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The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
I was the other woman for five years. He was married. It wasn't the plan — but it happened, and it changed everything about how I see love, relationships, and myself. The Scarlet Edit is my podcast. I started it because I was tired of carrying my story in silence and I knew I wasn't the only one. This is where I talk about affairs, infidelity, cheating, divorce, and starting over — without shame, without the moral lectures, and without pretending that love and relationships fit into the neat…
Episodes
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
How to Get Through the Holidays as the Other Woman
Listening in the Apple Podcasts app? Hit the + button at the top right so you can follow the show! Being the other woman during the holidays is lonely in a way…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Why Is the Other Woman Always Blamed for the Affair?
Why is the other woman always blamed when a married man cheats? I was the other woman for five years, and my comment section proves the answer every week. I've…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Will He Leave His Wife? A Therapist and the Other Woman Answer
Will he leave his wife? Does he still think about me? Why don't I feel shame about my affair? I sat down with Lauren LaRusso, psychotherapist, author of Beyond…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Is the Other Woman a Homewrecker? Reading My Comments
Is the other woman a homewrecker? According to my YouTube comments, yes. According to me, no. This week I read the comments people leave on my videos and I…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Why Don't I Feel Guilty About My Affair?
Why don't I feel guilty about my affair? And why does everyone expect me to? Last week a man commented on my Substack article to tell me I'm a whore. He read…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Should You Tell a New Partner You Were the Other Woman?
Should you tell a new partner you were the other woman? When I first started dating again post-breakup, I decided I would. I led with it. If I had to tell a…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Saying Yes to Dating in Your 40s (The Summer of George Finale)
Taking a break from dating apps after a summer of putting myself out there. That's where I landed in the Summer of George finale. Sixteen Friday episodes, four…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Why Do People Really Have Affairs? (It's Not Just Sex)
Are affairs just about sex? It's the question people jump to the second they hear the word affair, and after last week's conversation with Dr. Marie Murphy, I…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
When He Texts Back After Ghosting: You Owe Nothing (The Summer of George #14)
Dating in your 40s will teach you things about yourself you didn't expect, and this one taught me plenty. This is the second-to-last week of The Summer of…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Are Affairs Really Just About Sex?
Are affairs really just about sex? I don't think they are, and neither does my guest this week. I sat down with Dr. Marie Murphy, a non-judgmental infidelity…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Why Men Pull Away After Getting Close (The Summer of George #13)
Why do men pull away right when things start to feel real? I spent three weeks seeing a guy in Scottsdale who did everything right, until his kid walked in on…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
How to Stop Waiting for a Married Man to Choose You
Wanting to be chosen is something we all carry, and inside an affair it turns into its own kind of ache. In this solo episode I get into what it actually means…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Should You Take Dating Advice From Friends? (The Summer of George #12)
Should you take dating advice from your friends? I used to hand mine every detail, until I realized the advice coming back was shaped by what they wanted for…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Can You Sue Your Husband's Mistress? A Divorce Lawyer Explains
Can you actually sue your husband's mistress? In North Carolina, you can. This week I sat down with Nicole Sodoma, a family law attorney who's spent 25 years…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Dating in Midlife When You Swore You Were Done (The Summer of George #11)
Getting back on the dating apps in your 40s after you swore you were done with them? That was me in June. If you go back through my old episodes, you'll hear…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Did He Try to Get Me Back After I Ended It?
Did he ever try to get me back? It's the question that lands in my DMs more than almost any other, so this week I'm answering it straight. When I finally ended…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Dating Again After a Long Time (And What It Brings Up) (The Summer of George #10)
I hadn't dated in a while when I got back out there, and here's what nobody warns you about: dating again after a long time shines a really bright light on…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Why People Get Into Affairs (And What's Missing)
Why do people get into affairs when almost nobody actually wants to be in one? That's the question I sat with this week after a comment I made on last week's…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
How to Tell He Just Wants a Hookup (The Summer of George #9)
Why do men make plans and then vanish? This week I got flaked on by a guy who made the second date himself, went quiet for four days, and then sent me a vague…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Should You Stay or Leave When You're the Other Woman?
