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Black Girls Heal
Black Girls Heal helps women break out of cycles of unhealthy relationships with unavailable partners and feeling not enough by combining coaching, therapeutic support, and practical tools. Every episode, we will talk about intimacy, attachment, healing unresolved trauma, and growing in our self worth.
Episodes
- Black Girls Heal
#231: Mother Hunger with Dr. Piper Grant
In this episode, Dr. Piper Grant breaks down for us the concept of Mother Hunger and its impact on our lives along with discussing the 3 pillars of motherhood…
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#230: Dealing with Disappointment from Your Mom as an Adult
In this episode, I talk about managing disappointment from your relationship with your mother as an adult if you have experienced false starts towards intimacy…
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#229: How to Know You Have a Problem as a Love Addict
In this episode, Shena talks about 3 ways to know that you have a problem as a love addict abd losing yourself versus being a balance and available partner…
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#228: When Your Mom is Competitive WIth You
In this episode, Shena discusses how to cope when you have a mother who is competitive with you, the signs of the jealousy and competition, and potential…
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#227: Codependency & Boundaries
In this episode, Shena discusses healing from codependency to improve your self love and the questions you need to ask yourself to adjust your boundaries…
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#226: Negging is Not Normal (and how to get away from it)
In this episode, Shena talks about what is negging, how it shows up in relationships and affects our self esteem, why we normalize it, and what to do to change…
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#225: Practicing Healthy Non-Attachment vs Avoidance for Self-Love
In this episode, Shena reviews the differences between being non-attached to others opinions and outcomes versus being avoidant, how this contributes to our…
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#224: Getting Ourselves Together in 2024 (Mother Trauma, Men, & Money!)
In today's episode, Shena lays out a Winter series to work through our relationship with ourselves, our mothers, our money, and the men & romantic…
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#223: [REWIND] You Can't Practice With Unhealthy People
Someone people hang onto people that they shouldn't so they can "practice" their communication and boundary skills on them. In this episode, we're…
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#222: 4 Therapy Tasks for Love Addicts
In this episode, I talk about 4 tasks I would work with my therapy clients to help heal from love addiction. In this episode, I talk about why these tasks are…
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#221: Online Dating, Vulnerability, & Finding Love with Anwar White
In this episode, we're joined by Dating Coach Anwar White to talk about all things online dating, living in your boundaries, leading with vulnerability…
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December Check In, ADHD, & Affirmations to Focus On
In this episode, I check in and share about my current experience with ADHD, a life update, birthday celebrations, and affirmations I encourage you to focus on…
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#220: How I Left My Unhealthy Relationship
In this episode, I talk about my experience with love deprivation and how it healing it by taking care of myself helped me heal a previous unhealthy…
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#219: 8 Tips for Going Outside for Love Addicts & Love Avoidants (New Intro + Update)
In this epiosde, Shena talks about 8 tips to assist love avoidants and love addicts who would like to meet new friends and potential partnerships outside of…
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#218: 4 Therapy Tasks for Love Avoidants
In today's episode, Shena talks about 4 tasks that every love avoidant can look to achieve in therapy to becoming more love available and open in…
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#217: 12 Promises of Hope for Love Addict
In this episode, Shena reviews 12 promises of hope and healing all love addicts can expect as they heal along their journey Advertising Inquiries…
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#216: 3 Things to Unlearn After an Unhealthy Relationship
After an unhealthy relationship, we may take some unhealthy beliefs with us. In this episode, I go over 3 things to you may need to unlearn after an unhealthy…
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#215: Can a Love Addict & Love Avoidant Make it Work? (3 Ways to Move Forward)
In this episode, Shena talks about can a love addict and love avoidant make it work in a relationship? And if so, the 3 things it takes for them to move…
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#214: 7 Tips for Dating Post Divorce
In this episode, Shena reviews 7 tips to keep in mind for those who are interested in starting to date post divorce. Click here to enroll in the Dating 101 for…
Black Girls HealNow Introducing The Business of Healing Podcast!
