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Seeing Other People
Dating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week.
Whether you're swiping, healing, or somewhere in between...this is your show.
Episodes
Seeing Other PeopleFertility Anxiety, Egg Freezing & Dating Under Pressure
Lauren Makler joins the podcast for a conversation about fertility anxiety, egg freezing, dating pressure, and the emotional weight so many women carry around…
Seeing Other PeopleAll Our Dates Are at His House — Should I Be Worried?
Happy anniversary to us — we're recording this one from Miami in the hotel where we took our first trip together five years ago. Jake planned the whole thing…
Seeing Other PeopleMeeting People IRL, App Burnout & Being Comfortable Being Alone
Allison Lane joins the podcast for a conversation about dating in your 30s, meeting people in real life, and the pressure women feel to have everything figured…
Seeing Other PeopleWhen a Second Chance Is Worth It (And When It’s Self-Sabotage)
Dr. Joy Burkheimer joins the podcast for a conversation about second chances, relationship “redemption arcs,” and whether people can actually change after…
Seeing Other PeopleIs It a Red Flag If You Never Fight With Your Partner?
We're both sick, we slept until noon, and we have a mystery anniversary trip in two days — Jake planned the whole thing and Ilana has no idea where they're…
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I Thought Hitting My Goals Would Feel Different
For so much of my life, I thought certain milestones would fundamentally change me. The relationship, the career growth, the apartment, the race finish line…
Seeing Other PeopleShe Thought She Was “Too Much” Until She Met the Right Person
Chloe Hechter joins the podcast for a conversation about everything your twenties are actually filled with: changing career paths, feeling behind, navigating…
Seeing Other PeopleStop Waiting for Him to Confirm the Date & Just Text First
Ilana's recording this one from her deathbed after missing the Brooklyn Half and sleeping the weekend away while Jake walked 25,000 steps to get a burger. Two…
Seeing Other PeopleYou’re Not Behind, You’re Just in Your 20s
Meg Reynolds is back and we get real about what your twenties actually feel like—uncertain, uncomfortable, and constantly shifting. From turning 27 and…
Seeing Other People30, Single, and Happier Than Ever
This week, I’m joined by content creator Annie Jorgensen to talk about what really shifts when you turn 30 and stop looking for someone to complete you. From a…
Seeing Other PeopleWaiting for the Other Shoe to Drop & I Have a Big Announcement
Jake's back from Florida with a roulette win and some bachelor party receipts. Ilana has a major life announcement that's been months (or years) in the…
Seeing Other PeopleYour Next Relationship Might Be Around the Corner
In this episode, we sit down with Kerry Russo, the creator behind UES Things, to talk about what it actually means to put yourself out there — and why staying…
Seeing Other PeopleStop People Pleasing, Start Feeling Secure
Trevor Hanson is back for part two, and this episode goes even deeper into people pleasing, anxious attachment, and what it really means to feel secure in…
Seeing Other PeopleBachelor Parties vs. Bachelorette Parties: We Are Not the Same
Jake's heading to Fort Lauderdale for a bachelor party with zero itinerary and a plan that's basically "watch the Knicks, find a Chili's." We kick things off…
Seeing Other PeopleMeeting Someone When You Least Expect It
Juliette Haas is about to leave a life that works — great friends, a solid routine, and NYC exactly as she always imagined it — to move to London anyway. In…
Seeing Other PeopleWhy You’re Still Single (It’s Not Bad Luck)
Amy Chan returns to Seeing Other People five years after her first appearance to talk about her new book UNSINGLE and what it actually takes to create a…
Seeing Other PeopleShould You Keep Dating While Your Mom Is Dying?
