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Seeing Other People
Dating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week.
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Episodes
Seeing Other PeopleGuilt Can Actually Improve Your Relationships
In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Chris Moore, psychology professor and author of The Power of Guilt, to unpack why guilt shows up so intensely in dating…
Seeing Other People20-Week Challenges, Who Am I Online? & Dating Dilemmas
Jake and I talk through our 20-week challenges, from ambitious reading goals to posting trial reels and what consistency actually looks like in real life. I…
Seeing Other PeopleFrom Situationship to Marriage: What Actually Changed
Blair West joins me to talk about timing, chemistry, and what actually makes a relationship last. We get into slow burns, dating someone who isn’t “ready,” and…
Seeing Other PeopleWhen Your First Love Becomes Your Last
In this episode, I’m joined by Liz Woods to talk about love, long-term relationships, and what it’s really like to grow up with your partner instead of dating…
Seeing Other PeopleThe Hard Conversation That’s Making Our Marriage Stronger
On this week's Cohosts For Life ep, we’re sharing a recent conversation about mental load, showing up differently in a relationship, and what it actually means…
Seeing Other People45% of Men Have Never Approached a Woman
It’s the first episode of 2026 and we’re starting with a real conversation about dating, happiness, and letting go of the timeline we thought we were on…
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The Year I Slowed Down: Career Pressure, Marriage & Burnout (2025 EOY Ep)
In our annual end-of-year episode, Camila Vola turns the mic on me for an honest reflection on a year defined by slowing down. We talk about career pressure…
Seeing Other PeopleProof Love Existed Before Apps
On this iconic Cohosts episode, we’re sharing your parents’ unreal meet-cute stories — from subway run-ins and blind dates to bars, churches, dorms, and…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat We Wish We Knew Before Getting Married
Jen Lauren is back for an honest conversation about what really happens after the wedding hype fades. Jen opens up about the emotional side of wedding…
Seeing Other PeopleHow to Spot Red Flags Early with a Former Military Interrogator
I’m joined by Lena Sisco, former military interrogator and author of The 13 Power Moves of Dark Psychology, to break down how to spot lies, manipulation, and…
Seeing Other PeopleJake’s Year in Review & a Jets Fandom Therapy Session
This Cohosts for Life episode turns into Jake’s year in review, a Jets fandom therapy session, and a brainstorming spiral about the podcasts we’d start next…
Seeing Other PeopleLife in Your 30s Without a Plus One
I’m joined by my friend Emily Griminger to talk about dating in your 30s when your life doesn’t look the way you thought it would. Emily shares how leaving the…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat Every Women Needs to Know About Fertility in Her 20s & 30s
I’m joined by Dr. Courtney Alexander, OB-GYN and women’s health expert, to break down what women actually need to know about fertility, birth control, and…
Seeing Other PeopleDid I End It Too Soon? Dating Regrets & One-Sided Convos
Jake and I kick things off with life updates, including his big winnings at the casino, an influencer event I actually enjoyed, a running injury update, and a…
Seeing Other People"How EMDR Therapy Saved My Dating Life"
Maddy, friend and former SOP intern, joins the pod to talk about surviving a break-in, navigating trauma in your early 20s, and how EMDR therapy helped her…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat Your Work Life Says About Your Love Life
I’m joined by Emily Durham, recruiter, creator, and host of Clock In, to talk about the surprising overlap between careers and dating in your 20s and 30s…
Seeing Other PeopleAm I Working Hard Enough?
