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Black Girls Heal
Black Girls Heal helps women break out of cycles of unhealthy relationships with unavailable partners and feeling not enough by combining coaching, therapeutic support, and practical tools. Every episode, we will talk about intimacy, attachment, healing unresolved trauma, and growing in our self worth.
Episodes
- Black Girls Heal
#292: Going from Being Love Avoidant to Love Available
In today's episode, we review going from Love Avoidant to Love Available using the Healed and Loved Woman framework model. Resources mentioned in the episode…
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#291: Don't Text Them (Sit on Your Hands)
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This…
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#290: Setting Unrealistic Fantasies as a Love Addict (Love Addiction Series)
Watch our free How to Stop Dating the Wrong People & Fix Your Internal Magnet masterclass: Click here register Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love…
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#289: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Leads to Love Addiction (Love Addiction Series)
In today's episode I talk about the impact of childhood emotional neglect and how it leads to the behaviours of love addiction Whether you are connected to…
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#288: The 4 Archetypes of Love Addiction
Which love addict archetype do you identify with and how do you begin to heal from it? In this week’s episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m breaking down the four…
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#287: How to Deal with Grief and Unexpectedly Losing a Loved One
How do you hold yourself through grief when it feels too heavy to carry? In this heartfelt episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m sharing my personal reflections and…
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#285: 3 Mistakes Love Avoidants Make in Dating
Is your fear of intimacy keeping you from the love you want? In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we’re diving deep into love avoidance—what it is, how it…
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#284: 3 Dating Mistakes to Avoid as a Love Addict
Are you falling in love with potential instead of reality? In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m diving into three critical mistakes love addicts make when…
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#283: How to Host a Healing Circle With Friends
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into how healing circles can transform your journey through love addiction recovery. After…
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#282: How to Heal in Community (7 Tips to Make Sisterhood Work)
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into something that's essential for our healing journey but often overlooked—the power of…
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#281: Why You Stay in Relationships When You're Tired
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're having an honest conversation about something that hits deep—why we stay in relationships even when…
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#280: How to Cope When Your Dating Partner Stops Responding (No Contact)
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving deep into something that can shake your whole world—when someone you're dating suddenly goes…
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#279: 4 Steps to Help Yourself Heal & Relationships to Flourish
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm breaking down the complete framework I use with my coaching clients to transform their relationship…
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#278: The First 3 Steps to Heal Love Addiction
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we dive deep into the topic of love addiction and explore the steps to break free from its cycles. Learn about…
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#277: 3 Ways to Not Move Too Fast in a New Relationship
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into something that many of us struggle with—protecting our individuality when new love enters…
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#276: How I Use Astrology for Love and Healing
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into how I personally use astrology as a powerful tool for healing and understanding…
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#275: The 7 Levels of Availability for ALL Relationships
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a game-changing tool that's about to transform how you evaluate potential relationships -…
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#274: 3 Ways to Have the Best Relationships in 2025
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're kicking off 2025 with a powerful conversation about building stronger, healthier relationships - and…
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#273: How Fear of Abandonment Affects Your Relationships
Fear of abandonment can create a lot of insecurity and conflict in a relationship. In this episode, we break down 3 signs to look out for to add to your…
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#272: 3 Green Flags Someone is Available for Love (How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts)
In this episode, I will go over 3 green flags of availability for healthy partners for love addicts pulling from my new book, How to Pick Partners for Love…
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#271: 3 Tips to Deal with Holiday Overwhelm, Stress & Mental Fatigue
On top of the normal holiday overwhelm, it seems like many of us are dealing with fatigue that we just can't catch a break. In today's episode, I give 3 tips…
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#270: 4 Ways to Tell the Friendship May Be Temporary
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a topic that often brings up complex emotions - recognizing when friendships might be…
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#269: Navigating Seasons of Relational Conflict (Throwback episode)
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into something all of us face but nobody really wants to talk about - those seasons when it feels…
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#268: 4 Reasons to Be Proud of Yourself
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're taking a moment to celebrate YOU. Yes, you! We're shifting away from our usual conversations about red…
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#267: 3 Ways to Cope When They Don't Care
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're getting real about something that hits deep - what do you do when someone just stops showing up for you…
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#266: 7 Benefits of Taking it Slow in a Relationship
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we dive into the seven benefits of taking it slow in a relationship — the power of a 'slow burn.' I discuss…
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#265: 3 Hidden Ways We Ignore (and Encourage) Red Flags in Others
In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet. Advertising Inquiries…
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#264: “Am I Quitting?” and the Future of Black Girls Heal
In this episode, I talk about why I'm quitting and what's coming next for Black Girls Heal! Resources mentioned in the episode: Register for the BGH Lover…
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#263: Checking the Facts When You're in Conflict