Should you stay or should you leave? If you're the other woman, that question runs on a loop in your head every single day, and nobody around you seems to have…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Getting Back Into Dating in Your 40s (The Summer of George #8)
Getting back into dating after a couple of years off the apps stirs up more than you expect. I'm eight weeks into The Summer of George and back in Scottsdale…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
I Broke My Own Heart When I Ended It
When you're the other woman and you're the one who ends it, you're not just grieving him. You're grieving the life you imagined and never got to live. And that…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Reconnecting With a Friend I Thought Was Gone for Good (The Summer of George #7)
I just wrapped 5 weeks in LA, and I'm calling it the best decision I've made this year. This is the last The Summer of George from that trip, and I'm getting…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
How to Know When to End an Affair With a Married Man
Ending an affair with a married man usually gets framed as a decision about him. When he'll finally choose you. When he'll give you 100%. When you'll be done…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
How to Start Dating Again When You're Too Independent (The Summer of George #6)
Getting back on dating apps in your 40s sounded like the last thing I wanted to do. I've been single a while, I'm independent, and I'd gotten very comfortable…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Nobody in His Life Knows I Exist: Being the Other Woman
A couple of months ago I said something on this show that I want to say again, because it's the whole thing: you are worthy of someone who can be with you…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Dating in Your 40s When You're Googleable (The Summer of George #5)
Dating in your 40s comes with a wrinkle I didn't see coming when I started this show: I'm Googleable. My Instagram bio says I was the other woman for five…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Why She Stayed With A Husband Who Kept Cheating
This week I sit down with Amber, who reached out after I put a post on LinkedIn asking to talk to women who'd been betrayed. What came out of our conversation…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
How to Get Comfortable Doing Things Alone (The Summer of George #4)
Getting comfortable doing things alone didn't happen overnight for me. It happened because I travel by myself all the time, and somewhere along the way sitting…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
You Don't Owe Anyone Your Relationship History
One year ago today, I posted the first episode of The Scarlet Edit and told the world I was the other woman for five years. I didn't know if anyone would…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Dating Confidence Tips in Your 40s (The Summer of George #3)
Getting out of your comfort zone is a lot easier when you actually leave home to do it. I'm in Los Angeles for the summer as part of my "The Summer of George"…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Best of The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, & Starting Over
One year of The Scarlet Edit, and to lead into the anniversary episode I pulled the best moments from my 2026 guest conversations into one place. Seven women…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
How to Put Yourself Out There in Your 40s (The Summer of George #2)
This week I'm getting into midlife dating in a new city, why putting yourself out there matters more than the outcome, and what I'm learning about building a…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Can You Stay Friends With Your Ex After an Affair?