Jake and I catch up on life and our ongoing messiness at home before getting into a really honest conversation. I talk about seeing other podcasts share huge…
Seeing Other PeopleHow Losing Her Job Changed Her Entire Dating Life
I’m joined by my friend Jude Cohen to talk about dating in your 30s and rebuilding your life after everything falls apart at once. Jude shares how losing her…
Seeing Other PeopleI Had a Surrogate…and Then I Got Pregnant Too
I’m joined by Alyssa Tucker, teacher, creator of @livefromsnacktime, and mom of two, to share her unexpected journey through infertility. After years of loss…
Seeing Other PeopleWhy Are Married Men Flirting With Me & Other Mixed Signals
We're recording from Westchester while recovering from days of Thanksgiving meals and leftovers. We talk about having both of our families together for the…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat Dating as a 34-Year-Old Guy Is Really Like
In this Unfiltered, Harry comes back to talk about what dating, healing, and growing in your mid thirties has actually looked like for him this past year. We…
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You, Your Husband and His Mother
I’m joined by Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, couples therapist, author of You, Your Husband, and Your Mother-in-Law, and host of Dear Dr. Tracy, to dive into the messy…
Seeing Other PeopleThe Stories We Never Told About Getting Fired
We’re on week 3 of lockdown after Jake’s surgery and shockingly, we’re thriving. This week marks five years since we both got let go, so we’re diving into what…
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What Moving On and Feeling Secure Actually Looks Like
In this Unfiltered, a returning guest shares how she finally got over her ex and why getting under someone else wasn’t the whole story. After leaving a…
Seeing Other PeopleAre You “Doing the Work” or Just Performing It? with Therapist Rebecca Marcus
Therapist Rebecca Marcus, LCSW, is back to talk about what it actually means to “do the work” in your love life. We unpack why awareness alone isn’t enough to…
Seeing Other PeopleBreaking News, Syracuse Recap & How Jake’s Really Doing
I’m fresh off a total bucket list moment, going back to Syracuse to speak at the launch of their new Center for the Creator Economy, and I’m bringing you along…
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Solo Q&A: "Help, My Best Friend Disappeared Into Their Relationship"
In this solo Q&A, I’m answering your dating and life questions — from moving cities for love to figuring out if you’re settling in your career. We get into…
Seeing Other PeopleThe Love Story You Didn’t See on Love Is Blind
Kelly Chase (@chaselifewithkelly) opens up about what really happened after Love Is Blind, the trauma, the healing, and how she learned to love herself again…
Seeing Other PeopleIs Having A Boyfriend Embarassing?
Jake’s been recovering from surgery with nonstop movie marathons, while I got upsold by a facialist and found myself spiraling about Botox because everyone…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat If You Haven’t Been Loved the Way You Deserve Yet?
Heidi Friedman (@lovelessons104) went on 104 dates before finding the love of her life — and every single one taught her something new. A divorced mom of two…
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What Running The NYC Marathon Actually Felt Like
I trained for months dreaming of the NYC Marathon finish line… and instead found myself sitting on the side of the course having a panic attack at mile 6. In…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat Healthy Intimacy Actually Looks Like (& How To Built It)
Most of us never learned how to talk about sex—so we assume everyone else just figured it out. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband Xander Marin join me…
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Why Men Are Getting Dating Wrong—And What Women Actually Want
Dating advice is everywhere, but most of it is useless. From ghosting after a “perfect” date to why playing hard to get always backfires, Logan Mahan—writer of…
Seeing Other PeopleUnlearning The Dating Rules That Are Keeping You Stuck
So many of us were taught how to be chosen instead of how to choose. In this episode, writer, filmmaker, and podcast host Rory Uphold (Crimes of the Heart)…
Seeing Other PeopleJake’s First Kiss & Other Things He Never Talks About
Ilana is one week out from the marathon and feeling overwhelmed with everything happening at once. Jake asks how she’s holding up and shares how he’s feeling…
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How to Get Over A Crush
I’m breaking down the exact things that helped me get over crushes I was never even technically with. From muting people like it’s a form of therapy to…
Seeing Other PeopleShould You Stay or Should You Go?
Dr. Molly Burrets called off her own wedding—and it changed everything. She shares the story of what led her to make that difficult decision, the…
Seeing Other PeopleMy Friend Hooked Up With Someone’s Boyfriend — AITA?
Jake and I are back reflecting on how good it feels to be surrounded by reliable people, the upgrades we’ve made to our apartment, and all the business ideas…
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“What It’s Really Like to Be Single at 49”
I’m joined by Judit, a 49-year-old woman living in Barcelona who has never been married and is opening up about what it’s really like to be single at this…
Seeing Other PeopleA Closer Look at Women's Health
If you’ve ever stressed about your biological clock or worried what your future fertility might look like, this episode is for you. I’m joined by Kirsten…
Seeing Other People“Sure, I Love Football” and Other Dating Lies We All Tell
Ciao! We’re back from Italy and breaking down the highlights! Jake crushed it on the golf course while I ate spaghetti pomodoro every single day with no…
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Am I Settling or Just Being Realistic?
