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Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
I am a Chid & Adolescent Psychotherapist. The podcast are educational and orientated towards parents. We cover a wide range of sometimes, tricky subjects, in the hope of reassuring parents that no matter how hard things may seem, there are things you can do.
Thank you.
Kim
Episodes
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Hidden Harm. The Child Who Never Complains
Send us Fan Mail The child who never complains can look like a dream: easygoing, mature, no drama, no demands. But that quiet can also be a survival strategy…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
A Practical Guide To Recognizing Child Safeguarding Risks
Send us Fan Mail A child can look “fine” right up until the moment everything becomes undeniable, and that gap is where safeguarding lives. I walk through what…
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What Child Safeguarding Really Means And Why It Matters
Send us Fan Mail Safeguarding can sound like a threat, but it was built to solve a different problem: adults seeing harm and not acting in time. I’m Kim Lee, a…
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Children Absorb What We Don’t Process
Send us Fan Mail A child’s biggest struggle might not start with the child at all. When stress, fear, grief, or anger can’t be carried by the adults in a home…
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Overwhelm Isn’t Failure, It’s Capacity Being Exceeded
Send us Fan Mail Parenting overwhelm rarely looks like the movie version of a breakdown. Sometimes it’s quiet. You still get everyone fed, you still answer the…
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Parental Anger Unpacked
Send us Fan Mail If you’ve ever heard yourself shout and then wondered, “Where did that come from?” you’re not alone and you’re not broken. I’m Kim Lee, a…
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The Avoidant. Reality Confrontation After An Avoidant Relationship
Send us Fan Mail You can feel the pull to confront them, to make them admit what they did, to finally give you the closure you were denied. I’m talking about…
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The Avoidant Partner. Episode 2. If It Felt Like Love Yet Broke You......
Send us Fan Mail Someone can swear they love you, vanish without warning, come back warm for a moment, then disappear again and still have you blaming…
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The silent Damage. Avoidant Attachment Explained
Send us Fan Mail Loneliness doesn’t always come from being alone. Sometimes it comes from sitting next to someone who speaks to you, lives with you, even says…
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Episode 3. The Parent in The Consulting Room, The Depressed Parent
Send us Fan Mail A parent can be physically present and still feel unreachable even to themselves. That’s the reality we sit with here: parental depression…
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Episode 2. The Parent in The Consulting Room, The Anxious Parent
Send us Fan Mail Your child goes quiet for a second and your body tightens before anything even happens. That moment can feel like intuition, but it’s often…
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The Parent Beneath The Parenting Episode 1.
Send us Fan Mail There’s the parent you show the world and then there’s the parent who lives inside you. The one who gets everyone out the door, remembers the…
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Relational Injury Recovery
Send us Fan Mail Something shifts the day you stop wondering if you imagined it and start trusting what you saw, felt, and endured. I’m Kim Lee, child and…
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Relational Injury. Episode 2. The Reckoning.
Send us Fan Mail Knowing something was wrong is one thing. Living with the truth once you finally see it is another. We dig into “the reckoning,” the phase…
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Relational Injury. Part 1. Recognition
Send us Fan Mail Something shifts when you finally admit, quietly, that a relationship has been hurting you. Not a single blow up moment, but a slow…
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Adolescence Netflix series.- Family Systems Under Stress
Send us Fan Mail A teen doesn’t implode in a vacuum and the most frightening part of Adolescence is how ordinary the failure can look from the outside. I’m Kim…
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Adolescent Rage. Netfkix series.- Disorganized Attachment And Adolescent Rage
Send us Fan Mail A teen doesn’t go from calm to catastrophic out of nowhere, and I don’t think a single factor like cyberbullying explains what we’re really…
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From Inside The Consulting Room. The Child In The Middle
Send us Fan Mail Some children aren’t told to choose between parents, yet they live as if they must. When co-parenting breaks down into hostility, chronic…
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From Inside The Consulting Room. When Therapy Is Not Enough
Send us Fan Mail Some clinical stories don’t stay with you because of the details, but because of the unfairness and the feeling of watching a slow-motion…
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Trauma, Sexualisation, and Adolescent Risk-When Closeness Feels Dangerous
Send us Fan Mail The most baffling relational pattern I see in high-risk adolescents is also one of the most human: things start to go well, and that’s exactly…
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Sexualisation and Trauma — When The Body Speaks
Send us Fan Mail A teenager walks into my room and her body tells a story before she says a word: painfully thin, tense, avoiding eye contact, braced for…
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From inside the consulting room.The Angry Child
Send us Fan Mail A child’s anger can fill the whole room. It can make families feel trapped in the same fight every day, and it can leave teachers and…
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From Inside The Consulting Room. Relationship first......
Send us Fan Mail Most families don’t come to therapy because they’re “doing it wrong.” They come because something has started to hurt, spiral, or break down…
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The Quiet Child
Send us Fan Mail The kids who shout get noticed. The kids who stay polite, helpful, and “mature for their age” can disappear in plain sight and that’s where…
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Childhood In the Digital World. Episode 6. Build Before You Ban Screens
Send us Fan Mail Screens can look like the problem when a child won’t put the device down, but we’ve found that the real story usually lives underneath the…
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Childhood In a Digital World. Episode 5. Connection Before Control
Send us Fan Mail Your child is sitting right next to you, but somehow they feel miles away. When screens take over, it’s tempting to clamp down with tighter…
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The Digital Childhood. Episode 4.Dopamine Design And Kids Screen Time
Send us Fan Mail Turning off a screen can look like a simple request, but for many kids it lands like a shock to the nervous system. We unpack why that switch…
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Childhood in the digital world .The Disconnected Self
Send us Fan Mail A child can be bright, polite, and high-functioning while feeling unreal inside. That quiet distance is easy to miss, especially when there…
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Childhood In The Digital World. Episode 2. Belonging & Connection.