Can you actually be friends with your ex? I dug into the research, including the four motivations people land on when they stay in each other's lives after a…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Dating in Midlife: Back on the Apps (The Summer of George #1)
Welcome to the first bonus episode of The Summer of George. After swearing I'd never get back on a dating app, I did. This is week one — a goal of three meet…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
When Your Husband Has Had Multiple Affairs
Sydney reached out on Instagram. Her husband has had three affairs, two in 2021 and one this past February, and she'd been listening to the show for a while…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
How to Work With Me: Infidelity, Divorce & Self-Worth Coaching
A quick bonus episode to put every way you can work with me in one place. Free, paid, and one offer that isn't even open yet. I walk through the free side…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Why I Got Back on a Dating App After Swearing It Off
I matched with a guy on a dating app. We planned a date. Thirty minutes later, he unmatched me. That's the open. That's where this season starts. Welcome to…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Forgiving the Woman Your Husband Left You For
This week I'm joined by Danielle Stanton, founder of Fuel4Ever wellness and a woman who's been through it. Married for 20 years, two small kids, stay-at-home…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Why Do Women Marry Men They Don't Love? The Vrabel & Russini Story
I've been watching the Mike Vrabel and Dianna Russini story unfold for a few weeks, and the more I dug in, the more it stopped being about an affair and…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Single in Midlife: The Quiet Loneliness No One Talks About
I noticed I've been saying "what about me?" in the voice I made up for my dog for over fifteen years. And one day it hit me — I've been feeling that since I…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
How to Date Again After an Affair: Your Questions Answered
I opened up Instagram last week and asked what you wanted me to talk about that I hadn't covered yet. The questions you sent in were so good I built an entire…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
The Other Woman With No Shame: Accountability vs. Regret
I was the other woman for five years and I don't regret it. That's the sentence that breaks people. The comments roll in every week telling me I should be…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
What to Do When Your Husband Keeps Cheating
In January 2009, my guest Naomi Kreske went looking through her husband's phone on a hunch. What she found ended the white picket fence life she thought she…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Why I Felt Single Even During an Affair
I told one of my girlfriends the other day that despite being in serious relationships, I've always kind of felt single. And she said, me too. This episode is…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
How Raising My Expectations Ended the Affair
This week I'm talking about disappointment and how raising my expectations ended my five-year affair. It's the emotion I see most often in the messages…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Why Women Marry for Potential and End Up Having Affairs (Part 2)
This is part two of my conversation with Hope, the first woman to come on The Scarlet Edit and share her story as the one who cheated. If you haven't listened…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
She Cheated on Her Husband — Her Side of the Story (Part 1)
This is a first for The Scarlet Edit. Hope was a married woman who cheated on her husband and has been bravely sharing that experience on social media. In this…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Can You Be the Other Woman and Not Feel Guilty?
I responded to every YouTube comment I got about my affair. Of the comments I share in this episode, only one person wrote me back. So, let's talk about it!…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
The Subconscious Patterns Behind Every Affair
Why do smart, successful people end up in affairs — and then can't leave? What's actually driving the pattern? And how do you know if you're settling or…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Kristin Cabot Speaks Out — How 90% of the Hate Came From Women
Kristin Cabot — the woman from the Coldplay Kiss Cam — finally told her side of the story on Oprah's podcast. She was already separated. He told her he was…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Do Happy People Cheat? I Don't Think So.
There's a stat that gets cited everywhere in the infidelity space — that 56% of men and 34% of women who cheat rate their marriages as happy. It shows up in…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Why Choosing Happiness After an Affair Is the Most Radical Thing I Do
I actively choose happiness and joy every single day — and the more I share that, the more it seems to confuse people. In this episode, I'm getting into the…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
I Waited for a Married Man to Leave His Wife
Ashley Madison just rebranded — and 57% of their new users are single. I break down what that means and why dating app fatigue is pushing people toward…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
I Told the World I Was the Other Woman. I Still Feel Boxed In.
A year ago I was trying to figure out how to tell the world I'd spent five years as the other woman in a relationship with a married man. I shared it. I built…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Affairs That Cost 2 Women Their Lives & How the Other 4 Survived
Henry VIII had six wives. One wife for 24 years, then five more in the next 11. He was pursuing the next woman while still married to the current one every…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Emotional Affairs, Fantasy & Physical Attraction: What Love Is Blind Gets Wrong
Is Love is Blind actually proving that love IS blind — or is it proving the exact opposite? After nine completed seasons, the data tells a pretty damning…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
The Jeff Bezos Affair: Why This One Didn’t Fall Apart
On January 9, 2019, the richest man in the world announced his divorce. One day later, a tabloid story detonated across the internet — exposing a months-long…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
She Knew on Her Wedding Day She Shouldn't Get Married
Emily Kuch spent almost ten years with her fiancé. They were building a house together in California, planning a destination wedding in Hawaii, and doing…
- The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.
Ava Gardner's Affairs: How She Kept Leaving Until She Found Herself
By the time Ava Gardner was 30, she'd been married three times. In 1950s America, that meant you were supposed to disappear in shame. But Ava didn't…