We're back with Ilana's LA trip recap, a lot to be grateful for, and two listener questions that made us cry. Ilana returns with two unhinged stories — a…
Seeing Other PeopleDating As A Single Dad: Finding Love After Raising His Kids
Ryan is a 43-year-old single dad living in a small coastal town in Mississippi, navigating dating with a uniquely small dating pool — and a clear idea of what…
Seeing Other PeopleDating Intentionally: From 150 Dates to Marriage
After going on 150 dates with 60+ people in 10 months, Talia Koren didn’t expect to meet her husband when she did, especially because he wasn’t her type…
Seeing Other People"He Found Out I Went on Another Date… Now He’s Acting Weird"
Jake and I catch up on the abandoned 20-week challenge, our first jobs out of college, and a post-wedding brunch we hosted that actually came together really…
Seeing Other PeopleThe Relationship That Turned Into a Prison
Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions of emotional abuse, control, isolation, and trauma. In this Unfiltered episode, an anonymous guest shares…
Seeing Other PeopleFrom Dating Burnout to Meeting The One at 37
Ali from Finding Mr. Height is back, and this time she’s sharing the story of how she finally met her boyfriend. After years of dating app burnout and multiple…
Seeing Other PeopleDating While Your Life Is Falling Apart + Friendship Drama & Big Life Questions
This week’s Cohosts for Life, we’re diving into some of your best (and most layered) listener questions yet. From navigating dating while dealing with a…
Seeing Other PeopleTaking the Pressure Off Dating
In this episode, I’m joined by Dana Joy, host of Not That Deep, to talk about sober dating, letting go of pressure, and why modern dating doesn’t have to be so…
Seeing Other PeopleAre They a Fuckboy or Just Not That Into You?
In this episode, I’m joined by Andie P, creator of Ask a Fuckboy, to break down mixed signals, emotional unavailability, and the behaviors that leave you…
Seeing Other PeopleNot Liking Their Friends, Moving For Love and Dating Wins
This week we’re catching up on everything from a very full week, including a Boys Like Girls concert, Ilana’s new sewing hobby, and Jake questioning whether…
Seeing Other People"I Didn’t Expect This Relationship To Break Me"
After reconnecting with her high school sweetheart years later, this anonymous guest believed she had found the love that was always meant to be. But what…
Seeing Other PeopleLife Happens: The Dating Mindset Shift You Didn’t Know You Needed
Life happens, and when it does, how you respond can change everything. In this episode, Dr. Rachel returns to talk about her new book When Life Happens, and…
Seeing Other PeopleMixed Signals, Red Flags and Dating Wins
On this week's Cohosts for Life episode, we're answering your dating questions and talking through some of the situations that come up when you’re getting to…
Seeing Other People"I Found My Life Partner At 42"
After years of dating, heartbreak, and learning what she truly needed in a partner, Jess shares how she finally met the man she hopes to marry at 42. From…
Seeing Other PeopleYou're Not Unlovable
In this episode, I’m joined by Therapist and Secure Attachment Coach Trevor Hanson to breaks down what anxious attachment really looks like in dating—and why…
Seeing Other PeopleDouble Date Ideas, New Hobbies and Taking Risks
This week we’re talking about Ilana’s half marathon experience and what the race actually felt like compared to training. We get into why running can be such a…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat Dating As A Short Man Is Really Like
TW: this episode includes discussion of body image and suicidal thoughts. Please take care of yourself and only listen if you feel safe doing so. In this…
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Am I Asking for Too Much? A Solo Dating Q&A
In today’s solo Q&A, I’m answering your real, messy, specific dating questions. We’re talking about red flags vs. anxiety, high standards, situationships…
Seeing Other PeopleRelationship Hot Takes & Ranking the Perfect Third Date
This week we’re sharing some of our relationship hot takes and debating a few modern dating questions couples don’t always agree on. We talk about things like…
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Dating at 36: Situationships, Dating Apps, and the Pressure to Find “The One”
A 36-year-old single woman shares the reality of modern dating: a year-long casual situationship, dating app fatigue, and the pressure of watching younger…
Seeing Other PeopleHow to Start Showing Up for Yourself
Misha Brown joins the podcast to talk about her book Be Your Own Bestie and the real work behind learning to like yourself. We discuss why being a good friend…
Seeing Other PeopleBack From Vacation & Spiraling About the Future
This week we’re back from Hawaii and immediately thrown into jet lag, daylight savings, and the reality of jumping straight back into work. We talk about how…
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Dating Advice I Ignored (And Regret Not Taking Sooner)
