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Why Don't I Feel Guilty About My Affair?
Why don't I feel guilty about my affair? And why does everyone expect me to? Last week a man commented on my Substack article to tell me I'm a whore. He read one piece of my life and decided who I am. I blocked him, deleted it, and then started thinking about shame.
Shame and guilt are two different feelings. Guilt says I feel bad that I did that. Shame says I am bad. A lot of shame comes from what we think other people will think of us, and sometimes it has nothing to do with anything we did. I talk about the difference, and about why society expects anyone involved in an affair, whether you…
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