Shows / Trauma Free Relationship
Trauma Free Relationship
Join us as we explore the complexities of relational trauma and its profound effects on our attachment relationships. We'll delve into the science behind trauma, unravel its hidden patterns, and empower you with practical strategies for healing and building trauma-free relationships. If you are ready to break free from the patterns of your past and create loving, secure relationships, this podcast is for you. We will provide you with the tools and insights you need to heal from relationship…
Episodes
- Trauma Free Relationship
Transference In Couples
Join us in this episode as we discuss transference. The ever present force that shapes interactions. By the end of this episode you will be able to define two…
- Trauma Free Relationship
High-Conflict Couple
Learn what high-conflict couples look like, and the 10 things to help them. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/ FREE…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Mutual Recognition: More Than Validation
In this episode we discuss mutual recognition; the ability for both partner to truly be seen by one another and what happens when this fails in our…
- Trauma Free Relationship
In The Mind of A Couples Psychotherapist
Join me in this episode where I discuss what I'm thinking in psychotherapy session with couples. FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Stop Asking "What's My Attachment Style?"
Attachment styles can be helpful in describing a relationship pattern, but they limit a deeper understanding of relationship curiosity. Listen to learn more…
- Trauma Free Relationship
What Attachment Gets Wrong About Relationships
Join us in this episodes where we discover what attachment gets wrong about relationships and what is missing. Trauma Free Relationship Website…
- Trauma Free Relationship
The Power of Repair
Join us in this episode as we discuss the most important aspect of couples relationship - repair. Trauma Free Relationship Website…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Are You Codependent?
Join us in this episode were we discuss codependency. It may be different that what you know, and why that's a good thing. Trauma Free Relationship Website…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Hope & Dread In Intimate Relationships
Join me in this episode as we discover the hope and dread that lives in all long-term relationships. Trauma Free Relationship Website…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Growing Together vs. Growing Apart
Join us in this episode as we discuss how couples grow together versus growing apart. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/…
- Trauma Free Relationship
The Parts of Ourselves We Hide In Our Relationships
In this episode I discuss how we hide those parts of ourselves that are not acceptable to our partner, which then gets 'acted out' onto the relationship in…
- Trauma Free Relationship
When the Past Becomes the Present
Join me in this episode where we discuss how past emotional blueprints becomes transposed onto current relationships. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Why Empathy Changes Us More Than Reassurance
In this episode we discuss our emotional blueprints and how they get activated in our relationships. AND, how they get transformed by empathy. Dr. Tom Philp is…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Why Couples Fight Over "What Really Happened"
Find out why couples argue over whose version of "reality" is right, and what they are really seeking underneath the argument. Trauma Free Relationship…
- Trauma Free Relationship
The Fantasy Partner Versus the Real Partner
In this episode we discuss the difference between the fantasy partner versus the real partner and how to co-create a relationship where both partners can be…
- Trauma Free Relationship
The Pain of Being Unseen: Understanding Empathic Failures
Join us in this episode where we discuss how empathic failures create break down trust in a relationship, and how to correct them. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Why We Marry Our Emotional History
In this episode we discuss why we marry our emotional history. Our childhood shapes our expectations of our adult relationships. There are times when we can…
- Trauma Free Relationship
How To Validate Your Partner
Join us in this episode where we discuss the important of validate in a relationship, and the ways we may feel invalidate by our partner. Trauma Free…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Letting the Good Stuff In
In this episode we discuss how to internalize love, care, nurturance, and positive experiences, as a way to transform negative core beliefs. Dr. Tom Philp is…
- Trauma Free Relationship
The Hidden Power Dynamics In Every Relationship
Join us in this episode when we discuss the hidden power dynamic in relationship. Every relationship has power dynamics - the question is are the dynamics…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Why Relationships Feel Uncertain Before They Transform
Join us in this episode as we discuss the space in-between change. These 'liminal' spaces often exist when the couple is trying to change and act as a bridge…
- Trauma Free Relationship
How Butterfly's Effect Your Relationship
In this episode we discuss how butterflies affect your relationship by examining chaos theory and how the little things have big returns. Great listen! Trauma…
- Trauma Free Relationship
How To Create 'Real' Transformation In Your Relationship
Join us in this episode where we discuss First Order, versus Second Order change and how to create sustained transformation in your relationship. Trauma Free…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Why It's Hard To Trust Your Partner When They Say "I'm Sorry"
Join us in this episode on the 12 reasons why it hard to believe your partner when they say I'm Sorry. And, how to give a good apology. Dr. Tom Philp is the…
- Trauma Free Relationship
The Psychology Behind 'Why' Couples Trigger Each Other
In this episode we discuss 'why' couples trigger each other. You will learn how the nervous system reacts, the unmet attachment needs that go unnoticed, and…
- Trauma Free Relationship
The 'Hidden Benefits' of Negative Cycles
In this episode we discuss the hidden benefits of negative cycles. You will learn why cycle may have hidden benefits, and how to uncover them so you can get…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Why "Good Communication Skills" Can't Fix Bad Cycles
In this episode we discuss how even the best communicators cannot fix a bad cycles. In fact, cycles break down communication. Find out why? Dr. Tom Philp is…
- Trauma Free Relationship
What You're REALLY Feeling Underneath Anger
In this episode we discuss, 1) Why anger is not the primary emotion, 2) What anger is really masking, and 3) How anger fuels cycles that keep couples stuck…
- Trauma Free Relationship
What to Say Instead of Getting Defensive
In this episode we discuss what to say instead of getting defensive, as well as the 3 defensive ways to derail a conversation. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of…
- Trauma Free Relationship
The One Sentence That De-escalates Almost Any Argument
Learn the exact script that can de-escalate almost any argument and prevent cycles from occurring. Trauma Free Relationship Website…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Why Every Fight Feels The Same
In this episode we discuss why the painful patterns keep reoccurring in your relationship and why they all look the same. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Your Partner Is Not The Problem...The Cycle Is
In this episode we discuss how the cycle can take over the relationship and break down communication and connection. We often want to blame our partner, but…
- Trauma Free Relationship
You Don't Need Better Communication...You Need Better Regulation
In this episode we discuss one of the major issues couples deal with, which is dysregulation. When communication breaks down it's because one or both partners…
- Trauma Free Relationship
What Is Intergenerational Trauma?
