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Trauma Free Relationship
Join us as we explore the complexities of relational trauma and its profound effects on our attachment relationships. We'll delve into the science behind trauma, unravel its hidden patterns, and empower you with practical strategies for healing and building trauma-free relationships. If you are ready to break free from the patterns of your past and create loving, secure relationships, this podcast is for you. We will provide you with the tools and insights you need to heal from relationship…
Episodes
- Trauma Free Relationship
5 Ways Relational Trauma Impacts Your Current Relationship
In this episode we break down the 5 most common ways past relational trauma can impact your current relationship. These include: Difficulty trusting self and…
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Stop Feeling Guilty For Setting Boundaries
In this episode we unpack why the fawn response, or people pleasing has become a coping strategy, and how your nervous system learned to use this strategy to…
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How To Stop Choosing Emotionally Unsafe and Unavailable Partners
In this episode we unpack how to stop the trauma cycle of choosing emotionally unsafe and unavailable partners. We break down this cycles to understand each…
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Trusting Yourself After Trauma
Join us in this episode where we discuss ways to regain trust in oneself after relational/attachment trauma. We explore the emotional landscape, as well as the…
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Seeing Ourselves: Attachment, Trauma, and Reflection
Join us in this episode where we explore the concept of reflection and its importance in relationships. The reflective function deepens intimacy and connection…
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Misdirection in Communication, Or, How To Stay On Topic
Join us in this episode, were we discover the different ways misdirection moves couples away from their intended topic and down rabbit holes. This is one of…
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Developing a Nurturing Internal Voice
Attachment trauma often creates a negative internal voice that can rob the trauma survivor of a more peaceful existence. Developing a nurturing internal voice…
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How To Internalize the "Good Stuff" In Relationships
Being able to take in or internalize the "good stuff" in your relationship is just as important as being able to know your triggers and regulate your emotions…
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Emotionality Versus True Emotion in Anxious Attachment
Join us in this episode where we discuss the difference between emotionality versus true emotion in the anxious attachment style. True emotion provides…
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Mindset of the Avoidantly Attached Partner
Join us in this episode where we discuss the mindset (Internal Working Model) of the avoidantly attached partner. Not trusting that others will be there for…
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Mindset of the Anxiously Attached Partner
Join us in this episode where we discuss the mindset of an anxiously attached partner. This mindset, or Internal Working Model, in attachment terms, is where…
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Is This Trauma, Or a Part of Me?
Join us in this episode where we discuss when trauma becomes part of who we are and how we see ourselves, or a part of our history. Oftentimes we can have…
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Healing Trauma Through Silence and Solitude
Join us in this episode where we discuss the health benefits of cultivating more silence and solitude into our lives. Trauma survivors often struggle with…
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Healing Trauma: Top Down or Bottom Up
Join us in this episode where we discuss the different approaches to treating trauma. The bottom up approach works through the body up to the cognitive center…
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Healing Inner Conflict
All of us have internal conflicts. But trauma can heighten those conflicts to a point where we prevent our own healing for fear of being retraumatized. In this…
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4 Ways That Limit Healing Your Trauma
Join in us in this episode where we explore 4 ways the individuals with trauma actually limit their ability to heal. By using these 4 methods traumatized…
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What Does Secure Attachment Look Like?
Join us in this episode where we explore what secure attachment looks like from 5 different relationship angles: The need for closeness and intimacy versus the…
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Helping My Partner Understand My Trauma
Join us in this episode where we discuss ways to help a partner understand the impact of trauma. Some couples have one partner in which they have suffered some…
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Supporting Your Partner's Attachment Style When Things Are Good
Join us in this episode as requested by a listener, on how to support your partner's attachment style when not in a cycle, but rather when things are good and…
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Couple Goal Setting
Join us in this episode as we walk through a process to help couple set goals. This is something I encourage all my couples do at the beginning of each year…
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How To Manage A Flashback When It Is Happening
Join us in this episode when we discuss how to manage a flashback. We detail the signs of a flashback and how it may emerge within you, such as visuals…
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How Deescalating Cycles Rebuilds Trust
Join us in this episode where we discussed the role cycles play in our most important relationship. Cycles break down trust. They trigger our trauma and keep…
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Resolving The Imaginary Fight
Join us in this episode where we learn how to resolve the imaginary fight. This is something that all of us deal with in our relationships, and those with past…
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2 Obstacles In Affair Recovery
Join us in this episode where we sit in the therapy room together and explore 2 different, yet challenging obstacles couples face in affair recovery. The two…
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5 Ways To Cultivate Gratefulness
Join us in this episode when we learn 5 ways to cultivate gratefulness. Being grateful for the people and things in our lives helps reduce stress and anxiety…
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Surviving Versus Thriving In Your Relationship
Join us in this episode where we discuss a couple that is thriving versus a couple that is surviving and the necessary elements for both. I break down what I…
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Here It Comes Again: Dealing with Anniversary Dates
Join us in this episode where we discuss trauma anniversary dates. These are dates that stand out as significant to the trauma survivor as the date their world…
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Mutual Influence in Relationships
Join us in this episode where we break down mutual influence in relationships. We define what it is, explore it's complexities and how to increase influence on…
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Healing Abandonment Trauma
Join us in this episode where we breakdown abandonment trauma and the way it plays out in your relationships. We discuss the root causes of abandonment trauma…
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Best 3 Grounding Techniques for Emotion Regulation
Join us in this episode where we explore the 3 best grounding techniques that I personally use with myself and my clients. We know that complex and attachment…
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A Better Me, Makes A Better We
Join us in this episode where we break down the most important things to work on when working on oneself. I often get couples who want to start with individual…
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Healing the Wounds of Shame
Join us in this episode where we discuss the debilitating role that shame plays in our lives. Shame is the most destructive emotion we have and it is…
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Feelings, Feelings, Feelings: Why Are Feelings So Important?
