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Trauma Free Relationship
Join us as we explore the complexities of relational trauma and its profound effects on our attachment relationships. We'll delve into the science behind trauma, unravel its hidden patterns, and empower you with practical strategies for healing and building trauma-free relationships. If you are ready to break free from the patterns of your past and create loving, secure relationships, this podcast is for you. We will provide you with the tools and insights you need to heal from relationship…
Episodes
- Trauma Free Relationship
Behind the Mask: Understanding Narcissism in Relationships
Join us in this episode where we decode whether your partner is a narcissist. We tease apart the clinical definition of narcissism from someone who has a more…
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Still Crazy After All These Years: Reflections on 23 Years of Marriage
Join us in this episode as I reflect on 23 years of marriage. I will discuss 7 lessons learned that I think applies to all relationships and why they are so…
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The High Maintenance Relationship: Embracing the Drama (Together!)
Join us in this episode where we talk about pursue/pursue cycles. These cycles are created when both partners have an anxious attachment style. When…
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Unscripted Love: How To Make Better Repair Statements
Join us in this episode when we learn 25 repair statements for the insecurely attached. We break down repair statements for the avoidant and anxious attachment…
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Validated & Alive: Fueling Your Relationship with Understanding
Join us in this episode where we talk about the important of validation and how it makes each partner feel more alive. Our identity is supported and sustained…
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Get To The Root of The Problem
Join us in this episode where we learn how to get to the root of the problem during ruptures. Most couples get stuck because they can't get to the core of what…
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The Secret of Repairing Ruptures: Second Level Communication
Join us in this episode where we discuss one of the best tools for repairing ruptures: second level communication. When ruptures occur in relationships, the…
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Worlds of Meaning: When Couples Get Locked in Different Perspectives
Join us in this episode where we discussed what happens when partners get stuck in different perspectives - or what I can systems of meaning. We all have…
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Do you have emotional allergies?
In this episode we discuss being allergic to an emotion. Emotional allergies are learned in our family of origin and often taught not verbally, but rather…
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What Happens When Both Partners Have Avoidant Attachment?
Join us in this episode as we discuss what happens when both partners have an avoidant attachment style. When ruptures occur, the avoidant styles create…
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Rupture Repair Cycle: The #1 Issue for Couples
Join us in this episode as we explore the nature of the rupture repair cycle. We unpack the what it is, discuss why it is so important in the life of the…
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How To Live Happily Ever After: Goal Setting for Couples
In this episode we discuss the 3 steps in creating couple goals. No organization in the world goes into the next year and just wings it. So why should we as a…
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How To Balance Different Attachment Needs
This is the # 1 issues couples have, and most often come to therapy for. If past trauma has formed an insecure style of attachment (meaning they organize their…
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How To Recognize Your Attachment Needs
In this episode we discuss how to recognize attachment needs. Recognizing attachment needs and longings is not a mystery. We don’t have to peel back layers of…
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How To Protect Your Partner's Vulnerabilities
Couples that grow together and learn to deescalate their cycles learn how to protect one another's vulnerabilities. A vulnerability is a wound or past trauma…
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How To Build Trust After Trauma
In this episode we discuss ways to build trust after trauma. This could be trauma sustained before the current relationship, or trauma in your current…
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How Couples Grow Together
In this episode we discuss the three ways couples grow together. This is not a list of activities or skills couples try to achieve with one another, but rather…
Trauma Free RelationshipCultivating Gratitude at Thanksgiving
In this episode we discuss how to cultivate gratitude as a daily exercise. We begin by walking through a gratitude exercise that stimulates the body in its…
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Am I Broken?
In this episode we explore the idea of brokenness. Often through trauma many people will fee a deep sense not being good enough, being defective, or "bad."…
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Navigating the Holidays with Trauma
In this episode we discuss how to navigate the holidays, which can be retraumatizing for many, with compassion and self-care. We discuss specific tools and…
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Is it you, or is it me?
In this episode we discuss internal working models. IWMs, are the templates we hold that shape our expectations of ourselves and our partners. The working…
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Avoidant Attachment Style
In this episode we discuss the avoidant attachment style. This style is characterized by low anxiety and high avoidance during times of stress or conflict…
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Anxious Attachment Style
In this episode we discuss the anxious attachment style and what it means for you and your relationship. Anxious attachment is defined by high anxiety and low…
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Empathic Attunement: The Roots of Trust and Resilience
In this episode I discuss the importance of empathic attunement and how it builds trust and resilience within the relationship and between partners. Empathic…
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Trauma Triggers
In this video Tom discusses the importance of recognizing your trauma triggers so you can anticipate them and process them. This also allows you to communicate…
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Trauma Cycles
In this video Tom discusses trauma cycles and how they present in relationship. He shares three tools to help couples identify and interrupt their cycle to…
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4 Common Questions for Relationships
In this video Tom Philp addresses the common questions he hears from couples during counseling sessions. Can our relationship be saved? How can I forgive my…
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4 Post Traumatic Growth Tools
In this video, Tom explains four traumatic growth tools including: empathy, self-reflection, practicing gratitude, and meaningful connections with others. Take…
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Attachment Trauma
In this episode, Tom explains attachment trauma and how it looks in relationships. Tom discusses safe havens, secure bases, and attachment injuries. Take the…
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Anger Management
In this video, Tom explains anger and influence it can have on your relationship. Anger can serve a protest or a protective function. Take the Trauma-Free…
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4 Ways to Ruin Your Relationship
In this video, Tom explains four ways to ruin your relationship, even if you don't mean to. Defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling all can harm…
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This Equation Will Save Your Relationship
In this episode Tom Philp explains an equation that can help couples connect and attune to each other. If couples are vulnerable with each other and remove…
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6 Signs of Unresolved Trauma
In this episode Tom Philp explains six signs of unresolved trauma and the ways they may present in relationships. The six signs include hypervigilance, lack of…
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Attachment Theory
In this episode Tom Philp explains attachment theory and the way that early experiences can impact your relationship. Additionally, major contributions of…
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History of Trauma Research
In this episode we explore the history and research of trauma as it pertains to relationships. Prominent figures and leaders in the field are mentioned to…
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Defining Trauma's Impact on Your Relationship
In this episode we provide a definition of trauma as it relates to our overall goal of helping couples learning and work through their traumatic relationship…
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5 Ways Trauma Impacts Your Relationship
Trauma can impact your relationships in five major ways: trust, closeness, sexuality, emotion regulation and communication. Understanding how trauma influences…
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Progressive Relaxation Audio
In this episode I walk you through a progressive relaxation technique to help you learn to relax and to learn where you hold stress in your body. This is a…