Intergenerational trauma is trauma that didn't start with you. We explore this and much more as we dive into what intergenerational trauma looks like in your…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Finding Solid Ground: Building a Secure Sense of Self for Disorganized Attachment
In this episode, we will discuss the challenges of disorganized attachment from within the perspective of those who identify with this pattern, as well as…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Lost Connection: Self-Soothing for Anxious Attachment
In this episode we discuss how to self-soothe when feeling like connection is lost between you and your partner. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Calming Together: Co-regulation for Avoidant Attachment
In this episode we discuss the greatest challenge for avoidant attachment - co-regulation. Learn what causes avoidant attachment and practical steps to learn…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Listening Without Being Defensive
In this episode we discuss how to listen without being defensive, and how to notice when others are. Trauma Free Relationship Website…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Moving Towards Secure Attachment as an Adult
In this episode we discuss how to move toward a secure attachment as an adult, knowing that it is a practice, not a destination. If you want to build more…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Moving From Self-Blame to Self-Compassion
In this episode we discuss how to move from a inner critic of self-blame, to a more compassion sense of self. Trauma Free Relationship Website…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Why Healing Trauma Requires Relationships
Join us in this episode to discover why trauma requires relationships. Spoiler alert, we are talking about healing, corrective relationships that help us…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Why Insight is Not Enough to Heal Trauma
In this episode we discuss the limits of insight to heal trauma and what really works. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Trauma vs. Incompatibility: How to Tell the Difference
In this episode we discuss the difference between trauma creeping to the relationship, versus true incompatibility. FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment…
- Trauma Free Relationship
How To Make Better Repair In Your Relationship
In this episode we ask 4 questions that need to be answered in order to make better repairs in your relationship. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free…
- Trauma Free Relationship
What Is Attachment Anxiety?
In this episode we are going to discuss attachment anxiety. Like a smoke alarm that is too sensitive, our attachment anxiety can detect danger even when we…
- Trauma Free Relationship
How Trauma Effects Communication Style
Your communication style is directly affected by the way you learned to adapt to your environment. In this episode you will learn how your attachment style…
- Trauma Free Relationship
How To Change Your Partner
In this episode we discuss how to change your partner by changing the system. If you react differently, it forces your partner to respond differently, thereby…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Trauma Bond Symptoms
In this episode you will learn what a trauma bond is, how it forms to an insecure attachment, and safe steps to begin healing from a trauma bond. If you want…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Healing the Inner Child
In this episode you will learn to recognize the inner child, how the attachment environment shapes the inner child, and the 3 steps necessary to start working…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Healing From Shame and Trauma
In this episode you will discover why you experience shame from your trauma, how it shows up in your relationship, and safe techniques to help you heal from…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Mental Health & Trauma
In this episode we discuss how trauma impacts our general mental health. By the end you will understand how trauma impacts our relational, emotional, physical…
- Trauma Free Relationship
How to Heal Trauma Through Mind Body Connection
In this episode you will learn how the body stores trauma, how your nervous system shapes attachment patterns, and how reconnecting to your body helps rebuild…
- Trauma Free Relationship
How To Build Trust After Trauma
In this episode we outline how to build trust after trauma by targeting two systems: the defensive/protective system and the attachment system. By the end of…
- Trauma Free Relationship
How To Be Vulnerable and Safe At The Same Time
In this podcast we are going to talk about how to regain a sense of vulnerability with your partner, AND maintain a sense of safety as well. By the end you…
- Trauma Free Relationship
10 Myths About Relational Trauma
In this episode we will debunk 10 myths around relational trauma. By the end you will have more compassion for your healing journey, and begin to see that…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Building Self-Trust
Join us in this episode where we explore how to build self-trust after trauma. By the end you will learn what destroys self-trust, what it looks like in your…
- Trauma Free Relationship
How To Overcome Self-Abandonment
In this episode we discuss how to overcome self-abandonment. This coping strategy is learned when others reject or abandon us in our moment of need. As a…
- Trauma Free Relationship
Is It My Trauma, Or Is It The Relationship?
In this episode we tease apart how to understand if your trauma is impacting the relationship, or whether the relationship is the problem. Knowing what to look…
- Trauma Free Relationship
3 Words Trauma Survivors Struggle To Say In Relationships
Join us in this episode as we reveal the 3 words trauma survivors struggle to say in their relationships. "No," "Help," and "Sorry," are often difficult words…
- Trauma Free Relationship
How Not To Shut Down Emotionally In Your Relationship
In this episode we discuss how to prevent from shutting down emotionally in your relationship. We outline where this protective strategy came from, how it…