We are so pleased to introduce the newest addition to the Black Girls Heal & Shena Lashey healing network: The Business of Healing Podcast! In this podcast…
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#213: Is it compatibility or codependency?
In this episode, Shena discusses how to tell if the connection that you're feeling in a relationship is codependency or compatibility. Register for our…
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#212: What it Feels Like to be Restored
What does it feel like to reach a place of restoration? Past suffering? Past just going through the motions, but actually feeling restored? This episode talks…
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#211: Feeling Safety in Your Body (Reclaiming Me)
In this episode, Shena talks about what does it feel like to find safety in your body and not feel as if you always have to run and do to avoid feelings of…
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#210: Building Positive Self Belief
In this episode, Shena focuses on the importance of focusing on the qualities you do want to cultivate and nurture in yourself versus the things you want to…
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#209: How to Use Coaching In Your Healing Process
In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to use coaching as a tool in your healing process and how it differs from therapy. Ready to heal your Love…
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#208: 4 Gains of Being Love Available (fixed audio)
In this episode, we will talk about the gains made from moving from being love avoidant to love available in your self love, friendships, and every day life…
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#207: For Beautiful Ari & All Others Who Feel Not Enough
In this episode, we look at feelings for low self worth, feeling like an imposter, and learning to soothe and care for ourselves in these hard moments. This…
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#206: Sisterhood Heals with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford
In this episode, we are joined by special guest, Dr. Joy Harden Bradford of Therapy for Black Girls to talk about the importance of sisterhood and how it helps…
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#205: Listen to Your Teachers, but Trust Your Gut
In this episode, Shena talks about the importance of listening to your intuition even when you get guidance from trusted leaders and sources. She shares 3…
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#204: Recovering as a Married Single Mother with Jasmine Chanelle
In this episode, our special guest, Jasmine Chanelle, joins us to talk about her experience as a Married Single Mother, the signs of abuse in the relationship…
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#203: When you feel love deprived and neglect yourself (Roadmap Episode)
In this week's podcast episode, Shena goes over what it looks like to live in Love Deprivation and self neglect and how to move towards being Love Nourished…
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#202: Do I tell them I'm a love addict? [repost]
In this episode, Shena goes what are the things you do and do not disclose to someone when first meeting them about your past and what you bring to the…
Black Girls Heal#201: 3 Regrets as a Recovered Love Addict
Following from last week, in today's episode I reflect on the 3 things I would have done differently as a love addict. Ready to Reclaim Who You Are? Join us at…
Black Girls Heal#200: The 5 Steps to Heal from Love Addiction
In today's episode Shena talks about the roadmap to go from being love Addicted to Love balanced. As she revisits these foundational episodes, it is with the…
Black Girls Heal#199: Refocusing and Self Love at BGH
In today's episode Shena shares about the exciting changes that are coming to the Black Girls Heal Podcast in hopes to help all of us go deeper in our self…
Black Girls Heal#198: How to Apologize (and When Not to)
In today's episode, we're talking about how to apologize when it's time to make amends and also when not to. It's important to find a balance between self…
Black Girls Heal#197: Therapeutic separation with a neglectful partnership
In this episode, we talk about the place that a therapeutic separation may have when found in a neglectful partnership and in need of a reset to determine…
Black Girls Heal#196: Allowing those who want to leave to leave
Sometimes we are the ones who choose to cut ties with others and sometimes others are the ones who choose to cut ties with us. In this episode, I talk about 4…
Black Girls Heal#195: (Re)training your body to experience good feelings
Learning how to train your body and mind make way for the positives and to focus on good feelings can take some time. In this episode, Shena reviews 3 things…
Black Girls Heal#194: 3 Ways to Optimize Community (and how to find it)
Our community is our lifeline when it comes to our healing. In this episode, I go over 3 ways to optimize the community you already have and also how to find…
Black Girls Heal#193: Family boundaries, money trauma, explosive fights, sexual assault, situationship problems, queer dating and more! (Listener Q&A)
Shena goes in depth in this listener Q&A. In this episode, Shena answers questions about: Boundaries in the midst of family drama Coping with money & poverty…
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Join me in Portugal for our Fall Intensive!
