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Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
I am a Chid & Adolescent Psychotherapist. The podcast are educational and orientated towards parents. We cover a wide range of sometimes, tricky subjects, in the hope of reassuring parents that no matter how hard things may seem, there are things you can do.
Thank you.
Kim
Episodes
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Why Some Men Change
Send us Fan Mail What does real change look like when control has become a way of life? We dig into the hard edge of responsibility, beyond apologies and…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Taking Responsibility Changes Everything You Keep Repeating
Send us Fan Mail Stop scrolling, start owning. We dig into the real turning point in men’s relationships: moving from justification to responsibility, not as…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
From Wound To Wisdom: Reclaiming Your Worth
Send us Fan Mail A clean break isn’t the finish line. Kim Lee, child and adolescent psychotherapist, invites us into a deeper kind of healing: recovery as the…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
So You’re Not Controlling? Your Partner Disagrees
Send us Fan Mail What if the control you reject is the control you practice when you feel hurt, scared, or ignored? We take an unflinching look at the “inner…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
A Therapist Explains How Men Can Recognize And Change Coercive Behavior
Send us Fan Mail Control can look like care until you notice the fear it leaves behind. We sit down to unpack how coercive control takes root in relationships…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
You Are Not The Problem—Naming Abuse Restores Power
Send us Fan Mail Fear doesn’t vanish in a blaze of glory—it cracks in a quiet moment of truth. We call that moment the reckoning: the shift from “maybe it’s…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Green Peppers, Guilty Conscience, And A Better Self
Send us Fan Mail What if “doing what’s right” starts with an inner test you can feel, not a rulebook you borrow? We dive into the everyday practice of…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Why I Speak About Domestic Abuse
Send us Fan Mail Abuse rarely announces itself with a shout; it appears as confusion, shrinking confidence, and a slow drift from your own instincts. In this…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
How One Emotionally Available Parent Can Change Outcomes
Send us Fan Mail When parents stay at odds, kids often end up carrying weight that isn’t theirs. We unpack how to cut that burden down—starting with emotional…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Parents Can Protect Children By Noticing The Signs Of Emotional Strain
Send us Fan Mail Children rarely say “I’m overwhelmed.” They show it. In this second part of our three-part series on children caught in the middle of parental…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Children Don’t Just Hear Arguments, They Feel Them
Send us Fan Mail Conflict leaves a mark on kids that words rarely capture. We unpack how children don’t think their way through parental fights—they feel them…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
I Didn’t Get Hit But It Hurt Anyway....
Send us Fan Mail Fear shouldn’t be the center of a life. Kim Lee, Child and Adolescent Psychotherapist, guides a clear, compassionate journey through recovery…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
How Coercive Control Echoes Into Parenting And What Heals It
Send us Fan Mail The breakup ended the relationship, but not the echoes. We sit with the hard truth many mothers face after coercive control: the voice of…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Rethinking Parental Alienation
Send us Fan Mail When conflict flares after separation, it’s tempting to grab the nearest label and call it an answer. We take you inside the messy reality…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
When Therapy Enters The Courtroom
Send us Fan Mail Courtrooms aren’t designed for children’s hearts, yet countless kids end up carrying the weight of adult conflict when mediation fails. We…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Rethinking 50-50 care Through A Child’s Eyes
Send us Fan Mail We challenge the idea that equal time is equal care and centre the child’s need for one secure base. Real stories from the consulting room…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Parenting Under Pressure
Send us Fan Mail Perfection isn’t the goal of parenting, and chasing it quietly drains the bond you’re trying to protect. We open the door on why care feels…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Understanding Adolescent Drug Use Through A Psychological Lens
Send us Fan Mail Fear, panic, and shame can eclipse clear thinking when a teen starts using substances. We cut through the noise with a psychological map that…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Your Teen Isn’t Broken, Their Brain Is Remodeling
Send us Fan Mail Ever wonder why small moments can explode into big storms with your teen? We go straight into the science of the adolescent brain and…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Understanding Eating Disorders In Young People
Send us Fan Mail Fifteen minutes can change how you see eating difficulties forever. We unpack what parents often miss—why secret rules, rigid routines, and…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Breaking The Giver–Taker Loop In Relationships
Send us Fan Mail Ever been praised for being the strong one and still felt invisible? We dig into the subtle but powerful giver–taker dynamic—where one partner…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
How Children Experience OCD And What Helps
Send us Fan Mail If you’ve ever wondered whether your child’s “quirks” are more than just preference, this conversation brings clarity and relief. Kim Lee, a…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Your Teen Isn’t Broken, Their Brain Is On Wi‑Fi With No Router
Send us Fan Mail Fear spikes when a teen starts taking bigger risks or turns pain inward, and most parents are left guessing what helps and what harms. We…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
We Made Four Courses So You Don’t Have To Google At 2 A.M.
