Should You Tell a New Partner You Were the Other Woman?

The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over. · Oct 1, 2026 · 19m

Should you tell a new partner you were the other woman? When I first started dating again post-breakup, I decided I would. I led with it. If I had to tell a man eventually, why not tell him from the jump?

Back then, it backfired. The men who showed up looked great on paper and were married, had a girlfriend, or were "separated" and living on a friend's couch. Some of them assumed my honesty meant I'd do it again. Absolutely not. I shed some tears, put dating on pause, and put the next two years into myself.

I also get into midlife dating and men lying about their age on the apps (one Hinge…