In this solo episode, I get vulnerable about a big life change I’m going through and what it’s teaching me about growth, and timing. I break down two listener…
Seeing Other PeopleThe Art of Good Communication
Conversations with the people we love can feel harder than ever, but small shifts in how we listen and speak can completely transform your connections. I talk…
Seeing Other PeopleFlying to Italy & a Listener’s Emotional Cheating Confession
Live from Italy, Jake and I are recapping the Jewish holidays, what stuck with us from the rabbi’s sermon, and what it was like hosting a holiday for the first…
Seeing Other PeopleHow Our Friendship Survived Different Life Stages
My best friend and former Life in Progress cohost, Carly Silverman, joins me for a catch-up on pregnancy, friendship, and how our relationship has evolved as…
Seeing Other PeopleThe Anti-Anxiety Approach to Modern Dating
I’m joined by dating coach and author Sabrina Bendory to unpack the game-changing concept of detachment — a mindset that transformed her love life and coaching…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat We Wanted to Be When We Grew Up vs. Kids Today
Fresh off a 20 mile run I reflect on how I finally feel like I’ve turned a corner in marathon training. Jake earned some serious credit in the Husband Duties…
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How To Date Intentionally This Cuffing Season
Cuffing season is here, but why does everyone suddenly want to couple up when the weather turns cold? In this episode, we dive into the psychology, cultural…
Seeing Other PeopleWhy Some Couples Divorce and Others Find Their Way Back
Divorce lawyer Jonathan Merel joins the podcast to share what he’s learned about love, marriage, and relationships from his years in family law. We talk about…
Seeing Other PeopleOur New Home & Our Unpopular Take on Wedding Speeches
Jake and I are officially in our new apartment (!!) and we’re unpacking all the highs and lows of moving week — including Ilana’s unexpected side gig…
Seeing Other PeopleFrom Finance Bro to Full-Time Musician: Owning Your Story in Dating
I’m joined by musician Brett Altman, who recently left his finance career of 9 years to finally pursue music full-time and discovered that owning your story…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat Happens When You Sit Down With All Your Exes
Miriam Katz just launched one of the boldest projects in the dating world: a podcast where she interviews every single person she’s ever dated. They talk about…
Seeing Other PeopleShould You Reach Back Out or Let Them Go?
It’s our final episode in this apartment before the big move, and Ilana’s type A side is showing in full force during the packing process. In between boxes, we…
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Answering Your Biggest Dating & Friendship Dilemmas
In this solo Q&A, I’m answering your biggest dating and friendship dilemmas — from why your ex still watches your Instagram stories, to how to say no to being…
Seeing Other PeopleDating Burnout, Rock Bottom, and the Power of Being Alone
After years of back-to-back heartbreaks, author Abby Rosmarin hit relationship rock bottom and made a radical decision: she stopped dating—completely—and…
Seeing Other PeopleFall Date Ideas That Don't Suck
This week we’re recording from Jake’s childhood bedroom, which of course led us to wonder what 13-year-old Jake would think of his life now. We share our life…
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“He Cheated, Got Someone Pregnant… and Then Called Off Our Wedding 2 Weeks Before”
Trigger Warning: Abuse. This anonymous guest shares the story of being with her ex for over eight years, navigating betrayal, abuse, and heartbreak—including…
Seeing Other PeopleFalling In Love & Designing Her Dream Life 5000 Miles From Home
I'm joined by my friend, fashion designer and founder of Maison Des Nus, Balim Tezel. We talk about what it’s like to build a life from scratch—moving to the…
Seeing Other PeopleWould We Have Found Love on Reality TV?
This week, we talk about the chaos of prepping for our move and how we’re handling all the changes together. We also get into Taylor's engagement, which…
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My Running Journey: From Hating Running to Training for the NYC Marathon
I went from hating running to completing my first half marathon and signing up for the NYC Marathon. On this episode I share my full running journey—injuries…