Click here to join us at our Fall 2023 Healed & Loved Woman Weekend Intensive on Friday, September 29, 2023 through Saturday, September 30, 2023 Can’t find a…
Black Girls Heal#192: It’s time to work on what you’ve been avoiding
In this Episode Shena shares the importance of facing it all & how it is all connected for your betterment. Even though it's scary and even though you can't…
Black Girls Heal#191: The 4 Seasons of Self Love (in Dating)
In this episode Shena talks about the 4 seasons of self love & what that looks like within our relationships Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love…
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#190: 3 Mistakes I Made Dating as a Love Addict (Throwback)
In this episode, Shena revisitsEpisode #99 where she discusses 3 mistakes she made dating as a love addict. Get 20% off your order at LiquidIV.com by using the…
Black Girls Heal#189: Mother Enmeshed Men
In todays episode I talk about men who are emotionally enmeshed with their mothers, what it looks like, how it shows up for you if you are in a relationship…
Black Girls Heal#188: Learning to Live in the Goodness
In this episode, Shena talks about lessons learned in this current stage of relationships, places she's learned to receive, and how it's shown up for her in…
Black Girls Heal#187: The healing is in the repair
In this episode, Shena goes over how the evidence of healing is not in the absence of ruptures, but in he repairs. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love…
Black Girls Heal#186: 7 Steps to Cope with a Situationship Breakup
Even though situationships don't have an official title, breaking one up can still leave you feeling heartbroken. In this episode Shena shares why and the 7…
Black Girls Heal#185: No Contact + Surrendering in Relationships
In this episode, Shena will talk about the No Contact process and learning how to surrender in healthy romantic relationships vs projecting your trauma. Ready…
Black Girls Heal#184: Emotional Anchors & Your Highest Level Self
In this episode, Shena discussed emotional anchors and how to connect to your highest level version of yourself as an emotional resource. Ready to heal your…
Black Girls Heal#183: Stop Withholding Love and Be Love Available
In this episode, Shena discusses what does it look like to withhold love as a punishment, the consequences of it, and encouragement to move towards love…
Black Girls Heal#182: Situationship Singlehood + Asking for What You Want
In this episode, Shena talks about the reality of situationships without commitment and the importance to be clear and honest with yourself about what you…
Black Girls Heal#180: Coping with Chronic illness (5 encouragements)
In this episode I open up about my journey living with a chronic illness and share encouragements in hope that it supports those with a similar experience…
Black Girls Heal#179: 3 Signs of an Expired Friendship
Sometimes our friendships may be giving signs that we have outgrown them and they may be a bit toxic for us. In today's episode, we will review signs of an…
Black Girls Heal#178: When They Undervalue You on Valentine's Day (or your Birthday, Anniversary, Etc...)
Todays episode is a re-share of an old episode. It is totally okay for you if the holidays are important for you in a relationship. You deserve to feel…
Black Girls Heal#177: Secure Love vs Love Bombing vs Caretaking in Love Languages
In this episode, we're going to look at the difference between Secure Love vs Love Bombing vs Caretaking in the 5 love languages. This topic is in promotion of…
Black Girls Heal#176: 3 Reasons Your No Contact Process is Not Working
In this episode, we follow up on our No Contact Process shared in Episode #160 to discuss the reasons why your no contact may not be working. Ready to heal…
Black Girls Heal#175: Making the right decision for yourself on faith
In this episode we are talking about making the right decision for yourself even when it goes against your internal fears & what you have always done before…
Black Girls Heal#174: Healing our Womb & Pelvic Floor with Dr. Alicia Jeffrey-Thomas
Todays episode is part of a womb work and healing series starting with the topic of the pelvic floor with one of my favourite Pelvic Physical Therapist Dr…