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Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
I am a Chid & Adolescent Psychotherapist. The podcast are educational and orientated towards parents. We cover a wide range of sometimes, tricky subjects, in the hope of reassuring parents that no matter how hard things may seem, there are things you can do.
Thank you.
Kim
Episodes
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Leaving The One Way Street. Episode 2.Envy’s Quiet Violence
Send us Fan Mail Envy doesn’t always show up as open jealousy. Sometimes it’s quieter and sharper: a reflex that treats goodness as a threat. I’m Kim Lee, a…
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Leaving the one way street. Episode 1. Reality Fracture
Send us Fan Mail A relationship can survive conflict, stress, and even awkward misunderstandings. What it can’t survive for long is a slow collapse of shared…
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Adrianna & Chris. Teaser 2,,,,,,,
Send us Fan Mail What if the moment you feel the angriest is the moment you start to heal? We follow Adriana’s raw, unfiltered shift from depression to…
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Children Living in the Shadow of Addiction. Episode 6. Breaking The Shadow Cycle
Send us Fan Mail What breaks a family’s silence when addiction becomes the weather in every room? We open the door with language, boundaries, and a clear-eyed…
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Children living in the shadow of addiction. Episode 5. Lost In The Chaos
Send us Fan Mail Families don’t simply live beside addiction; they slowly reorganize around it. We open up the hidden mechanics of that shift and focus on the…
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Leaving The One Way Street Teaser
Send us Fan Mail What if the sweetest words at the start are the first signs you’re being set up to disappear? Our teaser for Leaving the One Way Street…
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Children living in the shadows of addiction. Episode 4. The Damage.....
Send us Fan Mail A quiet house can be the loudest place a child knows. We explore how growing up around addiction trains the nervous system to scan for threat…
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Children living in the shadows of addiction. Episode 3. Guardians Of The Family Secret
Send us Fan Mail Secrets can feel safer than truth when love is on the line. We explore how silence takes root in families affected by addiction, why children…
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Children Living in The Shadow of Addiction. Caught Between Love And Fear. Episode 2.
Send us Fan Mail We look at how children adapt to parental addiction by becoming the emotional caretakers at home, and why love and fear toward the same parent…
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Children In The Shadow Of Addiction
Send us Fan Mail A home doesn’t announce addiction with a single moment; it changes the air. We open our six-part series by stepping into a child’s view of…
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When conditions collide. Episode 6.
Send us Fan Mail What if the traits we rush to “fix” are the very ones a child will one day rely on to thrive? We close our series by shifting the spotlight…
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When conditions collide. Episode 5
Send us Fan Mail Overwhelm isn’t a mystery when you see how the AuDHD brain handles information, interest, and energy. We dig into practical ways parents and…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
When conditions collide. Episode 4
Send us Fan Mail What does life feel like inside a child’s mind when thoughts move faster than the room, and sounds stack on top of each other like waves? We…
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Two Systems, One Child. When Conditions Collide. Episode 3.
Send us Fan Mail We unpack the double bind of AUDHD and how a child can need sameness while chasing novelty, with stories that make the tension vivid. We share…
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When Conditions Collide. Episode 2.
Send us Fan Mail A calm morning that turns chaotic in minutes. A child who seems engaged, then suddenly shuts down. We pull back the curtain on what’s…
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When Two Neurotypes Collide. Episode 1.
Send us Fan Mail Why does one child crave change at 9 a.m. and then beg for sameness by noon? We open the door to AUDHD—the overlap of autism and ADHD—and…
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Facing Psychological Reality. Episode 10. Integration (joining the dots)
Send us Fan Mail What if real strength isn’t harder armor, but a steadier center? We close our series by unpacking psychological integration—the lived ability…
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'In Relationship" The Introduction
Send us Fan Mail What if your child’s “bad behavior” is actually a smart, protective move against feelings that feel too big to hold? Kim Lee, child and…
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A Therapist’s Preface To Understanding Your Child
Send us Fan Mail We share the preface to a new book on parenting as a psychological journey, moving beyond behavior to the feelings and meanings underneath…
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How A Childhood Shaped A Child Psychotherapist
Send us Fan Mail What happens when a therapist’s biography and clinical craft meet—without letting one swallow the other? We open up about Kim’s early years in…
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Psychological Reality, Plainly Stated
Send us Fan Mail We explore psychological reality as the thread linking child development, adult defenses and relational health. Behavior is reframed as…
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Silent Scars: Understanding Emotional Harm In Children
Send us Fan Mail What happens when a child learns that their feelings don’t count? We trace the quiet pathways of emotional harm—those repeated moments of…
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Shades Of Truth
Send us Fan Mail What if the first lie is the one we tell ourselves? We open a clear-eyed look at deception by tracing its most common origin: the small inner…
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From Attachment To Identity: How Early Relationships Shape Who We Become
Send us Fan Mail What if the self you present isn’t the self you possess? We sit down to unpack how identity actually forms—patiently, relationally, and often…
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From Being Held In Mind To Becoming A Self
Send us Fan Mail What if the most important story you ever learn about yourself is written before you can speak? We dive into how attachment shapes an inner…
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Facing Feelings, Not Fighting Them
Send us Fan Mail What if a child’s “bad behavior” is actually a message? We unpack the hidden logic of defenses—the mind’s way of staying safe when emotions…
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Inside The Mind We Live In