Send us Fan Mail Searching for steady, evidence-based help when your child is struggling can feel like wandering a maze in the dark. We shine a light on what…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
When Adolescence is harder than you thought ep 3 of 8
Send us Fan Mail This is episode 3 of 8. In it I describe necessary transitions and the desire to seperate as a develomental stage.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Depression & Suicidality in young people
Send us Fan Mail We take a look at the correlation between Depression & Suicidality, the signs, how parents can help and services.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Responsibility 'for' or 'to'?
Send us Fan Mail In this episode I make an important distinction between our responsibilty 'to' and 'for' others. Relevant tp parent, caregivers, and all adult…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
The pain of 'Loss'....
Send us Fan Mail This is an honest look at what loss is. Intended for those who have or may be experiencing it....
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
What......? Not 'why?'.
Send us Fan Mail This is a something to help alter emotional states.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Who pulls the strings..?
Send us Fan Mail This episode looks at emotional manipulation in childhood and the consequences in adulthood. It will be particularly relevant to those who…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
When adolescence is harder than you thought-ep 2 of-8
Send us Fan Mail In this episode we look at how beliefs are not only formed but expressed through behaviour patterns
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Adolescence. When it's harder than you thought. EP.1 of 8
Send us Fan Mail This episode is the introduction to an 8 part series, where all of the major principles are connected
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
When the sadness doesn't lift.....
Send us Fan Mail This podcast explores Depression in children & young people.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
My Co-Therapists are, Oscar & Jess, MY DOGS
Send us Fan Mail A look at how the growing of a pup can lead to unexpected joy...
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Understanding Self Harming Behaviours in Children & Young People.
Send us Fan Mail This is intended to reassure parents that this powerful and frightening experience is something which can be understood and responded to....
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Waiting for CAMHS.....
Send us Fan Mail How to manage the period between referral and eventual appointment
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
ADHD. Episode 3.
Send us Fan Mail In this final episode, we look at those practical skills parents can develop to help their child. We examine emotional regulation and…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
ADHD. Helping parents understand and develop new tools. Episode 1.
Send us Fan Mail The first in a 3 part series which describes the 'Psychoeducational Approach' I use with children and teach their parents.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
ADHD. Shame and self esteem.
Send us Fan Mail Here, I describe what many children experience as a consequence of their ADHD
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Belefs 3. How we can facilitate change.
Send us Fan Mail I hope that this episode enables the understanding of how we can help children meaningfully feel free of the beliefs that have restricted them.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Just ask the Therapist....
Send us Fan Mail This is an invitation to request responses from me about parenting, whether newborn or Teenager. I will create a podcast covering all…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Internal Beliefs. Part 2
Send us Fan Mail In this episode I explore the 'I can do-I cant do' belief which finds expression through misunderstood behaviours.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Internal beliefs
Send us Fan Mail In this episode we explore what beliefs are, how they are formed and their influence upon our lives
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
When not to ask 'why did you.....?'
Send us Fan Mail This episode talks about the timing of asking children to reflect on their behaviour
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Parents can learn.....
Send us Fan Mail In this episode I want to reassure parents that learning more about the task, makes them stronger.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
I do what I am, I am not what I do
Send us Fan Mail The less visible part of being a Psychotherapist, a more personal view.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Attachment, early formation and types
Send us Fan Mail In this episode I talk about the nature of 'Attachment' and it's relevance, desribing the different types.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Empathy & Emotional intelligence
Send us Fan Mail These two functions develop out of experience, and not instruction. This podacst explains how....
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Parenting Adolescents in Distress
Send us Fan Mail This is a promotional podcast for those who wish to attend the course commencing February 23rd. Full course pack available from The Children's…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Birth and the brain experience
Send us Fan Mail We look in more detail at the experience of birth for the baby, understanding the processes which emerge.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
The developing brain during pregnancy
Send us Fan Mail Here we examine some essential features of the meaning of brain development.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Growing healthy small people
Send us Fan Mail This is an introduction to the inner world of the child. It begins at conception. It is the first of a series which concludes with…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Dirty little secrets
Send us Fan Mail The cost of abusive relationships children and young people
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
The Narcissist part 2.
Send us Fan Mail In part 2 we examine the ways in which it is possible to protect yourself, and recover from abusive behaviours.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Episode 5 Extinguishing the Gaslighter
Send us Fan Mail This episode describes some characteristic traits of the abusive relationship. It offers some initial guidance and is intended to open the…
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Episode 4. Anxiety reduction
Send us Fan Mail In this episode we learn another way of managing anxiety. Suitable for young people and adults, this exercise is a 'preventive' approach.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Episode 3. The SOOTHE technique
Send us Fan Mail Learning the 'SOOTHE' technique.
- Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
Covid-19 Stress, and the internal psychological world experience.
Send us Fan Mail On this updated version we look at internal factors and their relationship with stress