I thought I was the exception to the dating advice everyone gives when you’re single. I wasn’t. In this episode, I’m breaking down the advice I ignored and…
Seeing Other PeopleFrom I Do to We Do
Eli Weinstein returns to the pod fresh off releasing From I Do to We Do, and we’re getting real about what actually makes relationships work — long before…
Seeing Other PeopleDifficult In-Laws, Shared PTO & Relationship Dynamics
This week we’re recording from Hawaii and reflecting on the trips we’ve taken together, from our first weekend away to big family vacations. We talk about how…
Seeing Other PeopleI Stopped Dating My Type and Found My Fiancé
Caroline Sacks joins the pod to break down her Hinge meet-cute turned long-term love story — from casually dating in NYC to defining the relationship months…
Seeing Other PeopleNot Fighting Isn’t the Same as Being Close
I’m joined by Colette Jane Fehr, couples therapist, relationship expert, and author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create…
Seeing Other PeopleThe Shift, Freedom vs. Stability & My Secret Half Marathon
This week on Co-Hosts for Life, we’re catching up on work offsites, falling off our 20-week challenge, and the half marathon I secretly signed up for that got…
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Career Pt. 2: How I Actually Make Money as a Podcaster & Influencer
In Part 2 of my career story, I’m picking up right where we left off — from losing my job at Hinge to launching Seeing Other People just weeks later. I break…
Seeing Other PeopleWe Flew to London for a Surprise Engagement Weekend
We’re recapping an unforgettable weekend in London celebrating Jake’s brother Jeff and his now-fiancée Sydney’s engagement. We talk about the behind-the-scenes…
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My “Dream Job” Paid Me $34K and Broke Me: Part 1 of My Career Story
In Part 1 of my career story, I’m breaking down how I got here –from quitting my photojournalism major at Syracuse, to hustling through internships in music…
Seeing Other People"Should We Get Married?"
What if loving each other forever doesn’t automatically mean getting married? In this episode, I sit down with Maxson and Emily to talk about their…
Seeing Other PeopleBecoming a Mom at 18 Didn't Stop Me From Living My Life
I’m joined by Jessica Kameko, aka @TravelWithMeko, a full-time travel creator, student, marathon runner, medical esthetician, author, and mom of two. We talk…
Seeing Other PeopleHe Made Valentine’s Day Reservations — Do I Owe Him a Gift?
We’re recording on the eve of our five-year “first date” anniversary and catching up on everything from freezing winter runs and challenge updates to surprise…
Seeing Other PeopleWhen Your Friends & Family Don't Support Your Relationship
I’m joined by my longtime friend Sarah and her husband Ben to talk about what happens when the people closest to you don’t support your relationship. We start…
Seeing Other PeopleLosing Yourself in a Relationship and Finding Yourself Again
Author and British Vogue dating columnist Annie Lord joins the podcast to talk about heartbreak, healing, and what actually happens after a long-term…
Seeing Other PeopleAll Our Friends Are Moving Away & We're Trying New Hobbies
This week on Cohosts for Life, we talk about being in a season where friends are moving out of the city, buying homes, and stepping into new phases of life…
Seeing Other PeopleGoing on a GLP1 Changed My (Dating) Life
TW: this episode includes discussion of disordered eating and body image. Please take care while listening. I’m joined by Alana Paris, who opens up about her…
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Why Dating Feels Confusing (& What Actually Helps)
In this solo episode, I answer a few listener questions that all point to the same thing: why dating feels so confusing right now. I talk about how to stop…
Seeing Other PeopleDoes Our First Date Anniversary Count?
This week on Cohosts, we dive into a debate about which anniversaries actually matter once you’re married. We also answer a listener question about five great…
Seeing Other PeopleHow to Stop Dating Burnout and Start Meeting People IRL
Liv Schreiber is back on the podcast, and we’re getting real about dating, love, and connection after the wedding glow fades. From meeting people IRL and…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat Not Settling Actually Looks Like
In this episode, I’m joined by Sunny, a Syracuse junior who’s doing it all — media, Greek life, friendships, and dating — and somehow staying deeply self-aware…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat Happens When You Actually Try to Change Your Life
This week on Cohosts for Life, Jake and I catch up on a very full week from our 20 week challenge updates to Barkley’s unexpected ER visit, my first real ski…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat It’s Really Like Being a Single Man at 37
Brandon, from the episode “How to Not Lose Hope That Your Person Is Still Out There,” is back today to share what’s shifted since we last spoke. We talk about…