How to Know When to End an Affair With a Married Man

The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over. · Jul 30, 2026 · 13m

Ending an affair with a married man usually gets framed as a decision about him. When he'll finally choose you. When he'll give you 100%. When you'll be done waiting. This episode is about the part nobody names: the day you get fed up with yourself.

The idea came from a call with a client. I could hear the love she has for him tangled up with the disappointment she has in herself, and I told her what I wish someone had told me sooner. You just need to get fed up with yourself. Fed up with being anxious. Fed up with waiting by the phone. Fed up with skipping out on your own life for a man who…