Send us Fan Mail What if the biggest driver of your reactions isn’t what happened, but what it meant to you? In part one of our series, Kim Lee, child and…
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They Swore To Tell The Truth… Just Not The Whole Truth
Send us Fan Mail When someone’s words and actions don’t match, the mind works overtime to fill the gaps. We open this finale with a clear look at the hidden…
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“I Don’t Lie” And Other Cowardly Magic Tricks
Send us Fan Mail What happens when “truth” arrives in pieces and you’re asked to treat fragments as the whole? We pull back the curtain on emotional deception…
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You Didn’t Fail; Your Expectations Were Shaped And Shattered
Send us Fan Mail Hope can be a lifeline—and a trap. We dive into the psychology of emotional deception, exploring why it’s so hard to let go even when the…
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Seeing Through Emotional Deception
Send us Fan Mail Ever felt your mind wobble even when the facts seem clear? We dig into the psychology of emotional deception—how idealization can feel like…
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Trust Shattered
Send us Fan Mail What happens inside us when a trusted story breaks? We open the door on betrayal’s hidden physics—how a single realization can send a jolt…
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How Fear And Shame Turn Truth Into A Mask
Send us Fan Mail What if deception didn’t start with a lie, but with a feeling you couldn’t bear to show? We pull back the curtain on the quiet beginnings of…
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Emotional Deception, Defined
Send us Fan Mail What if the person who hurt you wasn’t only hiding from you—but also from themselves? We open a clear, unflinching exploration of emotional…
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Calm Beats Pressure For GCSEs
Send us Fan Mail The exam tunnel can feel endless for teens—and intense for the adults who love them. We walk through a clear, compassionate way to support…
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Understanding Adolescent Stress During GCSEs
Send us Fan Mail The weeks before GCSEs can feel like living with a smoke alarm that won’t switch off. We unpack what’s really happening inside a teenager’s…
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How Internalized Pressure Turns Studying Into Fear And What To Do About It
Send us Fan Mail The weeks before exams can turn even the calmest home into a pressure cooker. Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, unpacks how…
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Your Anxiety Doesn’t Define Your Parenting
Send us Fan Mail We explore how parental anxiety erodes agency and how simple, honest repair rebuilds security for us and our children. We share clinical…
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Anxiety And The Caring Parent
Send us Fan Mail We explore how parental anxiety lives in the body, why it persists even when life looks fine, and how it shapes the parent–child loop. We…
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Parenting Anxiety, Explained Simply
Send us Fan Mail We explore how anxiety shows up in parenting, why the body treats imagined risks like real danger, and how to shift from spirals of “what if”…
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Understanding Parental Depression And Its Impact On Children
Send us Fan Mail We look at parental depression without stigma, explain how children sense emotional distance, and share simple ways to repair connection while…
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Your Feelings Set The Weather Your Child Grows In
Send us Fan Mail What if the strongest force in your home isn’t your routine, but your emotional weather? We launch a three-part series exploring how a…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Holding Certainty, and the Uncertainty Beneath It.
Send us Fan Mail When certainty feels like the only safe place, how do we keep thinking together? We sit down with child and adolescent psychotherapist Kim Lee…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Holding Complexity In Gender Distress
Send us Fan Mail What if the loudest certainty from a teen is really a shield against pain rather than a final truth about self? We sit with that possibility…
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Why Your Feelings Are Always Real And Your Actions Still Count
Send us Fan Mail Ever been told “your feelings are valid” and felt both seen and confused? We dig into that tension with a clear, compassionate guide to…
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Children Caught In The Crossfire
Send us Fan Mail Conflict after separation can look like simple disagreement, but what sits underneath is a complex struggle for power, control, and…
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Your Lawyer Isn’t Your Therapist, And Your Child Isn’t Your Messenger
Send us Fan Mail When separation feels like threat, logic takes a back seat and the fight can become a way of life. We unpack why some breakups escalate into…
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From Defiance To Regulation: A Practical Guide For Parents
Send us Fan Mail When defiance shows up at home or school, it can feel like a wall you can’t climb. We close our five-part journey on oppositional defiant…
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Untangling ODD From Look-Alike Conditions
Send us Fan Mail Ever feel like you’ve tried everything and the explosions keep coming? We take you inside the confusing world of oppositional behavior and…
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From Diagnosis To Direction: Evidence-Based Help For Defiant Behavior
Send us Fan Mail What if the fastest way to reduce defiant behavior isn’t harsher consequences, but a better map? We take you from accurate diagnosis to…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Understanding Oppositional Defiant Disorder From The Inside Out
Send us Fan Mail We lay out a clear foundation for understanding oppositional defiant disorder, showing how biology, temperament, relationships, and…
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When Defiance Isn’t Just Disobedience: A Clinician’s Guide For Parents
Send us Fan Mail The hardest part of parenting a chronically defiant child isn’t the arguing—it’s the confusion. We peel back the label of Oppositional Defiant…
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They Called You Daily, Yet Never Asked About You
Send us Fan Mail What if the person who felt safest was also the source of harm? We dive deep into emotional deception—the subtle, staged version of intimacy…
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Congratulations, You Blocked Them; Now Evict Them From Your Head
Send us Fan Mail Freedom doesn’t arrive the day you block a number; it starts when their voice stops living rent-free in your head. We dive into the psychology…
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From Control To Respect
Send us Fan Mail Control can wear many masks—concern, conviction, even care—but its impact shows up as fear, confusion, and shrinking space for another…