Send us Fan Mail Childhood doesn’t only happen in playgrounds anymore. For a lot of kids, friendship, status, comfort, and belonging now live in group chats…
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The Digital Childhood. Episode 1. Are we asking the right questions?
Send us Fan Mail Screen time advice can make you feel like the solution is simple: count the minutes, set the limit, take the device away. But if you’ve tried…
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The Screen Time Evidence Gap.
Send us Fan Mail The screen time conversation keeps getting reduced to a single number, and that’s exactly where parents get stuck. Kim Lee, a child and…
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Adolescent Criminality Is A Developmental Signal, Not An Identity
Send us Fan Mail The scariest part of adolescent criminality is how fast a family can start talking like the future is already decided. When a teen gets…
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The Psychology Of Adolescent Criminality. Ep 3. The Unseen Child & Acting Out
Send us Fan Mail A child can be fed, spoken to, and provided for, yet still feel unreachable inside. When that happens, silence doesn’t always stay silent, it…
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The Psychology Of Adolescent Criminality. Ep 2. The Adolescent Brain Under Pressure
Send us Fan Mail Teenagers don’t wake up and choose chaos the way adults imagine it. They can tell you the rules, list the consequences, and even explain the…
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The Psychology of Adolescent Criminality. Episode 1. When A Teen Breaks The Law
Send us Fan Mail The worst part often isn’t the offense. It’s the moment the phone rings and a parent hears, “Your child has been involved in an incident,” and…
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The Psychology of Adolescent Criminality. Introduction. Rethinking Youth Crime
Send us Fan Mail A single word can change a child’s life: criminal. Once that label lands, adults often stop asking “what led to this?” and start deciding…
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Inside The Consulting Room. Episode 9. The Exploding Adolescent
Send us Fan Mail He walks in without ringing the bell, drops into the chair, and hits me with: “Can we just get this over with?” From that first moment, I’m…
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Inside The Consulting Room. Episode 8. The Child Who Felt Too Much
Send us Fan Mail A child who cries “too easily” can leave adults feeling helpless, impatient, or quietly alarmed. We sit with that discomfort and tell the…
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Inside The Consulting Room. Episode 6. Trust, Betrayal, And A Sixteen-Year-Old’s Guard Up
Send us Fan Mail She sits with her arms folded, fists clenched, and every answer measured like it might be used against her. Ava is sixteen, bright, and…
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Inside The Consulting Room. Episde 5. Childhood Fear And The Need For Rituals
Send us Fan Mail A child who can’t sleep, can’t relax, and can’t stop checking, counting, and repeating rituals is often labeled “controlling.” We tell a…
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Inside the consulting room. Episode 4.The Invisible Child
Send us Fan Mail A child sits politely on the sofa, answers every question, never argues, never asks for anything, and somehow still feels missing. That’s the…
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Inside The Consulting Room, Episode 3. The Angry Child
Send us Fan Mail A child slams a bag on the floor, throws a block across the room, and mutters, “I hate this place.” It’s easy to label that as bad behavior or…
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Inside the Consulting Room. Episode 2. When Helping Everyone Becomes A Hidden Cry
Send us Fan Mail Emily is the kid everyone leans on. She helps classmates, comforts younger students, and props up her family at home. From the outside, she…
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In the Consulting Room. E[psode 1. Silence Speaks
Send us Fan Mail A child walks into a therapy room and says nothing for fifteen minutes. No answers. No small talk. Just a pencil pressed hard into paper. That…
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Inside the Consulting Room. Introduction. The Blessed Drink That Nobody Can Touch
Send us Fan Mail A child keeps an empty drink container in the fridge and no one is allowed to touch it. Another won’t even open their can for weeks. Those…
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Small People Big Lives
Send us Fan Mail You can’t understand a child’s “behavior problem” until you ask what it’s trying to say. I’m Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapist…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Trauma Recovery
Send us Fan Mail Trauma doesn’t only live in a memory. It can live in a child’s nervous system, turning everyday life into a constant scan for danger. I’m Kim…
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Shame After Trauma
Send us Fan Mail Shame can slip into a child’s life so quietly that it starts to feel like personality. We talk about the moment trauma stops being “something…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
PTSD Episode 2. A Brain Under Threat
Send us Fan Mail A child flinches at a loud sound before they can even think. A ten-year-old who survived a car crash scans every passing vehicle months later…
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How Trauma Stays In The Body
Send us Fan Mail Trauma doesn’t just “go away” because time passes, and for kids it often shows up in the only language they can access: behavior. I’m Kim Lee…
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Leaving The One Way Street. Episode 5. Leaving The Psychological Labyrinth
Send us Fan Mail Some relationships don’t end because you stop loving. They end because your mind can’t keep living inside a maze of distortion. I’m Kim Lee…
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Leaving The One Way Street. Episode 5, When Relationships Organise Around Deception
Send us Fan Mail A relationship can survive a lot, but it cannot survive a reality that keeps getting rewritten. We dig into what happens when deception…