A Therapist Explains How Men Can Recognize And Change Coercive Behavior

Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour · Feb 9, 2026 · 12m · transcript

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Control can look like care until you notice the fear it leaves behind. We sit down to unpack how coercive control takes root in relationships, why it feels justified from the inside, and what it costs partners and children when power replaces empathy. Drawing on Kim Lee’s clinical experience as a child and adolescent psychotherapist, we break down a clear, three-category model that helps men understand their behavior without shame—and without letting responsibility slip away.

First, we define coercive control in plain terms: not a single argument, but a repeating pattern that…