Join us in this episode were we discuss the importance of feelings. We talk about primary and secondary emotions and how to tell the difference between them…
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"Never Again:" What is an Attachment Injury?
Join us in this new episode where we discuss attachment injuries. What is an attachment injury? It is a special kind of wound that often emerges in an attached…
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How To Resolve Conflict With An Anxious Partner
Join us in this episode where we breakdown and discuss how to resolve conflict with an anxious attachment partner. We review with anxious attachment style, put…
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The Importance of Play as a Couple
Join us in this episode as well discuss the importance of playing as a couple. We outline different ways couples can play, such as sharing hobbies, creative…
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How To Resolve Conflict With An Avoidant Partner
Join us in this episode where we break down and discuss how to resolve conflict with an avoidant partner. Partner's who lean towards the avoidant style of…
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How To Provide Your Partner A Corrective Emotional Experience
Join us in this episode where we unpack how to provide your partner with a corrective emotional experience. When trauma creates a negative self concept, it…
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Trauma's Dilemma: Finding Your Way Back From Dissociation
In this episode we discuss the creative coping mechanism of dissociation. We unpack it's features, symptoms, and put into context how our brain creates this…
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Through the Looking Glass: How Trauma Shapes our Relationship Perceptions
Join us in this episode where we learn about some of the most important cognitive biases that act as a lens in our relationships. Trauma distorts our…
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Finding Your Zone: Understanding the Window of Tolerance
Join us in this episode where we break down the concept of Window of Tolerance. This is as device used to describe how we manage, and ultimately regulate our…
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Woven Together: Emphasizing the Interconnectedness of Being Human
Join us in this episode where we reflect on three indisputable facts of being human. First, that we are intricately bound to one another through our…
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Beyond the Logic: Unlocking the Wisdom of Your Heart
Join us in this episode where we explore the wisdom of the emotions. Our feelings aren't something we should be scared of, even the bad ones carry important…
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The Trauma Effect: How Past Hurts Shape Your Present Love Life
Join us as we discuss the 3 ways trauma impacts your relationship. If you have past wounds and are unsure of how they prevent you from having the kind of…
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Understanding Your Protectors: The Heroes Within
Join me in this episode where we discuss the protectors within us all. These are the hardest working parts of ourselves and deserve more compassion than they…
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For A Healthy Relationship, Do This, Don't Do That
In this episode we break down some of the most common things we take for granted in our relationship. Sometimes it's the little things that can go a long way…
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Tree of Life: Creating New Core Beliefs
Join me in this episode as I discuss core beliefs. There are positive as well as negative core beliefs. "I am competent at my job" is a core belief. But it's…
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The Zeigarnik Effect: Why Unresolved Issues Haunt Your Relationship
Join me in this episode as I discuss the Zeigarnik effect and how it applies to couples. When ruptures occur and are left unrepaired, then negativity sets in…
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The Trust Toolbox: Practical Steps to Healing and Connection
Join me in this episode where we open the toolbox to healing broken trust. Rebuilding trust is a slow, deliberate process that takes time. It is not like a…
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The Anatomy of a Sincere Apology
Join me in this episode where I discuss the way to give a proper apology. All couples have ruptures and the successful ones know how to make repairs. But…
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The Cracks That Can't Be Filled: When Repairing Does More Harm
Join me in this episode where I discuss the signs that may prevent repairing ruptures. Are there times when we need to set aside a problematic relationship and…
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The Past in the Present: Exploring Transference and Attachment
Join me in this episode where we discuss what transference is and how it works in you relationship. Transference is a process by which we transfer or project…
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The Taming of the Triggers: Understanding and Managing Your Emotional Response
Join me in this episode as I take a deep dive into exactly what is a trigger and how to handle them. Triggers are a high-jacking of the central nervous system…
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You Defense is Talking: Messages Sent by Defensive Behavior
Join me in this episode where we break down trauma cycles that couples get stuck in, and the negative messages that gets sent through their protection. We…
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Close Enough to Cuddle, Far Enough to Breathe: Balancing Independence with Togetherness
Join me in this episode when I discuss how to balance independence with togetherness. This is something all couples must negotiate, regardless of whether they…
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Dim the Flame: Unmasking Gaslighting in Relationships
Join us in this episode when we explore gaslighting. We discuss the differences between gaslighting as intentional manipulation, versus your partner having a…
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The Relationship Reflection: Exploring Present Process
Join us in this episode where we explore a new tool for couples by learning to use present process reflection. This tool allows the couple to bring into fucus…
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How To Have Difficult Conversations
Join us in this episode where we talk about how to have difficult conversations, not only with your partner, but with anyone. This is an essential life skills…
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Can You Love Me In This Place?
In this episode we discuss the hard to reach places that we hold inside ourselves that causes such difficulties. Those raw scars that we feel about ourselves…
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What Does It Mean To Work On Yourself?
In this episode, we discuss what it means to "work" on yourself. This is something I hear a lot from couples and individuals. Sometimes this means the couples…