...and a rant about equal shared parenting time
The hidden gambit of abusers to weaponize mental health allegations in post-separation parenting disputes is both cruel and cunning. As mentioned in the title…
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34. Part Two: Confronting the internalised misogyny of flying monkeys...and ourselves
I've felt the sting of disbelief and the accusations of "liar!" from 'flying monkeys' first-hand. In this episode I continue to peel back the layers of…
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33. Part One: Confronting the internalised misogyny of flying monkeys...and ourselves
Have you ever witnessed a friend or family member supporting someone you know is harmful? In the latest episode, I pull back the curtain on the role of 'flying…
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32. Unmasking 'Flying Monkeys': The allies, advocates and enablers of abusers.
Discover the insidious ways enablers, allies, and advocates of abusers can deepen the wounds of post-separation abuse. I'm your host, Australian specialist…
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31. BONUS: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - flexible thinking, compromise and high-quality preparation
I'm Danielle Black, your Specialist Separation, Divorce, and Co-Parenting Coach, here to guide Australian women through the stormy waters of separation…
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30. Part Four: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - taking responsibility for healing trauma and complex PTSD
The conversation in this episode branches out to the often-shadowed corners of complex PTSD, where symptoms can masquerade as other disorders, leading to…
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29. Part Three: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - regular written updates & photo sharing apps
In this episode I emphasise the importance of consistent written communication as a safeguard against false accusations. Whether it's setting up a new email…
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28. Part Two: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - unsupervised day visits & drug and alcohol testing
As a mother who's trudged through the murky waters of post-separation abuse, I understand the tightrope walk of safeguarding children while facing the…
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27. Part One: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - supervised visitation
As a parent who might be battling to shield your children from an abusive ex, the fear of being slapped with accusations of 'alienation' is all too real…
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26. The myth of 'parental alienation syndrome' and it's harmful legacy in Australian Family Law
Unraveling the complexities of 'alienation' in family law, this episode dissects the controversial concept of the debunked 'parental alienation syndrome', and…
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25. The importance of building your village when navigating separation & divorce
Struggling to navigate through the stormy seas of separation or co-parenting with a controlling person? Inside this episode, I share the importance of…
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24. Why Aussie women should STOP consuming American family law horror stories.
Navigating the labyrinth of family court post-separation can feel like a descent into the unknown, but I'm no stranger to this daunting path. I've lived…
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23. Let's talk about parallel parenting
Navigating the stormy seas of separation becomes even more challenging when you're tethered to a high-conflict ex-partner, doesn't it? In this episode, I don't…
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22. Firm foundations after separation: the importance of emotion regulation
When you're caught in the throes of divorce and tasked with co-parenting, emotions can run high—especially when communication with an ex feels like navigating…
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21. Embracing life post-separation: the power of radical acceptance
Emerging from the fog of separation, I found myself anchored by an unexpected philosophy: radical acceptance. This episode peels back the layers of this…
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20. Empty promises: the abusers go-to lie to maintain control
The latest episode peels back the curtain on the raw and heartfelt journey to reclaim autonomy and safety for those entangled in a web of control and broken…
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19. Exploring stress and overwhelming emotions after separation
Facing the aftermath of a separation can feel like navigating a storm without a compass. In this latest episode, I unpack tools and techniques that can help…
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18. Surviving to Thriving: the foundations of self-care after separation
Curious about how the simple act of a better sleep routine can be the cornerstone of reclaiming your life, especially after the trials of an abusive…
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17. Crafting child-centered parenting plans post-separation
Navigating the choppy waters of post-separation parenting isn't just about splitting time; it's about knitting together a plan that holds your children's…
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16. One family in two homes: talking with your children about separation
Imagine having to navigate the stormy seas of separation while holding your child’s hand—how do you break the news without capsizing their world? The latest…
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15. The importance of mindset and believing that your kids will be ok
As I draw from the depths of my own journey through family violence, post-separation abuse, and enduring the court system, I share a beacon of hope in this…
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14. Exposing the bluff in family law intimidation
Ever been struck by the sinking feeling that your ex’s lawyer-spun accusations of control and alienation might actually hold water in court? Today, I'm…
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13. Unseen battles: addressing post-separation abuse in same-sex relationships
Have you ever considered the hidden struggles within same-sex relationships, particularly when it comes to the often overlooked post-separation abuse among…
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Should you agree to your ex-partner's demands to avoid going to court?
Stepping out from the shadows of a high-conflict separation and co-parenting scenario with an abusive ex is a journey many dread. I've felt the sting of regret…
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12. The reality of family law and the court system
As a survivor of an abusive relationship, the journey through the legal labyrinth of family law was a battleground I never anticipated, one that many of you…
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11. Dispelling the myth of shared blame in high-conflict separation & divorce
Have you ever felt unjustly blamed for the strife in a high-conflict separation? In this episode I'm tearing down the myth that both parties are equally…
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10. Navigating High-Conflict Separation: The Top 10 Mistakes to Avoid (Part 2)
Navigating the turbulent waters of high-conflict separation, divorce and co-parenting requires more than just a life vest; it demands a skilled navigator. This…