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we explore the importance of checking the facts when feeling threatened, especially for those healing from trauma. We…
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#262: What To Do When You Feel Rejected
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the poignant topic of rejection, inspired by heartfelt conversations from my recent cruise trip. Focusing on…
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#261: The Importance of Pacing While Dating + Checking In
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into a major milestone — our very first video podcast episode! After years of audio-only recordings, I am showing…
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#260: Doing No Contact with a Co-Parent
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I delve into the intricacies of implementing a no-contact process while co-parenting. This much-requested topic focuses on…
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#259: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we're diving into the world of love avoidance and how to navigate new relationships when you're healing from it. We'll…
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#258: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Addict
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the intricacies of managing romantic relationships for those in recovery from love addiction. We discuss the…
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#257: How Fantasy Fuels Unrealistic Expectations
You know that feeling when things don't go as planned and you're left feeling disappointed? Yeah, we've all been there. This week on the Black Girls Heal…
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#256: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Sparks Addictive Relationships
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal, we’re going to be talking about something really deep today: how what happened to us as kids can mess with our love…
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#255: Hard Lessons Learned After 10 Years in Love Addiction Recovery
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I dive deep into the lessons I've learned over my 10 years of recovery from love addiction. This journey has been…
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#254: How to Stop Financial Codependency
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even to your…
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#253: The 4 Steps of No Contact
In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I talk about the power of "no contact" as a tool to finally break free from toxic relationships. You…
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#252: Don’t text them - Sit on Your Hands
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This…
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#251: Surrender and Letting Go (Just Let Them Be)
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the challenging yet liberating process of surrender and letting go. We explore themes such as grieving, setting…
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#250: How to Feel Deserving
In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how…
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#249: Conquering the Fear of Being Seen
In today’s episode, we get into the topic of the fear of being seen, exploring the underlying trauma that leads to avoidance behaviors and vulnerability in…
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#248: Getting Out of the Negative in Relationships
In this episode, I discuss the importance of moving from negative relationship patterns to positive, healed, and love-filled connections. I also talk about the…
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#247: 3 Signs You've Grown and Are Healthier
In this episode, let’s discuss the importance of recognizing and celebrating personal growth. Reflecting on past conversations with coaching students, I…
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#246: The 4 Seasons of Healing
In this episode, I go over the 4 seasons of healing everyone will go through when healing from unresolved trauma and relationship issues. Ready to heal your…
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#245: The First 3 Steps of Healing Love Avoidance
In this episode, I review the first 3 steps to heal from love avoidance and the issues that get in the way. Click here to download the free roadmap Ready to…
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#244: 4 Ways Family Trauma Will Normalize Emotional Abuse
In this episode, I talk about 4 examples of emotional abuse that may set us up to be vulnerable to love addicted and love avoidant relationships. Ready to heal…
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#243: 3 Ways Love Addicts (Accidentally) Sabotage Their Relationships
As a love addict, it can be easy to slip into pushing away the love we want by holding on a little bit too tightly. In this episode, I review 3 ways that love…
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#242: 7 Tips to Recover after a Friendship Breakup
This episode for anyone who is experiencing or has experienced a friendship breakup that has been hard to recover from. I hope these 7 tips help you move…
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#241: 3 Ways to Not Be Jaded in Love after Heartbreak
If you've gone through heartbreak and are feeling jaded or "over" love, in this episode I go over 3 ways for you to work through your jadedness to give…
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#240: 5 Stages of Healing from Love Addiction
Every person healing from love addiction goes from 5 stages of feeling stuck and confused to Healed and Loved. In this episode, I review each of these stages…
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#239: Secret Narcissistic Lovebombing Techniques that You Need to Know
In this episode, I review a typically undetectable way that some narcissists love bomb to help those who may be susceptible to this style of seduction be more…
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#238: Reesa Teesa, Settling, and Finding Your Joy
In this episode, Shena talk about why some of us may settle in relationships when we feel they are giving us what we are looking for in spite of warning and…
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#237: Top 15 Things I Do to Manage my ADHD (ADD)
I have had to put a lot of measures in place to continue to grow and thrive as a neurodivergent person and use it as my superpower. Per listener request, in…
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#236: Taking a mini break
Hi all! I'm taking a mini break! I'll see y'all in the next episode! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery…
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#235: Can I stay friends with my ex as a love addict?
In this episode, Shena goes over 3 questions recovering love addicts can ask themselves if they are wanting to stay friends with an ex? Ready to heal your Love…
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#234: Overspending, Hoarding, Workaholism, and Financial Codependency (Money Trauma Pt 2)
In this episode, I continue teaching about money trauma and it's intersection into love addiction and love avoidance cycles. Today's episode focuses on Money…
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#233: Money Trauma and Underearning for Love Addicts & Avoidants
In this episode, Shena talks about money trauma and how it may manifest as underearning - a process that has nothing to do with the amount of money you make…